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Homosexual Marriages & Related Issues (cont'd cont'd)

Posted by katisaraFor group 0
katisara
GM, 5261 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Thu 17 May 2012
at 16:38
  • msg #1

Homosexual Marriages & Related Issues (cont'd cont'd)

This seems to be a pretty hot topic! Third thread since the other one is filling up. Guys, we need to work on pulling the discussion over here (I keep forgetting until after I've already posted! But I'll try harder next time.)
Revolutionary
player, 27 posts
Sat 19 May 2012
at 17:16
  • msg #2

Marriage Equality

My next position is we need to have fully recognized marriage equality is this:

The lack of protected rights here, creates an environment for other infringements of rights (in some cases) or marginalization though privilege bias (in general).

Is it any surprised that this happened in NC 2 years before they just voted to codify marriage discrimination again (as they did the last time the modified their State Constitution with miscegenation laws)

quote:
A lesbian couple were asked to leave a North Carolina shopping center after sharing a kiss and a hug.

Caitlin Breedlove [said] that she and her partner were being affectionate but appropriate with one another when a security officer asked them to leave the shopping center.

The officer said that "nobody wants to see that here at Cameron Village," Breedlove said, referring to the couple's homosexuality.

York said his company is planning additional sensitivity training for its security personnel.


People with bias and power are "shielded" in treating queer identified people as second class citizens when there is not clear images and protections to force cognitive dissonance about their beliefs.

After all, because of the ubiquity of divorce, very few of the religious who oppose full equality put up nearly a fraction of the attack on divorce something much more substantial and presumable "of the states interest to oppose"?

Next Post another example.
This message was last edited by the player at 17:17, Sat 19 May 2012.
Revolutionary
player, 28 posts
Sat 19 May 2012
at 17:25
  • msg #3

Re: Marriage Equality

Again...

A hotel restaurant "removed" a lesbian couple celebrating their anniversary after they shared a brief kiss.

Gay couple Kenyata White and Aeimee Diaz, both 38, were returning to Downtown Phoenix's District American Kitchen & Wine Bar in the Sheraton Hotel  - where they first met - for their anniversary when they greeted each other with a brief embrace.

Before they even had a chance to look at their menus, the manager allegedly came over and asked them to leave, saying they were making other patrons uncomfortable.

It was a table of eight elderly customers that allegedly made the complaint.
I might also point out the couple was a couple of colour and/or interracial.

Think about it.  Here we have a group that would only be more marginalized in an obvious way if they were also not fully abled.
Revolutionary
player, 29 posts
Sat 19 May 2012
at 17:31
  • msg #4

Re: Marriage Equality

and again...

Genter, a graduate student at Rutgers University, was refused the sale of wedding dress at Here Comes the Bride, in Somers Point, N.J., after she says its manager found out she was a lesbian and insulted her about her pending "illegal action."

Saber told ABCNews.com that when she prepared to call Genter about her order, she noticed that she had crossed out the word "groom" and put in the word "partner" instead.

Same sex marriage is illegal in New Jersey, but partnerships are recognized.

Saber told ABCNews.com that she mentioned the information on the form to Genter out of curiosity.

Genter indicated that Saber "wouldn't work with me because I'm gay, She also said that I came from a nice Jewish family, and it was a shame that I was gay. She said, 'There's right, and there's wrong. And this is wrong.'"

This exchange of words ended with a refusal by Saber to sell Genter the Eden Bridals designer gown.

Genter is planning to wed her longtime partner in a civil union in New Jersey, where the couple lives, the Philadelphia Daily News reported. They plan to follow their legal union with a formal ceremony in New York and are planning a large celebration for 200 of their closest friends and family to be held next July.

Saber says business hasn't suffered because of the recent publicity.


"People have been coming in and literally throwing money at me," she said.

(Nice to see that bigotry is profitable...and it will only become not so with full equality.  Think about it, people of prominence used to be part of the KKK, serious members of the community ...generally speaking... good people used to push in to pose with the bodies of a lynched person of color!  It's only though equality that we have been able to get away from that kind of non-senes.  We haven't yet with queer identified people)
Doulos
player, 32 posts
Sat 19 May 2012
at 18:05
  • msg #5

Re: Marriage Equality

I agree with you that all of thrse acts are reprehensible.  But good luck legislating stupidity and ignorance away (even though I am in support of gay marriage)
katisara
GM, 5266 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sat 19 May 2012
at 19:10
  • msg #6

Re: Marriage Equality

The first two I agree with you. I'm not as sure on the third though. There's a difference between tolerating something and supporting it. The first two, the question is can the gay couple chill out in that location. The fact that they are homosexual has no real bearing on it. But in the third, if my reading is correct, the couple came to purchase items specifically for their homosexual marriage. I think there has to be some point where I as an individual can say "I do not wish to be involved in this activity". I shouldn't have to officiate a wedding I don't feel comfortable with, for instance.

To give an example (and to pick something I'm sure you would find morally disagreeable, even if it's a little silly), suppose I came into your store and said I need to buy a sack and some rope because my cat had kittens and I'm going to drown them. Ignoring that that is illegal, you as the store owner should be able to say "I cannot support this behavior, and I refuse you service."

I suppose an important differentiation here is discrimination on race or orientation is because of something you are and can't change. Discrimination on the activity is definitely something you can change. I have to accept you even though you're homosexual, but I do not need to be involved with your homosexual activities.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 545 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Sat 19 May 2012
at 19:17
  • msg #7

Re: Marriage Equality

It's one thing to refuse service.  It's quite another to become insulting and demeaning about the whole thing.  If she just refused service, I wouldn't like it but I'd accept it, she has that right.  But belittling a person as you do it is just wrong.
Revolutionary
player, 30 posts
Sat 19 May 2012
at 20:24
  • msg #8

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Doulos (msg #5):

Doulos, no, I'm not interested in "legislation" against "stupidity" as you say.  What I'm rather saying is that some of "stupidity" at least becomes less brazen when there's more opportunities to experience things as "normal".

That is, could you imagine today a person being elected to any major national office, if they were pictured as a member of the KKK?  Ala Sen. Robert Byrd was http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Byrd#Ku_Klux_Klan?

Could you imagine someone getting elected who wanted to repeal the 13th amendment (outlawing slavery)?  Yet, when we fought those fights, the ideas were so "foreign" to people ...serious people opposed it.

The more that EVERY DAY people see gay married couples, the more that things like happened there will (a) slow down, (b) be seen more generally as "bigoted" and not as "principled and spiritual", and (c) extinguish into the annuls of an ugly history.
Revolutionary
player, 31 posts
Sat 19 May 2012
at 20:29
  • msg #9

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
The first two I agree with you. I'm not as sure on the third though. There's a difference between tolerating something and supporting it. The first two, the question is can the gay couple chill out in that location. The fact that they are homosexual has no real bearing on it. But in the third, if my reading is correct, the couple came to purchase items specifically for their homosexual marriage. I think there has to be some point where I as an individual can say "I do not wish to be involved in this activity". I shouldn't have to officiate a wedding I don't feel comfortable with, for instance.



This is either a red herring or an extrapolation to miss the point.

Let me ask a direct question:  Do you think Hotels should be able to deny service to someone because of their skin colour?

We're talking about a business that PROVIDES GOODS AND SERVICES.  Now, I don't know if people print in the program at a wedding "This Dress Purchased at BUSINESS NAME" but if so, SURE they could say "Don't print our name we think you're less than us and don't want to be associated with your kind" (I think it's disgusting and I probably wouldn't want to do business with them) BUT this is not what we're talking about.

We're talking about someone NOT doing their JOB because they don't like "WHO I AM"

No actual wrong doing.

No actual "request" for her endorsement.

Just an expectation they "sell a dress" ...

And, this was EXACTLY what was done by people who didn't "believe" in interracial marriage.  And, it's WRONG (even if you think someone should have the right?)  I have the right to say all kinds of stupid things... it doesn't mean it's "smart" to say stupid things.
Revolutionary
player, 32 posts
Sat 19 May 2012
at 20:30
  • msg #10

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg #7):

Grandmaster, the "vendor" only has the "right" because the laws don't recognized queer identified people as the protected class they need to be.

IE, you can't refuse service at a diner because someone is "a Jew"
Grandmaster Cain
player, 546 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Sat 19 May 2012
at 20:38
  • msg #11

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Revolutionary (msg #10):

Actually, there are places that can-- and do-- just that.  Country clubs, Yachting groups, religious stores, and so on.  The right of association is a protected right, and if you can kick someone out for not being dressed right, you can certainly kick someone out for more significant factors.
Revolutionary
player, 33 posts
Sat 19 May 2012
at 20:42
  • msg #12

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg #11):

Again, you say "can" I say "mistakenly it happens" despite the ethical disgust.

A father "in" some countries can mutilate his daughter's genitals.  That it happens doesn't mean that it "should" that he is "seen as having that right" doesn't mean the "seeing" is correct.  When it is clearly, to me, wrong.

Also, there's a huge difference between a dress code (and you're right if by implication you're asking would I argue against those!  I most certainly would) and a someone performing a bias "Crime" (again I hate talking in these terms because I could care less about "laws" as I would consider it a moral imperative to disobey immoral laws ... the same thing some Xians might say about gay marriage).
Grandmaster Cain
player, 547 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Sat 19 May 2012
at 20:54
  • msg #13

Re: Marriage Equality

Oh, don't get me wrong.  I'm not saying it's "right", I'm saying "it's a protected right".  There's nothing illegal about being a bigoted racist, so long as you don't actually act on those impulses in any illegal way.
Revolutionary
player, 34 posts
Sat 19 May 2012
at 21:16
  • msg #14

Re: Marriage Equality

Correct.

And it's even hard to "demonstrate" legally when mathematically it's clear as the law doesn't care about facts or truth, just their "pedigree"

Which is another reason why I have no respect for the "Rule of Law" it is only a weak improvement over the Divine Right of King.
katisara
GM, 5267 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sun 20 May 2012
at 13:37
  • msg #15

Re: Marriage Equality

Revolutionary:
Let me ask a direct question:  Do you think Hotels should be able to deny service to someone because of their skin colour?


No, because your renting a room has no bearing on his doing black activities (in fact, the concept doesn't even make sense). However, with the more recent example, I think country clubs should be allowed to deny use of their facilities for certain religiously-affiliated activities.

quote:
We're talking about someone NOT doing their JOB because they don't like "WHO I AM"


That's not true. If you are homosexual, you still look like everyone else. You aren't visibly different. What marks a homosexual as different is engaging in homosexual activity. I think it's important to differentiate here. Types of people aren't a good basis for discrimination. Types of activities are. If you were a homosexual buying a wedding dress because you're taking pictures of wedding dresses, discrimination there would be clearly wrong. If you were a homosexual buying a wedding dress because you're about to use it in a homosexual wedding, well ... if I can understand the vendor saying "I can't support this behavior, and so I won't".

quote:
No actual "request" for her endorsement.


Her selling you that item knowing what you're using it for is a form of endorsement. To be fair, if you came to me and said "sell me a gun, I'm going to kill my dad" and I sold you a gun, I should reasonably expect to go to prison for that, even if no other laws were broken. And if I came to your store and said "I need spraypaint so I can paint neo-nazi signs on this billboard we rented", I'd like to imagine you would refuse me service (and be right in doing so).


quote:
And, it's WRONG (even if you think someone should have the right?)  I have the right to say all kinds of stupid things... it doesn't mean it's "smart" to say stupid things.


Most certainly. Being insulting, while not illegal, is morally wrong.
Revolutionary
player, 35 posts
Sun 20 May 2012
at 20:14
  • msg #16

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
quote:
We're talking about someone NOT doing their JOB because they don't like "WHO I AM"


That's not true. If you are homosexual, you still look like everyone else. You aren't visibly different. What marks a homosexual as different is engaging in homosexual activity. I think it's important to differentiate here. Types of people aren't a good basis for discrimination. Types of activities are. If you were a homosexual buying a wedding dress because you're taking pictures of wedding dresses, discrimination there would be clearly wrong. If you were a homosexual buying a wedding dress because you're about to use it in a homosexual wedding, well ... if I can understand the vendor saying "I can't support this behavior, and so I won't".



Really?  First off, who I AM is only what I look like?  Do you not think Xians would say "being xian"is "who they are?"  Are you also trying to say, someone isn't gay (or heterosexual) UNTIL they have sex?  How much?  Do fantasies count?

This is a false distinction or somehow it requires the wisdom of Salomon to split this baby.  The problem I'm having with your whole justification is...

...vendors don't NEED to know why I'm buying a Dress.
...vendors just NEED to sell one when a buyer is there.

The vendor is not being asked to bless the union.
The vendor is not even (as I stated) being "recognized" in the wedding announcements, etc.  And again, surely you don't think EVERY belief is sufficient to deny service...so why is ANY belief at all sufficient?  IE What is the vendor objected because the marriage partner ...not same-gendered... were of different ethnicity?

quote:
Her selling you that item knowing what you're using it for is a form of endorsement. To be fair, if you came to me and said "sell me a gun, I'm going to kill my dad" and I sold you a gun, I should reasonably expect to go to prison for that, even if no other laws were broken. And if I came to your store and said "I need spraypaint so I can paint neo-nazi signs on this billboard we rented", I'd like to imagine you would refuse me service (and be right in doing so).


This is all red herring again.

First, no one is coming in "describing" an action that hurts ANYONE.  In this case the VENDOR inquired, as a good sales person might. Then she let her bigotry and Semitic superiority fly.

Second, do you mean even a little to equate wedding with an at this point unjustified, premeditated murder?

Last, selling an item is NOT endorsement.  IF you think that, you need to read the terms of service of almost ever product you buy.  AS WELL AS, the disclaimers on about ever DVD movie commentary.  Those specific disclaimers are NOT required.  But they would certainly BE sufficient.
katisara
GM, 5268 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Mon 21 May 2012
at 00:12
  • msg #17

Re: Marriage Equality

Revolutionary:
Really?  First off, who I AM is only what I look like?


You're putting words into my mouth. The point is, there are what people are and what they do, and those two sets are not identical.

quote:
Are you also trying to say, someone isn't gay (or heterosexual) UNTIL they have sex?  How much?


Being homosexual is based on attraction, not actions. I was heterosexual LONG before I had sex.

quote:
...vendors don't NEED to know why I'm buying a Dress.


They don't, you're right. In the case you mentioned though, the customer voluntarily gave up that information. If I walk into your store and buy rope, you have no business prying further. However, if I walk into your store, loudly proclaim I'm tying my children to a tree overnight because they've been disobedient, THEN buy rope, you now have an obligation to intervene.

quote:
...vendors just NEED to sell one when a buyer is there.


Um ... really? I think a vendor has the right to run his shop as he likes, whether it's effective or not. If I sit in my shop with the doors unlocked and the lights on, but don't unlock the register, are you going to call the police to force me to sell you things?

quote:
And again, surely you don't think EVERY belief is sufficient to deny service...so why is ANY belief at all sufficient?  IE What is the vendor objected because the marriage partner ...not same-gendered... were of different ethnicity?   


Yes, I believe every belief is sufficient to deny service, and in fact I'm rather surprised that you, self-avowed revolutionary, would take any other stance. If you come into my hardware shop and say "I'm buying lumber to burn crosses", or "I'm buying rope to tie up my children", yes, I feel quite justified in saying "my beliefs prevent me from assisting you in this, and in fact, the police are on their way".

We *have* to accept "all beliefs" for two basic reasons;
1) I don't have God almighty sitting next to me when I'm running my shop to tell me which behavior is appropriate and which is extremely dangerous and destructive. I have to rely on my own best judgment. And this is the same for me and you and every other person in that position.
2) I have a right to exercise my beliefs with my property however I like! Are you proposing that, if I buy property and say "this property is only open to people who agree with me", that the police should bust down the doors so anyone at all can come in? That's ludicrous.


quote:
First, no one is coming in "describing" an action that hurts ANYONE.  In this case the VENDOR inquired, as a good sales person might. Then she let her bigotry and Semitic superiority fly. 


Who is responsible for determining what action is harmful? Remember, we're not talking necessarily about criminal harm here. If I run a store and you come in and put a sticker on my window or rearrange my flowers, I can reasonably call that harmful and toss you out.

quote:
Second, do you mean even a little to equate wedding with an at this point unjustified, premeditated murder?


I am selecting an event that everyone can agree is bad, so we have a baseline of agreement. It's not intended to be a comparison of 'badness' or anything of the sort.

quote:
Last, selling an item is NOT endorsement.  IF you think that, you need to read the terms of service of almost ever product you buy.  AS WELL AS, the disclaimers on about ever DVD movie commentary.  Those specific disclaimers are NOT required.  But they would certainly BE sufficient.


There's legal endorsement and moral endorsement. You're confusing the two. Knowingly selling paraphernalia for an activity is a form of moral endorsement, even if you hold no legal liability.
Kertook
player, 4 posts
Spiritual Agnostic,
but not in a weird way
Sun 10 Jun 2012
at 18:23
  • msg #18

Re: Marriage Equality

Do you believe God is going to punish the homosexuals for getting married?
katisara
GM, 5274 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Mon 11 Jun 2012
at 13:07
  • msg #19

Re: Marriage Equality

How should I know? That's between them and God.

(I think though most Christians would say 'yes', so I'll go with that if it helps your argument.)
Kertook
player, 5 posts
Spiritual Agnostic,
but not in a weird way
Tue 12 Jun 2012
at 12:56
  • msg #20

Re: Marriage Equality

Ok, assuming God will punish the homosexuals for getting married, will God punish you, or the "endorser" of gay activities who sells the dress so that they can get married?  If that is a fair characterization of what it means to sell someone something for their own uses, when you have knowledge of the intended use and to which you morally object.
katisara
GM, 5282 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 12 Jun 2012
at 13:49
  • msg #21

Re: Marriage Equality

I assume you're going off of the chat I had with Revolutionary.

If you're asking what the bible says about being an accomplice in sin ... I have to admit, I honestly don't know. I suspect the answer would be that yes, helping a person sin is in itself a sin, but I couldn't give you a scripture reference. But I don't feel comfortable talking about what 'God will punish me' for. It's very much-so an avoidance of pain stance, which I at least hope not to operate by.

Rather, I feel like we can agree on it as a secular moral stance. Comitting an action that is morally wrong is indeed morally wrong. Intentionally and knowingly assisting someone in committing a moral wrong is also a moral wrong. The driver of the get-away car does bear some responsibility for the crime, even though driving from the bank to the warehouse is not in itself a crime.

The only counter-argument I feel we can make here is that we bear no responsibility for the actions of others. But frankly, I feel like that's making an 'I'm an island! Don't blame me!' argument. Our actions have consequences, good or bad. We are responsible for our actions. When we act, knowingly, to help bad actions occur, we bear some degree of responsibility for those bad actions. My selling drugs, or teasing the suicidal girl, or driving the get-away car may not *be* seriously bad behavior out of context, but our actions never occur 'out of context'.

So yes, in a nut-shell, I think pretty strongly that if I, with fore-knowledge and intent, assist a person in committing something which I believe to be morally wrong, that I myself bear responsibility for that wrong. That is independent of marriage politics. If I believe that some behavior is wrong, I don't think the government should be requiring that I support that behavior directly, or with my own property.
This message was last edited by the GM at 13:51, Tue 12 June 2012.
Revolutionary
player, 38 posts
Tue 12 Jun 2012
at 21:57
  • msg #22

Re: Marriage Equality

I'm not sure why we would care what an unreliable book says about the transitive properties of anything.  We know Bats are not birds, as the "Scripture" says.  We know that insects have 6 not 4 legs, as the bible says.  We know that the earth is not flat and doesn't have four corners, as the "liable" says.  We know that it's silly to think 'g-d' walked on "clouds" in the "heavens"...  We know that there is no way that there wasn't "death" before the "fall".

Further, the most directly "moral" claims of the book are silly tribal superstitions or claims of a very neurotic god.  (Hell, not even the MAJORITY of the 10 commandments are the least bit moral in their nature).
Doulos
player, 39 posts
Tue 12 Jun 2012
at 22:47
  • msg #23

Re: Marriage Equality

You believe the bible is unrealiable, but good luck convincing those who believe otherwise.

That's another conversation entirely.
Revolutionary
player, 39 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 07:48
  • msg #24

Re: Marriage Equality

I don't bother to "convince" someone that a bat is not a bird :)

That's an either you get it or you don't...and if you don't; I'd say you're unreliable as a person in the same way the book is.  You will believe anything on insufficient evidence.  You just might believe my human sacrifice is needed.
katisara
GM, 5284 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 13:45
  • msg #25

Re: Marriage Equality

1) That's a bit rough, Rev. I understand you disagree with the Bible on fundamental grounds, but a little tact will get you a long way.

2) If you want to discuss the factual content or reliability of the Bible, we have a thread for that that I'm happy to dig out and put up.

3) It's really not relevant, since I myself, in my own post, said that I don't like to refer to the Bible, and I avoided doing such except to say 'yeah, IF you want to go there, it probably says that'. I don't think you can debate with kertook on this, because I suspect he already agrees with you, and you can't be debating with me on it because it's a question I specifically avoided answering.
Doulos
player, 42 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 13:48
  • msg #26

Re: Marriage Equality

That's fine if you feel that way, but your perspective is not that of those who believe in the bible and can and will defend it to their death.

They can easily say 'thw word for bird is flying animal and a bat is a flying animals' or some such thing ad the problem is solved.

So while you feel that the bible is an unreliable text (and I share your opinion) you simply have to come to terms with the fact that massive numbers of people believe otherwise and many of them are highly intelligent and top notch individuals who happen to have good intellectual reasons for believing what they believe.
This message was last edited by the player at 13:49, Wed 13 June 2012.
Revolutionary
player, 40 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 15:02
  • msg #27

Re: Marriage Equality

I don't have to come to any such terms.

Massive people used to believe in Witchcraft, Astrology, reading entrails for the future, the Philigeston theory of heat...etc.

And, the more and more we make it painful, utterly painful for people to believe things on insufficient evidence, the sooner these authority based assertions and bubblegum and band-aid "fixes" will be abandoned.

For example, there's not fix to the problem that "Jesus" cannot ADD.

He says he'd be gone for 3 days 3 nights, and it's at best 3 and 2 and more like 2 and 2.

The one thing we must stop, is acting as if "beliefs" deserve any protection of any sort of at.
This message was last edited by the player at 15:26, Wed 13 June 2012.
Doulos
player, 44 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 15:12
  • msg #28

Re: Marriage Equality

Fair enough.  With an attitude like that I fail to see how any of us will have any ability to have reasonable conversations with you.

