Chapter 1.9: Harlem Nights
Leo nodded at Annabel's response, but only briefly glanced at her - he didn't want to be taken unaware so he continued to scan the streets in their vicinity. Annabel's admission came as a bit of a surprise to Leo, though perhaps it shouldn't. "If you do have children, you will have the ability to shelter them from any possible ills, of course, or at least you can try. But I believe that for boys and girls alike, their lives are less complete without the bumps, bruises, scrapes, and even broken bones that come along with exploration. By limiting a child we limit their growth, and by limiting their growth we don't give them the opportunity to achieve their potential."
Leo remained vigilant as he spoke, unsure of what might pop up out of the dark. "If we limit them too much, children tend to rebel, and then parents and children learn to dislike and distrust each other rather than building the bonds of trust and love that should be forged during childhood and adolescence. Even worse if we continue to treat grown sons and daughters as if they were still adolescents. It further strains the familial bond, affects the adult offspring's self-confidence, and further causes distrust and shows a lack of respect."
"As parents, we can still provide our grown children with advice, which is often not taken, but we have to rely on them to use their own judgement that has been learned through a combination of experiencing those childhood bumps and bruises as well as receiving advice from a parent that they trust, love, and respect."
He briefly shook his head. "No, I will not try to limit Rosie any more than I did Jackson. Yes, he died, but he also lived most every day to the fullest extent possible. She has experienced danger and seen the ills of war. Moreover, she is one of the most intelligent people I have ever met. The only thing that gives me pause is wondering if a desire for vengeance will overcome her good sense at some point. But I think we all have that same potential weakness."
Leo again glanced at Annabel. "I hope you find a better reason within you to have children than it's what is expected of you. What worries you about having a child?"