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ShadoPrism
member, 1198 posts
OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
Gamer-Disorder
Wed 2 May 2018
at 17:06
  • msg #1137

Frustration with Doctors

Had a bit of a scare last night. Thought I was having a heart attack and called 911. Had 3 different groups show up (fire and Rescue, EMTs and an ambulance) which seems to happen around here allot.
Got me to the hospital where they noticed my abnormally high blood sugar which they focused more on than the heart problem. Turns out I did not have a heart attack but it took some careful questions to find out what Did happen. Cause I could not get the doctor to focus on something other than my chronically high blood sugar (I have had that problem for close to 3 years now and am under a doctors care for).
Turns out my electrolyte count is extremely low and it has been the cause behind all these muscle spasms I have been having over to past several months. Last night spasm were the muscles in my left shoulder and chest. NOT thankfully the heart. Getting that information was like pulling teeth though. The doctor only wanted to talk about getting my sugar down by pumping me full of insulin (which if that is all it would take I would be in better shape by now. Take mega doses of insulin and similar as it stands).
Had to leave 'against doctors orders'. Which I only did because they were only trying to fix one problem and ignoring the rest.
I did go out today and get a good electrolyte supplement (lots of research last night / this morning on that). So hopefully I can get that built up.
Irks me how many doctors don't believe in Insulin Resistance (she was implying Allot that I was not taking my meds and that was why my sugar was over 500 last night.) Hate it when people basically call me a lier with no evidence to back them up.
V_V
member, 717 posts
You can call me V, just V
Life; a journey made once
Sat 5 May 2018
at 16:50
  • msg #1138

Frustration with Doctors

You and I have similar gateway infections; bad teeth. I also have muscle spasms and heart palpitations, but nothing so far as to demand ER visits.

What I can also identify with is the stupid doctors dealing with an issue to the exclusion of another.

Now, I'm a big believer in talking about bad stuff to get over it, but I must use colorful language just to get the point across safely.


Spoiler for my ordeal: (Highlight or hover over the text to view)
A few years ago I had a necrotic abscess on the left jewel. I'm worried enough I show my roommate, and she's like "Oh yeah! ER" I get my temperature taken. No temperature. The doctor forces a swab by having the male nurse hold my arms back, putting a swab too far into a small opening and literally causing tearing pain.

So then I finally get wheel off. AND THE IDIOTS TELL ME I HAVE PNEUMONIA! Um...no. I have no temperature, no cough, no X-ray to show this. Yet they say "I'm just rerading the chart" Well, then, you passed the reading test, and succeeded on the "I am an idiot" test with a 99%, only failing the reading portion, because yes, you can read...so you're not an idiot there. shucks. Jeez!

So I'm sitting in the Hospital for THREE Motherhating days! They say "Well, we think the pneunomia is gone" Well, gee, thanks. I guess I'm good to go. Oh wait. Yeah the NECROTIC WOUND on my flipping jewel!.

So it takes literally half an hour of me saying "I came here to get this fixed you are GOING TO FIX THIS. I have a dentist appointment tomorrow, get your crap together!" then another half hour to get the excision. With NO Anestetic!

So on that note, it's made oral pain (from bad teeth) more qualifiable. I now know a 10. Which is the hours in between morphine drips when the necrotic wound would trigger the nerve endings to my jewel.



So, this all goes to sympathize with you. Medicine is absurd these days. Better or worse depending on location. Communication is a necessary component MANY, FAR TOO MANY doctors lack these days. BAD hand writing is bad enough for prescription mix-ups, inability to verbally and non-verbally communicate is just unacceptable.
ShadoPrism
member, 1199 posts
OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
Gamer-Disorder
Sat 5 May 2018
at 17:38
  • msg #1139

Frustration with Doctors

I get better health care from the woman working in the healthfood store than the doctors. Or at least that's how it feels.
I been looking for something to help control my blood sugar that is not a drug. I Finally found it (Gymnema) which according to many of their clients works very well. I started on it Thursday. Being of the homopathic type it will take time to tell if it's helping. So I have some hope there.
The other problem, the one that got me Into the ER with a false 'heart attack' was muscle spasms in my chest muscle which I learned was do to a low amount of Electrolytes in my system. That felt like I had to pull the doctors teeth to find out cause of her focus on my abnormally high blood sugar.
So I am taking a suppliment for that to. As I have only had 3 doses I can't tell if it's working yet. But I am Seriously hopeful about it.
GammaBear
member, 824 posts
Gaymer
Fri 11 May 2018
at 01:56
  • msg #1140