But at least you're honest about where you stand.
Revolutionary
player, 41 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 15:13
  • msg #29

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Doulos (msg #28):

My presentation impacts your ability to be reasonable?
This message was last edited by the player at 15:13, Wed 13 June 2012.
katisara
GM, 5287 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 15:15
  • msg #30

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Revolutionary (msg #27):

Moderator Post: Calling another individual's beliefs 'stupid' and disrespectful statements against other religions or philosophies are violations of this forum's constitution. Please amend the post or it will be moderated.
Doulos
player, 45 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 15:27
  • msg #31

Re: Marriage Equality

Revolutionary:
In reply to Doulos (msg #28):

My presentation impacts your ability to be reasonable?



I simply feel it's important to realize that there are others in this world who hold viewpoints that make zero sense to me personally, but are deeply ingrained into the very fabric of their being.

Treating others who hold those views as lesser intellectual beings, while it might make me feel superior, serves only to make conflict worse in every way.

I truly believe that there are ways to build bridges and treat the 'other side' with respect, even when they refuse to do the same.  To do otherwise, in my opinion, only results in a spiral of hate and misunderstanding that achieves nothing.
Revolutionary
player, 42 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 16:11
  • msg #32

Re: Marriage Equality

It's useful to separate an issue.

While there is probably solid reason to consider there to be some kind of intrinsic human value, there are many ways in which we "reduce" that value.  One of the most obvious or universally accepted is "behavior".

We lock up people who the laws of the land consider to be a "criminal" or "violent". Then consensus forms that the person "is" a criminal, etc.

Well, I submit to you that "thinking" and "opinion" are special kinds of behavior and are actually MORE relevant to "judge", and all the more because ...generally speaking... the "State Power Monopoly" has largely ignored criminalizing this area of behavior.

A bridge between objective reality and subjective myth is a pointless bridge.  A bridge spanning deeper rationalism with whatever remains of rationalism among a 'believer' may be useful in limited sense.  So long as it makes no room for protection or 'reverence' to these wild beliefs.

There is very little to be gained from bridging the "gap?" between someone who says, MY god can square the circle.  Or that my god is a married bachelor.  Or any of the many other incoherent claims people of faith make about their god.

Finally, polarization is a path to progress.  If we had a special class in school today for people who still believe in Witchcraft, we're bridging and being 'understanding' and 'accommodating needs'.  However, I'm more than happy to forgo applying those otherwise useful humanistic values in the cases of something which does so much harm.

Do you bridge the "gap" with Racists?  Neo-nazis? Fred Phelps?

So much better to pave over the gap and give them a mass grave.
Doulos
player, 46 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 16:22
  • msg #33

Re: Marriage Equality

Thank you for clarifying your stance on things.

I do not hold to those beliefs.
Revolutionary
player, 43 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 16:35
  • msg #34

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Doulos (msg #33):

You don't believe people have intrinsic value?

Or you don't believe that belief in Witchcraft or the selection of our leaders by Astrology is on the decline?
Revolutionary
player, 44 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 16:37
  • msg #35

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Revolutionary (msg #34):

And to get a little more on topic.

The religionists (at least the anti-gay ones) have clearly lost.  Marriage equality is going to be a full reality and probably faster than any of us can reasonably expect.  It won't be a str8 line (no puns intended), to be sure.  And it will bring out ugliness, but it's a foregone conclusion.

We won.

Faith lost.

Now wait for the results show.
Doulos
player, 47 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 16:38
  • msg #36

Re: Marriage Equality

I don't believe that slaughtering people because they believe differently (or even in "evil" ways) accomplishes anything positive in this world.
Revolutionary
player, 45 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 16:39
  • msg #37

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Doulos (msg #36):

You confused my wish to bury the dead with wishing to be their executioner.

So I'm glad I snarkily had you clarify.
Doulos
player, 48 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 16:43
  • msg #38

Re: Marriage Equality

I guess I misinterpreted the end of your statement regarding mass graves. I'm not sure what you meant then.
Revolutionary
player, 46 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 16:51
  • msg #39

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Doulos (msg #38):

IT was a metaphor to mean, I wish we could just bury "them" (and more accurately the resistant strain of these ideas) "all at once" ...hence mass.

But I do see how that is an easy one to have confused.  I'm not suggesting anything eugenic.
Doulos
player, 49 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 17:05
  • msg #40

Re: Marriage Equality

Revolutionary:
We won.

Faith lost.


This sort of us vs them is what I wish could be removed from both sides personally.

I do understand that both sides see the other as evil though so the chances of that happening are essentially zero.
Revolutionary
player, 47 posts
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 17:56
  • msg #41

Re: Marriage Equality

I don't mind if they say...

"We lost"

"They won" :)
katisara
GM, 5288 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 13 Jun 2012
at 18:39
  • msg #42

Re: Marriage Equality

1) Revolutionary, thank you for bringing this back on topic. While I like keeping stuff in their threads, I hate digging through to find said threads :P

2) I do agree with Duolos. I don't think this is a 'faith vs. [whatever]', and I hate it when people on either side do that. I think it doesn't make logical sense, and it's ultimately destructive to all parties.

To move on to the most interesting post in a while ...

Revolutionary:
While there is probably solid reason to consider there to be some kind of intrinsic human value, there are many ways in which we "reduce" that value.  One of the most obvious or universally accepted is "behavior".


Okay, following you here. We judge people based on a number of factors, including behavior.

quote:
We lock up people who the laws of the land consider to be a "criminal" or "violent". Then consensus forms that the person "is" a criminal, etc.


... and our language supports that.

quote:
Well, I submit to you that "thinking" and "opinion" are special kinds of behavior and are actually MORE relevant to "judge", and all the more because ...generally speaking... the "State Power Monopoly" has largely ignored criminalizing this area of behavior.


Now you're losing me. You've made a few jumps here;
1) Judging is good (before you just pointed out it happens).
2) We should choose how we judge.
3) We should prefer the method of judging the government does NOT use.

I could argue either way on the first two, but the third seems too far out. I've got to be missing something here.

quote:
A bridge between objective reality and subjective myth is a pointless bridge.  A bridge spanning deeper rationalism with whatever remains of rationalism among a 'believer' may be useful in limited sense.  So long as it makes no room for protection or 'reverence' to these wild beliefs.


At first I was on board, thinking you were saying that we can't hope to understand subjective reality in terms of objective reality or vice versa, but no, you seem to be saying:

1) that we must judge based on objective reality only (a fair statement)
2) Anyone who holds a 'subjective myth' is perhaps self-deluded? (Again, I have to be mis-understanding, because ALL of us hold subjective myths).
3) Subjective myth is bad? (And again ... not sure if that's your point. But it seems a tough point to argue.)

quote:
There is very little to be gained from bridging the "gap?" ...


I honestly don't understand your point here.

quote:
Finally, polarization is a path to progress.


I cannot disagree more. Polarization is the path to excluding ideas based on politics, to shutting down discussion, to self-insulating behaviors, to strengthening subjective 'myths' and reality.

Maybe you mean conflict is the path to progress?

quote:
If we had a special class in school today for people who still believe in Witchcraft,


Are you referring to Wiccans? Because I know some. One swore to me she summoned a fire sylph. She did go to special classes and groups for that. I don't need to be understanding though. And she also attended secular schools like everyone else.

quote:
Do you bridge the "gap" with Racists?  Neo-nazis? Fred Phelps?


Okay, now we get to the meat. My understanding (and it could be wrong; I clearly missed your intent several lines ago), you're saying:

People have subjective beliefs
Some of these beliefs are without merit
Beliefs must be measured based on objective metrics, such as harm
If a subjective belief is determined to be detrimental, the subjective belief SHOULD BE eliminated

Correct?

(I don't want to actually respond until I'm sure of what your point is, so please excuse me for not actually providing any constructive content here.)
Kertook
player, 7 posts
Spiritual Agnostic,
but not in a weird way
Thu 14 Jun 2012
at 05:21
  • msg #43

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
I assume you're going off of the chat I had with Revolutionary.

The only counter-argument I feel we can make here is that we bear no responsibility for the actions of others. But frankly, I feel like that's making an 'I'm an island! Don't blame me!' argument. Our actions have consequences, good or bad.


Yes, from earlier discussions with Revo I take it that you are against homosexual marriage and believe you should not be forced to sell to gay customers, for example.  My thought here is that you believe it is wrong, and you bear some responsibility for supporting it.  But the 'bad consequence' is very abstract. You don't even fervently believe that you would be punished for this behavior, but maybe.  Maybe the gay people would be punished, too, but you really aren't sure in your own mind. If there is no clear answer, why not adopt the attitude of "God will do what he needs to, so I'm not going to put in my own two cents here."

This is a question I often have thought about for religious folks:  Absent a legal crime with a clear, objective victim, if you are so sure [which you are not, I understand] that God is going to punish someone for something, why not let him and don't get involved?

I agree with Revolutionary [if I am paraphrasing accurately] that in making public policy, we should use an objective standard because that is the one that protects the most people and it protects identifiable interests and the victims of crime, for example. The objective standard here is--being gay is not a crime (well maybe in a few states...) and there is no ascertainable harm to anyone who is not a consenting adult.  But you denying service just because you think something "bad" is going to happen is very subjective. So the state has to come down on the side of ascertainable harm--denial of a service and good that other people can get easily, vs. your abstract feeling that something bad is going on. In my view there is no need to look further, even though there is more meat here than this.

Now you may say the state is forcing you to do stuff with your private property that you disagree with, but that happens all the time.  Emminent domain for example, parking tickets, etc... Your freedom of belief is not really impinged on here, you can still believe it's wrong, you can pray for their salvation, you can even close down your wedding dress shop if the moral cost to you is so high that its better to not sell that dress. You are free to go into a line of business where you never have to deal with a gay customer so that you don't have to violate your beliefs.
katisara
GM, 5290 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Thu 14 Jun 2012
at 19:04
  • msg #44

Re: Marriage Equality

Kertook:
Yes, from earlier discussions with Revo I take it that you are against homosexual marriage and believe you should not be forced to sell to gay customers, for example.


Gotcha.

Since you're asking about my personal beliefs ... I personally believe the bible says it's wrong for people to get homosexual marriages. I myself am not a homosexual, so I'm okay with that. HOWEVER, I also believe that if you choose to harm yourself with sin, that's between you and God, and I'm not in any sort of specially vantaged view (in regards to homosexual marriage in any case) to be interfering with that.

HOWEVER, I recognize that there are some things that I, and all people, are convinced (dare we say, 'know' are immoral). I think late-term abortion is wrong, comparable with infanticide. I think suicide is wrong. I think murder is wrong. I'm sure there are some things that you also feel are wrong.

Yes, I do separate this from consequences. I think if I supported a murder and got away with it, that would still be bad. I don't need God or the police to tell me that's bad. In fact, to the contrary, I'd LIKE to think that I'd risk getting arrested to AVOID supporting a murder that otherwise I'd get away scott-free with.


In this particular case, the fact that it was gay marriage is just incidental. Forget about that. Imagine instead the woman walks in and reveals she's going to marry and rape a child (I think we can all agree that that's wrong, yes?) And suppose for the sake of argument, this is legal (as it is in very many countries).

So this lady comes into your shop to buy a dress and a length of rope. You happen to ask why while making chit-chat, and she offers that tomorrow she's going to marry this child, then tie her up and rape her, but it's cool, because it's all legal. So how much for this rope again?

I don't think you or Revo believe in God. And this is legal. So do you sell the rope and dress? Are you okay with that? Speaking for myself, I'm not.

Now this isn't speaking to making public policy. I honestly don't have a problem with legalizing gay marriage. I don't have a problem with legalizing drugs either. But don't force me to be a participant in them. Permitting someone else to do something sinful is one thing, but forcing me to directly support it is not acceptable.


quote:
Now you may say the state is forcing you to do stuff with your private property that you disagree with, but that happens all the time.  Emminent domain for example, parking tickets, etc...


These are very specific and limited conditions. You're also specifically talking about what the government can do. You can't come to my door and demand I pay $20 for no reason though. As a vendor, I can choose to accept or deny customers on whatever basis I want. I can serve only people named Jim if I want. This is the definition of 'personal property'. If I don't have control over my property, how is it 'my' property?

And to add another step to it, what harm is being done to the bride by telling her she needs to go to another shop? Is she now unable to get married? It's not like she's being denied life-saving surgery.

quote:
You are free to go into a line of business where you never have to deal with a gay customer so that you don't have to violate your beliefs.


What line of business would that be?
Kertook
player, 9 posts
Spiritual Agnostic,
but not in a weird way
Thu 14 Jun 2012
at 20:00
  • msg #45

Re: Marriage Equality

HOWEVER, I recognize that there are some things that I, and all people, are convinced (dare we say, 'know' are immoral).

In this particular case, the fact that it was gay marriage is just incidental. Forget about that. Imagine instead the woman walks in and reveals she's going to marry and rape a child (I think we can all agree that that's wrong, yes?) And suppose for the sake of argument, this is legal (as it is in very many countries).

[above is katisara--sorry not quite getting the quote thing yet]


I didn't say just because it's legal it's ok.  You are showing examples where there is an scertainable harm to a concrete victim (unwanted rape to the specifc, unconsenting child.) That is pretty objectively wrong [we can get into why, but let's assume we agree there], and I can agree on that. But that's very different from something that you just think is wrong (immoral) based on a dogmatic position. [yes, tie-in to my other thread].

Suppose for [silly but not too far from the truth I'd wager] example, you lived in a community dominated by a specific religion where eating lemon pie by your gender [for example] was "immoral" but you really loved lemon pie and you used to be able to eat it in your home country because it was not a religious thing there.  Lemon pie is neither legal nor illegal. You go from store to store trying to get lemon pie but to no avail as everyone operates under your assumption and says "no lemon pie for women" and its ok to do that, while all the men around get lemon pie as much as they want.  How fair would that be? Aren't your interests being unduly harmed for the benefit of the lemon pie monopolists who know better than you what's "wrong" ? In other countries/cultures there would be no way to get that lemon pie without risking a stoning or some similar punishment for the "immorality" your were committing. But that would be ok?
katisara:
What line of business would that be?


Doesn't matter. Writing technical manuals for computer parts, or similar. The point is why make the public at large suffer for you following your dogma rather than have you make a practical/financial sacrifice for your deeply held beliefs? After all, aren't thay more important than money or what job you have?
This message was last edited by the player at 23:07, Thu 14 June 2012.
katisara
GM, 5291 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Fri 15 Jun 2012
at 01:32
  • msg #46

Re: Marriage Equality

Kertook:
[above is katisara--sorry not quite getting the quote thing yet]


(Just write (quote) like that, then later do another (/quote) to close it. Except use angly brackets instead of parens.)


quote:
You are showing examples where there is an scertainable harm to a concrete victim (unwanted rape to the specifc, unconsenting child.) That is pretty objectively wrong [we can get into why, but let's assume we agree there], and I can agree on that. But that's very different from something that you just think is wrong (immoral) based on a dogmatic position. [yes, tie-in to my other thread].


How? Because it's something we both agree on? Is morality decided by popular vote? Why is it okay to limit an activity when you think it's wrong, but not when I think it's wrong?

quote:
You go from store to store trying to get lemon pie but to no avail as everyone operates under your assumption and says "no lemon pie for women" and its ok to do that, while all the men around get lemon pie as much as they want.  How fair would that be? Aren't your interests being unduly harmed for the benefit of the lemon pie monopolists who know better than you what's "wrong" ? In other countries/cultures there would be no way to get that lemon pie without risking a stoning or some similar punishment for the "immorality" your were committing. But that would be ok?


There's a few points here.
1) Life isn't fair. Life is not meant to be fair. I'm not sure why being fair is even desirable. So the fact that boys can eat pie and girls can't, while indeed not fair, isn't a huge social wrong that needs to be fixed any more than the fact that girls can give birth and boys can't. I'm not upset about discrimination because it's not 'fair' because we're not in second grade any more.

2) This is of course a constructed example, and an important detail here is "no one" will sell you lemon pie. However, in the US at least, and most of the western world, you're not going to find a lot of examples where one bakery won't sell because of moral beliefs, and none of the others will either. In the original case here, if the woman couldn't buy her wedding dress at shop A, she should go shop at shops B, C, and D. Yes, if there was conspiracy to not sell this individual a dress, or if there's a monopoly of this sort of service, I'd be more inclined to agree with you, but that isn't the case.

3) Lemon pies, like wedding dresses, are luxuries. Again, I'm not going to die from not getting lemon pie. I am, at most, minorly inconvenienced, because I have to spend half an hour making my own damn pie. If the saleswoman was refusing to sell insulin to a gay diabetic, again I'd be more inclined to agree with you. But she's selling wedding dresses, and I'm not aware of anyone suffering from a medical condition whose only cure is more wedding dress.

4) Ultimately, I do understand the situation (honestly!) I have been turned out of shops before, and it feels bad. I'm not saying the buyer doesn't have a case; she does. But the seller also has a case. In a perfect world, the buyer should be able to buy her dress, and the seller should be able to NOT sell it, but obviously, that isn't possible in the real world. So we have to decide in favor of one person or the other. In this case, I think the right of an individual over her own personal property trumps the privilege of having money. The lesbian woman does not have a 'right' in question here. We have no right to excellent service, or to a great product at a great price. But we do have a right to refuse to associate with people, and to control our personal property. So, while I feel for the lesbian woman, I don't think it's fair to the saleswoman to force her to do business like that.

quote:
katisara:
What line of business would that be?


Doesn't matter. Writing technical manuals for computer parts, or similar. The point is why make the public at large suffer for you following your dogma rather than have you make a practical/financial sacrifice for your deeply held beliefs? After all, aren't thay more important than money or what job you have?


'the public at large'? The lady isn't running a strip club in front of a pre-school. She's denying a single individual from buying her product. But really, your question rephrases to "why inconvenience this woman, when you can quit your job and livelihood and maybe get another job in a field you have no skill in" (ignoring the fact that if I happen to be a salesperson, I probably don't know anything about writing technical manuals). I'm not sure where you work, but my field is pretty specialized, and if a law was passed that said I had to engage in unethical behavior in order to keep my job, that would literally mean I'm choosing between following what I, with an educated conscience, believe is right, and living, with my kids, on the street. Do you honestly think that living on the street is the less of a nuisance than asking a customer to go to the other shop down the road?
This message was last edited by the GM at 13:04, Fri 15 June 2012.
Kertook
player, 11 posts
Spiritual Agnostic,
but not in a weird way
Fri 15 Jun 2012
at 06:59
  • msg #47

Re: Marriage Equality

kat [sorry still not quite working the quotes]: “How? Because it's something we both agree on? Is morality decided by popular vote? Why is it okay to limit an activity when you think it's wrong, but not when I think it's wrong?”

I'm not actually saying what you state.  In a modern, secular, and rational society, the government should limit activities not because in someone's theological dogma [mine or yours] it's abstractly “wrong.” I'm saying that the government often has to choose between competing interests (which is what the US Supreme court does when deciding freedom of speech cases and there is child pornography involved, for example) and come down on the side of favoring the interest that best serves the most people and limits the specifically identifiable and "worst" harms (thereby choosing the lesser harm) to citizens of said government.

For example Freedom of speech is an important right or interest, and a protected right, but children's bodily integrity and health are also important and abusing them harms them to no end.  Limiting freedom of speech may cause harm (or be “wrong” in a somewhat abstract way) but when put it directly against children's bodily safety and well being, preventing some “free speech” in order to protect children is the more rational choice between these competing interests. I'm not actually even talking about morality, just what is a more rational way to live and have everyon's freedoms and rights protected to the greatest extent possible. We could go on and on, but that is essentially what is happening here.  Competing interests and the more rational one wins as far what the state's position should be in the matter. I'm not saying I have a better, more moral compass than you, I'm just saying that there is a rational way to choose and your system is not it.

kat “The lesbian woman does not have a 'right' in question here. We have no right to excellent service...But we do have a right to refuse to associate with people, and to control our personal property. So, while I feel for the lesbian woman, I don't think it's fair to the saleswoman to force her to do business like that.”

Would that be the same line you would give Rosa Parks about her lack of rights to ride somewhere on the bus other than in the back?  Riding in the back is just an inconvenience, correct?  Just poor service. Why force the bus driver to associate with Rosa, or force any of the other passengers near the front to sit by her? Or in a privately owned "lunch counter" why not allow the shop owner to sort people by their level of moral standing? After all, they can go down the street to another lunch counter or find another driking fountain, or pool, right?

Why do you think you can control your "personal property" in any manner you want? You may be familiar with the popularly named Civil Rights Act of 1964. "In 1964 Congress passed Public Law 88-352 (78 Stat. 241). The provisions of this civil rights act forbade discrimination on the basis of sex as well as race in hiring, promoting, and firing..." [http://www.archives.gov/educat...ns/civil-rights-act/].

Are you sticking to your statement? So far the law doesn't include homosexuals to my knowledge, but the government has already said "hold on, store owner, you can't do WHATEVER you want with your store (property) if that means discriminating by not hiring these folks..." At least be factually correct, please.

As for the comments regarding the public at large being harmed by following your theory of letting people just exclude others based on abstract judgments of immorality, yes, if we logically extend your argument people of all kinds can be excluded from service (not just this individual in the wedding example) because the salespeople/store owners think that “those kind” are immoral in some way.  Black people, Hispanics, Jews, Muslims, Catholics [Northern Ireland, anyone?], plain Christians even.

Yes imagine yourself being in the minority rather than a politically powerful majority. How would you like to be a Christian woman in Saudi Arabia—no vote, no driving, no walking around without an male escort, no baring your ankles or whatever.  Would your line still be “life isn't supposed to be fair and that's ok” or rather, “this sucks, take me to somewhere where at least I have a choice between selling dresses to gay people or living on the street in a bathing suit...” Ok humor aside, the basic point is the same—maybe life isn't fair, but we have tried to make it more so in this country because that is better than the alternative. That's still why so many people want to come here.  It's not perfect by any means, but it is on to something.
katisara
GM, 5293 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Fri 15 Jun 2012
at 13:30
  • msg #48

Re: Marriage Equality

Kertook:
kat [sorry still not quite working the quotes]:


Yeah, I realized I totally botched my own 'look how easy it is to quote!' quote -_-.


quote:
and come down on the side of favoring the interest that best serves the most people and limits the specifically identifiable and "worst" harms (thereby choosing the lesser harm) to citizens of said government.


1) I agree in those cases where it is the government's business. For example, I don't believe it is the government's business what sort of kinky sex I get up to with my spouse.

1b) I doubt you and I would agree what is the 'government's business'. So how do we decide that? Based on what the government believes? (Because the government believes EVERYTHING is it's business.) Based on popular vote? (Like Ammendment 9 in California?)

2) And how do we define interests? I'm very interested in my personal freedom. Maybe you don't care about freedom, you're more worried about physical security.


I am curious though, in this particular case, with a woman being denied services in a store for a non-essential service, what 'interests' do you feel are at stake?

quote:
Would that be the same line you would give Rosa Parks about her lack of rights to ride somewhere on the bus other than in the back?  Riding in the back is just an inconvenience, correct?  Just poor service. Why force the bus driver to associate with Rosa, or force any of the other passengers near the front to sit by her? Or in a privately owned "lunch counter" why not allow the shop owner to sort people by their level of moral standing? After all, they can go down the street to another lunch counter or find another driking fountain, or pool, right?


