this is your room

I am looking around, and cannot help but notice that it's...it's quite empty; drab even.
This message was last updated by the player at 23:12, Sat 07 Jan 2012.

well... time to do something about it then, no?

There...new profile portrait.  There's a start.  Paladin, from Have Gun Will Travel.

And a quote from Metallica's Wherever I May Roam as my bio.  That song about sums up my life for the past 5 years in the Army.

My dad told me never to go into the army...

I wanted to join, they said my back was too bad, I wasn't allowed in..

poo...

also as a woman, they looked at me wierd for even trying, it's mandatory for men, why should women even volunter?
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It appears I need to decorate this place.  At the least, get some good music to set the mood.

*crawls over*

so what sort of music?

and what sort of decorations?

You know... when girls crawl around on all fours in front of soldiers, that tends to have quite an... effect... on them; amount of clothing being a factor as well.

I'm not sure about the music as of yet.  Perhaps a large Alex Grey poster over *there*, and my Afghan hookah right *there* atop the shin-high table; yes, we'll smoke it while sitting traditionally on the floor cushions.  Hmmm... give me a bit longer, and I will sort out these other possessions of mine.

Suggestions? Housewarming gifts?  Any other ideas?
This message was last edited by the player at 04:54, Mon 09 Jan 2012.

I'm sorry, I shall stop crawling

how about a basket with cookies and a basket with silly string?

Ah good. No more crawling.  I am surprised you did not realize already that that sort of activity can be directly linked to Lordosis Behavior in the mind of a heterosexual male.  I digress.  I am not really a basket kind of guy.  Cookies put out here, I fear, would attract pests as well.  Silly string is just too much of just that; silly.

I suppose my writings and scribbling can go over on the shin-high table with the hookah to keep people occupied if I'm busy doing something.  I'll put a small rectangular cherry stained wood box over *there* next to the door where people will be asked to doff their shoes before entering.  I'll place several more cushions over *there* to the left of the windowed doors that lead to the balcony and outside world; sheer orange and light green curtains over the doors to let pleasant colors into the room.  The cushions can be brought to the table for more guests, though I doubt I'll have that many visitors.

The samovar can go next to the balcony doors, adjacent to the cushions.  I'll be sure to make tea when people visit, and have tobacco hashish at the ready for the hookah as well.  My WWII relics that I recovered from my time in Okinawa, Japan can go on the small waist-high shelf on the right side of the balcony doors.  I'll place a small Japanese dining ware closet next to the samovar for when I serve food.  The table and hookah will be cleared.  It's mostly plates, and rudimentary utensils.  We'll eat with our hands or chopsticks most of the time unless it's steak night; I like international variety having traveled abroad for so long.

I'll keep a wash basin with plumbing out on the balcony for hand and dish washing.

-sighs-  Well...I think that about does it for now. I have to keep thinking.

I know about what, me crawling, does to men... Just many don't have a problem with it, you see, I was brought up by the computer, I know just about anything there is to know about anything I've felt like looking up

*Grins*

and I kick ass of themen I'm not interested in so..

oh oh, I like how you make your home look

want an elephant or some other pet present too?

Well, if you knew what your crawling does to men, just keep in mind that I am indeed quite a man. I've no problem with it, but that sort of behavior is best kept where it belongs.  Know what I mean?  Haha.

I am trying to make my home here look and physically feel as comfortable for myself and others as possible. Visually pleasing, mentally engaging; those two things in particular I'd like to see in most every part of my room here, along with my way of expressing and describing it.

I don't know that I'd want a pet.  I've already had nice girls crawling on my floor, and that was stimulating enough for me.

Now, where to put these guns, the ammunition, and the rest of this stuff?

well.. you're in the army, I expected no less...

it is nice

*gets out a nice tardis*

how about in here?

or do you more want a display-case? I can borrow to shooting-range? I the weapons you have worth anything? I mean, aim's good, fatality good and such?

A tardis? As in...a TARDIS?  From Doctor Who?

I am not sure as far as displaying them.  They are probably going into a wall safe; a larger one at that, along with the ammunition and accessories.  They are good firearms, yes.

I usually don't like to invest in junk.

*I angrily eyeball my inoperable Beretta Model 1951 built in Egypt on Italian machinery.  It needs a new safety retainer spring.*

Eherm.  Usually.

I suppose I could go visit someone else's room?  What do you think, Sue?

if you want

also, the safe will have to be how big? I mean, there is how many weapons?

I sadly, can't buy any guns, this is a different country, so it's strictas to who gets a weapon

I suppose the size of the safe will be best kept a secret. Haha.  A man never does say just how many weapons of any kind he owns, nor how many are on his body at any given time.  It would be suicide to do so.

Perhaps I could visit the bear's room.  Too dangerous maybe.  The spider's room might be equally dangerous, what with the webs and deadly poison.  I suppose the bear's room it is.

oh, okay

I always assume a man carries no less than 15 weapons on him at any given moment...

it's as good a number as any...

say hi to bear from me

:O

Been a while!

Welcome back.  :)

bigehauser!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

*tackleglomps*

welcome back!!!!!!!!!!

It's been... quite a long time.

Welcome back to the party.  :)

bigehauser seems to take long vacation to get awesome welcome back parties...?

*Starts up the party*

*brings out finger food and soda pop*

*Gets out music and balloons*

party, yes?

I'll get the karoke machine.

aaaaaaand

bigehauser is gone again

oh well, we will party till he returns then

*takes karaoke-mic and sings*

*holds up a lighter and cheers sue on*

oooooooh

fire!

*All excited song about fire*

*slowly edges towards the fire extinguisher, just in case*

*becomes fire-bender*

no no, there is no need for that

I know what I'm doing

*nods and smiles*

I trust you completely.

*updates life insurance, just in case*

need help with signing it?

*Offers pieces of burnt wood*

now, to teach fire how to dance

As long as you teach it to do a fast dance, rather than a slow dance, I'm okay with it.   Fire dancing should be a non contact sport.

oh, so salsa it is

*Huge grin*

Should be a hot enough dance...

As long as it isn't a slow dance where I get groped, I'm good.   :)

*Gropes just because*

*Puts on salsa music*

Don't be weird, we could have danced Tango, like they did in The Addams Family

*laughs*   getting groped by you is fine.   Getting groped by fire sounds much less fun.

oooh

could I have groped you with fire?

won't that mean you start to burn? which means less things to grope

*smiles*  That's why I'm trying to avoid it.

I'm much more of a gentle minded gropee.

*gropes some more for good measure*

so, muffins?

*smiles*  Nothing goes with a good groping like muffins.

okay

*Serves up a huge platter of muffins*

I think the party is a little slower right now, so we should enjoy ze muffinses while we still can

I'm always up for a good muffin.  :)

And a nice, slow party.

Indeed, makes it more

talk

less lunacy

I little lunacy is fun, but it's good not to go over board.   :)

ooooh, we need a boat

Yeah!  A party boat!

ooooh

not titanic then

or costa concordia

a boat that won't drown or keel over

oooooh, we need to ask if we can use black pearl

Of the Love Boat.  That works, too.  :)

oooh

the love boat was hilarious

but they were all so odd, their hair

but the stories were hilarious

Yes, it was very melodramatic and silly, but fun.

And the Seventies had its own style of dress and hair that is fun to mock today, though it was very big at the time.
(I suspect that we'll all make fun of ourselves in thirty years, or have kids to do it for us.  )

ah yes

I am looking forward to being made fun of

and laugh with them about liking the music we liked back when they were huge

and well, I hope the next generation of music will be better than what we have now...

*chuckles*
A lot of my friends and coworkers say "the music and television sbows are just terrible compared to when WE were kids!", and that's just silly.
There's good music and television and movies in every generation, but so many of us get too attached to the ones we grew up with.  We can't be objective about quality.

(and, I realize now that some, if not most, of my most beloved shows and music from my childhood, when  seen through adult eyes, are actually pretty terrible, too.  *smiles*)

Most kids shows are made for kids

I like the intelligent ones, that is made for kids, aaaand has a second layer, one for the adults

like all the disney movies, they all flirt with some part of adulthood that kids know it funny, but not quite why

Like Aladdin in the beginning, when he runs away from the guards and runs through a house filled with women in veils and they say they don't want him...

yes, it was a brothel or harem... and they didn't want hims cause he was poor, and this, is what is extra fun, two layers of jokes

Many cartoons made in America in the 80s and 90s seemed to be made by adults for themselves.  :)
They seem more intelligent and even a bit subversive, sometimes making fun of the cartoon genre itself.

Those I like.  :)

Very few of those was bought in when I was small

but since internet, I've been following a lot of the things I missed

and let me tell you, I will never catch up

I know the feeling.   I only see about 10% of the shows I want to see, so I know I'll never catch up on all the dramas and adventure shows I've missed.

good to have lists

and sick days are awesome too

I should use my sick days to do that, but I just putter away on the computer.

