yeah Di? My wife was hospice at Home...the postmaster didn't like me alot ( i was the steward)..there was a Lady supervisor who was good to me, read him the riot act so i could usemmy sick leave to take care of her ( i had 2000+ hours)
as it worked out, I went to get some papers signed by her doc, while her sister stayed with her... i ran into my Doc's wife... she, of course didn't know anything, because of the law, but i coached her kids in soccer and her boy played football for me. I told her how the PM was givign me a hard time, and said i'd have to use my annual, and after that i would have to take leave without pay...
The wife of my Doc, told me to tell the doc what i said, he wrote me a script for 2 months off due to stress..sadly, i didn't need the whole 2 months.
My wife was happy i was going to be there all the time, but what i bring this up for is what Di said about 'reading up"
they gave me a pamplet to read.. telling me what was going to happen..i refused to read it..i didn't want to know...but after a couple visits, the one nurse said i had to read it..its damn scary how it pinpointed everything..I hated seeing the thresholds come and go, knowing what they meant...
I tell this to everyone... in here, in RL..the best thing to do, is keep them alive with good stories and memories , Like sagas from the Vikings. will you still be sad? yep..but not as often, and that's what they want. because if thinkign of them causes you only pain? what was their purpose?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=095zEWH9MR0