"Service" Animals

I'm so sick of people who get mad at me for calling them out on their fake service animals.
ShadoPrism
member, 1204 posts
OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
Gamer-Disorder
Fri 11 May 2018
at 02:59
  • msg #1141

"Service" Animals

Define 'fake' please.
Eggy
member, 791 posts
Fri 11 May 2018
at 03:05
  • msg #1142

"Service" Animals

I wrote about this in a vent awhile back.

The latest batch I saw: Untrained pets that have a vest with the words "Service Animal" on the back. Had a lady kicked out of café I was in after her service animal ate something out of a display and pissed on a table. She said that's how she knows it's safe because it felt comfortable enough to urinate.
ShadoPrism
member, 1205 posts
OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
Gamer-Disorder
Fri 11 May 2018
at 03:23
  • msg #1143

"Service" Animals

ok THAT is not a service animal, that is a walking health code violation.
Eggy
member, 792 posts
Fri 11 May 2018
at 10:37
  • msg #1144

"Service" Animals

There is a scam artist in my town who sells these vests to people after they complete an online questionnaire. They haven't been arrested yet and no one does anything about these people with their fake service animals other than threaten to call the police and usher them out of shops.

They used to sell puppies by the side of the road. I think they have a puppy mill? Now they claim to sell puppies that will be easier to train as service dogs because they were bred from retired service dogs. They claim that the vest is for when the puppy is fully trained.
This message was last edited by the user at 10:40, Fri 11 May 2018.
ShadoPrism
member, 1206 posts
OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
Gamer-Disorder
Fri 11 May 2018
at 12:00
  • msg #1145

"Service" Animals

Being 'bred' from a service dog does not mean they are easier to train. It's not Genetics after all.
There are some breeds that are better suited for such things but it's not by any means universal.
It's like saying ALL German Shepards make good police dogs. So not true.
acera
member, 142 posts
Fri 11 May 2018
at 13:50
  • msg #1146

"Service" Animals

There was a story recently about a dog trained to be a service dog who ended up not being allowed to be one, because instead of only doing things on command, the dog would do things when it wanted to. Turn on the lights, open the fridge, things like that.

At least where I live, service dogs and their handlers must now be certified. They don't need to have a service dog vest, but they do need to be on leash and under control. I have mixed feelings on the certification aspect, but at the end of the day, I just take it on trust when someone comes in with their service dog, because I have never personally met a service dog or service dog owner that didn't know and follow the rules.
SunRuanEr
member, 68 posts
Fri 11 May 2018
at 14:23
  • msg #1147

"Service" Animals

I really -want- to take all service dogs that I see out in public at face value, but I've discovered lately that a few of my friends and neighbors have those "service dog" vests for their dogs, and claim to have certificates marking their dogs as "therapy dogs", and it just (because I know these dogs personally) sets off my 'Something isn't right here' Spidey sense.

Look, I get it - you love your dog. You like having your dog around. Your dog makes you feel relaxed and easy. So does my cat. That doesn't mean you should be able to go get some BS form/doggie decor that makes it so no one else with any sense can tell you 'your animal doesn't belong in here' because you can scream "DISCRIMINATION!" over it.

'Service dog' and 'Beloved Pet' are not interchangable, and really shouldn't be treated as such.
pitademon
member, 839 posts
hi all
Fri 11 May 2018
at 20:00
  • msg #1148

"Service" Animals

If it is a 'service' animal it will have a license.  Written documentation.  A vest with the word 'service animal' or 'Therapy animal' is not enough in some places.  The owner "user' also has to carry an ID card as well incase it gets separated.  No ID, Not a true Service or Therapy animal.  Also I have noticed some people carrying animals with no recognition of being such in to supermarkets and other places ...I call on the store directors to have them escorted out.  You may like your pet...but I don't have to and If your dog lifts a leg or squats...I will taze it.  And yes I am an animal lover...I also love shopping in stores that don't smell like animal waste.
acera
member, 143 posts
Fri 11 May 2018
at 20:15
  • msg #1149

Re: "Service" Animals

pitademon:
If it is a 'service' animal it will have a license.  Written documentation.  A vest with the word 'service animal' or 'Therapy animal' is not enough in some places.  The owner "user' also has to carry an ID card as well incase it gets separated.  No ID, Not a true Service or Therapy animal.