I've actually already touched on this, and there are a few issues you're brushing over;

1) Buses are a necessary service. If I can't get to work, I can't feed my family. Like I've said, if the saleswoman was selling insulin, I'd argue that she needs to swallow her issues and put the survival of the woman she disagrees with first. But wedding dresses are not necessary services.

2) Being black is not a moral choice. I can't choose to be black. There's no such thing as 'black activities'. Ergo, there's no issue of transference of moral responsibility. While being homosexual is not a choice, engaging in homosexual activity is. If homosexual activity is indeed immoral (just imagine with me for a moment, or replace it with rape if you prefer), and I'm assisting you with it, transference of moral responsibility is an issue.

3) Buses are a public service. The government needs to be blind to this, because the government has no 'private property'. And when you agree to work for the government, voluntary relinquishment of some of your rights recognition is a condition of employment (just like you can't join the army, but then refuse to go to war because you value your right to life).

quote:
At least be factually correct, please.


Didn't you just, one post ago, say "I didn't say just because it's legal it's ok."?

Something being legal (or illegal) has no bearing on its morality. So even if the law did change to say 'you can't decide not to sell to homosexuals or child rapists or murderers or whatever' I'd STILL say it's morally wrong. And I think you would too, because I'm willing to bet you'd say when the law said 'you CANNOT sell to people of this religion or race', you thought that was morally wrong.

quote:
Yes imagine yourself being in the minority rather than a politically powerful majority.


That would actually describe a third of my life :)

quote:
How would you like to be a Christian woman in Saudi Arabia—no vote, no driving, no walking around without an male escort, no baring your ankles or whatever.


Please see my points above
Kertook
player, 12 posts
Spiritual Agnostic,
but not in a weird way
Fri 15 Jun 2012
at 15:11
  • msg #49

Re: Marriage Equality

kat "1) Buses are a necessary service. If I can't get to work, I can't feed my family."

Yes, but Rosa could still get to work on the back of the bus, just not sitting in the preferred or most convenient rows.  So since her economic interest of getting to work is intact, no harm done, right? She has no beef according to your logic. Life's not fair, just suck it up Rosa.

kat "(just like you can't join the army, but then refuse to go to war because you value your right to life)."

Maybe not exactly because you value your own life, but you can request an honorable discharge because you value all life and develope a belief against war once you've signed up.

Again, before making an argument based on a scenario or supposed rules, it helps to check the facts:

"Myth #3
A person who has seen combat or who has confirmed kills cannot get out for conscientious objection.

Fact:

In order to qualify for CO status, you have to show that your beliefs against participating in war were formed by your experiences since joining the miltary.  Many experiences can change a person's beliefs and lead them to oppose war or participating in war.  Often, a military member's combat experiences and/or the actions they took in combat are exactly what changes their beliefs about war.  For others, their transformative experiences occur during basic or specialty training before they ever deploy.  For still others, just hearing about their fellow members' war experiences can be enough to convince them that they don't want to participate in war.  When applying for CO status, you are required to describe the occurances that led you to your current beliefs.  The most convincing stories are those given in the most detail--whenever and wherever they occurred." [http://girightshotline.org/en/...scientious-objection]

A major premise of your whole argument is that handling your "own property" is the most important right in the equation of you the shopkeeper vs. the lesbian shopper. Where does that come from? Is that a relgious dogma point that is simply "moral" and therefore inviolable? If so, then by circular self-supporting logic you will never concede anything and the discussion is moot from the get go...
hakootoko
player, 11 posts
Fri 15 Jun 2012
at 15:19
  • msg #50

Re: Marriage Equality

So what the two of you are discussing is essentially this?
http://www.guardian.co.uk/worl...uple-sue?INTCMP=SRCH
(I was looking for a case that I thought was in Scotland where the court ruled against the bed&breakfast, and instead found one in Hawaii. I have no idea if the Hawaii case has been settled yet.)

Though I think in an abstract sense Kertook permits the government too much power over private morality, I agree with his(?) specific instances and with the non-discrimination law. If you run a business, it should be available to the public.

Where I draw the line (a bit further than some governments seem to) is in regard to specifically religiously affiliated businesses, such as religious hospitals or inns. I think that such businesses are part of the religion in question, and their obligation to obey the tenets of the religion should take precedence. I would extend this to all non-profit businesses founded on an ethical basis: that a religious hospital should not be forced to hire doctors who are not of their religion, and a vegan group should not be forced to hire an employee who eats meat. The religious hospital should be able to not offer treatments it judges to be unethical, because it is an ethically-based business. (I suppose this is not an entirely analogous case, because I am *not* saying that a religious hospital should be allowed to refuse to treat individuals with treatments it offers to others.)
Alexei Yaruk-Mundhenk
player, 34 posts
For the Emperor!
Fri 15 Jun 2012
at 15:19
  • msg #51

Re: Marriage Equality

Jesus: "Love thy neighbor as thy self."
Bigot: "But what if they are gay, or a different skin color, or dont worship like I do?"
Jesus: "Did I fucking stutter?"

That is my sucinct response to this whole argument.
katisara
GM, 5294 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Fri 15 Jun 2012
at 16:44
  • msg #52

Re: Marriage Equality

Kertook:
Yes, but Rosa could still get to work on the back of the bus,


It doesn't matter. The ability to mess with those critical services in one way implies an ability to regulate them.

quote:
Maybe not exactly because you value your own life, but you can request an honorable discharge because you value all life and develope a belief against war once you've signed up.


Did I say "all life"? I said "my life". Please don't intentionally rephrase my statement, then slam me for being wrong. My point stands (in addition to the other three).

And here's the big kicker, not only have you ignored my two major points (you're welcome to ignore the third one regarding public service), you've ignored my direct, pointed question;

If it was legal in your country to rape people, and someone comes into your store to say 'hey, I want to buy a length of rope to rape my child bride tonight', would you sell him the rope?

quote:
A major premise of your whole argument is that handling your "own property" is the most important right in the equation of you the shopkeeper vs. the lesbian shopper.


I have actually asked you the exact same question, which you have thus far refused to answer. What is the 'right' the lesbian holds here?

However, to answer your question, the right to personal property is a well-established human right. It's documented under the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, and the International Convenant on Civil and Political Rights. It is ingrained in every western democracy. It was established by John Locke, and hinted at in the Magna Carta. If you are denying that the shopkeeper has a right to property, then I would have to say that you are the one being dogmatic.

I think that the shopkeeper's rights here are pretty clear for everyone reading. The part that is in question is the lesbian woman's rights. What right of hers is at stake? I've asked, and the best I've gotten is some sort of nebulous group-right that her being denied service is "harm" to all of the general public (I imagine a crowd of other homosexuals were just waiting outside of the door for their turn, only to be turned away :P )




Not precisely. I'd tend to rule that a 'place to sleep' is probably a necessary service. I can still understand the inn-keeper's position, but when it comes to a bed over your head, I can definitely see the couple as having a real justification here.



re: Alexei -- and Jesus went on to say "don't commit sins of lust" as an instruction to me. So if I'm loving myself by not committing sins of lust, it makes sense that I love you by not helping you commit those sins either (or at least, not being a part of them).
RubySlippers
player, 23 posts
Sat 16 Jun 2012
at 03:03
  • msg #53

Re: Marriage Equality

I agree with private businesses they should not be forced to hire or serve anyone they don't wish to if ACME decides not to hire anyone but white protestant men fine by me, but in reverse customers don't have to give them business. I do however feel that the government must be neutral and accomodate the disabled, hire all sorts of people and can use their money to favor businesses who are diversity based.

The government should be the bully pulpit but mandating good behavior rarely works.

Take Cracker Barrel they discriminated against gays so I wrote them and told them they lost any hope for my business, and decided not to go there even though one is nearby. That is my right as a consumer. That is how one should promote good behavior in businesses make it hurt or help the bottom line.
Kertook
player, 14 posts
Spiritual Agnostic,
but not in a weird way
Sat 16 Jun 2012
at 05:05
  • msg #54

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 52):

[next time I will try the quote per the recent help in ooc--thanks]

kat ]: "I have actually asked you the exact same question, which you have thus far refused to answer. What is the 'right' the lesbian holds here?"

I am going to hit pause on my side of this debate, pending developements in the "dogma" thread, where I think the basic issue will come to a head and this discussion will become largely moot. I do intend to eventually answer that question over there because I think it fits perhaps even better.

In some ways it's like we are speaking two different languages and the messages are just being garbled.

When people who disagree are talking "past" each other, it helps to go back and stipulate what they do indeed agree upon or concede so they can focus on those areas where they do not and try and resolve, prove, or understand those areas where the disagreement actually lies.

So far, and it is out of lack of time mostly, I have assumed that we have more common ground to start our discussion upon than we actually do, and I do not have the time to write a doctoral thesis length piece to prove every point that I had thought we could agree upon. I can leave it open to come back to attempt that, if it  might make a difference, but I think in the end it will prove pointless.
katisara
GM, 5296 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sat 16 Jun 2012
at 19:29
  • msg #55

Re: Marriage Equality

That's fair, and I understand.
Revolutionary
player, 98 posts
Sat 29 Sep 2012
at 04:21
  • msg #56

Re: Marriage Equality

http://designisgood.blogspot.c...ith-another-boy.html

Pictures like this show me (a) we're winning and (b) there's no way "this is a sin"!
Revolutionary
player, 100 posts
Sat 29 Sep 2012
at 04:32
  • msg #57

Re: Marriage Equality

In case you feel like 6 is too young to know you're gay...

There's always 7 :) http://www.huffingtonpost.com/...m-gay_b_1277910.html
Revolutionary
player, 101 posts
Sat 29 Sep 2012
at 04:43
  • msg #58

Re: Marriage Equality

The Revolutionary is NOT responsibile for any drop in your IQ or sense of self respect for watching the following video.  It is a girl this time, evidently one I'm told has become "rather famous?"


Spoiler text: (Highlight or hover over the text to view)
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/27/honey-boo-boo-uncle-poodle-gay_n_1919874.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

katisara
GM, 5361 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sat 29 Sep 2012
at 12:42
  • msg #59

Re: Marriage Equality

Why do you assume children can't sin?
Revolutionary
player, 102 posts
Sat 29 Sep 2012
at 14:23
  • msg #60

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 59):

Well, I assume it since I don't believe there is any sin.

But, if you're asking me why do I think this is persuasive, it's because we're hardwired (barring things like sociopathy) to find the children of most mammal species to be adorable, worthy of protection and "love", etc.

So, I know there will be a cognitive dissonance.

Also, another win ...or at least half win?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/...eform_n_1924763.html

Sort of like when child abuse got a "win" by applying the animal abuse laws to kids at first.
katisara
GM, 5362 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sat 29 Sep 2012
at 16:00
  • msg #61

Re: Marriage Equality

Don't take this the wrong way, but I have to ask; do you have any kids of your own?
Doulos
player, 121 posts
Sat 29 Sep 2012
at 18:59
  • msg #62

Re: Marriage Equality

Not sure those article do anything for or against being gay.  My kids told me all sorts of strange things like that they want to marry their sister.  Based on the logic being used I should then assume that incest is also normal?

Again, I actually am someone who believes that being gay is likely a strong combination of both nature AND nurture, and a supporter of gay marriage.

I just think pointing to a few kids who say random things about sexuality is not the best way to try and find support for the position.
Revolutionary
player, 103 posts
Sat 29 Sep 2012
at 21:06
  • msg #63

Re: Marriage Equality

Doulos:
Not sure those article do anything for or against being gay.  My kids told me all sorts of strange things like that they want to marry their sister.  Based on the logic being used I should then assume that incest is also normal?


Yes...and no.

That's not the logic I'm applying.

And incest is normal.

That something is "normal" (a word we really should define frankly) doesn't mean it's good.  Or that it should be "encouraged" or that it's "healthful".

It's a funny thing.  I'm talking about WINNING in this case.  and you win more often on non-logical grounds.

Just as we've been hurt on non-logical grounds (perverted sinners)...

I'm saying -- stories and pictures like this are "win"... Not saying stories like this suggest that kids have any special access to truth (in fact, they tend to have special access to fiction).

quote:
Again, I actually am someone who believes that being gay is likely a strong combination of both nature AND nurture, and a supporter of gay marriage.


Terms that would benefit from definition.

And, I don't know if you think that includes wholly intra-utero stimuli as well.

Plus, there may well be different causes for similar outcomes.  Such as female homosexuality may be differently established or even have greater fluidity than male sexual orientation.

I've not really ever understood why the "why" matters?

quote:
I just think pointing to a few kids who say random things about sexuality is not the best way to try and find support for the position.


Ah and now we get to another issue.

Logical does not equal best.

And it's a great way to get support.  Have you not seen the anti-gay propaganda about the "children"?
Doulos
player, 122 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 00:48
  • msg #64

Re: Marriage Equality

I remember now that this is about being the winner for you first and foremost.  The us vs them is not my style and thus why I can't relate.

You are right though that if your goal is to simply try and convince the masses by any means possible then I suppose this helps you "win", even though from a logical standpoint it's pretty much pointless.
Revolutionary
player, 105 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 02:18
  • msg #65

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Doulos (msg # 64):

Perhaps you can relate to the fact that this is a matter of LIFE AND DEATH.
Doulos
player, 123 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 05:56
  • msg #66

Re: Marriage Equality

As long as the issue is handled as 'win as any cost' by both sides then both sides are complete losers in my books.
Revolutionary
player, 106 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 06:10
  • msg #67

Re: Marriage Equality

Good think you book isn't the "Book of life"

Because I'm writing the names in THAT BOOK.
katisara
GM, 5364 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 09:49
  • msg #68

Re: Marriage Equality

Revolutionary:
In reply to Doulos (msg # 64):

Perhaps you can relate to the fact that this is a matter of LIFE AND DEATH.


Why is this an issue of life and death? No one is debating if it's okay to kill homosexuals.
Revolutionary
player, 107 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 16:09
  • msg #69

Re: Marriage Equality

Perhaps you mean "no one here"?  Certainly, you know there are people calling for the death of my people?

Even so, if the people here not only are not "debating it" but actually agree it is NOT ethical to build a society that leads to the death of a group for not other reason than their group identity, then, all here would fully support full equality.

Inequality ---> death.
Trust in the Lord
player, 89 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 19:03
  • msg #70

Re: Marriage Equality

Inequality = death? Ouch.

I honestly can't imagine anyone here that would be convinced that's accurate. Convinced you view it strongly, yes, but the only people calling for death of any group are hate groups like Nazi's and KKK.

I have yet to see the same people helping out in the soup lines, the homeless shelters, and orphanages going over to the homosexual hang outs to kill them through inequality.

Inequality must be a very slow method of death.
hakootoko
player, 32 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 19:43
  • msg #71

Re: Marriage Equality

One can easily argue against equality without arguing for death.

For example, I think that those who are not American citizens do not deserve the right to vote in American elections, and many will agree with me. How many of those will agree that we should then kill all foreigners?
Doulos
player, 124 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 20:41
  • msg #72

Re: Marriage Equality

Christian fundamentalists who wish to kill gays exist, so it's not unheard of. However fighting the extremist edges with more extremism is exactly what is wrong with the world in my view.
Revolutionary
player, 108 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 20:46
  • msg #73

Re: Marriage Equality

Trust in the Lord:
Inequality = death? Ouch.

I honestly can't imagine anyone here that would be convinced that's accurate. Convinced you view it strongly, yes, but the only people calling for death of any group are hate groups like Nazi's and KKK.

I have yet to see the same people helping out in the soup lines, the homeless shelters, and orphanages going over to the homosexual hang outs to kill them through inequality.

Inequality must be a very slow method of death.


First you don't look around closely enough.

http://news.ninemsn.com.au/nat...ing-gay-cure-to-teen

http://www.avp.org/documents/N...t2011Finallowres.pdf (Highest number of gay violence leading to death ever in 2011)

http://www.towleroad.com/2012/...gan-study-finds.html

So yes, the death and be long...and unnecessary or short and tragically criminal.

But in either case, Systematic Inequality = Death.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abortion-related_violence
Revolutionary
player, 109 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 20:46
  • msg #74

Re: Marriage Equality

I would also point out the KKK are your people.  They're Xians.
hakootoko
player, 33 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 21:36
  • msg #75

Re: Marriage Equality

Revolutionary:
I would also point out the KKK are your people.  They're Xians.


They may be Christians, but they are not my people. Do you like it when people say Stalin is "your people"? If not, then don't insult people by lumping them together with people they don't agree with, just because they share one common trait.

And few, if any, KKK members live in the Chinese city of Xian, so they're not Xians.
This message was last edited by the player at 21:41, Sun 30 Sept 2012.
Revolutionary
player, 110 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 21:58
  • msg #76

Re: Marriage Equality

There are plenty of objectionable gays.  Stalin was not one of them to the best of my understanding.  For a detestable gay...let's go with J. E. Hoover of the FBI. And if somehow you mean "Atheists" ... That's not a club, it's a default.  You have to "join" xianity.  You don't "join" atheism.

You can join anti-theism, I suppose...  I'll ponder that.
Doulos
player, 125 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 22:27
  • msg #77

Re: Marriage Equality

Anyways, if the gay community is hoping to have people treat them with understanding and compassion, the treating the situation like it is a war is possibly the worst way to go about it.
Revolutionary
player, 111 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 22:32
  • msg #78

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Doulos (msg # 77):

Doulos, our queer community is a diverse one. "We" if I can speak of such a thing, use a diversity of tactics. All tactics are useful and some of the even less useful are often more necessary.

I'm not the "Welcoming Committee" ... :)  That's a role for another activist.
Doulos
player, 126 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 22:44
  • msg #79

Re: Marriage Equality

Well then for those within your community who choose to use those tactics they shouldn't be surprised when people treat them like garbage in response.
Revolutionary
player, 112 posts
Sun 30 Sep 2012
at 23:32
  • msg #80

Re: Marriage Equality

We're not surprised at the falseness of your claim to "higher selves" ... and the best part is, it double up for a hypocrisy charge. :)

AND, that's why we MUST and WILL win.

So that when the life sentences are issued out, they're issued to the Xian haters.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/...edlinkusaolp00000009

And maybe some of our own :/
This message was last edited by the player at 01:53, Mon 01 Oct 2012.
Doulos
player, 127 posts
Mon 1 Oct 2012
at 02:59
  • msg #81

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Revolutionary (msg # 80):

I am so confused. Honestly don't know how to take your comments here. Again probably a case  of two people who would converse better face to face.
Revolutionary
player, 113 posts
Mon 1 Oct 2012
at 03:49
  • msg #82

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Doulos (msg # 81):

Assuredly so :)
katisara
GM, 5365 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Mon 1 Oct 2012
at 13:13
  • msg #83

Re: Marriage Equality

1) As was said, KKK are not 'my people' any more than they're 'your people' (I assume here you're an American, yes? If not, you can choose your own local hate group). Saying otherwise is insulting me, and means it's now in my best interest to shut you down.

2) Homosexual marriage is a different issue from homosexual killing. Saying otherwise is a ludicrous simplification. If you'd like, I can argue that atheism or anti-theism needs to be banned, because anti-theists in China are actively suppressing and killing people of faith (Christians and others as well). Such positions stop any discussion cold because you end up defending massive, incorrect, and all-sweeping arguments.

3) Your news examples are a classic correlation = causation logical failure. Yes, people are being discriminated against, and yes, some other people in that same category are being killed. But the discrimination isn't causing the death.

4) Not all tactics are useful. If I go around poking people in the eyeball and shouting at them "JOIN A CHURCH", that is a pretty counter-productive tactic. Just because someone is doing 'something' doesn't mean they're being useful.

5) I personally am fine with homosexual marriage. IMO, it falls into the 'government shouldn't be interfering, except to prevent people from harming each other' philosophy. However, all of this talk of 'us vs. them', war and death threats is making me think I need to reconsider my support.
Doulos
player, 128 posts
Mon 1 Oct 2012
at 15:12
  • msg #84

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
5) I personally am fine with homosexual marriage. IMO, it falls into the 'government shouldn't be interfering, except to prevent people from harming each other' philosophy. However, all of this talk of 'us vs. them', war and death threats is making me think I need to reconsider my support.


I must reiterate this point as well.  Exactly the point I was trying to make, and I too am someone who supports gay marriage.
Tycho
GM, 3638 posts
Mon 1 Oct 2012
at 18:27
  • msg #85

Re: Marriage Equality

Doulos and Katisara have already voiced my opinion, so I'll try not to just repeat what they've said, but yeah, as someone who supports gay marriage, and who's argued in favor of it here on this site many, many times, I would say you're doing more harm than good by taking the approach you're using.  In order to "win," gay people will need to convince a large chunk of straight people that they (gay people) are not a threat, aren't too different, and just want to be treated like a normal part of society.  So far, they've made huge strides in that in the last few decades.  There's been a very rapid increase acceptance compared to other minority groups in the past.  What you're doing is telling everyone just the opposite, that you ARE in fact out to eliminate other people, and that you are willing to use the same tactics as the hate groups to get what you're after.  That's only going to drive people away from you.  And the gay community cannot 'win' in a democracy without support from straight people.  And in the US, the gay community cannot 'win' without support of a large number of christians.  Many christians are currently willing to say "I can be christian AND support gay rights."  If you send the message that they can't, they're not going to give up christianity.

There's plenty to be angry about out there in terms of anti-gay violence, etc.  But if you react with anger, you're harming your own cause, and helping the people who you're angry about.  It's not that your anger isn't justified, its that acting out of anger isn't effective, and is in fact usually counter-productive.
Revolutionary
player, 114 posts
Mon 1 Oct 2012
at 22:46
  • msg #86

Re: Marriage Equality

Interestingly, you bring up on of the real problems with the de-radicalization of the queer movement.

We used to be Here and Queer get used to us
Now we want to be just like you.

It's an problematic and unfortunate move.

IT doesn't challenge power and I don't support it.
Revolutionary
player, 116 posts
Tue 2 Oct 2012
at 01:16
  • msg #87

Re: Marriage Equality

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/...tm_hp_ref=gay-voices

Tee hee hee, to be 7 and wearing a "Likes Boys" shirt :)
Tycho
GM, 3640 posts
Tue 2 Oct 2012
at 06:53
  • msg #88

Re: Marriage Equality

Revolutionary:
Interestingly, you bring up on of the real problems with the de-radicalization of the queer movement.

We used to be Here and Queer get used to us
Now we want to be just like you.

I'd say it's more like Liza Simpson's reply to the pride parade back in an episode I saw years ago: "You're here every year, we ARE used to it!"

