Re: Society's views on Sex
I think there are bold assumptions being made here on what constitutes a broken home. To me, a broken home consists of an environment where abuse frequently occurs. Marriage has no part in deciding that, just the conditions. There are many broken homes I can imagine that take place without a marriage, just as many can occur within one. Divorce or lack of marriage doesn't make necessarily for poor relations between the parents, just like marriage doesn't ensure good relations. From the philosophy of psychology I ascribe to, what's important for a child is that they feel loved by their parents, not whether their parents love each other.
I think there's also bold assumptions being made on what a divorce is like. There seems to be the assumption that divorce happens only between those that play on their own whims and don't take the matter seriously, completely ignoring the idea that there are thousands of cases of marriages that lasted 15, 20, 25 years or more. That doesn't sound like a whim or people who just didn't try. Sometimes, love just doesn't last, and it has nothing to do with their faithfulness or devotion. Many older marriages only stay together out of that loyalty, and nothing more. Some divorce isn't bitter either. Speaking from experience, my father and mother have great respect for one another, and still remain friends to this day; they just didn't want to be married. That doesn't sound like the broken home that seemed to be pre-determined to exist as an essential part of the process.
One's marital status plays little influence on their desire to be a good parent; they can do it, or not do it, regardless of their marriage. My grandmother and grandfather were married til the day they died but my father, uncles, and aunt hated their father with a passion; not because he beat his wife, or because he cheated on her, but because he wasn't really that interested in being their dad. You don't need divorce to be a negligent or disinterested parent. I would qualify that a broken home, within a marriage.
I agree with many conservatives nowadays who say that marriage is dying here in America, but I think homosexual or interracial marriage has much less to do with it than woman's suffrage. I think it's no mere coincidence that divorces grew far more prevalent and marriage rates dropped ever since women were introduced into the voting booth and allowed equal power in society. Prior to those developments, it wasn't just the fate of nearly every woman to be a house wife and enter marriage, it was their destiny, their purpose, the single all encompassing reason for their existence. They had little to no other choice, as having no power, no ability to hold property, no ability to enter the business world or even have a say in how your land was run, it was considered by far a merciful act to allow her to marry than live a life she would have to toil just to find a semblance of freedom most men possessed by virtue of merely being born one. Not too long ago at all, for women, marriage was a matter not of choice, but necessity.
So, it's no real surprise to me to note that once women did have these same power, were mandated the same respect, and were able to make close to what their male counterparts could make, that marriage stopped becoming a necessity and started becoming an option for those who desire it. Marriage was at a time a woman's prison. Now, liberated, each generation since chooses it less and less as the oppressive restraints of tradition lose their prevalence.
This isn't to say marriage is evil, but it's an old institution founded as the object of necessity where that the western world no longer values it as such, and defined on gender roles that are now seen as archaic. People see marriage less as an institution and more as a contract. You could allow no exit clause on principle, but I feel all that will accomplish is fewer people deciding to sigh in on the deal. The lack of marriage isn't going to stop people from making families, and if you make it less and less desirable to enter, people just start thinking around it. In my view, marriage doesn't need to try to exclude more people from entering it or exiting it. Rather, I think it needs a redefinition, to be founded on principles less on gender and more on a working agreement that actually has substantial benefits, rather than penalties to dissuade one from exiting.
Perhaps a sign of the times, but if you asked me, a member of the younger generation that's just reaching adulthood, personally, if I find marriage desirable, I say no, not in it's current form. The costs of marriage are far too great to make me want to enter it, and the chances of finding someone who seems great at first but holds some hidden form of danger is too great. That doesn't exclude me from having a monogamous relationship at all, or raising kids like I want to eventually. I don't need a contract to do such a thing. But really, tell a young person like myself, why would I want to sign to such an agreement?