I watch the tv-series on computer, haven't owned a TV for years

they useless

I love my TV, but I'm a bit low tech.   I should watch more on my computer, but I use that time to play on Rpol.  :)

low tech?

is that a possibility in today tech nut time?

I thought of myself as low tech. I own a phone that one rings with

it is not a smart-phone, one can't surf the internet with it

I have a lot of tech, like a computer and a smart phone, but I'm not really sure how it works.  I'm like a trained monkey, banging on the right keys to "make the magic work".

A lot of things still baffle me, I'm afraid.  Like video conferencing and such.

well, there are very few that understand it

and video conferencing is hell on the one that holds the strings

as in there is one sitting on a computer testing the connections, making sure it stays stable, turns up the sounds, mixes the sound, makes all run smoothly, and no one knows

I've been that person once, never again

*Shudders*

Cool.  I don't feel so bad now.   :)

nah, don't feel bad, be thankful that there is people that know it, and never think it is easy or take them for granted

many do

and it isn't nice

worst insult is: That's so easy, teach me on the weekend

like one hasn't just spent 4 months rigging the tools so it shall be as easy as possible

*smiles*  Yes, I'm always very respectful and impressed by people with skills.   I never take anyone for granted who knows something that makes my life easier.  :)

ooooh good, I always get so surprised by the American 1%

as they so rich, they forget that a lot of why their life is so easy, because there is a humongous amount of people below them making it so easy

So always when they make odd comments, I wish that their assistant, and cleaners, would just strike for a month... or better yet, cleaners and plumbers, let the shit really hit the fan :)

True enough.   Most of the 1% feel that they, being in charge, work harder than anyone, or at least they "worked their way up the ladder" and deserve everything they have.

Plus, there are always, I'm sad to say, people who will work for the money if anyone strikes.

The 1% can hold out for much longer than the 99% without a steady paycheck.

yes, I know

this is why we should just shut down all the cleaners, everyone of them

as not just anyone can be allowed to clean in a house with valuables, ooor all security takes a holiday for 7 months

muahahaha

or then they'd get a moral, I read about this famous kid threatening to have a coffee shop owner beat up, by his body-guard...

http://au.ibtimes.com/articles...fin.htm#.UwBDTPldWmg



such a sad tosser...

Yes, we need more solidarity among the workers of this country.

The sad thing is, thought, that most of the conservative people who aren't rich are raised in a culture of looking up to rich people as heroes and "job creators", due to a slick PR campaign and have been tricked into letting them get away with anything.

the rich do know how to PR

and if they don't they pay someone to it for them

Sadly, money can buy a lot of 'truth' in this country.  I suspect it's not necessarily that different in yours.

well, the rich do get away with a lot of things, mostly cause they donät live in my country for long

you see, we have an interesting taxing system, where the more money you earn, the higher tax percentage you pay, so they all move their money to a less taxing environment

so yes, every time they visit their summer-cottages, they get away with murder, or almost, just because the country want them to buy stuff here

Yes, we have that as well.   Many people have their "home office" in more tax friendly places, like the Caribbean Islands or Mexico, so they can avoid paying lots of taxes, and many American states will bend over backwards to get them into the states here.

I like paying taxes

it allows me to have fancy things like roads, public-transportation and police

I like having them, I even love fire-fighters and hospitals

It's too common, especially here, for people to want all those things, but to just assume that "someone will pay for them, it shouldn't have to be me".

I know that you mean.  I'm okay with paying taxes, too.   But many people here have a weird 'frontier' attitude that they don't need the government for help, denying all the obvious things like fire departments and such.

I suspect that people have never actually understood what taxes pay for

free doctors for one, police (non-corrupted then) and other neat things that we need to feel safe

I used to think we had no corrupted cops in scandinavia, but then a huge boss police thingy in Finland got caught selling drugs and some of his men for busting up suspects...

so now I don't know anymore

No matter how much money people have, they will always want more.   And people always want more money, even if it doesn't make sense for them to have it (that's why so many people buy lottery tickets).

Everyone complains about taxes, despite everything we get for it,and it's easy to rationalize that you should have to pay less "because you need the money" or that you shouldn't have to pay for things you don't use, despite having lots of things that other people don't use.

humans are made to complain, if we don't have a legit reason to complain, we'll make one up

like the internet isn't fast enough, when we really should be amazed at even having internet

but I might just be old fashioned and remember the time when it had noises when one connected

*laughs*   There's a comedy routine by Louis C.K. about that, saying that we're the most unappreciative generation in history.  We almost literally have miracles of technology in our hands, and all around us, and we constantly whine about it not being even better.

Louis C.K. is the best, he always spots the one thing we don't really see, and shines a light on it

and I think we whine about it, because we are spoiled rotten, I remember the first portable phone

it wasn't even 20 years ago, and we are already walking around with a portable tv, so we used to the fast pace of getting new and better all the time

it's just, it has to slow down at some point, and that seems to be now, but for the last 20-ish years we've had something new and better almost every week...

Yes, technology seems to be in waves, getting faster and faster as one invention is improved by another.   Some things level out, of course, but innovation is getting much faster than is used to be.

yeah, it's like someone gave speed to the lazy people, I mean, lazy people always come up with new ideas, to make old ideas easier

but yeah, I have to say, my new rolepaly I joined, I think all the other players are in a completely different time-zone from me

oh well, I will have to play more at night then

Yes, I'm in the "normal" time zone, where a majority of the players are (North America) but there are a surprising number in Europe and Australia.    You might only get to post once a day, but you should be able to find places to post.


I know what you mean about lazy people getting ideas.  That's what half the commercials are for, the "time saver" products.

why save time, when all you do with that saved time is stare into a wall?

too many are bored, one should get more hobbies when time is so saved that one can fit one in

That reminds me of a joke by comedian Mitch Hedberg:

"I'll make instant oatmeal in the morning, then I don't do anything for an hour.   It makes me wish I made regular oatmeal, so I'd at least feel productive."


But I think everyone wants to have more time just to goof off.

ooooh Mitch Hedberg was also one of those comedians that hit the nail on the head

aaaand this reminds me of the comic beetle bailey

he was a professional goof off...

I know many people who are ex army.   Professional goof off is VERY common.   *grins*

Though Beetle is the best at it.

everyone in my country is ex-army after the age of 20

it's mandatory for all men to go to the army, the women can choose it, but they have to be whole and perfect physic

so rarely any women go, I wasn't allowed, I have this bothersome back

We're still an all volunteer army, though many, including myself, think mandatory government service of some kind might be a very good idea.

there is this one year mandatory service, thing, because
a) we are a very small country
b) we live by russia
c) it used to be mandatory for all genders, but the russians changed it back when they owned our asses
d) we are still traumatized from being owned by russia

there is a possibility to go to jail for that one year or work for the community, as a janitor or so, instead of course, it's just, people always look down on those that do it.

America is very lucky tk be as big and as isolated as it is.   Makes us a bit spoiled,  I know.

Our isolation also makes it harder to realize how bad our country's schools and facilities are compared to other countries.    They put out a list, but it's easy to ignore.

oh the who's schools are best thingy?

you have no idea how surprised my country was to be so high on that list.

But the weirdest part is, it is going down, kids are harder and harder to keep on that same level of informed, they rebel

so soon we won't be so high any more

You'll probably still be higher than us.   Many schools are either public schools losing funding or religous schools more concerned with teaching the bible than science.

what do you mean losing funding?

taxes pay for school, you can't lose taxes, can you?

You can lose taxes, in a way.   Schools get both federal and local taxes, and if all the local people are poor, there are fewer taxes to get.   And many richer people resent paying "for other people's kids", even though it's in their best interest.

And the federal government is always fighting about school funding, with many conservatives trying to pay teachers less.
I suspect this is in an effort to force more people to go to religious private schools.

local taxes? But taxes pay for the whole country *Is confused*

I suddenly very much like my own country, even if it is very paper filled

we have this bureaucracy that is absolutely crazy

Well, there are taxes from various sources.  Collected by the country, the state, the county and the city.   All from various sources, and all, in theory, sharing the burden for many things.
But the competing bureaucracies sometimes feel that they pay more than there fair share, or various sources have more money than others, and it gets divided unevenly, with wealthier places getting more of the money.

well, of course the wealthier places get more money, they have more money, so keep them happy or they'll move out

and well, those that decide, are wealthy, I hazard to guess

Yes, it's a vicious circle.  the wealthy people don't feel like helping the poor, who stay poor, and the wealthy make the rules, which help the wealthy.

the wealthy need to lose their money for a month

feel how it is to survive on minimum wage

Yes, wealthy people tend to lose perspective when they finally get enough money to get by and don't want to reward people who haven't "worked as hard as they do".