The "get used to it" part is the important bit.  Once mainstream society "gets used to it" that you're here and queer, you're not shocking anymore. You're viewed as just like everyone else.  It might be more exciting to be fighting the power, but the goal is to reach a point where you don't have to do it anymore.

And I would add, there's a BIG important difference between "we're here, we're queer, get used to it!" and "we're here, we're queer, and now you're going to have to give up your religion because some other people who aren't you are doing bad things with it."  One is demanding acceptance, the other is attacking another group for the actions of people who most people in the group already don't accept as part of the group.

Revolutionary:
It's an problematic and unfortunate move.

IT doesn't challenge power and I don't support it.

Depends on what your goal is, I suppose.  Do you want people to accept homosexuals, or do you want never get accepted so that you can always be fighting power?  Do you want to be viewed as a normal part of society, or just another fringe group that persecutes others?  Challenging power is necessary at times, but if it's a goal unto itself, you've lost focus in my opinion.  You talk a lot about 'winning', but its starting to sound like the important thing to you is the fighting.  But sometimes you need to fight less to win more.
This message was last edited by the GM at 07:17, Tue 02 Oct 2012.
Revolutionary
player, 118 posts
Tue 2 Oct 2012
at 14:23
  • msg #89

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Tycho (msg # 88):

You should give up your religion because it's false and dangerous.  Yes.

That one of the targets of religious abuse is gays is a compelling religion to divest of such succor. And, to combat the special protections that religion seems to get (Did you hear the President of the United States at the UN speaking about fake crimes like Blasphemy?)



Excellent question:  It's a mixed bag. If acceptance is conditional upon great "liking" (gays with babies, wedding rings, etc.) that's not my battle. If we're talking about things like...the removal of the ban on gays donating blood.  Yes, I would stop my assault on the Red Cross upon it's lifting that ban.  I organized more than a few events opposing the Red Cross.

By contrary example, when US Immigration stops deporting our gay lovers, I will stop fighting them on that front...but I'm more than just a cock-sucker...  I will continue to fight them until we have open boarders.
Tycho
GM, 3641 posts
Tue 2 Oct 2012
at 15:32
  • msg #90

Re: Marriage Equality

Revolutionary, I think you might want to take a step back and ask yourself if your 'fighting' in this manner is actually helping your cause.  Being right and being passionate isn't enough to 'win.'  You need to convince other people that you're right, and the approach you're taking isn't very good at that, I would suggest.

Put another way, I'm an atheist, and I'm pro-gay-marriage, and when you talk like this, my reaction is "Please shut up! you're not helping!"  If you put someone like me off, when I already agree with you on these issue, how on earth can you expect someone who doesn't agree with you to change their mind after hearing you?

Put yet another way, getting angry, and just shouting that the other side is evil is what the anti-gay crowd does, and it's a large part of why they're losing the debate.  You're acting like the 'bad guy', and it's not helping your cause.  I'm not saying this as someone who's against you, I'm saying this as someone who is on your side, pushing for the same things, but thinks you're making it less likely that we'll get them.

Revolutionary:
You should give up your religion because it's false and dangerous.  Yes.

That's a reasonable argument (if you back it up with evidence that it's false and dangerous, at least), but that's not the argument you were making.  You were saying "you should give up your religion because someone else's religion is false and dangerous."  If you want to tell the KKK that their religion is wrong, that's fine.  But if you want to tell someone who's not in the KKK that they're equivalent to the KKK because they're christian, you're doing the exact same thing as people who say "Oh, look at this gay-guy who raped a child!  All gays are evil!"  Treating small fringe groups like they're the whole of a group is wrong.  It's wrong to do it to gays, it's wrong to do it to christians, it's wrong to do it muslims, it's wrong to do it to any group.  Not only is it wrong, but it's also very counter productive when you're trying to convince those people to join your cause.  Like I said before, if you frame the gay-rights issue as "gay rights or religious rights, pick one" you're going to lose, because there are lot more religious people than gay people.  That's not the fight you should want, and its not the fight you need to have.

If you want to attack neo-nazi's and the KKK, everyone here will be on your side.  If you tell everyone here that they're neo-nazi's or in the KKK you'll turn them against you.  They agree with you that nazis and KKK members are bad people, do bad things, and that we should oppose what they want to do.  When you tell people that they're on the nazi side, when in reality they're every bit as anti-nazi as you are, you're not helping your cause.  When you say that kind of thing to people who agree with you on an issue you care about, you're only shooting yourself in the foot.

Revolutionary:
That one of the targets of religious abuse is gays is a compelling religion to divest of such succor. And, to combat the special protections that religion seems to get (Did you hear the President of the United States at the UN speaking about fake crimes like Blasphemy?)

You're generalizing again.  Remember, I'm an atheist.  I don't usually have to be the one defending religion here.  I'm usually the one arguing that this or that part of the bible isn't consistent with a good deity or or the like.  But now you've got me saying, "whoa, you're being a bit unfair to religious people here."

Yes, there are people who target gays for abuse because their religion tells them to do so.  That's bad.  I agree with you on that, and I think most people here would agree with you on that (actually, I imagine everyone would so long as we leave "abuse" undefined like that that).  But you also have to realize that there are also people who OPPOSE abuses of gays because their religion tells them they should.  If you lump both those people into the same group, you're alienating people who would otherwise be your allies, and people who's support you need to win.

You want to combat special protections of religion?  That's fine, I'm largely for that.  But don't attack people who go to church for what some other guy did on the other side of the country.  Blame the people who do stupid things, and leave the people who don't do stupid things out of it.  Go after the 'bad guys' all you want, and you'll get quite a bit of support.  But go after everyone who shares any trait with the 'bad guys' and you'll end up with a lot of opposition.

Some people like the flavor of cheese.  There have also been some mass murders who've liked cheese*.  It would be wrong to call everyone who likes cheese a mass murder.  It'd be wrong to ban cheese because some mass murders have liked it.  Even if they ate cheese while they were doing their mass murdering, we shouldn't punish other people for eating cheese who don't murder anyone.  Attacking people for being christian because some other, different people have done something stupid and been christian is just as silly.  Want to attack christianity for faults in its doctrines?  That's fine, go for it (though you'll have more luck if dial down the passion a bit, I'd suggest).  But "the KKK are christians, so christianity is wrong" isn't going to convince anyone, and it may drive off people who would otherwise be more willing to listen to your argument.

Revolutionary:
Excellent question:  It's a mixed bag. If acceptance is conditional upon great "liking" (gays with babies, wedding rings, etc.) that's not my battle.

Well, if you want acceptance, it is your battle.  You may not be getting married or adopting kids or whatever, but what you do (loudly in public, at least) influences whether gays will be accepted by society at large.  If you act like a radical trying to destroy people's lifestyles, you had better hope that they're more willing to view you as just one individual rather than a representative of all gays, than you are to view them as individuals rather than just members of a group.

Revolutionary:
If we're talking about things like...the removal of the ban on gays donating blood.  Yes, I would stop my assault on the Red Cross upon it's lifting that ban.  I organized more than a few events opposing the Red Cross.

If you organize events opposing the Red Cross, I really think you're picking the wrong fights.  The reason the Red Cross don't take blood donations from gay men is because of statistics, not homophobia or anti-gay sentiment.  And the way they're 'discriminating' against you is pretty harmless--you don't get to give them your blood, oh no, it's the end of the world!  In the future, when gay men aren't statistically more likely to carry certain blood-borne diseases, the Red Cross will allow them to donate.  If this is a fight you're picking, things can't be nearly as bad as you seem to feel they are.  This isn't up there with slavery, the poll tax, or a ban on gay-marriage.  This is a trifle.  I could see writing a letter or two, and asking your friends perhaps to do the same.  But organizing events to oppose a group who tries to get blood to people to save their lives?  It just seems like picking the wrong fight to me, and more likely to delay acceptance of gays than speed it up.  Pick your battles, mate.  If you can get worked up about something like not being able to donate blood, you're going to have a heart-attack at some point, because there's a whole lot of stuff in the world worth being a lot more upset about than this.  And worse yet, you're not going to be effective at addressing any of them.

Revolutionary:
By contrary example, when US Immigration stops deporting our gay lovers, I will stop fighting them on that front...but I'm more than just a cock-sucker...  I will continue to fight them until we have open boarders.

If that's your position on it, fair enough.  Just be able to realize when you've won, and accept it, rather than viewing the fight as a goal unto itself.

*I admit I've just assumed this is true without looking into it.
Revolutionary
player, 120 posts
Tue 2 Oct 2012
at 16:26
  • msg #91

Re: Marriage Equality

You're completely lacking information about the Red Cross.  There is no reason, statistical or otherwise to ban all gay men who have ever had gay sex over a period of time regardless of their health status.

Was there a time for a ban?  Yes, a prudent time.  It's continued ban supports an animus.

More to come on the rest of what you say

PS Yes, of course I support the argument re: religion is "untrue" and "dangerous" but I don't do it in every post ... would be monotonous.
katisara
GM, 5367 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 2 Oct 2012
at 16:51
  • msg #92

Re: Marriage Equality

Excellent post, Tycho.

I do get the sense that you enjoy the fight, and that's fine. But if you're going to fight in order to fight, I can't recommend enough that you hitch it up to a cause where its being alienated isn't going to hurt. I'm happy as a clam to fight for the fun of fighting on behalf of anarchism or capitalism or whatnot. People seeing me shouting that capitalists are pig-dogs isn't going to change whether anarchism is a valid approach in our country. But if I start shouting that non-believers are going to Hell, that makes life a lot more difficult for other Christians, and doesn't help anybody.
Heath
GM, 4975 posts
Affiliation: LDS
Occupation: Attorney
Tue 2 Oct 2012
at 23:24
  • msg #93

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
Put yet another way, getting angry, and just shouting that the other side is evil is what the anti-gay crowd does,


Say what???

Maybe you didn't live in California during Prop 8.  People were vandalizing pro-Prop 8 signs, churches, boycotting businesses, etc., labeling people as bigots and prejudiced.  I myself had to file a police report regarding the pro-gay marriage people vandalizing my house.  They looked up the records of those who donated and targeted them.

Sure, there are religious zealots and crazies just like you mention, but they are the minority.  They're just loud.

But likewise, the pro-gay people are hugely shouting about the evils of the pro-family values groups and engaging in destructive behavior.  I'd like to think that they are also the minority and that they are also just loud.

But let's be real here.  Both sides have their crazies shouting that the other side is evil.

The truth is that the ideas espoused by either of the "crazies" from either side are not accurate.  The truth is somewhere in the middle, the issues that are not discussed in news media looking for ratings.
Tycho
GM, 3643 posts
Wed 3 Oct 2012
at 06:47
  • msg #94

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Heath (msg # 93):

Perhaps put better than I did, but yeah, that's basically what I was trying to say.  Revolutionary doesn't like it when the other side acts that way, so he shouldn't be doing it himself.  For the pro-gay marriage people who feel that vandalizing things, or attacking people, I want to say "please stop, that's not helping!"

Only quibble I'd have with the way you put it is that you seemed to put boycotting a business on the same level as vandalizing a church.  I see the former as a legitimate reaction to a business spending money on a cause you disagree with (it's "if that's how you're going to spend the money I spend here, I'll take my money somewhere else" thing), while the latter is illegal, morally wrong, and completely counter productive.
Tycho
GM, 3645 posts
Wed 3 Oct 2012
at 07:42
  • msg #95

Re: Marriage Equality

Revolutionary:
You're completely lacking information about the Red Cross.

Quite possibly, but you telling me you've organized events against them doesn't give me that information.  If you want to change my mind about the red cross, the way to do it is to give me information, not just tell me they're bad people.  Besides, will life get better for gay people if you get rid of the red cross?  I'd argue no, it wouldn't.  But it would get worse for a lot of people who don't get blood that they need.

Revolutionary:
There is no reason, statistical or otherwise to ban all gay men who have ever had gay sex over a period of time regardless of their health status.

Was there a time for a ban?  Yes, a prudent time.  It's continued ban supports an animus.

Or perhaps just over cautiousness?  If you agree that a ban was prudent at one time, all you really disagree with them about is when to lift the ban.  That's a fairly minor quibble in the grand scheme of things.  In terms of oppression, it's about as minor as you're ever going to get.  Now, if there was a ban on gay men receiving donated blood, that'd be something to get upset about.  But attacking an organization that's saving lives because of a disagreement on the proper time to lift a ban that you both agree was prudent in the past doesn't seem likely to result in any major benefit to me.



Revolutionary:
PS Yes, of course I support the argument re: religion is "untrue" and "dangerous" but I don't do it in every post ... would be monotonous.

Oh, I know the monotony of repeating an argument you've made many times before as well as anyone.  But thing is, someone hearing you for the first time doesn't care how many times you've made the argument in the past.  We can't say "I don't feel like repeating the evidence, so you'll just have to trust me on this one."  If you want to change someone's mind, you have to start fresh every time.  Even with people you've given the argument to before, if it's in a new context, you'll usually have to repeat it again.  Yes, its monotonous and frustrating.  But as I said before, just being right isn't enough to get the job done.  You have to convince the other person you're right.  The 'battle ground' as it were, is in their brain.  Any information that's in your brain but not theirs doesn't help you change their mind at all.  Information that's in some other person's brain that you talked to yesterday also doesn't help at all.  In fact, making claims and not providing the evidence can actually be counter productive, if the person you're trying to convince already believes the opposite of what you're claiming, because it will make them doubt other things that you tell them.  Just saying "your religion is wrong and dangerous!" and then not telling them why is probably actually worse for your argument than not mentioning their religion at all, regardless of whether or not its true.  Put another way, making a claim that's going to offend someone is usually going to lower your chances of changing their mind, so if you're not ready to provide the evidence for the claim at the same time, you're better of not making the claim in the first place.  It's really hard to change someone's mind at the best of times, but if they're insulted and on the defensive its even harder.  There's a tendency for people in debates about things they care deeply about to think "why should I care if they're offended?  This issue is more important than their feelings!"  But if you want to change their mind, you have to consider their feelings.
Revolutionary
player, 122 posts
Wed 3 Oct 2012
at 16:45
  • msg #96

Re: Marriage Equality

I'm all for a diversity of tactics, including Black Bloc tactics.
katisara
GM, 5370 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 3 Oct 2012
at 17:05
  • msg #97

Re: Marriage Equality

I'm all for that too, but I recognize it doesn't win a lot of friends, so if your success depends on winning a vote, it's not a good tactic.

To be honest, I'm kind of getting a 'when all you've got is a hammer' vibe from you, which again, I find to be fun and hilarious, and the cause you're hurting is one I don't feel especially invested in, but just from a 'wtf?' standpoint, I feel I've got to comment.
Heath
GM, 4978 posts
Affiliation: LDS
Occupation: Attorney
Wed 3 Oct 2012
at 20:24
  • msg #98

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
In reply to Heath (msg # 93):

Only quibble I'd have with the way you put it is that you seemed to put boycotting a business on the same level as vandalizing a church.  I see the former as a legitimate reaction to a business spending money on a cause you disagree with (it's "if that's how you're going to spend the money I spend here, I'll take my money somewhere else" thing), while the latter is illegal, morally wrong, and completely counter productive.

I don't disagree with you.  I am not putting them on the same level.  I am just stating that the same tactics are used, tactics of varying degrees.

However, I do "quibble" with you to a small extent.  In many cases, what the pro-gay/anti-traditional family people did was to look up individuals who donated and then punish the businesses they owned or belonged to through boycotts or demonstrations, even though the business itself did not have a political stance.  It may be legal but is a poor political tactic because they are punishing a neutral business for a personal belief of its owner that is in no way connected to the business and which the business did not donate money to.

An example of this was Leatherby's during Prop 8.  A more recent example is all the hoopla related to Chick-Fil-A.  Its owner, a Christian, said something related to his personal beliefs, and the pro-gay people went nuts to boycott his business, even though his business had a neutral stance and did not donate any company funds to support his position.

Similar to your statement, Tycho, that situation backfired.  The pro-gay people made Chick-Fil-A a political symbol (not the pro-traditional family folks), and then the Pro-family people had a day where they all went to Chick-Fil-A to show solidarity against legalizing what they believe is an immoral union.
Heath
GM, 4979 posts
Affiliation: LDS
Occupation: Attorney
Wed 3 Oct 2012
at 20:28
  • msg #99

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Tycho (msg # 95):

That last paragraph you state there is essentially the pathos argument (in Greek rhetoric); you have to make people care if you are to convince them, else all the logic in the world will be wasted.
Doulos
player, 130 posts
Wed 3 Oct 2012
at 20:43
  • msg #100

Re: Marriage Equality

Not sure why you would want to support a business that is owned by someone who holds beliefs that are reprehesible to you though?  Why would someone who is gay want to see someone who is completely against who they are as individuals gain any more business than they already are.

I don't see how it's emotionally possible, or even necessary, to separate the owner from the business in this particular case.

If you are a business owner then you should realize that you represent that very business by your words and actions and be ready to suffer the repercussions of views you might express to the public.
Heath
GM, 4982 posts
Affiliation: LDS
Occupation: Attorney
Wed 3 Oct 2012
at 21:20
  • msg #101

Re: Marriage Equality

The law disagrees with you, as do I.  If the business itself is based on the political issue, then certainly.  For example, boycotting a porn store or a gay wedding chapel in Vegas would be acceptable ethically, but not boycotting a business that has nothing to do with the political point, does not contribute money to support the political point, and only happens to have an owner who shares that political point.

It's called freedom of expression and freedom of speech.  You have the legal right to boycott someone else's freedom of expression by boycotting something unrelated, but ethically it would be wrong.

Otherwise, what we turn into is a nation where all businesses are divided and judged based on political views of individuals in the business that are not expressed through the business.

You have pro-family people boycotting a business with a gay president because he practices in gay sex and believes society should reward gay sex by granting a license to people to encourage it.  Then you have pro-gay marriage people boycotting a restaurant owned by a Christian because they think it's somehow discriminatory to say that heterosexual intercourse and reproduction is not the same as homosexual intercourse and should not be promoted by society.

Neither of these boycotts, from a moral or ethical standpoint, should exist.  It may be reprehensible to you that gay people can't get married, but it is just as reprehensible to traditional family people for society to encourage gay sex.

Under your position, traditional family people are morally in the right to boycott a business owned by someone who simply favors gay marriage.  I say, "No way."  I don't care if the guy is gay or supports it.  If he has a good business, I'll give him my business.  If the guy supports traditional marriage in his personal life, likewise I'll give him my business.  I just don't care, and neither should anyone else.  Boycotting them based on their personal beliefs is discrimination.
Doulos
player, 132 posts
Wed 3 Oct 2012
at 21:31
  • msg #102

Re: Marriage Equality

Fine if you don't care.  I do.  If a guy is a jackass I also won't go to his business even if it's the cheapest place in town.  To each their own.

People who run businesses are responsible for what they say and the stances they make public because if they piss their consumers off (even for issues unrelated to the selling of widgets)  they will have less of them.

I completely and wholeheartedly disagree that it is unethical for me to boycott.  In fact, in my view, it is morally suspect to be a consumer at a place that is owned by someone who holds certain reprehensible views.
katisara
GM, 5371 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Thu 4 Oct 2012
at 10:30
  • msg #103

Re: Marriage Equality

I think you're both right, to a degree. If the owner of a sole proprietorship is acting in a way I disagree with, I think boycotting that sole proprietorship is fine (since the business basically is the person). If an actor supports causes I think are wrong, I boycott movies which feature that actor (since those movies are why he has a microphone). I'm not sure about how strong that connection is between a CEO or major stock-holder and her business though. And indeed, if a mid-level manager of a business supports something unethical, I just ignore it.
Tycho
GM, 3647 posts
Thu 4 Oct 2012
at 11:29
  • msg #104

Re: Marriage Equality

Heath:
However, I do "quibble" with you to a small extent.  In many cases, what the pro-gay/anti-traditional family people did was to look up individuals who donated and then punish the businesses they owned or belonged to through boycotts or demonstrations, even though the business itself did not have a political stance.  It may be legal but is a poor political tactic because they are punishing a neutral business for a personal belief of its owner that is in no way connected to the business and which the business did not donate money to.

Poor political tactic, quite possibly.  You seem to go further in a later post and call it "unethical" though, and I don't really see that.  I don't see how anyone has any ethical obligation to spend their money at any particular store, and thus it doesn't seem at all unethical for them to decide NOT to spend their money there.

And if someone is using the money you spend at that store to finance a political cause you disagree with, I don't see any problem with taking your business elsewhere, nor in encouraging others to do so.  As you say, it can be ineffective, or even counter productive, but that's very different from saying it's unethical, in my view.
Revolutionary
player, 137 posts
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 01:27
  • msg #105

Re: Marriage Equality

I was giving some extra thought to the "tactics" and "conversion" and "building coalitions" and all that good stuff.

Interesting, I would be along with many of you to say some of these same things on say issues like environmentalism mostly.

But what I realize is that while I do support revolutionary politics with regards to race issues and class issues as well, the reason for me on the matter of queer politics is that queer politics has the best chance to advance secularism at it's core compared to say civil rights work for people of colour.

In fact, the civil rights movement for people of colour has often been coopted by religious groups and thought.

Now, I think some of this is because it's easy to see and agree as a religious person that Moses said:  Let my peeps go.

but it's much harder to see or agree that either say David and Jonathan or Jesus and the disciple he loved may be gay ...or... even something less controversial, that Sodom and Gomora has nothing to do with being queer.

This gives the radic-queer movement even more importance and value both socially and to me. It's also why I'm cautious about "building bridges and coalitions"

And I'm the same with within the "community".  I totally get into the faces of the MCC peeps and the like because I believe it's very dangerous to all culture and society.  Queers may be the best path to have my version of the Moses I'd like.  "People, Let GO of g-d"
katisara
GM, 5388 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 10:53
  • msg #106

Re: Marriage Equality

That's very insightful, and makes a lot of sense.

Of course, it also makes the position more oppositional. To a degree, I have to ask, which cause is more important to you? I don't know that the agenda of equal privilege for homosexuals benefits from that of increasing secularism.
Revolutionary
player, 142 posts
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 14:12
  • msg #107

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
That's very insightful, and makes a lot of sense.

Of course, it also makes the position more oppositional. To a degree, I have to ask, which cause is more important to you? I don't know that the agenda of equal privilege for homosexuals benefits from that of increasing secularism.


That's a fascinating lack of knowledge.

While I suppose there are some "faith" positions that could be thought of as pro-gay. And, at the same time, they tend not to be highly organized or modern. That is, if we think of paganism in some forms as pro-gay ...by virtue of not being 'anti-gay' at a minimum and having 'gay-behaving' g-d/dess(es) then I think we ignore modern sensibilities of sexual orientation.

For example, there is no real coherent argument again gay marriage / gay adoption that isn't religious (the big three mostly) and I'm not saying the religious ones are coherent mind you.

