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I think we're all getting too focused on the gender here, and less on the lying part.

It's uncool to lead people on by lying to them, regardless of what you're lying to them about. I think we can all agree on that, yeah?

Lying to harm is bad.

(The comment I was going to make on the gender of virtual people could be taken wrong and cause harm, so I won't.)

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It is unfortunate that there are people out there still that tend to lie about the littlest of things. I suppose I could see that they didn't want to lose you and perhaps hoped you'd suddenly change 'teams' per say, but I am sorry you had to go through this. Not all is lost though. Love is still out there.

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In reply to BabsME (msg # 2261):

I too have been in that kind of situation years ago of lied gender and their motives behind it. It hurt deeply and while it's a hard lesson for us, it makes us stronger in the end. As a lesbian myself, I have come across many men in the world who spit out the usual "but if it was me, you'd change your mind" blah blah blah crap as they usually say. While yes, there are men who are handsome as I like to use, women are my forte and are the most beautiful creatures to have walked the Earth.

I hope whoever hurt you also finds the one for them and perhaps one day, they'll learn to be truthfully from the jump and not hurt someone else along the way.

This message was deleted by the user at 11:13, Mon 23 Oct 2023.

Why, oh why, does the temperature have to drop twenty degrees AND the forecast include rain RIGHT ON Halloween?

Thanks, weather gods. Maybe you can come explain to my child why their costume suddenly can't be worn as planned.

Do you have a local Shopping Mall? Many host Halloween trick-or-treat events. Indoor, dry and warm events.

In reply to V_V (msg # 2251):

Letting go, even when said person(s) is ultimately destructive to you; is very hard.  Even when we know that we should remove said person from our life.  If there's a legal (written) agreement involved, look for a loophole.  Otherwise, put the person on notice that you're kicking them out; and be prepared to suffer the lash-back, usually from people who'd end up having to deal with them once you're not.   It'll be rough for a while, but ultimately worth it.

Cracked my toenail on my bed sheets and it hurts! Tried a bandage. Tried a band-aid next. Wrapped it in bandage and put a hair elastic on it. Now I'm just waiting, with it bare, if I can clip it off. It's going to tear if I put on socks or just go to bed...

Does anyone else get a silly bit of social anxiety just before pressing the 'Request for Access' button?  I don't know why I do it.  It's like every game just has to feel 'perfect' and at the same time I feel I want to have the 'perfect' character for a game - even though the history of rpol is such that these things rarely align.  Am I just worried about committing to games?  Or maybe doubting my ability to string sentences together to a high standard?  Who knows...

@Bazhsw I wouldn't worry about perfection, just applying to a game you will enjoy with a character you'll enjoy playing is usually all that matters. A game only works if the players and GM are working together. I'd rather have a group of players that can commit over someone that has the 'perfect' anything.

In reply to drew0500 (msg # 2269):

*ditto* I am on the opposite end of "perfect", being nearly useless as a GM. Often times the RTJs that are "perfect" are not good fits for my game. Those that are and get in, lose interest, they have high standard I can't meet as a GM. I prefer players that come somewhere inb the middle. They aren't using RL lingo in character, or describing a detection spell "lighting up like Christmas tree" but I also want my players to be people, flawed, in pursuit of fun, some bad grammar, but ultimately just good-natured, and forgiving; of me, of the other players, and of themselves. I have gamead professionally for a scant few years in my life. When I did, it was just that, a profession, and it was work and labor and a service for my clients not for me. I couldn't make minimum wage, for how seldom I did it throughout the year though, and demand was always low.

When I GM or play, I expect it to be a free to play, and so get what I put it in minus 20% to 50%. I find players or GMs that exceed double my capacity will outstrip my a participation, and the opposite is true too. If someone is operating on my very leisurely pace as half that pace, then they're going to get overtaken and overwhelmed.

That said...ALL that said. Yes, I get nervous when I RTJ as a player. I worry most about GM killing my character in a RTJ, or the seldom occasion a GM is antagonistic or mean. Getting accepted is always a deep sigh or relief but also "it's go time": kind of stress, like getting accepted to a part time job or a cast of play; I know by being accepted, I now am part of a greater system and I have to do my part. If I don't get accepted, I'm bummed, but am relieved that when new games come up that I RTJ, I'll have the time to commit to them. So yes, it's anxiety inducing, but I internalize both acceptance and denial with a certain level of anxiety for those reasons. My real fear is always that a GM will punch down. It's happened a few times, and even once made me leery.