I would like to note that this varies from place to place. Where I live, you cannot require someone to produce papers or ID as evidence that it is a service dog. They are available, however.
CrazyIvan777
member, 236 posts
Sat 12 May 2018
at 00:35
  • msg #1150

Thanks for nothing

Friend: "Hey, I've totally got this great idea for a game! And it's in a system you love! Here's the plot idea! I'm inviting other people, -but not you-, to the game!"

Me: "Yeah, that game really does sound fun. Something I'd dig."

Friend: "Yeah. Not inviting you! I'm so excited about this game!"

Oh. Okay. Game sounds fun. Thanks for telling me about it.
Eggy
member, 793 posts
Sat 12 May 2018
at 00:41
  • msg #1151

Thanks for nothing

In reply to CrazyIvan777 (msg # 1150):

Why?? Don't they realize they are torturing you?
CrazyIvan777
member, 237 posts
Sat 12 May 2018
at 00:46
  • msg #1152

Thanks for nothing

I can't imagine that's their intent. But they know well how ... third-wheel-ish I sometimes feel (both with them and with life in general) so... I'm hoping they're just unaware of it. It just sucks, and makes me feel even more of an outsider.
GammaBear
member, 825 posts
Gaymer
Sat 12 May 2018
at 02:40
  • msg #1153

"Service" Animals

In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 1141):

I work in a hotel, so people constantly try to bring in "emotional support" animals and other fake service animals. The ADA CLEARLY defines the actions and behaviors of legitimate service animals, as well as the two questions locations are legally allowed to ask.

So yeah...when someone comes in with an anklebiter that dosn't behave, it's clearly a fake and I'm going to tell them they can't stay or they will pay the $300 cleaning fee if they do. IDC how much they threaten me or claim to be a law student.
V_V
member, 719 posts
You can call me V, just V
Life; a journey made once
Sat 12 May 2018
at 05:21
  • msg #1154

Thanks for nothing

In reply to CrazyIvan777 (msg # 1150):

That happened SO often to me. I can't say for you, but for me those people weren't my friends. They were jealous of my time, and wanted to waste it. In fact two of said people said I wasn't invited and I shrugged it off. In one instance I decided to start my own game, since I was at the LGS same night, same time anyway. NO ONE showed up for their game! It was hilarious. He just sat there occasionally rolling some dice, darting his glance over at me and writing something on his paper. Watching my three player group and my game. Sad.

Another was on RPOL and their cast list remained empty. Then they made some NPCs and said "Oh no, they're players" and promptly switched them to player status. I was tempted to report them, but it was beyond my purview to know or decide that, for all I know they were prepping. Bottom line is the game died within two months, so it was short lived if nothing else.

Most of the time people do that, in my experience to catch my attention, to make me interested to boost their ego. People are like that, salivating over meal to make it taste better as the hungry look on.

I just don't play into it. If something is beyond my reach, I consider it only long enough to feel confident it's beyond me and then I think about something else. I have OCD, and so that's easier said than done, but eventually enough noise, enough faking interest or need into something else, makes that envy go away. Soon enough, people who would bluntly "NOT" invite me, stopped doing that.

Or...alternatively, maybe you need to ask them WHY you're not invited. Maybe you do something they don't like. I have friend I won't play under. He makes gods perform miracles FAR too often, and so once I flat out told him "Sorry man, I don't play under you because I have no agency. Your NPC gods move or halt the game, I have little to no control over the story of my character's fate." and he took objection, There was no mystery in my motive, and it was something for him to ponder and address (not alibi). He wanted to argue, I didn't, but I was at least honest.  Maybe you're friend will do the same. OR maybe you live far away. Or maybe he's invited two couples, and needs four players and you're single. There could be numerous reasons.

