TheNumberTwo:
What I gathered from the article was not that these people actually thought their faults were ok, but rather that they still defended their previous beliefs eventhough they were even more aware that they were wrong. That is, even if the feminists did have a change of heart about their own views, they still were too stubborn to admit they were wrong.
I could agree that that's what the article was trying to say, but I don't think the example of the feminists that was given actually illustrates this. Showing a feminist that she too has unconscious gender biases doesn't show that she's wrong in her beliefs about feminism.
TheNumberTwo:
At any rate, even if the article didn't say that, it's what I believe to be true about human nature. I think that people who smoke know it's bad for them and that in private, they probably do think ill of their own habit and may try to quit. However, when attacked by someone face-to-face of course they won't admit they are wrong for fear of embarrassment.
Smoking isn't the best example, probably, because it's more an issue of willpower than reasoning in most cases. Most smokers that I know freely admit that smoking is bad for them. Some of them want to quit, but don't manage to do so, others realize it's bad for them, but feel the enjoyment they get out of it outweighs the harm they do. None of them claim to think it's really not bad for them, though.
TheNumberTwo:
I believe that humans are social creatures and the opinions of others are even sometimes more important to us than our opinions of ourselves. Thus, even when people know they are wrong they will still exhibit the behavior of defending themselves just because they don't want to be made to look like a fool.
I can agree with that.
TheNumberTwo:
People are prideful about their identities. They create labels for themselves to help fit in with society. If a person labels herself a feminist then is challenged with knowledge to the contrary, even if she believes that her actions are anti-feminist she will refuse to change because change causes her to not fit in anymore. It causes her stress at having lost her identity. It scares her that she doesn't really know herself and that she may have to redefine her identity within society.
I agree with the general idea here, but I think the feminist example you give doesn't work. Feminism is a set of beliefs about how things should be, not necessarily how they are. Showing a feminist that they don't live up to their own ideals doesn't make their ideals invalid, anymore than showing a christian examples of their own sins makes them think, "well, I guess I was wrong about christianity." I get what you're saying, and largely agree, I just don't think the specific example used fits very well.
TheNumberTwo:
I think that the power that society has over our thoughts and actions cannot be divorced from this debate. What we believe and how we act are quite often very different. And I think much of the reason for that is owed to societal influences.
I agree that the influence of society is quite large, and concerns about ones place within it play a large part of what what thinks and does. I'm less sure about the "often" part of "what we believe and how we act are quite often very different." While we may act in ways contrary to our beliefs to fit in from time to time, I'd say it's more likely that our beliefs change to better fit those around us, rather than just our actions changing.