In reply to V_V (msg # 2270):

I suspect that you're having a problem that I've had primarily in free-form games...mistaking post length for content.   I've touched on this subject rather recently myself; so it's fair to say that it's probably more common a concern than most of us realize.

In reply to Hunter (msg # 2271):

Quite the opposite, for me, at least. I favor short posts over long. Though I tend to be verbose even at my briefest. I had to GM for many years to learn what you're talking about. I've had GMs that had word count limit, and I did it, but no longer. Same idea as a plumber being paid more for one hour of work than the "better" guy who does the same job in three hours. The one hour plumber deserves more money, not the same. So in the case of posting, I try to focus on what I'd read as a GM. That's how I learned less is more. I have the same problem with RTJs.

It is as problem though. I'm more worried about grammar, ASD confusing the world genre, assuming GM knows, or is even using, something from an established setting, etc...

However, yes, I am verbose. *chuckles* That isn't confusion though. I'd shamefully aware of that.

A movie rant, no real spoilers involved.

Dear Rebel Moon.

Die in a fire for baiting-and-switching me with your advertising leading me to believe this was a multi-part ensemble film only to waste two hours of my life to find the best part of said ensemble unceremoniously removed in probably one of the worst-handled plot kinks ever put on film.

You could have done this well. You could have avoided lying to me in all the press. You could have at least wrapped up the plot hijinks -somehow- even if not well.

Instead, no, you wasted my time, and made me sad. I hate you so much right now, Zack Snyder. (And I say this as someone who actually prefers the Snyder cut of Justice League...)

/grumbles

In reply to SunRuanEr (msg # 2273):

Oh my! Yes! I didn't get the press in my hovel under a rock. ;) I heard the backlash though, and watched a spoiler (\which I won't recount here). Yeah....I'd be pissed off if I had doubts, and then wanted to give Snyder the benefit of his other works. I retroactively got shown the timeline of the press and outright deception and misdirection to "counter" that.

I'd be SOOO mad if I was on board that trainwreck.

I get attached to characters and plots that have SOO much potential, and then just light a match to that and make you want to throw gasoline on what they left pristine and putrid.

I remember a T.V. movie as a youth that was about this mystery of this man's wife getting abducted by high school criuminal, it was so emotional...and then the wife turned out, in literally 5 of the last 25 minutes was NOT commercials, and the wife; with no explanation, no warning, no freakin' foreshadowing, no rationale, was in on the abduction, that she had picked high school stundent because, ya know, they're IMMUNE for being minors, and then bizarrely (the ransom videos of her were shot with her in this big locker) she put the husband in where was held and they locked it. Then it ended. The maybe 45 minutes of actual plot of a commercial bloated 90 minute TV movie, was really good, and the only character you liked was the husband, and because he loved his wife, you cared about her too. Yet, nope. He's just dumb. The wife  character even said that. I was SO enraged.

That's the best analogy for what I imagine it was like.

Gah!

In reply to SunRuanEr (msg # 2273):

Yeah, I've learned to check the podcasts before getting into a new series.  I got about two minutes into it before I realized it was another "woke" story.

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On the not so nice side, my landlord decided to raise my rent by 10%....so now I have to go and cancel stuff (like my cellphone) to make up the difference.    Joy.....

This message was deleted by a moderator, as it was against the forum rules, at 20:12, Tue 02 Jan.

This message was deleted by a moderator, as it was against the forum rules, at 20:13, Tue 02 Jan.

So I'm playing Scrabble on my phone during my lunch break and I'm in the last third of the game vs the computer and the tiles hand me the letters O, D, S, T, R, E, I....wait a minute that's STEROID which as a 7 letter word is a 50 point bonus!
But to my immense frustration, there's no where to play that word on the board!!

I guess I have...


*Sunglasses on*


...'roid rage.




_{I'll see myself out.}

I have kept the faucets dripping. It is -7 F and the toilet in take pipe froze. It is so cold in the bathroom, the toilet brush froze to the floor. We called maintenance, but all they did was give us a heater. My anosmic roommate is pouring water in the toilet bowl to have some humanity, but this unethical. So we're launching a service issue in the morning. We already did last night.