Attempts to say it's about "precreation" fall to pieces under issues of no investigation of intention at time of marriage for str8s, no prohibition against the marriage of those who cannot, and that any attempts to fix that with matters of privacy, also there can be a same-gender couple who comprise of a pre-op, perhapse even pre-hormone treatment transgender partner.

That is, a couple biologically able to be procreate, but legally same sex, and the medical history is also a matter of privacy.

Frankly, it is precisely because of privacy, that gender shouldn't be an issue at all...

So all that's left is "I find it disgusting" and that's either homophobia pure and simple *but even here more likely the other* religious bigotry.
Revolutionary
player, 143 posts
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 14:14
  • msg #108

Re: Marriage Equality

As to your last question, I suppose I find greater collective benefit to greater secularism.  And greater personal benefit to greater civil rights protection.

What will require thought is ... do the privileged actually get so little additional benefit from greater secularism, that the civil rights victories are in a way net more important, I will have to think on that.  I'm not even sure it's knowable.

All that said, I still think, for example the unfettered science is worth having even if there's still protected homophobia.
katisara
GM, 5393 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 15:12
  • msg #109

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Revolutionary (msg # 107):

My point is that, as well as being religious, believing in God, etc., I feel comfortable letting homosexuals do what they want. My focus isn't on forcing behavior, but on winning souls (and not really that either, honestly). For even the most fundamentalist Christian, taking a person and trapping him so he can never commit a sin doesn't win a thing. Instead, the person needs to voluntarily choose and embrace the Christian lifestyle. If you don't choose the lifestyle, legislating what you DO do doesn't really help (with limits, of course), and if you DO choose it, the same applies. So I have no motivation to vote against things like homosexual marriage or whatnot. No skin off my nose!

Similarly so if your point is that not everyone should have to go to church or take Sunday off, if that's your goal with secularism. And I support that stance (or at least, am okay with it.)

And you're going a step beyond that. I would argue you are not just pro-secularism; you are anti-religion. You've shown this several times. It's ingrained in your terminology. And the truth is, I'm okay with that too. If my religion is too weak to stand up against some guy on the Internet, it probably wasn't well-founded to begin with.

Here's the problem though; if you come off as anti-religion, I probably won't like you. You have made it your goal to attack and tear down what I believe is valuable. It doesn't matter why. You've put us in competition. From what I've seen of you, I feel quite confident that any success you make is at a cost to me. Ergo, I DO NOT WANT you to win. I specifically want you to lose, and I am motivated to destroy ANYTHING you set up, just out of self-defense. You aren't asking to put up your temple next to mine; you're trying to bulldoze mine. So anything I do back is just self-defense.

And then you hooked it up to something which is only tangentally related; more priviliges for homosexuals.

You're like an attack jet with your toddler strapped in the co-pilot seat.
This message was last edited by the GM at 15:14, Tue 09 Oct 2012.
Revolutionary
player, 146 posts
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 17:32
  • msg #110

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
You're like an attack jet with your toddler strapped in the co-pilot seat.


Ha!  I love it.  :)  Such a delicious metaphor.
Revolutionary
player, 147 posts
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 19:12
  • msg #111

Re: Marriage Equality

http://raisingmyrainbow.com/20...st-ruined-my-family/

Interesting story.  Is it okay to "explain the Bible" to someone's child?

Does it matter how you view it?  That is, is it okay for a believer but not say ...me? :)
katisara
GM, 5394 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 19:46
  • msg #112

Re: Marriage Equality

Before I can go any further, I have to get this off my chest;

1) Chik-fil-a doesn't discriminate against homosexual customers. Chik-fil-a does not have a policy against homosexual customers. The Chik-fil-a CEO, as an individual, spoke out against homosexuality, which is his right, but I've never seen any indication that he's made his beliefs any sort of policy of the business that he owns (which, considering the business is so heavily based on the 'be a good Christian' ethic, is showing some restraint). So this lady is off-base.

2) Implying that someone else's religion is about fear and shame is just playing dirty, especially in that format, where the individual doesn't have an opportunity to respond.



Now, with that said ...

I don't think it's appropriate for an adult to do anything to a child without the parent's consent (the grey-area being extended family of the child). While I think it's okay for me to answer questions about myself asked of a child, I can't be telling this child what to believe (unless I know the parent would agree), and I can't be undermining his parents. That's basically a given.

I am quite comfortable with people talking to my kids about their religious beliefs without my being present. In fact, I'd encourage my kids to get involved in those sorts of conversations (as long as it comes back around to me and I have a chance to help provide a balanced view). Part of being a responsible parent is teaching our kids to be able to think and interpret other points of view. I'd be doing my children no favors by sheltering them from that.
hakootoko
player, 39 posts
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 21:47
  • msg #113

Re: Marriage Equality

One of my coworkers came into my office a few months ago to mention how he and his wife (his wife more so) were aghast that their daughter came home from preschool talking about Jesus. He knows I'm a Christian, but wasn't trying to start an fight; we talk about religion & politics at times.

My response was "You deliberately entered your daughter in that Christian preschool, after finding it was close to home and well-rated. You knew they were Christian and were going to teach your child about God and Jesus. Seems to me that counts as consent. Maybe you'll have to rethink your choices next year if you're not happy with them."

She started at another preschool this fall.

(Edit: there is now a Chick-Fil-A ad showing at the bottom of that article. Gotta love context advertising!)
This message was last edited by the player at 21:50, Tue 09 Oct 2012.
Revolutionary
player, 148 posts
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 22:24
  • msg #114

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 112):

Dude when you say the "lady is off base" ...I report to you, she's explaining the situation to a 6 and 9 year old.  We don't get out the Kama Sutra when a 5 year old asks, "Where do babies come from?"  ...

...I say, "The hospital most of the time" and he or she goes "Oh!"  And heads off.

Second, I am aware of Chick-full-o-hate.

Here's one link I found quickly for you:  http://www.salon.com/2012/09/2..._for_people_to_hate/

And you don't get "brownie points" for being a partial bigot.

#2) it's not playing dirty, it's her blog.  She didn't put out the person's name.  Didn't identify which Bible they used, etc. etc.  So there has been no "dirt" objectively.
Revolutionary
player, 149 posts
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 22:25
  • msg #115

Re: Marriage Equality

Hakootoko,

I think you were spot on.

I'm probably the most "anti-theist" person in this sub-community.  And I have no disagreement with your take and advice.

And, maybe I should go click on that ad and get her a payday at their expense.

Yes, contextual advertising is fun.
Sciencemile
GM, 1662 posts
Opinion is the default
for most everything I say
Tue 9 Oct 2012
at 22:29
  • msg #116

Re: Marriage Equality

A couple reasons why what the CEO of Chick filet has to say about anything other than their products doesn't matter to me:

1. Generally Stockholders don't vote for company board members on the basis of ideaology, but if they feel that the CEO doesn't represent their best interests by popping off his mouth, there are ways to get him off the Board.

2. I'd never even heard of Chick Filet before this, so it all just seems to reek of a shameless marketing ploy that people make more successful every time they mention it.
katisara
GM, 5397 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 10 Oct 2012
at 00:35
  • msg #117

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Revolutionary (msg # 114):

1) Her blog is not intended for her 9-year-old to read. It's intended for adults to read. So your argument doesn't carry water.

2) If it's posted on the Internet, it's a post to the world. If I posted on my "private blog" that people link other people to so hundreds (or thousands?) of people read it, and complain that there's this guy on this forum who is X, Y, Z, that's still being insulting to you, whether I share your name or not.
PushBarToOpen
player, 14 posts
Wed 10 Oct 2012
at 17:48
  • msg #118

Re: Marriage Equality

Not having Childeren I can't Comment on How people raise them and outside interferance from any real perspective or personal attachment. And i know that this may Sound a little Controversal and Biggoted But I'm going to put it out there.

Isn't Teaching a 5 year old about Homosexuality wrong in the first place.

Try to understand where i'm coming from. Why does a 5 year old need to know these things. When you are thst young why does such a sensitieve issue need to be taught when the child will likley not be able to cope with all of the issues. Teaching a Child Things in Black and White either way is wrong. Saying that someone is a bad man because they don't like gays is Wrong too.

In My opnion teaching a young child anything about Sexuality isn't nessicary until they start to reach "That" age. and its a topic that is inappropriate for young children. Now if your child shows Homophobic behaviour then you would repremand them but that is all, until they are at an age to understand it propperally and have complex thoughts and opinions.

5 is not that age.

On a similar Vein Teaching a child about religion or Athiesm e.t.c at a young age could be akin to brainwashing so if preferable leave them out until they an make their own minds up. However this one may not be possible but it still shouldn;t be handeled as a black and white subject.

But like i said I don;t have kids and have never raised any so the practicalities of life may interefre in a way i can't imagine.
Revolutionary
player, 150 posts
Wed 10 Oct 2012
at 21:12
  • msg #119

Re: Marriage Equality

PushBarToOpen:
Isn't Teaching a 5 year old about Homosexuality wrong in the first place.


Um, no... I'm not even sure why you'd think it's wrong.

Second, it isn't the "case" in the article.

The only thing I can assume is you're making the false equivalence of gay = fucking.

If you don't think we teach "children" even younger than 5 about "heterosexuality" you're just not paying attention.  It's also a part of heteronormativity and heterosexual privilege.

Also, remember, this 5yo has a happily same gendered gay uncle.  So, again, not realizing how natural and normal the topic is speaks to the limited exposure you have to gay people.

quote:
Why does a 5 year old need to know these things.


Because he's inquisitive and will ask about his uncle.  And homosexuality is normal?  there's nothing "shameful" about knowing that just like mommy and daddy love each other, sometimes it's two mommies, or two daddies?


Why does that even seem, "hard to say?"


quote:
When you are thst young why does such a sensitieve issue need to be taught when the child will likley not be able to cope with all of the issues. Teaching a Child Things in Black and White either way is wrong. Saying that someone is a bad man because they don't like gays is Wrong too.


Of course it's not bad to teach children ethical stances.  That it's not okay to reject someone for who they are.  Do you think it's "wrong" to teach a child about racism?

Additionally, you don't give kids nearly enough credit.  There's no "rule" in life that says to learn about something you must learn everything about. OR that to talk about an aspect of something means we must talk about every thing about it.

YOu know, some children's parent's die.  So you have to talk about death with them.  They won't, age related here, be able to "cope" with all the issues.  But as they can cope you talk.

quote:
In My opnion teaching a young child anything about Sexuality isn't nessicary until they start to reach "That" age. and its a topic that is inappropriate for young children.


You're confusing "teaching" sexuality (as if giving a child his/her) with teaching about people...who HAVE a public sexuality.

Also, there is plenty of even sex and human sexuality education to take place through the ages, it doesn't start with "the talk"... LOL
PushBarToOpen
player, 15 posts
Wed 10 Oct 2012
at 22:48
  • msg #120

Re: Marriage Equality

I think i didn;t make may statment clear enough.

What i'm trying to say is that you can easily say to a child don't make fun of that or that thing over there is normal and ok. But saying that man doesn;t believe the same as us so we must shun him isn't. You can;t deal with homosexualty without having to adress the fact that some people don;t agree with it. Saying that those people are bad people purely from that one belief is wrong, and teaching a to judge people on one thing is also wrong.

Until a child can grasp the concept of grey areas they shouldn't be learning about the topic. The Childeren i come into contact with are much older and on average it seems to be around the age of puberty before they can actually handle simple instructions and think for themselves. Thus this is the sort of age you can actually teach them things. It is why i work with that age group any younger and they can't handle alot of concepts.

To go into detail abit further





quote:
The only thing I can assume is you're making the false equivalence of gay = fucking


No see Above! Its simply a matter of Gender Politics shouldn't be forced on a child.

quote:
Because he's inquisitive and will ask about his uncle.  And homosexuality is normal?  there's nothing "shameful" about knowing that just like mommy and daddy love each other, sometimes it's two mommies, or two daddies?


If they thought it was normal then why would they be asking. Any thing about why do people hate them would be better handled by thery are a bully rather than exposing a child to a situation out of their comprehension.

quote:
Of course it's not bad to teach children ethical stances.  That it's not okay to reject someone for who they are.  Do you think it's "wrong" to teach a child about racism?


Actually yes i do! They should be taught how bad it is to pick on others as a whole, no matter what the reason for it is. Not isolating a community in their minds giving them both a new reason to pick on someone and pointing out how different they are. Making racist bullying worse than regular bullying to a child means they have a new buzz thing to play with.

quote:
YOu know, some children's parent's die.  So you have to talk about death with them.  They won't, age related here, be able to "cope" with all the issues.  But as they can cope you talk.


Every rule needs wiggle room, here are no hard and fast rules for life in such a situation you would have to approach a dificult topic, but i would have to be done in such a way that they understand what has happened and what will happen
Revolutionary
player, 160 posts
Sat 13 Oct 2012
at 03:36
  • msg #121

Re: Marriage Equality

hakootoko
player, 41 posts
Sat 13 Oct 2012
at 13:07
  • msg #122

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho
GM, 3689 posts
Tue 11 Dec 2012
at 08:27
  • msg #123

Re: Marriage Equality

This article seemed like it might generate some discussion here.  It's about the evolving LDS position on homosexuality, and suggests one route the church might take to accepting gay marriage.

The long and short of it is that the church now seems to recognize homosexuality as natural, and is no longer pushing people to 'try to be straight' or marry someone of the opposite sex.  Instead the LDS church is saying that if you just resist your urges in this life, you'll come back straight in the afterlife, and will be able to find an opposite-sex partner there (this seems to me to contradict some previous teachings of the LDS church to me, but that's what prophets are for, I guess).

The article then points out that the LDS church already accepts the concept of "civil marriages" that end when one party dies (as opposed to temple marriages which carry on in the afterlife).  Thus, the author says, it's only a small logical step for the church to allow gay civil marriages in this life, before they get their straight temple marriages in the next life.

Will it happen?  Sounds a bit odd to me, and I'm guessing Mormons will say today "No way, not going to happen!"  On the other hand, the 'new' church position on homosexuality also sounds odd to me, and I'm sure 20 years ago Mormons would have said the church accepting openly gay members wouldn't happen either.  With public opinion on gay marriage changing as quickly as they are, I would guess that the LDS church will eventually change as well.  Not sure if the route proposed by the author will be the way they'll do it, or if some future prophet will just say "God told me it's okay now," and be done with it, though.
Doulos
player, 214 posts
Tue 11 Dec 2012
at 13:39
  • msg #124

Re: Marriage Equality

I read about the new LDS website at all and I am not surprised.  The very structure of the LDS church allows for any change whatsoever to happen, be it doctrine or otherwise, and so public pressure if always going to play a part in shaping LDS theology in the long run.
katisara
GM, 5463 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 26 Jun 2013
at 14:13
  • msg #125

Re: Marriage Equality

So I'm guessing people have heard, but the Supereme Court has said the Defense of Marriage Act is unconstitutional.

Proposition 9 is coming up for a review soon as well, which I think will prove to be more pivotal than DOMA.
Heath
GM, 5037 posts
Wed 26 Jun 2013
at 19:27
  • msg #126

Re: Marriage Equality

I haven't read the holdings yet on Prop 8 or DOMA, but from what I've read, the basic holding comes down the line of Federalism -- i.e., marriage is something that is handled by the states and should not be interfered with by the federal government.

The basic principle of the "union" of the U.S. is that the states are sovereign except to the extent they have ceded their sovereignty to the federal government to be part of the United States, such as abiding by the Constitution and federal statutes that are derived from the constitution.  Marriage (as well as a number of other issues, including most criminal acts) are traditionally reserved to the states, and the U.S. government cannot intrude on those rights (since it was never ceded those rights by the States).

So with DOMA, the Supreme Court is saying the federal government exceeded its authority by intruding on rights that belong with the states (i.e., marriage), and is unconstitutional because President Clinton and Congress never had the constitutional authority to enact it to begin with.

With Prop 8, same thing.  It will not interfere with the state's determination, and individuals cannot challenge the findings of the California courts that affect all citizens (i.e., they lack standing).  So it's basically the same as refusing to hear the case at all.  Instead, the California Attorney General should have brought the suit on behalf of its citizens (a majority of whom voted for Prop 8), but since the attorney general refused to enforce the constitutional amendment voted in by the majority of its citizens, the supreme court could not intervene (or allow individuals to sue).

It is an interesting split, with a 5-4 decision.  Conservative Justice Kennedy (who has supported gay rights in his rulings) was the swing vote for the liberal justices.  So ultimately, yeah, it comes down to politics...
Heath
GM, 5038 posts
Tue 9 Jul 2013
at 20:22
  • msg #127

Re: Marriage Equality

What I find troubling about this whole procedure in the courts is that essentially one man determines the outcome that will affect the entire country.

The supreme court is made of up 9 members.  These holdings were made on a 5 to 4 basis, meaning that five justices went one way and four went the other way on the issues.  This means that one judge (Justice Kennedy in this case) made the decision that overruled the will of the majority vote in California (and legitimacy of DOMA).

Justice Scalia's scathing rebuke of the majority decision (authored by Kennedy) says it all:

Justice Scalia:
"That is jaw-dropping. It is an assertion of judicial supremacy over the people’s Representatives in Congress and the Executive. It envisions a Supreme Court standing (or rather enthroned) at the apex of government, empowered to decide all constitutional questions, always and everywhere “primary” in its role."
...
"There is, in the words of Marbury, no “necessity [to] expound and interpret” the law in this case; just a desire to place this Court at the center of the Nation’s life."
...
"Placing the Constitution’s entirely anticipated political arm wrestling into permanent judicial receivership does not do the system a favor."
...
"My guess is that the majority, while reluctant to suggest that defining the meaning of “marriage” in federal statutes is unsupported by any of the Federal Government’s enumerated powers, nonetheless needs some rhetorical basis to support its pretense that today’s prohibition of laws excluding same-sex marriage is confined to the Federal Government (leaving the second, state-law shoe to be dropped later, maybe next Term)."
...
"To be sure (as the majority points out), the legislation is called the Defense of Marriage Act. But to defend traditional marriage is not to condemn, demean, or humiliate those who would prefer other arrangements, any more than to defend the Constitution of the United States is to condemn, demean, or humiliate other constitutions."
...
"In the majority’s telling, this story is black-and-white: Hate your neighbor or come along with us. The truth is more complicated. It is hard to admit that one’s political opponents are not monsters, especially in a struggle like this one, and the challenge in the end proves more than today’s Court can handle. Too bad. A reminder that disagreement over something so fundamental as marriage can still be politically legitimate would have been a fit task for what in earlier times was called the judicial temperament. We might have covered ourselves with honor today, by promising all sides of this debate that it was theirs to settle and that we would respect their resolution. We might have let the People decide."
...
"Some will rejoice in today’s decision, and some will despair at it; that is the nature of a controversy that matters so much to so many. But the Court has cheated both sides, robbing the winners of an honest victory, and the losers of the peace that comes from a fair defeat. We owed both of them better."

Doulos
player, 246 posts
Wed 10 Jul 2013
at 04:45
  • msg #128

Re: Marriage Equality

Well, truthfully it was 5 individuals, not just one.  And the system is the one that the people of the United States have agreed to, so the will of the people is being done here.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 612 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Wed 10 Jul 2013
at 04:55
  • msg #129

Re: Marriage Equality

Please, it's not as if the SCOTUS hasn't projected itself as the Final Word on Everything since they put Bush Jr. into office in 2000.  Scalia gladly and gleefully supported this kind of power play back then.
katisara
GM, 5465 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 10 Jul 2013
at 14:08
  • msg #130

Re: Marriage Equality

The supreme court has exerted that kind of power since well before Bush. There are of course ways to limit the court's power, but those measures are rarely even considered, which would seem to imply to me that it really isn't that much of a priority for the states or the general population (or, if you're more cynical, it's only an issue when the court vote goes against what we want, but we can't work to limit the court because sometimes they vote our way too).
Heath
GM, 5039 posts
Thu 18 Jul 2013
at 20:29
  • msg #131

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Doulos (msg # 128):

No, it was one individual.  Only one vote swung the decision, not 5.  For example, had Justice Kennedy voted in his normal conservative manner, DOMA would be constitutional.  But he has been an LGBT supporter (for a conservative) for many years, so his swing vote was not unexpected.  The other 8 (4 conservatives and 4 liberals) voted exactly along their partisan lines.

What troubles me with SCOTUS at times is not its normal decisions about statutes, but instead when it tackles constitutional questions.  In other words, if something is a "fundamental" right, then they can overturn laws lawfully made by our elected representatives.  This means that there is no way...ever...to pass a law that the Supreme Court disagrees with, if they can justify overturning it on these grounds.  Which to me goes beyond "interpreting the law" as the judicial body is supposed to do, and instead into creating laws and then calling them "fundamental" or "inalienable" rights.
Doulos
player, 247 posts
Fri 19 Jul 2013
at 22:09
  • msg #132

Re: Marriage Equality

Heath:
In reply to Doulos (msg # 128):

No, it was one individual.  Only one vote swung the decision, not 5.  For example, had Justice Kennedy voted in his normal conservative manner, DOMA would be constitutional.  But he has been an LGBT supporter (for a conservative) for many years, so his swing vote was not unexpected.  The other 8 (4 conservatives and 4 liberals) voted exactly along their partisan lines.

What troubles me with SCOTUS at times is not its normal decisions about statutes, but instead when it tackles constitutional questions.  In other words, if something is a "fundamental" right, then they can overturn laws lawfully made by our elected representatives.  This means that there is no way...ever...to pass a law that the Supreme Court disagrees with, if they can justify overturning it on these grounds.  Which to me goes beyond "interpreting the law" as the judicial body is supposed to do, and instead into creating laws and then calling them "fundamental" or "inalienable" rights.



There were 8 others who could have voted any which way possible as well.  The very idea that they should be voting along partisan lines is so utterly messed up.

9 individuals had 9 votes, no matter how you want to frame those 9 votes.
Heath
GM, 5040 posts
Fri 19 Jul 2013
at 22:34
  • msg #133

Re: Marriage Equality

That's not really my point.  I suppose you could use the same argument about any election.  And when I say "expected," I mean in the term as in "predicted."  You would hope that they would follow the law, but some "issues" are political in nature, and thus they often get split decisions along partisan lines.  (This alone, and I'm sure you'll agree, is a reason that these types of political issues should be settled by the people and the legislature, not the judges; I felt similar unease at the Bush/Gore decision.)

For those of us who are lawyers and follow the supreme court closely, we all knew pretty much what 8 of the judges would do before they ruled; the only one who was unpredictable was Justice Kennedy.  (I even reiterated to my wife on the eve of the decision what I expected the outcome to be, and I was about 98% right, including about the standing issue and the federalism issue.)

So my point is that the actual decision was split.  Therefore, 4 judges went one way, and 4 went the other way.  This means the "tie," if you will, was broken by a single person.  In other words, had a single judge in the majority decision gone another way, we would have the opposite result.  Therefore, it was decided by a single person.  (The same thing happened with the Obamacare decision, but it was Justice Roberts who was the unpredictable vote in that one.)