I try to give back a bit, though I'm probably falling short.  But I remember what it was like to live paycheck to paycheck and worry about money every month (though we still do, a bit)

living paycheck to paycheck and then going out of work

kinda sucks

No income, and still one has to pay rent and food, and I want to bang my head in the wall

I'm sorry things are tough.   I remember the tough times myself, and I hope yours aren't going to last for too much longer.

well, I am begging to the gods and goddesses of swift solution to my income issues

but at least I am much better today, not so sick anymore

I'm not much for gods and goddesses, but I'm glad you're feeling better.

meah, we are all different, if I get a job we know I prayed to the right one, if not, I'll have to try Cthulhu or the flying spaghetti monster next...

I slept away all of friday, which means, I didn't eat anything for a day, and I'm not hungry, but I know I should eat something... not even a car goes anywhere on an empty tank

Yes, something healthy to stimulate your mind and body would be perfect.    I wish I could buy you lunch, my friend.

I ate noodle-soup

it isn't exactly healthy, but I haven't eaten in so long, I fear I might get sick from something harder to digest

which would be a pity, I love food, would hate to ruin it

Yes, "losing" food by being sick, especially when it's  hard to come by, is always annoying.  I agree.

Some noodles is a good filling meal, though.   Some starch and some protein to get you going.

yesh, and then some...

wait... one should eat more than just that, shouldn't one?

oh well, maybe tomorrow

Some veggies and perhaps some protein, like some of that area's famous fish, perhaps?

I'm sorry your health is troubling you, my friend.

I am entirely convinced it is because I left my usual bacteria-culture, you know the bacteria I know and have immune-systems for, to come to a new bacteria-culture, the one that my immune system has yet to meet

and well, it failed to get up in arms quick enough, but this means, I've built up immune-system against these now

so always a silver-lining, even if I have to paint it there myself

I guess that's a good point.  I hadn't realized that areas so geographically close, globally speaking, would be so different, but different cultures can have great differences.

I hope you build up your immunity soon.   :)

well, geographically close yes, but rarely intermingling

and this place has a huge amount of ships sailing through, fishermen and cargo-ships

so I think they import something other at the same time

I used to live in a rather tiny village with next to no immigrants or foreigners, so there should be more bugs here, just because there is more people

my old village was 1/4 of how large this place is, and with the boats and so...

Yes, ports, much like airports and bus terminals, are great places to pick up diseases, I'm afraid.

yes, I've realized it

the funny thing, when I visited this place a couple of years ago, I got an interesting decease with me home

nothing wrong with me, except, I had no voice, no voice at all

it baffled the doctors, they said to wait, as it had to be a viral infection

Well, that's an interesting souvenir, that's for sure.   :)

well, I'm all for interesting souvenirs

they awesome

It's a good way to immortalize your visit.   :)

well...

That's why I do not get trinkets, they'll be thrown in the trash someday, but awesome souvenirs

pictures :)

I like to get useful things, like mugs and such.  Things I'll use in practical ways regardless of where they came from.  :)

yeah, I used to like mugs, but then I realized I never drink things from mugs

I use bottles, as they are easier to not spill things from, sad I know, but I am such a klutz

I do something similar, using small bottles rather than glasses, especially with our cats around.
But I try to get practical souvenirs if I can, something I'll use anyway and still be reminded.

blankets, everyone uses blankets, and one can never have too many blankets :)

I have like 9... and it's not enough, when I have people over, they use all the blankets and I freeze

They make for bulky souvenirs, but it's a good idea.  I've done that with towels and other accessories, too.  :)

I mail it to myself when I go home

almost never lost anything, which is awesome... and odd

Yes, I've been told that sending yourself postcards is also a good way to keep memories of the trip.    Much better than random pictures.

yesh, as long as the post-office is nice and all

gah, I yawns

Most of them are.   I've been dealing with ours a lot lately, and they've been pretty good about everything.   :)

One should always thank good postal workers, so they'll stay

many of the really good ones moved on, and it's so annoying, when the bad ones won't...

Yes, many people tend to move on to bigger things, while bad workers get stuck where they are.  We have people like that where I work, too.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah

so unfair, the good ones deserve to get more pay of course

but why do I have to be punished to have to try and talk to bad workers?

It's a sad truth that no one wants to deal with unpleasant workers, not even their bosses, so the bad ones get away with everything.

people need to make an effort, really...

and take responsibility for their own actions

We had a discussion about that at work today (it was a training class).
About how newer employees don't appreciate what the older ones have learned, and so many employees just work hard enough to not get fired, but not hard enough to do a good job.

Well, most people can't think that other people know more than them

but it will happen, and always happen, someone knows something other than what you know, every day of your life, it might not be better knowledge, but it is still more or other knowledge

so one should always just talk and learn from older or people that have been working in the job for longer time

Yes, there are always people we can learn from, even if it's learning the wrong thing or how to NOT do something.

But too many people feel that they are made to look less smart by acknowledging someone else's intelligence.

well, I don't get it, asking questions is the only way to learn shit

if we stop, our minds aren't allowed to grow

*chuckles*
Yes, but these people think they're already "perfect" so they don't want to learn more.  Also, there are people arrogant and proud enough that they don't want to "owe" anyone something by learning from them.

*sighs*

Some days, I don't want to belong to the species human

but I'd like to be an unspecified mammal...

but nooo, if I say that, I try to be better than all the rest... Unspecified mammal, is better than human? I don't get it

should I call myself Goddess then? But I want to be like a Goddess with only me as a follower, still I think I'm better than the rest... bah, just...

I like to think of myself as smarter than most of the people around me, but I also appreciate that many people have had experiences that I can learn from and have done things that I will never do.

one person is smart, people are stupid

mind-hive thing going on, we want to be lead, and often forget that the one that leads might not have anything other than charisma going for him/her

or then it's no leader, just scary pack of something

Yes, mob mentality can be dangerous.

I think I might be manipulative

I had this friend, that I talked to, a lot, and she was one of those people that is too smart to really get humans, as in unable to read humans, there is a genetic thing that makes it hard for some to read humans, asbergers or something

anyway, she had this, and for years I basically let her do all the talking, and nodded or grunted, as well, she never shut up

and now, I said something she took as me targeting her, and it wasn't, it was a simple question I posted as my facebook status about how we need to support the LGBT community as so many tell them they are bad

and she wrote so many mean things about me being an ass, an idiot, and she had no idea who I was anymore

and I don't get it, I have always been for helping people that have it worse, be it animal hurting, slavery, LGBT or religious prosecution... I just want people to be nice to each other if the other guy is nice to you, Eminem said it best

“I don't care if you're black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor. If you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you. Simple as that.”
― Eminem

But apparently I'm not allowed to think that, because she doesn't think that, and I'm not an individual, and I manipulated her into thinking I was her friend... and I don't even, what...

end rant

No offense, but I don't see how any of that makes you "manipulative".   Is that something your friend said?

And I'm not an Eminem fan at all, but I'll admit that his quote is a good one.  I try to be the same way.

I've known a few people with Asbergers, but I think that there might be more going on then just that.   She sounds like she has a guilty conscience.
Is she anti gay?
Was she complaining about you "endorsing gay life" or something?
I'm confused about what her problem was, to be honest.   It certainly sounds like she's one of those who is against gay people and was shocked that you weren't as well.

I've had many friends, both here on rpol and especially co-workers here in Texas, with whom I've gotten along very well, chatting about movies and telling jokes.
Then the subject gets to Gay Rights, or Religion or Politics, and I realize with surprise that they have the exact opposite opinion from mine.

It's especially frustrating when I ask them why they're against gay marriage, and all they'll tell me is:  "I just am" or "It's in the Bible".

I'm sorry you had a falling out with your friend, though.  That's never a good thing.

The thing is, she used to be pro-LGBT

so I have no idea what happened... She called me a lot of bad things, one of them being manipulative, ergo I hid I was pro-LGBT and she'd assumed I wasn't because she wasn't anymore... and, the stupid just made my brain try and kill itself

oh well, one less crazy in my life

and I don't take offense, I have more than a few of my friends, seeing this mess when it started going "wtf" so, I know I am not the only one that saw her being an ass...

and she's outta my life, fuck her...

thanks for listening and not just telling me I bring real life messes to a place where they don't belong

*hugs*

Sorry that happened to you Sue. I have nothing to say that would help. I wish I did, I'm just sorry that happened and I know it can hurt to lose a friend.

she made me so mad, so it doesn't hurt

it will hurt soon thought, or then I'll just remember all the times she treated me like I was stupid, and just say it was good riddance

I am leaning towards the good riddance feeling

I'm a bit more judgmental, I'll admit, so I'll say that you made the right decision by letting her out of your life.