I'd guess he's trying to be provocative though. It is two different things to omit an invitation and just neglect to mention any invite and quite another to say "but YOU're not invited". That seems childish. It's a tactic to provoke attention, and some people need that.

Best of luck though. I hope you find another GM or game to invest that languished time into.
pitademon
member, 840 posts
hi all
Sat 12 May 2018
at 06:20
  • msg #1155

"Service" Animals

In reply to GammaBear (msg # 1153):

It is probably why they are still a law 'student'.  And if they are studying law then they should be emotionally stable to not need a 'therapy' animal.

I've had a few try to pull the same stunt with me over the years.  I simply state that I do not need to or required to validate them.  If they have such a problem it is not my concern as the needs of the many out weigh the needs of the few.  If they cannot abide by the rules, I do not have to validate them.  that is as simple as it gets.
PCO.Spvnky
member, 363 posts
Sat 12 May 2018
at 11:06
  • msg #1156

"Service" Animals

In reply to GammaBear (msg # 1153):

So my question is.  Other than training, what makes a pet a "service" animal?  My dogs are ridiculously well behaved, they don't wear a vest but they act like they do. I don't understand why some people get to bring pets into the places that others can't.
This message was last edited by the user at 02:19, Sun 13 May 2018.
V_V
member, 720 posts
You can call me V, just V
Life; a journey made once
Sat 12 May 2018
at 12:02
  • msg #1157

Re: "Service" Animals

PCO.Spvnky:
... when it comes down to running a game he becomes mister anal retentive.  Yet when we get into a game on rpol I have to try to get him to NOT pull every shenanigan in the rules that he can think of (btw I like pretty high powered games).


I'm not sure you realize this, those two tendencies go hand in hand, one provokes the other. I played LG (Living Greyhawk--for D&D 3.x) and I HAD to by definition put on that hat, since it was one of the few sanctioned and therefore globally universal gaming convention games, there were others, but none I saw run as smoothly.

In home games, which was 70% of my gaming diet, that straw didn't come out. If anything I restricted my self "Oh you don't mind me cleaving on a n Attack Opportunity?! really? Okay, sure I'll take that AoO" and as a GM, as long as no player felt neglected, I let them powerhouse and destroy my world and NPCs, that was one of functions of that, is for the players' destruction. The PCs were "the straw".

In LG though, nope. It was totally different. You had a huge spike into thr high percentile mini-mods, which the group I was friends with wanted to do. I also got quite bit of free stuff from running mini-cons at the LGS, so of course I did, but that meant being nit-picky down to if you paid for your upkeep, or had sunrods versus torches. Those were not the same thing and were treated as differently as the game could consider it. People tried to cast sending in battle, people did all kinds of things, but I was quick to rattle off this obscure rule or that. Which I refrained from in home games unless the GM was truly curious and asked me (which yes, I did offer to help the GMs with page numbers if nothing else).

On the flip side, I played THE single highest intelligence PC wizard in Dyvers. I was hot straw. So when GMs would say "That's not legal" I would pull out my certs and explain to them how, by great amount of luck and persistence, yes in fact I do have a 33 Intelligence at 12th level.

Knowing rules and "tricks" is like knowing a machine. You can do things other people won't or even shouldn't. Look at some machine artists that make fine crafts with industrial equipment, or the contest with heavy machinery where they do things like backwards obstacle courses and popping a balloon on someone's head. The same is true of game mechanics. They "know" what is possible, and so are that much more strict outside their knowledge, and very well they could be in the wrong. I've memorized verbatim dozens of pages in game books, but even I sometimes get things wrong on other pages, I though I knew.

when they are players, these people almost unconsciously expect a GM to call "when" and will argue up and down like a court lawyer.