Let me put it another way, four voting one way and four voting another way cancel each other out (just like a math problem).  That leaves one person left to decide which way to go and make the final determination.
Doulos
player, 248 posts
Fri 19 Jul 2013
at 22:49
  • msg #134

Re: Marriage Equality

I guess I don't understand how it helps to minimize the role of the other 8 in a situation where all 9 had a role to play.  The fact that we as people 'expect' votes to go certain ways is nothing but a sad commentary on the whole process in my opinion.
Vexen
player, 1 post
Sat 20 Jul 2013
at 00:07
  • msg #135

Re: Marriage Equality

I somewhat agree, although I suppose I'm not as cynical about it (weird, right?). I find it difficult to argue against the idea that nine people decided this case, not one. If most of them decide in a predictable manner, how does that invalidate it? I'd go so far as to say that politics shouldn't be treated as a dirty word here. If these Justicies happen to interpret the Constitution in a manner that is consistently "liberal" or "conservative", how does that make their decision any less valuable or important? It's how they interpret the document and precident, is it not? Absolute unbiased opinions are perhaps ideal, but realistically likely unobtainable in a body of nine.

I don't have as much of an issue with the Supreme Court having...well, supreme authority, when it comes to deciding law that is or isn't Constitutional. The framers of the Constituion designed it to be so, so they may be a safeguard against a potentially oppressive majority public opinion. Would you really prefer it if the majority of political influence could reliablely invalidate the Supreme Court to enact it's will?

It is not as if the Supreme Court can simply knock off laws as they are made. They need a case to come before them first, with a side claiming the enacted law violates the Constitution. There are plenty of law (both on the state level and federal) that this court would probably rule as Unconstitutional rather decisively (there's one state that recently made a law that would make it a crime to enforce the Affordable Care Act, for example, which clearly violates the supremacy clause on it's face, for instance). However, until someone challenges the law, and it manages to reach them, they can't just pre-emptively strike it down. So, to the contrary, I'd argue laws get passed that they don't like quite often.
Doulos
player, 249 posts
Sat 20 Jul 2013
at 00:37
  • msg #136

Re: Marriage Equality

Great first post here!

You've made an excellent point.  I suppose it's fair that we can predict how people will vote because they have liberal/conservative views historically, and I suppose I also don't have a problem with it as long as those views are held because of belief/understanding of the law and not due to a need to hold to a pre-decided political view.

Separating the two is difficult as well I admit.
Heath
GM, 5041 posts
Tue 23 Jul 2013
at 19:36
  • msg #137

Re: Marriage Equality

Vexen, if what you said was true, it would make sense, but it is not accurate in the American paradigm.

First, 9 people did not make the decision no matter how you look at it.  5 justices made the decision that the people's vote and the legislative statute did not matter, and 4 justices said that it does matter and that it is dangerous precedent.  So if you want to say 5 justices made the decision to overrule the majority of voters and to invalidate a Congressional statute, that's fine; but we must balance that with saying that 4 justices made the opposite decision.  So if only one justice went the other way, the outcome would be the opposite and the people's democracy and elected representatives would not have been shot down by a judicial body of 5 justices.

Second, yes, the Supreme Court can knock off laws.  Any time a politically unpopular law is made (or later found to be unpopular), people will cry out that it violates the 14th Amendment (due process or equal protection).  Because the 14th Amendment is so broad, it gives very broad power to the justices to knock down laws they don't personally agree with.

Third, is there precedent?  There are precedents supporting both the decision of the 5 in the majority and the 4 in the minority.  So precedent is not the issue.  If there were solid precedent, they would not take the case (what we call denying certiorari).  So they create the precedent, which often turns on their personal bias and then determining if they can overrule the law (or vote, in this case) with wordsmithing the 14th Amendment or other amendment (in this case, "standing" was also used).

Fourth, the Supremacy Clause is misunderstood by many.  The States are sovereign (like countries) except to the extent they have sacrificed their sovereignty to be part of the United States.  This is what we call "Federalism."  When state laws conflict with federal laws under the Supremacy Clause, we have "preemption."  But all of this only applies if Congress is acting under its duly given powers granted it by the states.  So the states can pass a law and say that Congress exceeded its authority given to it by that state, and the courts will determine if there is, in fact, preemption, or whether the federal government exceeded its authority (since the state law is supreme otherwise).  (In other words, there is no "on its face" Supremacy violation if it is tempered with the claim that Congress exceeded its authority; state laws are presumed valid.)

In fact, this last point was part of the finding in the current DOMA case we are discussing.  The court found that the definition of marriage is something reserved to the states, so DOMA cannot define "marriage."  Rather, the states will define it.  (I agree with the minority of justices that any federal statute when passed should have the right to define its terms, for both the sense of consistency, reliability, and funding, but the other 5 justices believe that the 14th Amendment could be infringed otherwise.)

And while it's nice to sit here and think the justices act only within the "law" and always make the right decisions, the truth is that there is enough give and take in the law for them to fashion decisions after their personal beliefs in many cases, including this one.  Cases only go to court in the first place if there are some sort of justifiable arguments on both sides; otherwise, we call the case "frivolous" and sanctions are awarded. So in this type of case, of course politics plays a major role.  We shouldn't kid ourselves otherwise.

EDIT: The fact that justices do act with some level of political bias is evident in the importantance people place on the fact of which president gets to select a justice.  Republicans choose conservative, strict constitution following justices, whereas Democrats choose liberal, "the constitution is a living document" justices.
This message was last edited by the GM at 19:44, Tue 23 July 2013.
Heath
GM, 5042 posts
Tue 23 Jul 2013
at 19:39
  • msg #138

Re: Marriage Equality

The other issue coming up the pipeline is how this recent decision will pit the 14th Amendment (equal protection) against the 1st Amendment (religious and free speech rights).  Here's from an article I read:

Article:
Supporters of traditional marriage often fear the free speech ramifications that could emerge as as result of increasing support for gay marriage in the United States. But are these worries really legitimate?

In an interview with CBN's David Brody, Texas Sen. Ted Cruz, a Republican, joined in this chorus, warning that the push in favor of same-sex unions could, indeed, put First Amendment protections at risk.

"If you look at other nations that have gone down the road towards gay marriage, that's the next step of where it gets enforced," he said of hate speech regulations that are in place in other countries.

"It gets enforced against Christian pastors who decline to perform gay marriages, who speak out and preach biblical truths on marriage and that has been defined elsewhere as hate speech -- as inconsistent with the enlightened view of government," Cruz added.

Some pro-gay marriage advocates in the U.S., the senator believes, want the nation to end up with the same ramifications on the books -- and in a paradigm in which individuals can be punished or denigrated for refusing to substantiate or for speaking out against same-sex unions.

Some might scoff at these insinuations, dismissing them as over-the-top, but Cruz is not necessarily manufacturing a paradigm. Consider the widely publicized case in Sweden back in 2005 surrounding Aake Green, a Pentecostal pastor.

Green's plight corroborates the worries that Cruz has surrounding America's current trajectory. In 2003, the preacher  likened homosexuality to cancer during one of his sermons. As a result, he was brought up on charges over these claims -- statements that, in America, would currently be protected by the First Amendment.

The BBC has more about the case (in the end, Green won his appeal, although he was initially given 30 days in jail over his anti-gay comments):

"Mr Green was convicted in June 2004 but allowed to remain free pending appeal.
He was the first clergyman convicted under Swedish laws that make incitement to hatred against racial, religious or national groups illegal - legislation that was amended in 2003 to include homosexuals."

Other incidents have unfolded, too, as the delicate balance between free speech and cutting down on hate speech has been sought.

Now, some might argue that Green's words were too harsh, but one wonders if even simpler, kinder words that stand opposed to homosexuality would be met with similar sentiment in his country.

While it's certainly permissible to disagree with Cruz's assessment, the basis on which he argues is not entirely unfounded.

Doulos
player, 250 posts
Tue 23 Jul 2013
at 20:47
  • msg #139

Re: Marriage Equality

You've made some interesting points there Heath.  You won't ever convince me that 9 individuals making a decision = 5 or 4 or 1, but some of the other stuff you've brought up is certainly worthy of discussion.

I can't pretend to be on the same level as you when it comes to understanding US politics or the law.

If I might ask, does it concern you at all with the amount of rhetoric, politics, and mumbo-jumbo that goes on in these types of situations?  That so much of what happens in the US (and in many other countries, but the US is the focus currently) is driven not by anything other than dollars and politics?

I would find it hard to be a resident of the United States with the level of corruption and political wizardry that goes on there.  As a Canadian I am disgusted enough with the small amount I hear about Senate scandals and the like in my own country, but our southern neighbours take that to an insane degree that is hard for me to comprehend.

Do you ever find it difficult to be involved in your line of work, or to be engaged politically in the US due to cynicism?

I did away with voting and political engagement many years ago now, but I still like to check in on what happens politcally just out of interest.
hakootoko
player, 91 posts
Wed 24 Jul 2013
at 12:44
  • msg #140

Re: Marriage Equality

A couple of points in response to Heath.

1. The problem with the 10th Ammendment (any powers not explicitly granted to the fed belong to the states) is that it depends on the Federal Courts to enforce it. The Supreme Court is never going to vote that something is outside their (i.e. federal) control. No government body ever decides to reduce their own power and authority.

2. If religious people and organizations were going to be prosecuted for denying equality legislation, it would have happened decades ago when the country was more liberal. Has, for example, the Catholic Church ever been prosecuted for refusing to accept female priests?
katisara
GM, 5469 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 24 Jul 2013
at 13:16
  • msg #141

Re: Marriage Equality

If I could like a post, I absolutely would. Hakootoko's first point is golden. I'm glad DOMA was shot down, primarily because it's creeping federal power, and limiting federal power depends so heavily on the good will of the federal government. It's a conflict of interest.

However, shooting down California's Prop 8 would have suggested the same infringement on the state's right to self-determination.
Tycho
GM, 3735 posts
Sat 27 Jul 2013
at 11:41
  • msg #142

Re: Marriage Equality

Saw this today and thought it might generate some discussion here.  Desmond Tutu has said he wouldn't worship a homophobic God, and if God were homophobic, he (Tutu) would rather go to hell than heaven.  Pretty strong words coming from a devoutly religious person who's stood up to discrimination in the past.

I imagine/assume that the anti-gay-rights folks will reply with "well, that's your choice to make Tutu," and a shrug, so I doubt this will change anyone's minds, really.  Is interesting and encouraging, though, to hear such a prominent christian figure come out so strongly and uncompromisingly in favor of gay rights.
Heath
GM, 5043 posts
Mon 5 Aug 2013
at 23:02
  • msg #143

Re: Marriage Equality

hakootoko:
1. The problem with the 10th Ammendment (any powers not explicitly granted to the fed belong to the states) is that it depends on the Federal Courts to enforce it. The Supreme Court is never going to vote that something is outside their (i.e. federal) control. No government body ever decides to reduce their own power and authority.

But this is what has just happened.  The court system is different than political power, which is why this statement is incorrect.  Judges do not gain or lose power based on declaring they have jurisdiction over something, particularly the Supreme Court, which is a lifetime appointment.  They can eviscerate a law simply by refusing to hear it.  What they look at is precedent.  If they take jurisdiction and create precedent in one case (even if they disagree with it), how will that affect the other cases they do (or do not) want to hear?  Often, they find ways to evade jurisdiction (like with Prop 8) as a way of sending a certain signal.

The statement is actually not true in practice either.  We file cases in state courts all the time with federal jurisdiction questions.  The other side then has the option to remove the case to federal court. If they do that, the federal court then determines if it cannot exercise jurisdiction and remands it back to state court.  They often (very often) remand if they can.  Federal courts don't like extra cases on their dockets.  It cuts into their golfing time.  :)
quote:
2. If religious people and organizations were going to be prosecuted for denying equality legislation, it would have happened decades ago when the country was more liberal. Has, for example, the Catholic Church ever been prosecuted for refusing to accept female priests?

The country is more liberal now (and more socialist) than it ever has been...so I don't buy the premise there.  Besides, these issues are like a wave.  They get past one barrier and then go onto the next.  The issues are not exactly compatible, so in essence, this has never happened before, and that statement just simply is inaccurate.

I should also point out that the issue of female priests is different from the issues of morality associated with the acts of marriage.

Here's an interesting article today regarding the counterbalance of the justices to go along with how I was stating that they have their own unique interpretations (and how one justice can be the deciding factor in overruling a major issue of national importance):  http://news.yahoo.com/81-justi...alist-153010035.html

(I should point out that "originalist" in this article, which has a liberal bias, is not exactly accurate.  Ginsberg has declared the constitution to be a living document, which is the opposite of originalist.  It's more fair to say that Scalia is a Federalist and she is an Anti-Federalist, or something like that.)
Heath
GM, 5044 posts
Mon 5 Aug 2013
at 23:08
  • msg #144

Re: Marriage Equality

Doulos:
If I might ask, does it concern you at all with the amount of rhetoric, politics, and mumbo-jumbo that goes on in these types of situations?  That so much of what happens in the US (and in many other countries, but the US is the focus currently) is driven not by anything other than dollars and politics?

Absolutely.  Although I would add "power" to "dollars and politics."  But what bothers me most is the amount of disinformation (and outright lies) that are spread to deceive the unknowing public.  I don't mind if the country moves in one direction or the other, but when the populace is basing their votes and opinions on lies being told them, it bothers me immensely.

quote:
Do you ever find it difficult to be involved in your line of work, or to be engaged politically in the US due to cynicism?

My line of work does not involve politics, but it is bothersome when I am faced with a judge who is trying to get reelected and lets bias creep in.  Luckily, I think that's the exception, not the rule.

My cynicism is at an all time high.  I was an idealist 20 years ago when I was starting out.  Now, it's about learning how to work within a flawed system the best you can.

I suggest watching John Travolta's "A Civil Action," which is a true story.  Robert Duvall's character knows how the game works; I'm much more like him than like Travolta.  You can't get personally invested too much, just enough to make the system work.
katisara
GM, 5473 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Fri 6 Sep 2013
at 10:44
  • msg #145

Re: Marriage Equality

Tangentially related, one of our local cub scout packs is shutting down because the church/school they're chartered with disagrees with the policy on permitting homosexual scouts. Seems like cutting off the nose to spite your face.
hakootoko
player, 93 posts
Fri 6 Sep 2013
at 12:56
  • msg #146

Re: Marriage Equality

I thought the national boy scout policy was to let each troop decide. Has this changed? Is cub scouts not a part of boy scouts?

While I am disappointed in the church's decision, I have to wonder about the details. Did anyone from the troop discuss it with them, or decide and then inform them? Did the church expect that the troop would move instead of disbanding?
katisara
GM, 5474 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sat 7 Sep 2013
at 20:41
  • msg #147

Re: Marriage Equality

Cub Scouts is part of Boy Scouts. Originally the policy was that homosexual orientation was grounds for terminating a boy scout (or cub scout). That has been removed, so homosexual ATTRACTION is not sufficient grounds to exclude a scout (however, actual sex, be it homosexual or heterosexual, is).

I don't know the details. All I heard was the church gave them an ultimatum; find somewhere else to meet. As every cub scout pack is associated with a hosting organization, this is basically dissolving the charter. The leaders can make a new pack somewhere else (hopefully). The decision by BSA to change their policy is public knowledge, so I have to assume that's how the church found out about it.

Since cub scouts is 6-12 year-olds, I don't know how homosexuality is even an issue.
Doulos
player, 413 posts
Thu 27 Mar 2014
at 16:43
  • msg #148

Re: Marriage Equality

World Vision, earlier this week, changed their policy on hiring staff who were on same sex marriages, from forbidding it, to allowing it.

Naturally, the relgious right flipped out, basically using their sponsorship kids as hostages in a doctrinal battle, and World Vision reversed their policy changed within days.

Sad, but it's more proof that the changes are coming, albeit slowly.  I have no doubt that there will be a day when this will be a total non-issue except amongst the most zealous of conservatives (think RLDS, or hardcore extreme baptists).

World Vision has always been a conservative organization, and to see cracks in their own solidarity on the issue, even if it has now been reversed, is only good news for equality.
katisara
GM, 5616 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Thu 27 Mar 2014
at 16:54
  • msg #149

Re: Marriage Equality

I really appreciate Pope Francis's recent comments on these sorts of topics; the focus on abortion and homosexual politics is distracting us from Jesus's core message.
Doulos
player, 414 posts
Thu 27 Mar 2014
at 17:00
  • msg #150

Re: Marriage Equality

Agreed.  I don't know too much about him, but the few things I've run into have been quite positive.
Bart
player, 15 posts
Fri 28 Mar 2014
at 02:58
  • msg #151

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Cub Scouts is part of Boy Scouts.

There are two ways to look at this issue.

1. Homosexuality is being tolerated more and Boy Scouts is becoming more inclusive.
2. Homosexuality is being tolerated less and people realized that they can't preach to boys who aren't there.

It's a really good compromise when parties from both sides are claiming a victory both for themselves and for the other side, depending on their point of view.
Heath
GM, 5246 posts
Fri 28 Mar 2014
at 16:43
  • msg #152

Re: Marriage Equality

Bart, to be clear, I think we should separate "homosexual behaviors" and "homosexuality."

I think everyone should be tolerant of people being homosexual, for sure.  That's something they live and deal with.  It's how they behave on their propensities -- their moral behaviors -- that tends to be the question.  Should we tolerate homosexual behavior and that lifestyle, even if it does against our moral values?  That's the question.
Tycho
GM, 3921 posts
Fri 28 Mar 2014
at 18:36
  • msg #153

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Heath (msg # 152):

Should people tolerate other practicing Mormonism, even if it goes against their moral values?  The answer is the same in both cases, I would posit.

I think you should treat people living a "homosexual lifestyle" the same way you'd like to be treated who view your religion as leading people away from God.  In many people's eyes being Mormon is sinful, and counter to their moral code, just like "homosexual behavior" is to you.  I know you don't like it when people sad bad things about the LDS church, even if their religion considers it to be true.  I know you don't think it's right for people to discriminate against Mormons just because their pastor has told them that Mormons have all been tricked by Satan into following a false prophet.  If you feel like these people who view your religion as sinful, evil, immoral, etc., should treat you like human beings despite their beliefs about you, then I would argue you should do the same for homosexuals.  You should tolerate it in the way you'd like to be tolerated.

To make it extra clear, think of how you would have reacted if a large charity announced that they were going to allow their employees to join the LDS church if they wanted, and due to major backlash from contributors to the charity, they changed their policy back to "no Mormons allowed".  Or imagine if the boyscouts didn't allow Mormons to be scout leaders, because some parents felt that Mormons were a threat to their sons and might lead them into to a deviant life-style.

Because as strongly as you feel that a homosexual behavior is wrong and immoral, there are many, many people out there who feel just as strongly that being a Mormon is wrong and immoral.  The way you would like to be treated is generally a good guide for how you should treat others.
Heath
GM, 5250 posts
Fri 28 Mar 2014
at 22:16
  • msg #154

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
Because as strongly as you feel that a homosexual behavior is wrong and immoral, there are many, many people out there who feel just as strongly that being a Mormon is wrong and immoral.  The way you would like to be treated is generally a good guide for how you should treat others.

Your argument doesn't stand.  It presupposes a subjective morality.  Religious people rarely believe in a subjective morality, but in a morality established (or at least related to us by) God.

If people want to believe that practicing Mormonism is sinful, that's their right.  If they want to think it is immoral, that's their right.

Being LDS is a choice, but being a homosexual is not (not necessarily, at least).  So I find it intolerable that our society would discriminate against homosexuals based on their inherent sexual orientation.  But it is not intolerable for society to create legal boundaries related to moral behaviors (theft, murder, incest, etc.) or reward those moral behaviors that it considers worth promoting (which until recently, marriage was among those, as well as licensing of certain professionals, etc.).

The other issue where your analysis is wrong is that "being LDS" is not a "behavior" at all.  It is an identity.  So you would have to identify the particular behavior related to "being LDS" that is "immoral."  Otherwise, you are entering the "intolerable" area of societal intervention I mentioned in the previous paragraph by targeting identity rather than behavior.
Tycho
GM, 3923 posts
Fri 28 Mar 2014
at 23:11
  • msg #155

Re: Marriage Equality

Heath:
If people want to believe that practicing Mormonism is sinful, that's their right.  If they want to think it is immoral, that's their right.

Yes, and the question is how would you like them to treat you when they exercise that right?  Remember, they believe in "absolute morality" just like you do.  Do you want them to stick to their absolutely morality, and say "we don't serve Mormons here!" or do you want them to say "We disagree with what you do, but we recognize that it's your choice and not ours, and we'll treat you with respect despite our disagreements."  I know which one I root for.

Heath:
The other issue where your analysis is wrong is that "being LDS" is not a "behavior" at all.  It is an identity.  So you would have to identify the particular behavior related to "being LDS" that is "immoral."  Otherwise, you are entering the "intolerable" area of societal intervention I mentioned in the previous paragraph by targeting identity rather than behavior.

Meh, pick one.  Being baptized into the LDS perhaps?  Attending temple services?  Reading the BoM?  Eating green jello?  The point I'm making is that we shouldn't be discriminating against Mormons for the act of "living a Mormon lifestyle," even if we disagree with that lifestyle.  I think it'd be awesome if you could be as tolerant of gay people as I'd ask everyone to be of Mormons.  To be honest, I find it a bit disappointing that you don't seem to see the parallel here. I feel like you would have pretty strong words for a person who actually asked if we should tolerate mormons.  I imagine you would find even that question pretty offensive, and rightly so.  But I get the impression that you don't view your question as offensive, even though it's more or less the same thing.

Remember, you asked a question: "Should we tolerate homosexual behavior and that lifestyle, even if it does against our moral values?"  And I said the answer should be the same as the answer to a very similar question: "Should we tolerate Mormon behavior and that lifestyle, even if it does against our moral values?"
Bart
player, 18 posts
Sat 29 Mar 2014
at 16:35
  • msg #156

Re: Marriage Equality

I think this discussion is veering off marriage equality into another area and perhaps this discussion should move into a different thread.  That's just my opinion, for whatever it's worth. :)
TheMonk
player, 73 posts
Atheist
Most of the time
Sat 29 Mar 2014
at 18:21
  • msg #157

Re: Marriage Equality

It seems that way because of a replacement in terms, but that argument is very important.

If the LDS crowd was treated the way that homosexuals are treated now, would they (you) be for it? Would you be happy about a lack of temple weddings? Or would you protest and make efforts to change it? Maybe hold public demonstrations to demonstrate your LDS beliefs?
Bart
player, 24 posts
Mon 31 Mar 2014
at 06:55
  • msg #158

Re: Marriage Equality

Well, the state (as in the Federal government) already doesn't recognize "temple weddings" (really temple sealings) -- there are no benefits of any kind unless you live in a common law marriage state and you stay "temple married" for enough years to legally be recognized as common law marriage (and I live in California, which doesn't recognize common law marriages).  The only way in California to get married is to go fill out a marriage license at the court house.  You can then choose to have whatever religious or secular ceremony you want, or no ceremony, whatever floats your boat.  So, even if LDS people were banned from officially getting married for whatever reason, it wouldn't impact getting sealed in the temple.