I don't know the entire situation, but she doesn't sound like a friend at all.   A friend would at least tolerate beliefs that were different than hers, even if she might want to debate the issue.

I'm an atheist, but i try to be civil about it, and can have friends who are religious, as long as we don't get into a 'converting contest' or something.
I have many friends, as well as friendly co workers, who have many beliefs that are different than mine.
Nothing so heinous that I couldn't be friends with them, certainly.

I know that I don't know her side of the story (assuming there even is one), but it sounds like you're better off without her in your life.

there is always two sides to a story, and I admire that you would take it into account if you met either one of us, anger always makes it, easier to make it all about that one thing, and forget all the good things

and sadly, I usually am able to forgive, but I can't remember one single time where she hasn't first said something nice, then pushed me down because of course I am not as good as her...

I am tired of people comparing me to them, as the worse version and less good, so I've cut out 3 people so far, I can do much better, I can start over if all my friends are these jackasses

but so far, all the rest are cool

@Nuric: Well there are some beliefs I just can't stand. But I think we can both understand where your coming from.

@CuteSue: It is good that you have better friends.

@Wildcard:  Yes, very true.   My specific beliefs are even rare here on Rpol, so I'm used to people disagreeing with me.    I'm okay with it.


@CuteSue:  We can only be as good as we can be.   It's silly for someone to expect others to meet our standards for them or ourselves.
I often feel disappointed when I meet people I like and can talk to, who have very different views on things I consider important, but I try to deal with it.

I've always assumed that people are who they are and they can be as they are, I won't try to change them, and this means they will let me be who I am and they won't try and change me

and it's disappointing to find so many trying to change people... aaaaah, I don't get it, when did it start?

No matter what you believe in, no matter how you've been raised, as long as one is nice to a stranger, one is a nice person

oh well, I suspect that is me trying to change everyone into accepting people as they are, so I can't even follow my own ideas...

*smiles*  I'm the same way.   It's nearly impossible to accept everyone just as they are, if we disagree with them.
I suppose it goes back so far that it probably started with cavemen who liked hills yelling at cavemen who like valleys.  :)

I'm always trying to be careful to keep my tendency to "debate" the issues from becoming me "preaching" about my favorite points of view.  I'm not always successful, as several of my family can attest.

meah, we need to talk about strawberries now

or I'll go bonkers

Why are strawberries so flexible?

it can be made int jam, juice, tea, dried and well, it still taste like strawberries

*chuckles*   Okay, new topic.

I'm assuming that it's because of the high sugar content.   And the popularity makes the makers of any strawberry products take care to make them taste just right.


They're one of my favorite berries.  Right after Blueberries.

the real blueberries or the bush blueberries?

as the bush blueberries taste like kiwis to me, the fruit not the bird

and I like kiwis, so I like both blueberry versions :)

oh oh, we have this special jam where it's made from strawberries and blueberries, it's called "queen jam"

and translating it made it into a hilarious pun

anyway, it is awesome

I'm from Maine, so I'm used to the bush blueberries up there.  They grow all over the place there.   :)

they're more tart than the "commercial" berries, but I like both, too.

only problem with the not on a bush berries, is if you get them on your clothes, the red never washes out

it's funny how hard it is to wash out blueberries

bush blueberries are white or green, so not as dangerous for clothes

Yes, you need to be very careful with blueberries, that's true.   It's worth it, though.   :)

talk about worth it

ever heard of crepes?

anyway, I love those things, and with blueberry and strawberry jam they are awesome

I've had crepes a couple of times, and enjoyed them very much.   The fruit compote was excellent.   Though I usually have pancakes or waffles when I go out for breakfast.

when one is broke, one makes crepes, they go with everything and are surprisingly filling

easy to make too, just eggs, soymilk and wheat flour and then fry it in a pan with some butter :)

om nom

Sounds good.   I might have to try that some times.   We have frozen waffles and other cheap breakfast foods, and lots of pasta for cheap dinner.

Crepes is considered somewhat fancy by most of the people here, just because it's French.   (I know, we're silly)

I make finnish crepes, they aren't fancy at all, they thick and look odd

french crepes are thin and look like paper, in my eyes at least

http://www.dlc.fi/~marianna/gourmet/16_3.htm

Finnish crepe recipe, if you do not dare press the link:

500 ml milk (5dl = 2.11337642 US cups)
3 eggs
½ tsp salt
200 ml flour (2dl = 0.845350568 US cups)
(50 g butter)

Whip the eggs and half of the milk to a nice batch of light yellow, then slowly sift in the flour while whipping it to make sure there is no flour bunches, add the rest of the milk and the salt, whip it so it is nice and no bunches of flour, let it stand for about an hour. The flour will thicken, the crepe batter is very very watery, it is like you did nothing to the milk, don't worry thought. It's supposed to be like that

now put the butter in the frying pan, to melt it, then pour the melted butter from the pan into the batter, whip the batter so the butter is mixed in alright. Then pour enough batter into the pan so you cover the pan, nothing more, it should be thin, not too thing, think 2 french crepes thick.

now fry the finnish crepe on one side, till you see that the upper batter had gone yellow and won't move when you pick up the pan, now turn it over, the crepe in the pan, and fry it for about half a minute on the other side. eat it, don't burn yourself :)

Ah, so it's like a very eggy pancake, then.   That works.  And it sounds delicious.  ;)

If I don't get the ambition to try it, I'll have to get some the next time we go out for breakfast, perhaps.

I know International House of Pancakes, despite being a bit of a fast food place, has them.

maybe, one can make pancakes out of the same recipe, just pour all the batter into one oven pan and stick it in the oven

our pancakes are odd too, we have one pancake that look like this thing netted thing, and then a second version, where it is huge and has been made in an oven

I suspect we finns are odd in general

*laughs*  Compared to Americans, I suspect your oddness is minimal.

We make pancakes on a griddle or a cooking pan, much like crepes, so it should work.  There are lots of variations of it, though.   But I'm sure they're all good.  :)

there are a few dishes in the world one just can't mess up, they taste good no matter what

and crepes are one of them, I think chicken belong there too, but some argue that it is possible to ruin it, by not cooking it enough

and everything can be ruined by being raw, chicken can even kill yah

then we have pizza, that can be ruined, but it rarely is

They say Pizza is like Sex:  Even when it isn't very good, it's still great.  :)


I'll have to try crepes sometime.  Though I'm very unambitious with food.

I just like trying food from different parts of the world

sadly I can't try everything as I'm allergic to some stuff, like corn, milk, apples and sweeteners

so there was a lot of things considered american that I can never try, like apple pie, corn dog and some of the candy

:(

I have many friends with allergies, to wheat, artificial sweeteners, and even strawberries, and I feel very lucky to not have any.
(of course, I really SHOULD be cutting down on starch and sugar, but that's a whole other thing).


There might be some good alternatives, these days, though.

alternatives yes, but it's so sad to not be allowed to taste the really, truly, genuinely foods of the place one visited

like deep fried twinkies, cause they have corn-starch in them, and such

not that I'd want to eat the most health dangerous foods, but tasting them would be nice

Yes, they're getting better at making alternative foods these days, but it can still be frustrating.   I'm sorry you  feel left out.

*throws tantrum*

I waaaaant more me-safe-foooooooooooood!!!!!!!!

but seriously nah, I will be content with trying the food I can eat :)

I would love ben and jerry's ice-cream in soy version thought, everyone loves it...

Yes, Ben and Jerry's is some of the best ice cream ever.  Nearly as good as what my mother used to make.

I've tried many soy and rice versions, but they're never as good.

we have rather good soy ice-cream

and as I haven't been able to eat real ice-cream in ages, I have no idea what I'm missing out on

If you love the soy ice cream, you're not really missing out, to be honest.   :)

well love and love... eating the milk one kills me

so it's better than rice or oat ice cream is all I'm saying

you can always stick to sherbert, as well.   There are always options, though i know from experience that sifting through them is tedious..

sherbert yes, but did you know, places that sell both milk ice cream and sherbert to offer to people that are allergic to milk, always forget that they have to change the water they keep the scoop in?

So I can't buy balls of it, in cones, and buying the huge containers with a liter in it is silly.

and yes, every time I feel like buying anything, I have to spend an obnoxious amount of time reading every single word in the ingredients, so I have no problem with time used

Yes, it's like being a vegetarian, something we do here.   So many places serve vegetarian options in restaurants, but think nothing of cooking it in the same place, and often with the same oil or sauce, as the meat.

so bothersome

mix and match is for clothes, not food

Yes.  i should be glad, of course, since there are a lot more vegetarian options here than there are in nearby smaller towns, but there's still a long way to go.

