In reply to Merevel (msg # 571):

I've been there. Ages of timeline. Multiple timelines. World, not continental, maps. The whole nine yards and eight full courses.

I ultimately decided what I did remember were the important parts. A lot also came back as I just went through the process of redoing it. I'd think, Oh yeah, that's right, such and such organization has influence here, and the adventure for lower level takes them in the conflict. Then when I'm not forcing it, I can remember how that influenced the geography of leylines and borders of countries.

I find trying to be linear is the worst thing you can do. By linear I mean retracing your footsteps as such. The best thing is to brainstorm (like the early days!) and just write down what comes, with no beginning to end, or first to last last order.

I find having a small pad of paper in my pocket or on my desk is nice when I remember snippets of the story and think of new ways to incorporate PC choice into potential outcome. Luckily, I have players that have heard about parts, so it was easier to have their help to retrace the missing pieces.

Little by little. That's what I tell myself. It won't be the massive notebook at first, but you'll have a good size amount of notes if you just take fresh look and do it bit by bit. I did find it rekindled my interest and that interest made me more productive, and the work made me more interested as I got deeper into it. So vicious cycles can be good (occasionally).

I've certainly had to learn to back up all my data the hard way. Even paper documents can be photocopied for a few notes.

Anyway, best of luck. I've been there.

For the love of little apples, we are moving in less than two weeks, husband of mine.  We have less than half the things in our house packed.  I guarantee you it will take much longer than you think to pack up certain things, especially when we get to the breakables that we have to wrap.  This last weekend was basically a bust, other than you putting some DVDs in a box and me clearing out the tupperware. And cookbooks.

We have shelves and drawers and closets to empty, boxes to label, and no, because I work nights and you work days, we can't just wait to do it together because you bloody well know our schedules don't work like that.  Our together time as a couple shouldn't have to devolve into me nagging at you.  Packing the DVDs is the easiest damn thing you'll ever pack - they're identical in size and light, so you can pack the box full.  The books are going to be a bear, you know it.  We have random shelves of knick-knacks that I don't even know how we're going to label, and all of them are fragile.  We have the entire contents of the garage store room to sort out still.

I'd just like to come home and see more than a shelf of DVDs cleared out.  Like... how about your clothes you won't need immediately?  The pictures on the walls taken down and put in a box?  One article of furniture with drawers emptied?  High cupboards cleared out?

I left you a list, sweetie.  Get on it, or I'm packing you in a box and mailing you back.  My 12-hour work schedule does not leave me with much motivation to do this on work days, and I don't want to use all my time off doing what you won't.

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I love the man, but I swear if he doesn't step up, I'm going to scream.

Is it too late to hire movers?

Oh, we already have movers hired to move all of our stuff.  But we need to pack the stuff first.  Unless we want to pay a lot more than we already are to hire someone to pack as well as haul, which I'm not.  We need the money to do some immediate fixes to the new house.

So... on to the nagging.  >:-(

Two weeks?  Eek!  Good luck!  We just went through much the same, and managed to get a good 95% of our stuff packed and stacked into the garage and front room, with the rest being things we were able to move ourselves after the movers were done.  All told I'd say we saved at least a thousand dollars over having the movers even have to roam all through the house taking boxes and furniture from everywhere, let alone paying them to do the packing!  (And it's nice to know that if anything's broken, it's our own fault.)  But yes, every single thing takes longer than you think it's going to.

Maybe devote yourselves to A Room A Day?  That's how we ended up really pushing through the end, and alternating big rooms (like the kitchen, or the livingroom with, and I totally sympathize, All The Books) with smaller rooms (like just tossing everything but the toilet paper from a bathroom into a box) kept it more manageable, psychologically.

Do you think if you really clear through half a room during your up-time, he might feel obligated/challenged/whatever-works-for-him to do the other half during his?

Packing sucks, but it is well worth the trouble!  Unless you're, you know, rich, in which case, by all means, pay someone else to do it, because it sucks. grin

I moved in to my new place last december. Still got some furniture at the old place, simply because I have no way to move them on my own and the guy who is supposed to help me is a major procrastenator.

I've only ever packed up what I could transport in a car. I've always let movers handle everything else. And even hiring movers is stressful when it's put off until the last minute.

What if you pack all of your stuff and let him work out when to pack his stuff without comment? Maybe he'll be inspired by your work?

So I'm the department Manager where I work. I have a co-worker from another area come up and ask me about a policy specifically relating to my area. I give him the answer. Ok no problem.

He then informs me that he was called over to help in my area. Ok still no problem, this happens all the time

When he gets there, the person who called is standing around, doing nothing. A second employee is standing around doing nothing. So he asks them a valid question: "If you two are doing nothing why did you call me?" The person who called says that "we are not supposed to do that." which is false. -- Story then moves to the beginning of this post.

Shortly after I inform the person of the policy I go to find the other two to get their version of the incident. After about 10 feet I hear the "caller" try to get my attention, she is all tears. "I don't appreciate you guys talking about me like that!" I'm all confused "I was in the bathroom and heard everything, I'm going to HR!" and she begins to walk off.

This person is known for WAY overblowing everything and I've had it. I fall into step with her and agree, "Yes Lets go!"

Sitting in HR, her waterworks are flowing like a busted damn. She tells her story, I tell HR my side. Long story short, I should not have talked policy on the floor as I embarrassed the "caller". WHAT?? as a Department Manager I can not talk policy without having to find some completely locked, soundproof, out of the way room? I should be more sensitive of others feelings when answering a Corporate Policy Question?

MY Job is to Enforce policy!!! and I get in trouble to doing my job because someone felt offended? Worse part is, this is not the first time I've done my job as I'm supposed to and I've gotten in trouble because someone was offended. I've even gone so far as print the policy to show the people so they can read it for themselves.