If the state were to suddenly stop granting marriage licenses based on religion, well when that has happened (Laos, Maldives, sometimes Saudi Arabia, definitely North Korea) we might go to another country and get married, but if we return to that country there's jack all benefit for the unrecognized marriage.

We don't hold public demonstrations to celebrate our beliefs -- for instance we don't "stand on the street corners and pray so that we might be seen by men" (Matthew 6:5).  For instance, in Israel we aren't allowed to discuss the LDS church with anyone, even if they ask.  We believe in obeying and honoring the law as much as we can, though, so nobody goes and starts any sort of public protest there.  Anyway, this is really veering off the topic of this thread.

"What if people did X?"
"Why would they do that?"
"For completely different reasons than people do now."
"Then things would be completely different, wouldn't they?" ;)
This message had punctuation tweaked by the player at 06:57, Mon 31 Mar 2014.
Tycho
GM, 3926 posts
Mon 31 Mar 2014
at 09:36
  • msg #159

Re: Marriage Equality

I dunno, I still think the golden rule is a pretty good guideline.

Heath asked if people should "tolerate" homosexual behavior if they believe it to be immoral.  The golden rule offers a really good way to answer that, in my opinion.  And in the case of Mormons being the one asking about tolerance, I don't think it's really some crazy hypothetical that needs to be considered, since many people really do consider Mormonism to be sinful and immoral.

I feel like the LDS church has had to struggle fairly hard to gain acceptance, and still has a way to go with some people.  It seems like they should find it fairly easy to put themselves in the shoes of gays fighting to be tolerated.  But it doesn't seem like they actually do, unfortunately.
Bart
player, 25 posts
Mon 31 Mar 2014
at 17:10
  • msg #160

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
Heath asked if people should "tolerate" homosexual behavior if they believe it to be immoral.  The golden rule offers a really good way to answer that, in my opinion.  And in the case of Mormons being the one asking about tolerance, I don't think it's really some crazy hypothetical that needs to be considered, since many people really do consider Mormonism to be sinful and immoral.

From personal experience, this isn't a crazy hypothetical that needs to be considered.  I know I've mentioned before that I've spoken with people who actually believed, because they heard it from their pastor or someone like that, that members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints worship Mormon, or Joseph Smith, or otherwise are crazy people who lie about being Christians and shouldn't be tolerated.

Even so, why single out the LDS church solely because it was an LDS person who brought that particular topic up?  What about Pope Francis in his recent meeting with Obama?  It wasn't just the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints who was backing prop 8 in California.  We didn't even provide a majority of the funds behind prop 8.  You'd have to look at the Methodist and Catholic churches as well as other churches -- that was a huge coalition of churches who don't want to end up sued because they refuse to perform/bless a homosexual marriage, see http://thelibertarianrepublic....dding/#axzz2xYqdbCBa  Back during prop 8 I brought up similar cases that had already happened in Europe.  Yet I kept seeing my church singled out as the movers and shakers behind prop 8.  Whatever, things are the way they are.
TheMonk
player, 77 posts
Atheist
Most of the time
Mon 31 Mar 2014
at 18:07
  • msg #161

Re: Marriage Equality

Because the other churches need a scapegoat for when the vox populi cries out for gay rights and they figure you're already seen as a little wacky so what's the harm?
Tycho
GM, 3928 posts
Mon 31 Mar 2014
at 20:29
  • msg #162

Re: Marriage Equality

Bart:
Even so, why single out the LDS church solely because it was an LDS person who brought that particular topic up?

That's exactly why I used LDS as the example.  If someone else had asked the question, I'd have used their religion instead.  But it was Heath who asked "should we tolerate" homosexual behavior.  Note, he wasn't saying "do we need to approve of it" or "do we need to partake in it" or anything like that.  He asked if we should even tolerate it.  To me, that's very strong language, and I think he would have found it extremely offensive if someone had asked "should we tolerate mormons?"  I'm trying to let him know that he's talking about real people.  And while he may not approve of what they do, it's good to keep in mind that lots of people also don't approve of what he does, but he still expects to be "tolerated".  My intent isn't to pick on the LDS here, but more to get Heath thinking about how he would feel about the words he was using if someone had directed them at him instead.

Bart:
Yet I kept seeing my church singled out as the movers and shakers behind prop 8.  Whatever, things are the way they are.

They were the biggest single group pushing for it, though.  And considering the fraction of Californians who are Mormon, the church made a much bigger impact than some bigger groups.  They might not have been a majority of the push, but no other group was bigger than they were, to my knowledge.  You seem to feel like it's a bit unfair that people view the church negatively for getting so involved in a hot button political issue.  I guess my thoughts on this are that the church reaps what it sows.  If a church makes a big push to get involved in non-church-members marriages, the church can't really expect those people not take offense, in my view.  If you're upset with the attention that it's brought the church, I'd suggest taking that up with the church leadership.  Trying to play like the LDS church was just a minor player in prop 8, and act like people should just forget they were involved doesn't seem very realistic to me.  In my opinion, you don't get to take away someones right to marry, and expect them to just forget you did that the next day.  People aren't going to forget something like that.  If you're displeased by the way it's turned out, I think it's worth letting the church leaders know.
Bart
player, 29 posts
Tue 1 Apr 2014
at 07:15
  • msg #163

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
They were the biggest single group pushing for it, though.
Pics or vid or it didn't happen. :p http://www.sfgate.com/news/art...s-Prop-8-3185965.php
Tycho:
You seem to feel like it's a bit unfair that people view the church negatively for getting so involved in a hot button political issue.
No, people can be supportive or get upset.  I've never said it's unfair.
Tycho:
Trying to play like the LDS church was just a minor player in prop 8...
I think I said something about them being part of a group of churches.  That being said, I'm not ashamed of what I did during the campaign and officially neither is the church.  If that official position ever changes then I'm sure someone will say something about it.

Should we tolerate homosexuality?  Well, is there a difference between tolerating/approving/denigrating an activity or lifestyle as opposed to doing that to a person?  Of course.

Do some people already denigrate members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for their religious choices and lifestyle?  Of course.

"What if people did X?"
"Why would they do that?"
"For completely different reasons than people do now."
"Then things would be completely different, wouldn't they?" ;)
This isn't a hypothetical subject that you brought up and a discussion about this topic should be a different discussion, in my opinion. :)

Part of the brunt of prop 8, as I understood it, was that we could see what legal cases has been brought in European countries which had allowed homosexual marriage years earlier.  Hey, look, those types of legal challenges are continuing with this recent homosexual couple in England who are suing to try and make their chosen church perform a homosexual marriage.  The topic of marriage equality and how people do respond or should respond to that is a different topic from how people treat the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and its members and how people do respond or should respond to that.
Tycho
GM, 3930 posts
Tue 1 Apr 2014
at 07:59
  • msg #164

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
They were the biggest single group pushing for it, though.

Bart:
Pics or vid or it didn't happen. :p http://www.sfgate.com/news/art...s-Prop-8-3185965.php

Sorry, I phrased that poorly.  There were bigger groups involved, yes, but they didn't have the level of unity and coordination that the LDS church did, and thus their impact wasn't as big.  As your link points out, Mormons made about 40% of the individual donations to the campaign, even though Mormons are no where near 40% of the population of CA.  Yes, the Catholic church is bigger, but it only managed to get 64% of its members voting the way it wanted.

Bart:
Should we tolerate homosexuality?  Well, is there a difference between tolerating/approving/denigrating an activity or lifestyle as opposed to doing that to a person?  Of course.

Okay, I'd agree.  But it'd be good to hear your answer to the first question, since I'm not entirely sure from your wording here that you're actually saying "yes, we should tolerate them."

Bart:
Do some people already denigrate members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for their religious choices and lifestyle?  Of course.

Yes, absolutely.  Should those people tolerate Mormons, despite their disapproval?  I certainly think so.  I find the suggestion that they shouldn't have to tolerate Mormons offensive, really, and would hope you do too.  That's why I found Heath's question so troubling.
hakootoko
player, 148 posts
Tue 8 Jul 2014
at 12:35
  • msg #165

Re: Marriage Equality

This seems an appropriate thread:
http://www.theguardian.com/uk-...reland-ashers-bakery

Bakery refuses to make a pro-gay-marriage cake, and legal action is taken against it.

Unfortunately, there's not enough detail in this article, and I don't see any others that expand on it.
katisara
GM, 5654 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 8 Jul 2014
at 14:51
  • msg #166

Re: Marriage Equality

I'll say, I'm sort of okay with that refusal (similarly with the Hobby Lobby case).

There's a difference between supporting an individual, and supporting an individual's actions. Can the bakery refuse to bake a cake about eating goldfish? What about killing off old people? Why is that? Because they don't support those behaviors (and neither does anyone else, really). Why are they compelled to bake a homosexual marriage cake? The only difference is society at large now is generally more tolerant of homosexuals, and that behavior is becoming normal. Killing off the elderly doesn't have that popular support, so discriminating against that activity is considered a-okay.
Doulos
player, 449 posts
Tue 8 Jul 2014
at 16:22
  • msg #167

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
I'll say, I'm sort of okay with that refusal (similarly with the Hobby Lobby case).

There's a difference between supporting an individual, and supporting an individual's actions. Can the bakery refuse to bake a cake about eating goldfish? What about killing off old people? Why is that? Because they don't support those behaviors (and neither does anyone else, really). Why are they compelled to bake a homosexual marriage cake? The only difference is society at large now is generally more tolerant of homosexuals, and that behavior is becoming normal. Killing off the elderly doesn't have that popular support, so discriminating against that activity is considered a-okay.


If they were asked to bake a cake which showed 2 blacks getting married and then refused since they felt it was against their beliefs, how would you feel?
katisara
GM, 5656 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 8 Jul 2014
at 19:28
  • msg #168

Re: Marriage Equality

Blacks don't choose to be black, so no, it doesn't apply.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 806 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Wed 9 Jul 2014
at 00:11
  • msg #169

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Blacks don't choose to be black, so no, it doesn't apply.

Homosexuals don't choose to be homosexual either.
hakootoko
player, 149 posts
Wed 9 Jul 2014
at 00:16
  • msg #170

Re: Marriage Equality

Choice is not an excuse. There are many chosen activities and identities (including religion) that should also not be discriminated against.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 808 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Wed 9 Jul 2014
at 00:18
  • msg #171

Re: Marriage Equality

hakootoko:
Choice is not an excuse. There are many chosen activities and identities (including religion) that should also not be discriminated against.

Again, homosexuality is not a choice.  But Hekootoko brings up a good point.  Katisara, what if it was you they were discriminating against?  A place refuses to serve you because you're a conservative, or a Catholic, or whatever other reason?  You choose to be a conservative, does that make it right to discriminate against you?
katisara
GM, 5658 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 9 Jul 2014
at 12:00
  • msg #172

Re: Marriage Equality

The issue isn't that they're homosexual, it's that they're engaging in homosexual behavior. If they wanted a cake to celebrate their being gay non-sexual friends, that's fine. But to celebrate gay boning it becomes a moral issue.

And yes, if someone chooses to discriminate against me because of my actions, that's (legally) fine, even if it's morally objectionable. If they say I can't go in because I drive a car or vote the way I do or whatever, that's okay--and has happened!
Grandmaster Cain
player, 810 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Wed 9 Jul 2014
at 18:51
  • msg #173

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
The issue isn't that they're homosexual, it's that they're engaging in homosexual behavior. If they wanted a cake to celebrate their being gay non-sexual friends, that's fine. But to celebrate gay boning it becomes a moral issue.

And there we go again, homophobia and reactionary behavior to gay men having sex.  Katisara, there's a lot more to being a couple than what kind of sex you have.  Come on, do you buy a cake for your wife to celebrate your relationship and happy times, or to celebrate boinking in the back of a station wagon?

People who oppose homosexual rights on those grounds are perverts.  Why?  Because they're obsessing on sex.  Anal sex, gay sex, lesbian sex, that's what they object to.  But couples are more than sex.  There's love, commitment, sacrifices, spending time with each other, helping each other, and much more.  But for some reason, it always comes back to sex.  Like any other pervert, they're hung up on sex, and can't stop obsessing about it.

quote:
And yes, if someone chooses to discriminate against me because of my actions, that's (legally) fine, even if it's morally objectionable. If they say I can't go in because I drive a car or vote the way I do or whatever, that's okay--and has happened!


I didn't ask it if was legal, I asked if it was right or wrong.  Based on your answer, I think you see that it's wrong if it's done to you-- which means it was wrong when it happened to them.  "Legal" is a question for lawyers.
katisara
GM, 5661 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 9 Jul 2014
at 19:55
  • msg #174

Re: Marriage Equality

Grandmaster Cain:
And there we go again, homophobia and reactionary behavior to gay men having sex.


You need to tone it back, guy. If your argument is so weak that it can't stand without attacking other members, just tell me now so I can spend my time elsewhere. Otherwise, can the personal attacks.

quote:
Come on, do you buy a cake for your wife to celebrate your relationship and happy times, or to celebrate boinking in the back of a station wagon? 


A car is more than just tires... but those tires are still pretty important! My marriage vows (and the celebrations) include recognition that my wife and I have sex. It's built into the compact. If you, as a vendor, object to providing services to people who have sex, I would understand your not wanting to work with me. (On that note, why would I, as a customer, want to work with you??? If this is my wedding, do I really want to pin any critical services on a contractor who wants my relationship to fail? That's nuts!)

Now if this was a birthday cake, it would be a different question. Unless your moral object is against celebrating birthdays, a gay man buying a birthday cake for another gay man is outside of the purview of moral questions. But yes, Marriage *requires* sex, so supporting the marriage includes supporting that sex.

quote:
There's love, commitment, sacrifices, spending time with each other, helping each other, and much more.  But for some reason, it always comes back to sex.  Like any other pervert, they're hung up on sex, and can't stop obsessing about it. 


The car I sold you has no wheels. But it has A/C, power steering, and a V8 engine! Why are you saying you want to return it? Why are you obsessing over wheels so much??

quote:
I didn't ask it if was legal, I asked if it was right or wrong.  Based on your answer, I think you see that it's wrong if it's done to you-- which means it was wrong when it happened to them.  "Legal" is a question for lawyers.



I think in the case of the bakery, their actions were morally wrong. However, I think it would also be morally wrong for me to force them to choose otherwise.
Doulos
player, 450 posts
Wed 9 Jul 2014
at 20:30
  • msg #175

Re: Marriage Equality

Again, what if it was a black couple (man and woman) who wanted a wedding cake, and because they were black the person said 'No, my beliefs prohibit blacks from having sex with one another'
katisara
GM, 5662 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Wed 9 Jul 2014
at 20:51
  • msg #176

Re: Marriage Equality

Again though, it's not as though you can choose to have sex while white, so no, that wouldn't fly.
Doulos
player, 451 posts
Thu 10 Jul 2014
at 02:13
  • [deleted]
  • msg #177

Re: Marriage Equality

This message was deleted by the player at 03:25, Thu 10 July 2014.
Bart
player, 46 posts
Thu 10 Jul 2014
at 05:42
  • msg #178

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
The car I sold you has no wheels. But it has A/C, power steering, and a V8 engine! Why are you saying you want to return it? Why are you obsessing over wheels so much?

I think sex is more like a rear door.  If your rear door falls off, you just make sure your seatbelt is on, that there aren't loose things that'll fall off, and you keep driving.  There's no legal requirement to have a rear door on your car, although most would consider it pretty darn important.

Otherwise, you're saying that old people's marriages are basically bound to fail as their sex drive falls off.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 812 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Thu 10 Jul 2014
at 07:58
  • msg #179

Re: Marriage Equality

quote:
You need to tone it back, guy. If your argument is so weak that it can't stand without attacking other members, just tell me now so I can spend my time elsewhere. Otherwise, can the personal attacks.

I apologize if I offended you, but that wasn't a personal attack.  I wasn't calling you out, I'm pointing out that your argument hinges on fear of sex.

quote:
A car is more than just tires... but those tires are still pretty important! My marriage vows (and the celebrations) include recognition that my wife and I have sex. It's built into the compact.

Really?  You're Catholic, right?  I went to a few Catholic sites, and here's the official wedding vows I found from the Rite of Marriage:
quote:
1. I (name) take you (name) to be my wife/husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

2. I (name) take you (name) for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

I don't see sex mentioned anywhere.
quote:
Now if this was a birthday cake, it would be a different question. Unless your moral object is against celebrating birthdays, a gay man buying a birthday cake for another gay man is outside of the purview of moral questions. But yes, Marriage *requires* sex, so supporting the marriage includes supporting that sex.

First of all, where does marriage *require* sex?  Where is that in the vows?  It's not on the license, either.

Second, while there is a biblical prohibition on two men having anal sex, there's nothing about oral sex, or lesbian sex.  IIRC, the couple in question were females, so there's no biblical excuse.

Third, there are plenty of sexless marriages.  Some are on the verge of ending, others are because of age or illness.  No one can have sex all the time; I'll bet you and your wife stopped having sex after your kids were born, for example.

quote:
I think in the case of the bakery, their actions were morally wrong. However, I think it would also be morally wrong for me to force them to choose otherwise.

What position would you suggest, then?  Civil action?  Boycott?  What is the appropriate response.
katisara
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Thu 10 Jul 2014
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  • msg #180

Re: Marriage Equality

Now we're getting to some good stuff :) The sex question is a real interesting one, and I'm happy to delve into it.

Yes, in a legal marriage, sex is not mandated. And I think if the couple in question was getting married just for the tax benefits, but without intent of any hanky panky, well it would get my panties in a twist over tax dodging, but that would remove grounds the bakery is specifically taking issue with.

(And to delve down this rabbit hole for a moment--in our culture, marriage really does imply sex. There are a few fringe cases--someone marries someone else who is a million miles away and not coming back, someone marries someone who is dead or imaginary, someone marries someone who is physically incapable of intercourse, etc. But these really are just fringe cases.

I think if the bakery case involved a gay man marrying his partner who is in a coma and about to die, it would take a totally different nuance.

However, this isn't the case here. This is two young men who are in love and want to get married, and I would bet my mortgage that they plan to sex it up as soon as rings are exchanged, just like 99.999% of other newlyweds. I would consider this a reasonable assumption on the part of the bakery as well.)

Okay, back from the segue.

The Catholic Church does officially require sex in order for a marriage to be valid. In fact, this is one of the few ways a person can get a marriage annulled, is by proving they never had sex. If you're really excited about Catholic Theology, you can read through the relevant chapter in the catechism here:
http://www.vatican.va/archive/...techism/p3s2c2a6.htm

The long-and-short of it is the RCC relies on "natural law" to determine what is morally right or wrong. Natural law works by determining what the "purpose" of an action, state, or object is. So the purpose of marriage is two-fold; being open to children, and a loving relationship. You aren't open to having children if you aren't having sex. Ergo, sex is a requirement of marriage, and the marriage sacrament is not complete until the couple has had sex.

(It goes further than this too; the purpose of sex is to be open to children. Intentionally short-circuiting that is then violating the purpose of sex. This is why the RCC bans contraception as well as masturbation. Oral sex is fine--as long as all of the fluids go in the correct receptacles in the end.)

So yes, for a Catholic, a marriage requires sex, otherwise it's not a marriage. Yes, this has some unfortunate implications for people for whom intercourse is not possible. We've had some interesting dinner-table debates on that one. I can do some more research on it if you're interested in the answer.



Grandmaster Cain:
quote:
I think in the case of the bakery, their actions were morally wrong. However, I think it would also be morally wrong for me to force them to choose otherwise.

What position would you suggest, then?  Civil action?  Boycott?  What is the appropriate response.


Good question, and obviously that extends beyond this particular case to any instance we think a business is doing something morally wrong.

I don't shop at that bakery. I can't really boycott them. If you were a customer, a boycott would be perfectly appropriate, but I suspect the number of people familiar with this case far outstrip the number of people who shop there.

I'm also hesitant about any action which brings them publicity. Not so much because I want to sweep the issue under the rug, but because even negative publicity brings business. I'm sure that bakery is now ROLLING in dough (haha) thanks to the news article. Everyone who agrees with the bakery's position will see the article and say 'hey, we need to support them by buying a cake!', while everyone who disagrees with the bakery will show their disagreement by ... still not shopping there.

So any publicity that is not directly stopping a sale is counterproductive.

If you were local, you could picket the place. That will interfere with sales, without bringing in nation-wide support. Or you could put negative reviews on them.

Probably the best is to email or call them and say 'hey, while I support your ability to practice your religion, what you're doing is not showing Christ's love; Christ who spent time among the sinners, the prostitutes, the tax collectors, and shared his bread, time, and love with them freely.' One little drop won't do anything, but enough rain and you get a flood. Being kind is important; you want them to agree with you. If they get heaped with abuse, then they really ARE the oppressed minority now, and they'll dig in. But if kind people are asking them to show love and compassion, it undermines their self-image of being the kind, oppressed, Christians.
Grandmaster Cain
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Thu 10 Jul 2014
at 19:45
  • msg #181

Re: Marriage Equality

quote:
Yes, in a legal marriage, sex is not mandated. And I think if the couple in question was getting married just for the tax benefits, but without intent of any hanky panky, well it would get my panties in a twist over tax dodging, but that would remove grounds the bakery is specifically taking issue with.

(And to delve down this rabbit hole for a moment--in our culture, marriage really does imply sex. There are a few fringe cases--someone marries someone else who is a million miles away and not coming back, someone marries someone who is dead or imaginary, someone marries someone who is physically incapable of intercourse, etc. But these really are just fringe cases.

Sex is implied, but it's not an absolute requirement.

Think about it.  As a Catholic, you were asked to not have premarital sex.  That means, prior to marriage, your relationship with your wife-to-be had to be entirely non-sexual.  (In theory, anyway.  You and I both know practice is different.)  That's not a bad thing, since it means you have to build your relationship on things other than sex.  Because of that, you know that sex isn't required for a relationship-- it's a bonus.
quote:
However, this isn't the case here. This is two young men who are in love and want to get married, and I would bet my mortgage that they plan to sex it up as soon as rings are exchanged, just like 99.999% of other newlyweds. I would consider this a reasonable assumption on the part of the bakery as well.)

You're making another wrong assumption.  IIRC, it was a lesbian couple, and the bible doesn't say anything about lesbians.  That's a later addition.

Interestingly enough, I stumbled across another part of your link to Catholic law.  You're assuming the bakery owners were Catholic, which may or may not be the case, but let's see what your own link says:
quote:
2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.