I am cursed to live with vegetarians everywhere I move, so I do know about their struggles

one of the reasons I say an omnivore with leanings towards I taste anything

I do like this one wok that vegetarians make, with nuts and bananas in it, sadly I have no idea how to make it myself, oh well

I'm embarrassed to admit that I'm not that creative with my vegetarian cuisine.    I usually just get some fake meat from the store (most of it is pretty amazing, to be honest) and just add veggies and potatoes.
I've experimented with a few things over the years, but not often enough.

the fake meat used to taste like rubber, but now they'd actually managed to make it rather tasty

my mom experimented on us, first time I've ever seen my dad get up from the table and say, get in the car, we're going to a restaurant

except that one time when mom tried to make meat, and she forgot it on the stove on the hottest degree for an hour, then it was black... same deal, restaurant

but yeah, I've learned over the years that my mom can't cook worth shit, she always overcooked everything, so I am strict with myself, respecting the food, no overcooking it and such

Yes, twenty years ago the fake burgers were all bland.   Today there's all kinds of variety.    Fake chicken, sausage, and I've even seen fake fish.

how can you fake fish, it just sounds fishy...

I wouldn't eat fake fish, I like the fish oil, fish have, as it is good for one

but all vegetarian and vegans can do as they want, as long as you won't force me to go vegan or vegetarian

sadly, I hate raw-foodies and fruitarians, they nuts, and will get so sick from not eating the correct amount, as they use it to lose weight, and don't do any research...

but maybe I just am evil, maybe there is raw-food eating oddballs and fruitarians that do research and can live on their food, it's just, those I've seen on youtube teaching the recepies, have no fucking idea what they're doing, they spread their wrongness, and someone knowing proteins, fats and how bodies work should condemn them

well, there is some good things in a diet that includes raw and unprocessed foods.
You're right, though, that the problem is when people, no matter what the diet plan is, too many people are looking for a 'quick fix', and do whatever they want without talking to doctors or nutritionists.    So many people go on the "eat all the grapefruit you want" diet and forget about balance.

and then they'll have some horrible deficit reaction

and think they are dying and then it's doctors not knowing to ask what they eat and it takes a long long time before they get to the bottom of the deficit problem

like a lot of females have had this weird vitamin D deficit, because every make-up ever protects against the sun, and vitamin D deficiency means you hurt everywhere

and it doesn't show up on any tests really, I had it, so now I eat extra vitamins to make sure I won't get it again

Yes, people can be stupid about not telling doctors about their lives.

People do weird things, and don't think to ask their doctors about them, and just suffer.

I've heard so many say: But doctors are supposed to know this, they wen't to school for x-years to know all of this

*bangs head in table*

they know it, they just know so much they need some clues to figure out what you have, so tell them how you liiiive.....

aaaaaaaargh

*laughs*   Yes, I know many people that think that if they fool their doctor about something, or get out of the doctor's office without getting asked about something, then that something is magically not a health problem.  :)

Like if they were having constant headaches, and the doctor can't read their minds or can't magically detect it, then it's nothing to worry about.

0,o

well...

no wonder we all end up needing doctor house... EVERYBODY LIES!!!!!!

and also, end up needing an ambulance for something we could have fixed ages ago, much cheaper

Yes, so many people put off medical problems, hoping they're go away, until they end up in the emergency room.

that's the thing with medical problems, they won't

they just get worse

sigh

oh well, anarchy is the next step

Now, they'll be too unhealthy for anarchy.   They'll have to sit at home and mope rather than cause trouble.

so introversion is the new version of anarchy

or mopeatron

*smiles*  Maybe, but it's more of a one person anarchy.  Which is fine.

but anarchy in a group isn't really anarchy now is it?

true anarchy is to have no rules, and groups always have rules so no one gets hurt

so anarchy will never work really

Yes, people always confuse what real anarchy is.   Real anarchy is everyone doing what they like, which can be horrible since everyone is a potential victim.

anarchy is do as you like, but it should have do as you like, without hurting others

or that should be an unwritten thing really

I don't get why we have to have rules about not hurting others, it should be a thing we're taught from small, to respect other living beings

but noo... it is not such

Yes, I'm always  torn between believing people are naturally good, and believing that they're naturally selfish.

It should be common sense not to hurt others, but when it comes down to getting what we want, many people would rather do horrible things than go without, or let their loved ones go without.

So many people are broken inside, that we need to have rules to force them to behave, at least a little.

there was this scientific paper made by a couple of biologists that followed a baboon troop around for 20 years

the baboons ate from a garbage dump, and the most aggressive and alpha baboons ate first, or was the only ones allowed to eat from it, and therefore, they all died when the meat was contaminated

so then some beta baboons became alpha, and the whole troop became rather mellow and nice

http://www.plosbiology.org/art...journal.pbio.0020106

no assholes

it's rather interesting really

I am not saying we kill off the alpha people, just that it is possible to be nice

*chuckles*   I think I remember that study

Yes, I've been told that we need "alpha" people for daring exploration and such, but I'm content to give life a try without them.

If we could weed out bullies, bigots and fanatics, the world would be a wonderful place.

Someone told me I am an alpha

I laughed in their face

but I don't know how an alpha behaves, so meah

but yes, let's weed out all the assholes, douchebags, fanatics, bullies and bigots

...

how?

There are probably different levels of "alpha".   Not all of them are total jerks, or else they wouldn't be as beloved as they are to people.

Being an Alpha can also mean being independent, needing no one but yourself for approval.   It can mean not being afraid to do as you wish and speak your mind.
This can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on what one does or says, much like being a "Beta", for lack of a better term, can be good or bad, too.

We need an omega

or somehting

*laughs*   That sounds WAY too "serial killer" ish for me.

hmm, Maybe I should be more careful what I watch

my mind goes into wrong places

*grins*  As long as it's only your mind,  you're okay.   :)


My mind is always going into weird places, but that can be fun, too.

I just think one should broaden ones mind

and allow it to be flexible, but I am interested in crimes, mysteries and murder

so sometimes I wonder what NSA thinks of me

Yes, I'm sure my search history would make some eyebrows raise as well.   I'm not as ambitious as I'd like about learning, but I try to when I can.

Everyone should be exposed to different points of view, certainly, if only to help strengthen their own though comparison.

oh, I read about this one search history thing where they thought a user would kill his wife, because all the search key words indicated that

but when they went to arrest the guy, it was really a writer for a very well known tv-series and he had just done some research

sadly I can't remember which tv-series and who it was, but now my google search also has that in it's database... I think I have been flagged for wanting to murder my wife like they did on tv now

oh well....

this is why when I  start writing any books about this, I'll get the books to research it, I dream of having a library, an actual library as my own, 4 shelves for books in different languages, and then 3 shelves for knowledge, and I just need the money....

dreaming big is good, yes?

I have a fair amount of books, but not nearly as many as I'd like.   I'd love to have a whole room devoted to books.  :)

Yes, I'm sure my search history might get me into trouble, but I'd love to think that it wouldn't be legal to actually arrest someone based on a search history, especially for something that hasn't been done yet.

that would be very very minority report

and also go under the assumption that people will not change their minds, or even that they'd have a choice to change their minds or not

so no more free will really, so I don't think it will ever be legal

it would be very dictator, such tyranny, so wow

I'm all in favor of keeping an eye on people who say hateful things or have evil philosophies.  But people should only be punished for what they do, not for what they think.

apparently there is a new law in the making in the UK, where anyone that abuses their spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend will have an 'open crime record'

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/new...past-Clares-Law.html

scary and I do hope it can be used right, but I am rather sure it won't

and I wonder if they can see only the violence towards women part, or their full record...

will one be able to stop being with someone because they've been told to go to anger management classes?

where does one draw the line?

and it's sad how many things that are made with good intentions in mind, and end up getting used for the wrong purposes

Yes, it's hard to get even good laws to work well for everyone.    I'd love abused partners to have more right and options.
There's a bit of a controversy here about "hate crime" laws.   I think it's a good idea, but many people think it's overkill, and that existing laws are plenty.

the funny thing about hate crime laws is, who decides what is hate crime and what isn't?

usually it's the lawyers, argumenting till everyone forgets about the crime and just sees a lot of text or laws

and it just doesn't feel right

I'll admit that "hate crime" is very subjective.    I'd argue that beating someone up because they're gay or a different religion or ethnic group is a hate crime, but i'll admit that no one beats  up someone because they like them.

I think that having a separate crime for something motivated solely by bigotry is a good thing, since we need to weed out such crime and treat it accordingly, but that's more an emotional reaction than a logical one.