In reply to Eggy (msg # 586):

I agree, pack all your own stuff first.  Though that's still probably too much to do by yourself, including all the household things that you share.

In reply to Mrrshann618 (msg # 587):

The whole world is going to 'must not offend anyone, even if what you did/said was 1) perfectly reasonable and 2) you have no idea it would be offensive.  Like the poor ethics professor whose student complained (and was supported) by something unethical he talked about.  How can you teach ethics without mentioning anything unethical??

We live in a world where a Professor was fired for showing a 5 minute youtube video about Refugees. A world where Church dresses get children kicked out of school. A world that victimizes Rapists, while demonizing their victims.  Ethics mean nothing these days, just ask Wall Street.


What do you expect? Mrrshann, odds are that person is a manager's pet. People are crazy.

In reply to Mrrshann618 (msg # 587):

So what happened after you spoke to HR? Did HR have anything to say other than, "Don't do that again, Mrrshan"?

I had to apologize for talking about policy, that included her, in a public place. I received no formal write up. I had to sit through a 20 minute lecture about why talking about "sensitive" subjects in the workplace (such as corporate policy) should always been done outside of earshot with a third person who can monitor the conversation between the two.

So, obviously, the next time I have to talk to someone about the check cashing policy I'll have to excuse myself, the cashier, find a third party person (preferably another manager) have the conversation, all while the customer waits. Since I can not tell the cashier what to do in public.

Someone may overhear and get offended that I have to re-train someone to do it right. I mean, come on, they have already done the training, do they not think I know what my people are doing?
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The level of the stupidity in the work place is getting higher everyday. I am beginning to wonder if there is something in the air impeding higher intelligence or just common sense.

In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 593):

As a customer service representative, I have to wholeheartedly agree with the higher intelligence no longer being readily available thing. I see that day after day, call after call (I talk to people on the phone). And not just from callers, either. I hear it from my Direct Sup as well as from my Operations Manager. Common sense ain't so common anymore, if it ever was

In reply to dalbus63 (msg # 594):

As someone who has worked IT, I can wholeheartedly tell you that it is nothing new, and that common sense has never been common. What you might find is that random mutation makes stupidity evolve into different forms as time progresses.

Learned there is a treatment for my medical condition. Medicaid will cover part of it, but the other 25 to 50 thousand has to come out of my pocket - I am only allowed to have Under 2000 in my possession a month. (1 cent over and they make me pay back the last months check - $700+. As a sort of punishment.)
Which of course means it is impossible for me to do.

This is right up there with my condition 'can't be a birth defect' cause the technology to detect it did not come in to being before I was 21 (I was 23 when the technology to detect it came in to being. At the time I learned I had it I was 25 and only 3 neurosurgeons in the country even knew what it was. Prior to that they thought something was wrong with their machinery every time I got a brain scan as a child. Which was allot cause I suffered through allot of head aches - turned out I was having mini-strokes and just did not know it.)

The whole procedure runs about $100,000 and has a 90% success rate. It is classified as 'non invasive' though I wonder about that as they have to put pins in your head to make it work. (Seems if they don't break open the skull its considered 'non invasive'). I sometimes wonder about these people and their terms.

Please tell this to your Representative and Senators. Ask them why the system is so screwed up and what they plan to do about it, if possible.

Why...in the ever loving crimeny sakes can't a parent EVER listen to their kid when they tell them if something goes wrong on your computer, call me first, don't call anyone else because if it's a popup...they are scams and the people on the other line will just be out to scam you from your money!.... Seriously....UGH...

I feel sad. I've been dealing with PTSD, loss of a friend (living just lost) and the estrangement of my messed up family. I don't have any RL friends except my dearest one, Anne. I have two buddies I game with, but I can't be "real" with them.

I've been in therapy for about five months now, and it's hard. Because she keeps telling me to write and go online to talk to people. Which I'm doing, but I feel really lost. I'm awkward and am usually ignored or ostracized.

Anne is working three jobs, she's pursuing her career, and I encourage that, but I barely see her anymore. I miss her.

I have two friends on RPOL. One is really nice, but very active in games. We've hashed out a lot of it already, he pretty much knows it all, and I feel bad bothering him with my troubles. He's farther along the social scale than me, and even though I trust him, it's hard to talk to him. The other friend is really busy too. Her kids are getting ready for school. She's nice, but I get the feeling she doesn't want to me to talk about RL stuff. Especially heavy stuff.

I just feel sad. Sadness turns to anger frequently, but I'm trying really hard to avoid that. It's just difficult. Being alone.

In reply to V_V (msg # 599):

I think you will find there's more and more people on here in your situation. All of my real life friends live halfway across the country, I haven't really made any new friends where I am and so I have to rely on my online for interaction with people other than my boyfriend. It's hard, I'm not an outgoing person as it is, but to be so far away from my friends that I do have in RL and it's not many, it is incredibly difficult. I do understand where you're coming from and there's a lot of nice people on here, don't give up on it yet, you will find more friends to talk to and be around. Doesn't help for the moment, I know, but just give it some time okay.

I should note, I've been on RPOL since 2001 (or 2003, I forget) in that time I think I've made five friends. I'm not giving up, it's just really difficult, even online.

I've been on here about the same amount of time and to be honest, my friends that I can really call friends, that's been about five to six as well. So I know what you mean. It's not easy all around. You seem like a nice person, and I'm sure people will take notice of that.

Thanks. You seem nice too. I guess all I can do is keep waiting until the journey is over.

That really is all any of us can do :( But if you ever need to talk, you can rmail me. I am on a lot and always willing to talk to people :D