Trust in the Lord:
It's assuming that it's unfair that only some people gain salvation, and not everyone. Another way to think about it is this. Everyone has sinned. All sinners go to hell. Jesus paid the price of sin for anyone who accepts Him. So for those who choose to, they can accept the gift, or not.
So rather than think it unfair for everyone not going to heaven, rejoice for all those who will get there and shouldn't have been in the first place without the gift being made available.
It's less an issue of fairness, in my view, as generally setting up something wrong and arbitrary. I could go around stabbing people unless they gave me $100, and say "instead of thinking it's unfair I stabbed someone, rejoice for all those who didn't get stabbed even though I could have stabbed them!" Surely you wouldn't accept such a statement (I hope!), but the situation you describe is actually worse, because going to hell is infinitely worse than being stabbed!
The issue is partially the initial premise (you accept that everyone 'should' be sent to hell to be tortured for eternity, whereas I find that completely sadistic, and reject the premise as something only an evil being would implement), and partially the implication (that God cares more about you believing the right thing than
doing the right thing, which seems bizarre at best to me).
Trust in the Lord:
Why do you feel Fred Phelps is a christian?
Well, he certainly acts like he believes it. He has some kooky views, true, but I see no reason to doubt he
thinks he's doing God's will.
Trust in the Lord:
Heath said he is a christian too. Do you feel that if christianity is true, then anyone who claims christianity, but acts in any way they want is saved? They can be as honest or dishonest, rescue people or kill people as they choose?
That's sort of the "faith alone" doctrine. What you do doesn't matter, only what you believe. If you accept Jesus as a sacrifice for your sins, you get into heaven. That you murdered someone gets forgiven, that you protested at soldiers funerals gets forgiven, that you've done any number of horrible things gets forgiven, as long as you accept Jesus. That's the "faith alone" doctrine. It's not "claiming" christianity that matter, but believing it. And I see no real reason to doubt that Fred Phelps really believes in what he's doing. He's a nut, sure, but I think he's a sincere nut, not just pretending.
Trust in the Lord:
Personally, I think it's a red herring, as I don't believe you would have brought up Fred Phelps if you thought him a christian for real. His name was chosen specifically because of his non christian actions. As such, if someone is not acting christian, we recognize there's a problem going on.
You're part right, and part wrong. He was indeed chosen for his non-christian
actions (or, perhaps "works" would be a better term), but I do really think him a christian for real. That's why he was chosen, because he has faith but not works (in fairly extreme measures in both cases). He's not "acting christian" but is "believing christian," if you will. I chose him to illustrate an extreme example of having faith but not works, and hence someone who gets in to heaven by the "faith alone" doctrine. The other examples were chosen to be the opposite: having works but not faith, and hence sent to hell under the "faith alone" doctrine.
Tycho:
You seem to doubt this from your question, but just to avoid getting stuck in a side-debate, let's just go straight to the question: "would a God that prefers to hang out with Fred Phelps and send Ghandi to eternal torture give you any feelings of uneasiness?"
Trust in the Lord:
I think that's the wrong question. I think God prefers everyone to choose Him. I believe that everyone who faces God will agree with His judgement, as it is a righteous one.
Right question or wrong, it'd be nice if you could answer it. ;) Seriously, though, "would a God that prefers to hang out with Fred Phelps and send Ghandi to eternal torture give you any feelings of uneasiness?" Even if you don't think that's the case of the God you believe in, it'd at least be good to know how you'd view such a god, to see if we share the same basic ideas about what would make a god good or not.
Trust in the Lord:
For example, if you were to face a judge for murder, and the judge sentences you to jail, you would accept your actions as wrong, ans the judge merely sentencing you for your actions. When you face God, you will know and agree with God's judgement.
[emphasis added by Tycho]
You use the word "action" here, but are saying that it's faith rather than actions (ie, works) that matter when you get judged. When we're being judged, what's actually getting weighed up isn't what we've done (remember, everyone, no matter what they've done goes to hell by default under this model. No need to look at their actions), but what we
believe. And, as I've said already, that's not something we have control over. You saying "you'll agree with the judgement" is sort of like me saying "you'll agree that I'm right later." Whether it's true or not, it doesn't really add anything to the discussion because neither of us can prove it one way or the other. We may as well just say "I'm right!" "no, I'm right!" if we're just going to assert our own rightness as part of our argument.