I have just recently read about a person that shot a young black man because he refused to turn his music down in his car

and the fact that this person was sent to jail for everything, but murdering a young man

just made me sad, I was wondering why no one asked the man "Had you shot a white boy for not turning his music down, you'd be in jail for murder, why was this one so different" and then I'd ask the jury, why the fuck they let him get away with it?

aaaaaaah, but of course, there might be more to the story, but this is what I've seen in the news papers I've read, and I know that news papers run their own version of censorship too

like some american news, that is more drama than news, FOX... is the only one I know to be careful with when I read their news. I wonder if there is more?

Many news channels are a bit biased, either to the left or right, with their news.   Sadly, it seems to be what a lot of people want these days, in America.
Fox News is by far the worst, even changing things "accidentally" to make the Conservatives look better, but there's a lot of bias everywhere.


The "Stand Your Ground" law in Florida is a mess, honestly.   It was made to let people "defend themselves" but it's just giving people a reason to shoot each other.

well, that's one way to decimate the population on this earth

so I was bored and lost on yuotube, I do that a lot, watch old movies made in the 90s

and I watched this old movie called Bella Mafia, because I am a sucker for mafia movies

and one of the actors really popped out, his character was evil, but he did the evil so good that I had to look him up, because why would they have anything about who's who on yuotube

and it was a young James Marsden, you know, cyclops from the x-men movies

the movie was awful really, but I have to say, I loved his character

I've always liked James Marsden.   I hate how all of his movies he comes in second with the leading lady, though.
Perhaps it's because I was a Cyclops fan more than a Wolverine fan.

I've never been that into Mafia movies, but some were pretty good.    I'm glad you liked it, even if you only liked some if it. :)

I'm a huge James Marsters fan, you know, he played Spike in the buffy tv-series

but I like Marsden too, it was exciting to see him play a bad guy, didn't know who he was before Cyclops

I have then again never seen Marsters as anything but spike...

and they both have so bloody similar name, it's annoying

*smiles*   Yes, I've had trouble seeing Marsters as anything else, too.      It's the double edged sword of stardom.  I call it "The Star Trek Syndrome", after the fact that, Except for William Shatner, most of the stars of the old Star Trek show had to scrabble for bit parts after their "starring roles", as people couldn't see them as anything else (James Doohan even had to do the accent when he guest starred on a soap opera once), and most only got good roles decades later.

hitting it big with a role always makes it harder to get a new role, unless one changes looks drastically

which very few can do

I half dream off being an actress one day, nothing big, just an extra, just to see how it's done, it'll never happen, but why not dream when one can dream :)

I've also dreamed of being an actor.    Not really of actually being one, but of being part of the amazing stories I see in movies or television.
I know that actually being an actor would be  LOT more work than it is in my dreams, though, so I'm content to keep it there.

I'd love to just sit watching an actor work, to see how he or she does it

but I like watching people just walk by too

humans are fascinating

That's why I majored in Psychology in school.   I love people and are very fascinated with them.  I still don't understand them, granted, but I still love studying them.

And I also love to see how things work.   When  I see magic shows, I'm more impressed when I know how the trick is done, rather than just 'watching the show'.   I love to see the process.

the creative ability the brain is possible of, is just amazing

most of the things we do, someone had to figure out and teach to others

fighting style, there is an inventor of that, and cooking things in pots and pans in stead of on a stick over fire

I study everything, as I am not calm enough to sit still to listen to anyone, so I have no education, but I know how to figure things out

and magicians, I'd love to be as good as distraction and speed as that guy

Yes, all ideas evolve over time.   From cooking on sticks to cooking on rocks, to making clay plates to metal plates to metal pots.
It's all about improving on what already exists, for the most part.

Magic is very cool.   It just takes LOTS of practice.   I used to know a trick or two, and they needed lots of repetition, even for the simple ones.  But they're not too difficult.


I know it's tough not to be able to sit still long enough for a formal education.    Many employers prefer that for their workers.
Still, learning things is always useful, and can still impress people.

that is, if one can tell what one knows, without sounding too cocky or too unsure

so what one really needs is charisma, and the ability to wield it like a sword

perfectly balanced so it looks like one isn't really trying

Yes, nearly everyone loves confidence.   In both genders.   If you can be confident without being arrogant, people will flock to you.

I have come to the conclusion, that arrogance depends on the person one talks to

as I have friends that tell me someone is arrogant, but I don't see it, as it is my friend really wanting me to be on their side, that someone is being evil to them, when the poor sucker they claimed to be arrogant, just wasn't interested in them

people are allowed to have preferences, that doesn't mean that they are arrogant or evil towards someone that isn't in those preferences

anyway, I ramble...

Very true.    Many things are relative, certainly.

Arrogance can just be a confident person we don't like, and an arrogant person we love can be seen as charmingly confident.

I guess a bit of charm and friendliness,  as well as trying to make others feel good about themselves, is the best way to keep the two separate.

it's funny thought, how fast anyone knowing they are worth something more than how bosses or other people above one in some way or other, calls one arrogant

I had a boss that was a narcissist and all I asked for was the right to use the toilet, because I deserve to use a toilet, I work hard and I never take too long breaks

so then I was arrogant, thinking I can get special treatment because I work hard...

She was massively weird... Basic needs are privileges?

Yes, as much as I love psychology and human behavior, it can be VERY murky and convoluted sometimes.


Someone who's neurotic or narcissistic or has other problems will see the world through a distorted filter, which changes everything.
We've had misunderstandings at work similar to that, where someone's 'right' was considered a 'privilege' by others.

It's why we need to talk things out, which many bosses hate doing.

Luckily that boss went away, and I got a better boss, one that saw me as human and a friend

it was awesome to have a boss that liked me, after having a boss that decided when to use toilet, when to cut hair, how one had hair and if one was allowed to talk to colleagues or not

control freaks are scary...

They always say:  "The smaller the kingdom, the bigger the Tyrant".   Many bosses, with control over a small office or crew, can be super control freaks.
We have a mid level boss at work who micro manages everything as well.   We all know what we're doing, but he won't believe us.

Well, if he believed you, what would he do, and how fast would he be fired?

and yeah, I am a little of a control freak, about safety, I will not allow anything to be near me, unless I'm 100% sure it wouldn't hurt me or break

Which sometimes leads to me double checking things people build, if I have built them before to see that they built them as they should, and I know it is stupid, so I try to do it when I'm alone, so it won't be seen as critique

I still get a reputation to be a stickler for safety

I hate when people put stuff in front of the fire-door for one, or build the fire-extinguisher behind a wall of crap

*smiles*   My boss is more of a nit picker, and always stays in the rules.   He's good at trying to enforce all the tiny rules that we all know about and don't bother with much.

I'm a bit of a control freak as well, but usually when I prefer to do something myself.

I just spent many hours on the beach looking for glass

I love the glass from broken bottles that has been in the ocean and sanded into pretty frosted versions of itself

it's just so pretty

I would love to have a boss, any work really, it comes with things to do and people to talk to

My niece and one of my sister in laws love to collect that kind of beach glass, too.  It's very pretty, you're right.   :)

As annoying as work can be, I did love the social aspect of it.   The best part of most of my jobs was my coworkers, and meeting the public.

So I ran into yet another wall, I'm starting to feel like life has it in for me

My without money support was stopped, as apparently moving to a new country is the same as getting a job

and I wasn't aware that moving to get better chances to get an actual job, is the same as getting a job, and I have no job...

and I'm freaking out

I know you can't help me, I just wanted to vent, sorry

I'm guessing the logic is that you wouldn't have moved if you didn't have a job lined up.   I'm sorry they're assuming things.
Perhaps if you talked to someone in the compensation office?

I'm guessing they don't want "their" country's money going to another country, perhaps.


I'm sorry I can't do anything for you, my friend.

well, their office is in another country, and when I try to call, no one picks up

and I will just cry for a few minutes, then go back to look for work, and hope, and hopefully not starve too much

as there is nothing else I can really do, flying home to sort it out is too expensive, I can barely afford toilet-paper as is

luckily I have pasta, rice and such in the cupboards, and vitamin pills, otherwise I might have been really worried... ha ha ha...

I just feel so tired

I'm so sorry my friend.   Hopefully something will become available.

applied for 3 more jobs today, was over to work application thingy, I couldn't register

as I need something that I can't get until I have a job to register to get a job...

sigh, this bureaucracy is making me crazy

Just keep at it.  You'll get through eventually.    Perhaps there's a supervisor who can help, or you can get a temporary job to get the needed documents

*Bangs head in table*

anything with income would be like finding the holy grail right now, I don't even care if it is shoveling shit

or cleaning hotel rooms, eating is rather important, and they cut it off with no warning at all

my parents don't believe me they didn't warn me... leaving anything without money just sounds so evil

well... they evil, to me

I'd imagine that America's unemployment system would react as badly if I went to Canada.  Governments get bitchy when you spend their money in other countries.
I'm sorry that the bureaucracy is mistreating you.

the thing is, according to the law, I should get the support, as long as I stay in europe, as we have an economical agreement, or whatever it's called

europe is all about being buddies and allowing people to roam

I just didn't fill in the right form, and they have no idea how to fix it, without me moving back home for a few months

it's just hard to move when one can't afford the ticket

Can your parents send you the forms?   Perhaps someone at the local office can find it?