There was an asinine episode of a T.V. show I only saw three clips of and never spent more time on, called Pawn Stars. In it this guy walks into the pawn shop, where the T.V. show was centered on. Regular joe sells a baseball pennant. Pawn owner asks the normal questions, one is "how much do you want for it?" Which the guy names a reasonable price, and I kid you not, the pawn owner says "Yeah, that is actually fair, but I would feel bad if I didn't haggle" as if perfunctorily, and so undercuts the seller by 20% just to "haggle" and the guy was slightly upset. Rightfully so. There are players/GMS like that. They expect and NEED an out of game struggle between players and GM(s). But most people avoid that like the plague. These people don't pick and choose their battles. In like company it's great fun, but when they're the only one, it's a pain and everyone suffers, least of all including them.

That's the thing. Know your company. At least with the immediate participants. It's something my X-friend Greg didn't learn. He wanted every game to be about him, and his character and how he was getting away with murder, and flaunted how HE wouldn't have allowed stuff.

Maybe your friend likes the competition? Maybe he really is just overly excited and gets carried away? Maybe he truly doesn't know? But how is going to know if someone doesn't tell him. Though probably you have. All I can say is meticulous GMing to the point of being asinine and making "broken" characters share the same skill set. They very much go hand in hand. Though they don't have to, they often provoke the other.

For me, I had to part company with Greg. He was very competitive...but to boot was a chronic manipulator and liar. *chuckles* He'd invite me over to play cards, when in fact he was wanting a ride to his house from work, a ride to the gas station to get cigarettes, and a ride to bank, this and that. "I thought we were going to play cards, V" "Greg! I got you at 6 PM! it's now 2 AM, I dunno about you, but I'M GOING HOME!" "Well I can't walk from here" "Call someone else mate".
Eggy
member, 794 posts
Sat 12 May 2018
at 13:56
  • msg #1158

"Service" Animals

PCO.Spvnky:
My dogs are ridiculously well behaved, they don't wear a vest but they act like they do.


Being of a good temperament is only part of it. Service animals are trained to a person's needs. They might be taught to maneuver wheelchairs, help with crosswalks, recognize when their person is having a seizure and protect them. The training is structured around the need.
This message was last edited by the user at 13:19, Sun 13 May 2018.
Brianna
member, 2149 posts
Sun 13 May 2018
at 10:30
  • msg #1159

"Service" Animals

In reply to PCO.Spvnky (msg # 1156):

Some people need a service dog to function, to guide them around obstacles they can't see, to hear what they can't, to monitor their serious physical conditions, etc.  However much you love your pet, however well behaved your pet is, that's not the same as a working and necessary service dog.
Genghis the Hutt
member, 2483 posts
Just an average guy :)
Mon 14 May 2018
at 13:29
  • msg #1160

"Service" Animals

quote:
Brief Background: Please note this is imperative, I won't accept anyone without one.
....
Stats will be determined by rolling 5d6 reroll 1's and keeping the best 3.

What is this nonsense? You want a background, but we don't even yet know whether the character is strong, intelligent, good looking, whatever?

A writing sample would be one thing, but what is up with people asking for backgrounds before you even know what your character is? Am I writing Twilight fan fiction and I'm supposed to write a backstory about Gary Stu who has no real description of his physical/mental capacity or what he actually looks like other than that he smells good?

Take that character to the forge, hammer out their stats, what race/class they are, then write up the background. Otherwise you end up with something like:
quote:
Gary, ordained paladin of TrueGoodGod, raised his sword in one feeble hand and let swing at the kobold on getting of him, the sword biting into the...
Given your strength penalty, well at least you do minimum damage.
Glancing off the kobold's skin and barely leaving a scratch.
As it bore him to the ground, sinking its fangs into his stomach, he wondered why in the world he decided to become a paladin when despite his youth working on a farm, learning the art of the sword from the old farmhand, and visiting the temple weekly, he had always had the bad luck of having the strength, dexterity, and constitution of a turnip and an incredibly high intelligence...


Maybe this could work for a first level character, but for a higher level character?

And yes while it can be fun to play a bumbling professor striving to be a paladin, I'm kind of looking to feel like I could actually contribute something to a party.
This message was last edited by the user at 20:35, Mon 14 May 2018.
Briel
member, 33 posts
Mon 14 May 2018
at 19:19
  • msg #1161

"Service" Animals

Ugh, that drives me nuts in games. How can you write an actual background if you have no idea what your character is actually capable of?

I suppose you can write about their childhood and how they were super-plain-average at everything?
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