I ordered them, but I am not sure they will be done right

as they need to be turned in a month before the trip...
do you have a time-machine, I can borrow?

no one can fake postage-stamps

I'm hoping that an understanding person can be found.   Though an understanding bureaucrat is kind of an oxymoron.
I'd like to think that there's some kind of provision for this, though.

buahahahahaha, bureaucracy made easy

like that'd ever happen

Yes, there are too many people who are so removed from the people they should be helping that they don't care what happens to them.

the funny thing is, if the people that wrote the rules ended up in the same situation

they'd feel like utter jackasses

but they never will, because they work for a place that rarely fire or down-size...

Yes, most people who write those rules never think they'll end up "like that".    Rich people never think they'll ever be poor.  Many believe that they're rich because they deserve it.

hmm, I've had people ask what living pay-check to pay-check means

and they earn as much or as little as me, and still manage to squirrel away a little, I never managed to, too many bills

so maybe I'd need someone to teach me how to not live pay-check to pay-check

it will get better as soon as my student-loan is paid off in 8 months, but until then, I'm screwed, and I'd love to deserve to be rich too

would be nice

I was living that way for a long time, and am finally now at least a little comfortable.   I can pay my bills without stressing too badly.
I don't miss those times at all.

But it's human nature to want to enjoy our money after a long week at a job, certainly.

I went a long time about using my money for only important thing, like clothes and food, never allowing myself any fun

but then I went crazy, so now I have a fun-fund

or had...

I get to use money for fun, but it also means that my food quality is a little lacking those weeks I buy books or comics

it takes a while to read the books and comics, so I don't have to immediately get new ones of those

Yes, it's important to have some enjoyment in life.   It's easy to plan out a frugal budget for months at a time, but it's a real battle to stick with it.   I have trouble with it, too.

the thing about being on a budget, one plans the money for food and just food, forgetting the small details like periods and toilet-paper...

and then one is screwed

I hate being a woman at times, it fucks up my budgets every fucking month

I'm sorry that biology can be a pain.     It's a rough thing.    You have my sympathies.

thanks

hmm, I've been having pity-parties a lot lately

I need to stop

or I will never recover

*hugs*   No worries, my friend.    An occasional pity party is fine, as long as we don't let it go on all night.    :)

I have some health issues as well, and I get down, too.   It's normal to feel frustrated with biology.  i know many people who get annoyed with how the human body has turned out.

(another flaw with 'Intelligent Design', of course)

well, it was intelligent, then we added poisons and chemicals, and it make the design react in another way

so we end up with cancers, weird mutations and other unplanned events

*chuckles*   With all due respect, it wasn't that Intelligent before.   The human body, especially, seemed very flawed, even before we started poisoning ourselves.

it was made to adapt

and well, we humans keep trying to trap it into weird contractions, like corsets, shoes that are weird and generally just mold it

shoes are great and all, but high heels and binding feet like the chinese did... that is just wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy weird

I love supportive things, that have a reason to exist, like bra's, but there is a good bra and a bra that is there to look pretty, and those are horrible

Yes, we've abused our bodies.   I love the way a woman looks in a corset or heels, but I know that it's painful, so I certainly don't try to insist on it, or pretend that it's not a bad thing in the long run.

the thing is, a well made corset, one that is custom made for the female's body is the best thing a female can have, in the ways of resting ones back and so, bad for muscles as they die from not being used, and as long as one doesn't tighten it too much

I have a friend that made one for me, damn they comfortable, then something happened to my arm, so I can't put it on while alone anymore, I can't put my arm behind my back, the physical therapist says I have a shoulder that is like a 70 year old...

anyway, next time I have a corset made it needs to be close able in the front

and there is high heels that is good for you, but those are made for dancers, and very expensive, those that are made to look pretty, those are all bad and wrong and ruins your body

so, there is ways to not be in pain, don't use clothes or shoes that are made to be pretty, use clothes that are made to be comfortable and then added pretty to that comfortable skeleton of material

Yes, I feel bad sometimes at loving clothes that are so painful and bad for women.     Shoes are a very big offender, causing long term damage to tendons and bones.

Corsets are very sexy, but can be very dangerous if left on too long.

admire them, you are free to admire them, as long as you never force anyone to wear them, it's the wearers choice to wear them and how long they stay in them

and the tendons only get damaged if the wearer wears only high heels, as in work-out in high heels and sleeps in them

so I think it is nice to admire them, I admire men with muscles, and you have no idea how much damage continuously having well sculpted muscles does to a body

why feel guilty for it, it's their body, the day I force a man, or woman, to wear or do something they wouldn't do, for longer than they would do it, that's the time I'll feel guilty or like I am damaging someone else

Very good points.   I'll admire them but without any pressure on the wearer or potential wearer.   :)

good boy

here have a cookie

*gives cookie*

nomnomnom......delicious!   :)

I like wearing sexy clothes that hurt like a mutherfucker, at times

I decide when I wear them, and if I want to wear them

I have explained to at least one boyfriend that if he messages me at 4AM demanding I wear something to impress his mates, he is no longer my boyfriend

some are just idiots, so therefore, admiration is okay, leering not, lechery behavior not and possessive behavior hell no

But this is something all women view differently, so admire without staring and do it respectfully

some women dress nice to get compliments, and compliments are not pickup-lines so many men confuse the two

Yes, many men, especially young men, don't understand a great deal about women, from how long it takes to get ready, to how to talk to a woman without sounding like a stalker.  :)
Granted, so many men and women are so different that it seems impossible to gauge what any random woman likes.  Some women like subtle, some like direct, some prefer gentlemanly, and some admire the boldness of a sexy and/or sleazy comment.

I like sexy comments, I hate sleazy, and no, I can't tell anyone what I find sexy or sleazy, I don't even know, one word can be sexy as hell from the right man, and sleazy from another

it's how they say it, you know if they check you out in a good or bad way

I can see when men think they can buy me, you can see it in the way they look at one

It's all about respect to me.   If someone treats someone with respect, everything else is easier.

yes, respect is good

I hate people that treats me like I will do as they want, and it's even worse if <i don't know them from before

like I had this man that bought me a bottle of vodka, and I absolutely refused to accept it, and he got angry with me, and I figured out after he screamed at me for a while that he'd wanted me drunk, easier to handle a drunk girl

I walked away, crazy idiot...

Yes, that's pretty scary and crazy.   Some people take rejection really badly, and it's clear that his intentions were NOT in your best interest.  He obviously had no respect for you, or anyone, if he acted like that.

I seem to get all the crazies to follow me

I wonder if I have some sort of something, that makes men think I'm easy to dupe

or something...

I've had a few people that follow me, and it's very unsettling, but so far I've managed to make the dangerous ones stop, the harmless I look out for, if they do get dangerous

I will make them go away too

It's a sad thing that being friendly can be so easily taken for being vulnerable.

it's movies and tv-series

bitches rule and the friendly get used

same with men, douches rule and the friendly get used

Yes, this country might be even worse about that.     Far too often, meanness and selfishness is mistaken for confidence and self reliance.    Former president George Bush seemed to almost enjoy how much he pissed off the world, and his supporters praised him for "making America strong again", as if being a ruthless bully were the only measure of strength.

I remember an article in my old college newspaper, where two young women were open and friendly with everyone, and were promptly ignored.    Then they reinvented themselves, spending the next couple of weeks being mean and disrespectful to everyone, and acting as if they were too good for anyone who tried to talk to them.
They instantly had more attention from men than they new what to do with.

I know it's not quite that simple normally, but the message is clear; people love confidence.   Sometimes too much.

confidence is a thing thought, and meanness and bullying is another

and it bothers me how many confuse them, argh, I'm nice and all, but also confident

the thing that I don't flag my confidence by being arrogant, makes me nice

but I always think the nice win out, the bullies usually end up alone in the end, being mean to get something usually means one loses something else in the process

and I rather want the something else, than the thing being mean gains...

Yes, niceness wins out eventually, but it can be a VERY long wait sometimes.   Sometimes I envy people who can be selfish and mean, since they seem to get their way all the time, especially at my job.
But being able to look yourself in the mirror has some benefits also.   :)

And perhaps what I should have said was that too many people confuse arrogance and meanness with strength, not necessarily confidence.    And far tok many people give unrestrained respect for that kind of strength.    Just look at most of the current movie heroes.

oh yeah, I want to slap Ironman silly

and if you haven't seen Dr Horrible's Sing-a-long blog, then you need to

heh

real strength is to keep being nice and not take short cuts, so one can keep looking oneself in the eyes in the mirror, or that's my version of strength and I'm sticking to it

I LOVED Dr. Horrible's Sing a Long.   LOVED it!!!    *smiles*

And I agree about Tony Stark.  He's very entertaining from a distance, as a spectator, but I'd want to smack him in person.
The same with Dr. House, Sherlock, and all the other jackasses who get praise from fans.

I am a huge fan of Sherlock actually, but I'd still slap him silly, he is not portrayed like in the books, he was more sexist in the books

and oh my gawd I'd kick Dr House in the groin, there is arrogant, and then there is complete and utter assholery with sprinkeled know-it-all on top

I would also like to kick Gordon Ramsey's ass, because he is a normal person, not a book or comic character, I do get that screaming things helps, but come oooon, abusing people to that extent isn't in anyway funny

but seriously, they are bullies, and our culture likes bullies, and it's disheartening to watch how few that really knows what it's like to be the target of a skilled bully, as most bullies don't even know how much damage they cause, just that they feel good from seeing someone feel bad

I dislike bullying, and the fact that it is this accepted, makes me worry for people that don't see that these are characters, and thinks that bullying will get you fame... and I ramble

*smiles*  I fully understand the rambling.  I get that way, too.

Yes, Bullies are supposedly being villified in school settings, but they're celebrated in movies and on TV.   Adult bullies are seen are "strong manly men who can handle their business, and can protect what's theirs".
it's a sad double standard.

arrogant narcissists

or I think that Ironman is a narcissist

not so sure of the rest, but yeah, they arrogant

need to eat some humble pie and become human

Iron Man 3 had a sub plot about him trying to put others first.   And the entire trilogy is kind of about him realizing that more things I'm the world matter than his ego.    You're right, though, his arrogance is still a huge part of the character's appeal.

I'm glad that Captain America is getting more play as the "nice guy".

Ironman 3 was when Potts almost died, right?

I haven't seen the captain america winter soldier one yet, I need to, but no money makes for bad movies watching

and also, forbidden to do anything illegal, as my current roomie miiiight be blamed and her job is important enough to not do illegal things

also haven't seen the thor 2...

damn, I miss having funds to do shit

I'm lucky to be able to see movies.  I'm a little spoiled, I'll admit.

But Thor 2 and Captain America 2 were very good.  When they come out on the computer or TV I'd highly recommend them.


Iron Man 3 is where Pepper almost died, thought she kind of almost died in all of them (that's what she gets for being a superhero's girlfriend).   But in 3 she was captured and dropped from a great height.

yeah, she got funny eyes and almost exploded

anyway, being a hero that is that out about himself, is indeed dangerous to the girlfriends health

usually heroes girlfriends don't know they are heroes until the moment a bad guy figures out who they are

except batman then, no one knows who he is, but his girlfriends usually do, and they still end up in danger or dead...

*smiles*  Yes, Batman tends to date important women, as befitting a billionaire playboy.   :)

And I liked how Iron Man realized that he was still very selfish and self centered during Iron Man 3, and tried to fix it.

he realized that in avengers too, when they tried to figure out what Loki was up to

but nothing was done to try and improve it until iron man 3

anyway, he cool

Well, technically, Iron Man 3 came after Avengers, so Avengers was the start of his "inner journey" that he kept up in his own movie.   (at least I think so, I might be totally wrong *smiles*)

But a lifetime of dysfunction and bad behavior can be hard to fix in just a short few years, so he's still a work in progress as a human being.  :)

I actually like Potts no nonsense attitude towards his ideas, she doesn't just lick ass to keep her job, she actually does her job, and then she somehow ended up his girlfriend

so she is sort of a role-model, don't change yourself or others and all is well

sort of...

they comic book characters, there will always be some sort of drama to keep us interested

I'm guessing that Pepper saw the goodness and brilliance in Tony, that He always hid behind his arrogance.    She fell in love with the real Tony, and had to wait for him to show it.  :)

maybe, but who knows with comics, would be cool if it was true, could be a case of "I can change him" too

and weirdly enough, Iron man is changing

so it could be both

Yes, the old "he's not perfect, but I can change him" NEVER works out in Real Life, but I think in Pepper's case it was more that she fell in love with the good parts of Tony, and figured she could deal with the bad parts.
You can't change a man you're dating, but you can get him to act differently for the most part (at least when the woman is around)

more like you can't change a man, but by accepting him as he is, he might get into his head to improve himself

change is constant, but the people doing the changing needs to do it for themselves or it won't stick

Yes, exactly.   You can encourage, but you can't change them, at least not in a long term way.

*Encourages people to be what they want to be*

best way to do it really

and I need a job

When people are themselves, you know what to expect.   :)

sitting home at my parents, pretending I am a basement troll

Ooooogaboooga

Always a good time.   :)    It's a good base of operations from which to plot world domination.

and teach oneself how to look like a troll

*paints on troll-paint*

Just watch out for goats.   :)

I can make goats into shish-kebab

and nom them

That works.   :)


*passes the Tahini sauce*

*Makes some potatoes to go with*

Let's have a food party :)

Mmmmm...sound delish!!!!   Some baked potatoes with some onions sounds perfect.

*Bakes potatoes and bakes some onion*

should I have fried the onions?

*Pokes the onions*

Fried onions are awesome, though I was thinking about making shisk ka bobs with potatoes and onions.   Yum!

oooh, and add some pineapples, shish kabobs with pineapples is awesome

it adds a much needed sweetness without being too sweet, and some moisture

I like pineapples, sadly I can only eat the canned version, the fresh one burns my skin, not burn burn, but it looks like I was burned in the sun, so I use the word 'burn'

anyway, yay

I love pineapple, especially on pizza.   People look at me funny when I do that.   :)


I usually get the  canned version too.  You're right, the fresh stuff can be very acidic.

we have a pizza called "hawaiian pizza" where it's ham, pineapples and cheese, and it's perfectly normal

it's a scandinavian thing, I think, I don't think real hawaiians do that sort of pizza

It's an American thing, too.   Ham and Pineapple.  I used to have it all the time, too.   Hawaiians love spicy meat, like ham, though.   They went crazy for "Spam" apparently, when they first tried it.

Never tried spam, always been told it horrible

maybe I should try it

I usually want to try tasting all the weird things

I ate it growing up.    Fried Spam is pretty good.   It's very spicy and zesty, like Ham concentrated.   Fairly salty too.

I like salty food, but we had this ham a few day sago that was so salty it burned on the tongue, so even I have my limits

I am rather sure that I will die from a heart-attack from all the salt I consume

but not anytime soon, I am still young

I have a coworker who puts salt on everything.  Tons of it.  as long as you monitor your Blood Pressure and such, you'll be fine.

My blood pressure is perfect, dad and lil sis has too high blood pressure, which is fascinating really

I am the salt abuser, why is my blood so nice?

oh oh, talk about blood, true blood will come back soon

Much of it can be just genetics.  You might have lucked out and been born less susceptible to High Blood Pressure.  Also, if you're young and active you have a higher resistance to problems building up, to that and Cholesterol and Blood Sugar problems.  Keep up the active lifestyle.

well, I have the bad back

I am never pain free, and need to think about how I move at all times, so I have to stay active

so yes, I will, it's nice

oh oh, I might be able to start running again, if the doctor says I can, yay!!!

I'm very much out of shape, and I'm sorry I ever let myself get out of the habit of running or going to the gym.  I'm trying to get back into it, but it's very tough.   I'm glad you're keeping healthy, though.

healthy is one thing, keeping sane another

I have two friends, that are so nuts about being healthy for themselves and saving the environment

that it is creepy, I mean, one takes her trash home from work, so she can sort it correctly

the other one is nuts about ecological food, I mean, can't buy anything, unless it's ecologically produced

personally I think one can buy one thing not ecologically produced if it means I'd starve otherwise, but no, rather go through all the stores to find one ecological version of it, instead, and if it doesn't, don't get anything like it and then complain about being hungry...

We have recycling herenasnwell, though I'll admit I'm a bit lazy at times.

It's a good idea to recycle and keep track of where ones food comes from, but sometimes that can be more a luxury than anything else.  Not everyone can afford the time and money tk do it.   That's why I try not to judge others.
We actually leased an electric car recently,  but it's only very recently that we could afford to.

I see it as I personally can do the best I can, the ricer I get, the better I can do

but I absolutely won't do it because I feel guilty, it's not my fault the world is in bad shape

so I will do it because I want to, not to make myself feel less guilty

and if I don't, all that happens, is that nature will expel us, nature will transform so radically, that we won't survive

so meah, I enjoy natural when I can afford it, cause the taste is better, otherwise, food is just fuel, it will be a treat those days that it's good tasting food