(Emphasis added)  So, as a matter of Catholic law and doctrine, every sign of anti-gay discrimination must be avoided.  Honestly, I was a bit surprised, but pleased to see that.  It does mean, however, that if the bakery owners were Catholic, they were in contravention of doctrine.

I'm no expert on Catholic doctrine, but that's according to your own link.  I assume it's official policy, which means anti-discrimination is the official stance of the RCC.


quote:
The Catholic Church does officially require sex in order for a marriage to be valid. In fact, this is one of the few ways a person can get a marriage annulled, is by proving they never had sex. If you're really excited about Catholic Theology, you can read through the relevant chapter in the catechism here:
http://www.vatican.va/archive/...techism/p3s2c2a6.htm

I skimmed your link, and I couldn't find anything *requiring* sex.  There's a lot of implied sex, but no actual "thou shalt have sex" commandment with bible verses cited.  Not saying it doesn't exist, but it's not on that page.  Are you sure it's not a custom, and not an actual law?

quote:
The long-and-short of it is the RCC relies on "natural law" to determine what is morally right or wrong. Natural law works by determining what the "purpose" of an action, state, or object is. So the purpose of marriage is two-fold; being open to children, and a loving relationship. You aren't open to having children if you aren't having sex. Ergo, sex is a requirement of marriage, and the marriage sacrament is not complete until the couple has had sex.

(It goes further than this too; the purpose of sex is to be open to children. Intentionally short-circuiting that is then violating the purpose of sex. This is why the RCC bans contraception as well as masturbation. Oral sex is fine--as long as all of the fluids go in the correct receptacles in the end.)

So yes, for a Catholic, a marriage requires sex, otherwise it's not a marriage. Yes, this has some unfortunate implications for people for whom intercourse is not possible. We've had some interesting dinner-table debates on that one. I can do some more research on it if you're interested in the answer.


If marriage requires procreative sex, then infertile people would be ineligible to marry.  That said, your link does have a statement on infertility:
quote:
2379 The Gospel shows that physical sterility is not an absolute evil. Spouses who still suffer from infertility after exhausting legitimate medical procedures should unite themselves with the Lord's Cross, the source of all spiritual fecundity. They can give expression to their generosity by adopting abandoned children or performing demanding services for others.


So, infertility is not evil, nor is non-procreative sex banned if the couple cannot conceive naturally.  They're still allowed "spiritual fertility".
katisara
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Thu 10 Jul 2014
at 20:27
  • msg #182

Re: Marriage Equality

Grandmaster Cain:
Sex is implied, but it's not an absolute requirement. 


That's true. But again, a sexless marriage in the US is almost unheard of. So I really think it reasonable the bakery is assuming the gay couple is planning on having sex.

quote:
You're making another wrong assumption.  IIRC, it was a lesbian couple, and the bible doesn't say anything about lesbians.  That's a later addition.


That's fine. I don't think it's really a material note (although it is a curious one, since as you bring up, the rules for lesbians and gay men can be very different. I suppose this baker didn't see things that way, though.)

quote:
Interestingly enough, I stumbled across another part of your link to Catholic law.  You're assuming the bakery owners were Catholic,


I'm not assuming they're Catholic, but I don't have anything like the Catechism which applies to ALL Christians, so I'm just falling back to what I know. However ...

quote:
quote:
Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided.



(Emphasis added)  So, as a matter of Catholic law and doctrine, every sign of anti-gay discrimination must be avoided.


Yep. And I agree, even on a grander scale (again, not assuming Catholic, although I am assuming Christian, since that's the dominant religious group in the US), that I think their behavior was very un-Christian.

Speaking for just my personal opinion, which I very rarely share on this forum, I really do think the bakery was morally wrong in his actions. At the same time, I think it would be wrong for me to force him to practice his beliefs in the way that I think is right. Regarding changing the law, I'm very sensitive to the government trying to establish what is 'right' behavior, excepting when the harm is very clear, such as murder. In general, people should be free to do as they like, even if it means someone else gets hurt feelings/offended. (Personal opinions ended.)

quote:
I skimmed your link, and I couldn't find anything *requiring* sex.  There's a lot of implied sex, but no actual "thou shalt have sex" commandment with bible verses cited.  Not saying it doesn't exist, but it's not on that page.  Are you sure it's not a custom, and not an actual law?


It is. I'll have to see if I can find another link. I'm about to run, so I probably won't get to it until Tuesday though.

quote:
If marriage requires procreative sex, then infertile people would be ineligible to marry.  That said, your link does have a statement on infertility:
quote:
2379 The Gospel shows that physical sterility is not an absolute evil. Spouses who still suffer from infertility after exhausting legitimate medical procedures should unite themselves with the Lord's Cross, the source of all spiritual fecundity. They can give expression to their generosity by adopting abandoned children or performing demanding services for others.


So, infertility is not evil, nor is non-procreative sex banned if the couple cannot conceive naturally.  They're still allowed "spiritual fertility".


This is correct, and where we get into grey area. Sarah conceived even after she was clearly infertile, so there's the understanding that biological infertility is in the hands of God. If you're being married and doing all of the right stuff, God can fix that easily. But it's a 'meeting God half-way' type scenario. If you're engaging in homosexual acts, you're not 'meeting God half-way'.

Then you have people who mechanically can't put tab A into slot B. Like I said, that is a fuzzy area, and even among the experts I know, there's some disagreement. I'll try to look into that on Tuesday as well.
Grandmaster Cain
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Fri 11 Jul 2014
at 03:17
  • msg #183

Re: Marriage Equality

quote:
Yep. And I agree, even on a grander scale (again, not assuming Catholic, although I am assuming Christian, since that's the dominant religious group in the US), that I think their behavior was very un-Christian.

Here's the thing.  The Hobby Lobby case is where people are citing deeply-held religious beliefs, and saying they shouldn't be compelled to act contrary to them.  *However*, as you pointed out, this is different because discriminating against gays is un-Christian.  They don't have biblical support for their position.

The reason this is important is that it sidesteps your argument.  They don't have a deeply-held religious belief that allows them to discriminate.  Even Falwell, before he died, switched to a "Love the sinner, hate the sin" doctrine, not dissimilar to the official RCC position.  Many other churches have adopted the same doctrine-- I can't cite how many, there's too many churches out there, but it's clear that there's an awful lot of them.

So, the bakers objection is personal, not religious.  In that regard, it *is* no different than racism, since they're being biased for arbitrary reasons.  We can compel people to not discriminate on grounds of race, or sex, or religious belief-- for example, an employer can't fire you because you're Catholic (and believe me, once upon a time that was a real problem in this country!)
katisara
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Fri 11 Jul 2014
at 04:10
  • msg #184

Re: Marriage Equality

Grandmaster Cain:
Here's the thing.  The Hobby Lobby case is where people are citing deeply-held religious beliefs, and saying they shouldn't be compelled to act contrary to them.  *However*, as you pointed out, this is different because discriminating against gays is un-Christian.  They don't have biblical support for their position.


I agree with pretty much your whole post. But there's always a 'but' :)

1) The law doesn't prohibit people from being stupid, nor should it. While you and I agree that their behavior was unchristian, they can certainly believe it is perfectly Christian.

2) The government should not be in the business of defining what people believe. Down that way lies madness.

Now should they have been Catholic, for example, and they held their position, but the local cardinal said 'no, this isn't a Catholic belief, they're acting of their own initiative', yeah, I'd agree with you 100%. But if they're from some other church which either lacks a central authority, or which actually holds that position, I don't think the government is in a place to say "no, you don't really hold that religious belief".

(But I do agree with you, in theory, that if we could know perfectly what someone's beliefs were, saying they can't claim a position contrary to those beliefs as 'religious objection' seems quite reasonable.)

Back to the other links I promised;

Here's an interesting discussion like I said about people who can't get married due to inability to consummate:
http://forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?t=298745

Wikipedia touches on the RCC requirements: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Consummation#cite_note-2

HOWEVER, as I dig deeper, I get some more interesting answers:
http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__P3Y.HTM

If someone is impotent (or otherwise not able to "performed between themselves in a human fashion a conjugal act which is suitable in itself for the procreation of offspring, to which marriage is ordered by its nature and by which the spouses become one flesh" they cannot get married. Two men together cannot perform themselves such as to procreate. Nor can a man who is missing his meat and potatoes, for example. However, someone in a coma could, in that he may awaken.) However, someone who is sterile MAY marry, because that may reverse itself. A marriage that has not been consummated is still considered a valid marriage--as long as consummation was an option. Mary & Joseph were in a valid marriage, but the RCC believes they never had sex.

Pretty sure this still explicitly forbids homosexual marriages, since it's between a 'man and a woman' for procreative purposes. There's a certain amount of fine interpretation here that is frankly beyond my skill. I have a Jesuit contact I can reach out to though if you're really interested.
Grandmaster Cain
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Fri 11 Jul 2014
at 04:38
  • msg #185

Re: Marriage Equality

quote:
I agree with pretty much your whole post. But there's always a 'but' :)

1) The law doesn't prohibit people from being stupid, nor should it. While you and I agree that their behavior was unchristian, they can certainly believe it is perfectly Christian.

2) The government should not be in the business of defining what people believe. Down that way lies madness.

Now should they have been Catholic, for example, and they held their position, but the local cardinal said 'no, this isn't a Catholic belief, they're acting of their own initiative', yeah, I'd agree with you 100%. But if they're from some other church which either lacks a central authority, or which actually holds that position, I don't think the government is in a place to say "no, you don't really hold that religious belief".

(But I do agree with you, in theory, that if we could know perfectly what someone's beliefs were, saying they can't claim a position contrary to those beliefs as 'religious objection' seems quite reasonable.)

1) There are anti-stupidity laws on the books.  For example, if you don't vaccinate your kids, you can't send them to public school.  There are also anti-discrimination laws on the books, so people can't discriminate against you based on your religion.  Since you can't show that anti-gay discrimination is a legit religious belief, it doesn't even get that argument.

2) The government isn't mandating what you believe, at least not in this case.  You can believe what you choose; it's your behavior that matters.  If you discriminate against people based on religious beliefs, it's illegal, no matter what your faith is.  That is part of the first amendment, the most basic of the Bill of Rights.

I don't have time to skim your links right now.  I'll try and get to them later.  The bottom line is that the bakers don't get a religious excuse, their decision is purely personal.
Heath
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Thu 17 Jul 2014
at 16:48
  • msg #186

Re: Marriage Equality

Grandmaster Cain:
1) There are anti-stupidity laws on the books.  For example, if you don't vaccinate your kids, you can't send them to public school.


That's actually not true.  Not only is it debatably not "stupid" since vaccinations are part of a large controversy, but you can simply sign a waiver and don't need to get them.

quote:
  There are also anti-discrimination laws on the books, so people can't discriminate against you based on your religion.

Let's make sure we understand that there is a difference between a "law" and a "fundamental right."  Freedom of religion is a fundamental right, around which many laws have been created to protect.

quote:
Since you can't show that anti-gay discrimination is a legit religious belief, it doesn't even get that argument.


First, the Hobby Lobby case is not accurately being portrayed in the press, and I don't think your comment above is accurate either.  They conflate two different issues:

Hobby Lobby:  The Hobby Lobby case is not about access to birth control, but about who should pay for it.  The Supreme Court held that "persons" (which include closely held companies, typically a family owned company like Hobby Lobby) cannot be compelled to pay for someone else to do something for which they have a legitimate religious prohibition from doing themselves.  Let's put it this way:  if the government said you have to pay for "thieving tools" for your employee to specifically rob a store, you shouldn't have to pay for those tools if you believe in "thou shalt not steal."  Same idea.

You will also recall that Obamacare compelling employers and taxpayers to pay for health insurance was found by 4 out of the 9 Supreme Court Justices to be unconstitutional.  Thus, the entire Obamacare scheme barely made it past the supreme court to begin with.  Hobby Lobby is an extension of that argument that couldn't pass constitutional muster because it then infringed on freedom of religion by compelling people to pay for things they have religious prohibitions on.

Anti-Gay Discrimination:  This is the most misunderstood and misrepresented controversial topic in the news today.  I do not believe good Christians believe in discriminating against homosexuals.  They don't.  What they believe in doing is protecting against sinful behaviors.

So just because someone has a proclivity to homosexuality does not mean that Christians should support that person engaging in homosexual behaviors, anymore than Jesus told the prostitute to "sin no more."  He didn't say to her to go out and continue sexual misconduct that was sinful.  He did the opposite, with a forgiving heart.

So if you must say Christians are "anti" anything, it would be more accurate to say that Christians are anti-sodomy, anti-sexual promiscuity, anti-adultery, anti-prostitution, anti-homosexual activity, and anti-sinful behaviors.  It is not accurate to say they are homophobes or the like.

And, yes, these are legitimate religious beliefs because they are sinful behaviors.  As Christians often say, "You can love the sinner, but hate the sin."  A homosexual person is not a "sinner" by being homosexual; but they can become sinners by engaging in homosexual activities.

quote:
2) The government isn't mandating what you believe, at least not in this case.  You can believe what you choose; it's your behavior that matters.


Exactly.  And the Supreme Court rightly held that the government cannot force you to pay for someone else to do something that violates your religion.  That's what Obamacare did.  It mandated funding (i.e., behavior) that violated religious principles.
Grandmaster Cain
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Fri 18 Jul 2014
at 05:48
  • msg #187

Re: Marriage Equality

quote:
That's actually not true.  Not only is it debatably not "stupid" since vaccinations are part of a large controversy, but you can simply sign a waiver and don't need to get them.

First of all, there's no controversy, at least where medical science is concerned.  Second, while the exact requirements vary from state to state, it's not as simple as "sign a waiver".  In Washington, you need express permission from a doctor to not get them, and a lot more to get a kid in school without them.
quote:
Hobby Lobby:  The Hobby Lobby case is not about access to birth control, but about who should pay for it.  The Supreme Court held that "persons" (which include closely held companies, typically a family owned company like Hobby Lobby) cannot be compelled to pay for someone else to do something for which they have a legitimate religious prohibition from doing themselves.  Let's put it this way:  if the government said you have to pay for "thieving tools" for your employee to specifically rob a store, you shouldn't have to pay for those tools if you believe in "thou shalt not steal."  Same idea.

Yeah, and that's severely problematical for a lot of reasons.

Let's say you work for a Jehovah's Witness.  You get in a car wreck and need a blood transfusion.  They don't believe in them, so your insurance won't cover it, which means you need to pay or die.

Or, your boss is a Buddhist and a vegan.  She doesn't believe she should pay for any animal products.  You're diabetic and insulin dependent, but since that's grown from animal cells, your insurance won't cover it.

The other problem is that, in order to show you have a legitimate religious prohibition, you have to prove it to the court.  You now need to justify your religious beliefs to a judge before you qualify.  That's another serious issue.

quote:
Anti-Gay Discrimination:  This is the most misunderstood and misrepresented controversial topic in the news today.  I do not believe good Christians believe in discriminating against homosexuals.  They don't.  What they believe in doing is protecting against sinful behaviors.

Yeah, nice hair to split.  So, let's take it back to the example that spawned this: a lesbian couple approached a bakery for a wedding cake.  How exactly is refusing to make them a cake "protecting against sinful behaviors"?

You can't say it's because you disapprove of their wedding; that would be discrimination, and as you pointed out, that's not good christian behavior.  You're also not stopping them from having sex.  Really, you don't have any religious grounds to deny them a cake at all-- the bible is silent on the topic of lesbians, any ideas about them is based on extrapolation, not the written word.

I agree with you that the bible doesn't support anti-gay discrimination.  If there's something you object to, you treat them the same as you'd treat anyone else.  You might say something, but your actions need to be the same for everyone.
Heath
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Tue 22 Jul 2014
at 18:35
  • msg #188

Re: Marriage Equality

Grandmaster Cain:
Let's say you work for a Jehovah's Witness.  You get in a car wreck and need a blood transfusion.  They don't believe in them, so your insurance won't cover it, which means you need to pay or die. 


Actually, that's a different scenario.  It would go to the issue of whether funding others to get blood transfusions violates their religion.  I don't think it does.  We're talking about the act of funding a certain behavior with your own money being "sinful" according to your religion, not the behavior itself.

Regardless, until Obamacare passed, employers were not required to provide any of this.  So really, it's a non-ssue as to these types of arguments.  If it never rose before Obamacare, then unless it's a new requirement, it won't be an issue now.  Remember that this is with respect to a NEW law with NEW requirements.  All the Hobby Lobby case suggests is that the status quo prior to Obamacare with respect to certain religious aspects needs to stay in place, rather than forcing NEW requirements on them to do things that are against their religion.

[quote]Anti-Gay Discrimination:Yeah, nice hair to split.  So, let's take it back to the example that spawned this: a lesbian couple approached a bakery for a wedding cake.  How exactly is refusing to make them a cake "protecting against sinful behaviors"?  </quote>

That's actually a completely different issue.  By conflating issues, you are creating confusing arguments that don't relate to the actual issue.

The issue there is discrimination in the public forum, not complying with new legal requirements imposed by Obamacare.

But regardless, the argument still holds.  Participating for profit or otherwise in a marriage ceremony results in supporting gay sex...because ultimately one of the characteristics of marriage is society not only condoning, but actually supporting sex between the partners.  Therefore, they opted out of participating in a ceremony (even if they would lose profits) that would result in the promotion of a "sinful" act--homosexual sex.

But again, that is a discrimination case at the core, not a religious violation case like Hobby Lobby.  The question is must you perform "for profit" services to promote sinful behaviors when you perform the same services for marriages that do not promote the sinful behavior, or is that unlawful discrimination?  I think the answer to that is a much closer call than the answer to the Hobby Lobby issue, which I think was a slam dunk that SCOTUS got right.
Heath
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Tue 22 Jul 2014
at 18:45
  • msg #189

Re: Marriage Equality

Let's put these cases in the context of a Jesus scenario.  Jesus told the prostitute to go forth and sin no more, loving her as a person while still condemning the sin.

Now, if the Roman Empire then required Jesus to go to the brothel and both pay for and pass out condoms to support the brothel to make it a little more safe, this would likely violate his religious freedoms.  He would be sending a mixed message of "prostitution is sinful" with "here are condoms for your prostitution work."

Would he be within his right to freedom of religion to refuse to support the brothel with his money and his presence there passing out condoms?

What if the Roman Empire required Jesus to go around and forgive all prostitutes, even those who weren't repentant?  (This is similar to requiring churches to conduct gay marriage ceremonies.)

What if the Roman Empire told Jesus he had to make crosses to murder all lepers just because they had leprosy? Would he be within his rights to refuse because it is murder?

To those who do not hold the same Christian morality, it is easy to condemn those who do not want to participate in what would be considered supporting sinful behaviors.  But the analogies can be pushed out to almost any religious belief system, and at some point any rational person will say that an individual should not be forced to participate contrary to his moral conscience.  The difference lies in imposition of subjective views on others.
katisara
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Tue 22 Jul 2014
at 20:41
  • msg #190

Re: Marriage Equality

Regarding Jesus paying money to support brothels, he did actually have a quote on paying money to support activities he didn't agree with. I believe it went 'render unto Caesar what is Caesar's'.
Heath
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Tue 22 Jul 2014
at 20:53
  • msg #191

Re: Marriage Equality

I thought of that, but that isn't quite the same.  That's taxes.

Taxes, legally, tend to fall under a generalized category, since they do not pertain to any one item, but are instead spread out over many categories that are inseparable.  That is why taxpayers cannot sue the government regarding their share of taxes.

So if Jesus were asked to pay his share of taxes, and some unmarked portion of those taxes went to support brothels, then I would agree with you.  If he was asked to directly give money to brothels not by way of taxes, then that is separate.
TheMonk
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Wed 23 Jul 2014
at 15:20
  • msg #192

Re: Marriage Equality

Jesus paid for the production of crosses through taxes.

The support of birth control wasn't direct either. It was part of a larger package of health care.
Grandmaster Cain
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Wed 23 Jul 2014
at 19:50
  • msg #193

Re: Marriage Equality

quote:
Actually, that's a different scenario.  It would go to the issue of whether funding others to get blood transfusions violates their religion.  I don't think it does.  We're talking about the act of funding a certain behavior with your own money being "sinful" according to your religion, not the behavior itself.

That's debatable, but rather than get caught up in a specific example, let's use a different one.  Let's say your boss is Buddhist and vegan.  Certain branches of Buddhism are very strongly vegan, and have plenty of support for that view from various Buddhist texts.  You have diabetes and are insulin dependent; but insulin is made from animal sources, so your boss objects to paying for for it as it goes against their religious and moral beliefs.

Or even better, let's say your boss is Christian Scientist, or another branch that doesn't believe in modern medicine at all.  They think supporting the medical/industrial complex is evil, so they refuse to get any insurance for you at all.

Those are just a couple of examples of what the Hobby Lobby case opens.

quote:
That's actually a completely different issue.  By conflating issues, you are creating confusing arguments that don't relate to the actual issue.

The issue there is discrimination in the public forum, not complying with new legal requirements imposed by Obamacare.

Got it, you hate the Affordable Care Act and are using buzzwords instead of a rational argument.

Heath, the argument was *about* discrimination, specifically the bakery.  The Hobby Lobby case was a tangent.  I'm not conflating examples, you're focusing on the wrong one.  This thread is titled "marriage equality"; the main argument is about marriage and related issues.  Hobby Lobby was a later tangent, and the ACA has nothing to do with marriage at all.

quote:
But regardless, the argument still holds.  Participating for profit or otherwise in a marriage ceremony results in supporting gay sex...because ultimately one of the characteristics of marriage is society not only condoning, but actually supporting sex between the partners.  Therefore, they opted out of participating in a ceremony (even if they would lose profits) that would result in the promotion of a "sinful" act--homosexual sex.

What's the practical difference between that and discrimination?  I don't think there is one.

Fact is, though, they don't have a biblical leg to stand on.  The bible says nothing about lesbian sex, that's an assumption later people made.  You can't claim the bible says it's sinful, or that there's any prohibition against women marrying each other.

And remember, many denominations have now expressly forbidden discrimination against gays.  I posted the link the Vatican law earlier; Catholics are expressly forbidden from even looking like they're prejudiced against gay people.

And now, you might say, but what if they're not one of those denominations?  Well, that's what Google is for, tracking down this case wasn't too hard: http://www.wweek.com/portland/...service_to_gays.html

quote:
Aaron and Melissa Klein are currently accepting donations through their church, Portland's Lynchwood Church of God, under the name Klein's Support Fund. The church is not affiliated with the account in any way, says Lynchwood secretary Fern Beck, and the church does not discriminate against homosexuals who wish to attend.

"We feel that that is not the right kind of lifestyle," says Beck, "but we don’t stand in judgment of people."


So, they can't say they're doing this because it's expected of them by their church.  They're doing it because they're being discriminatory, which is not just illegal, it's unchristian.
This message was lightly edited by the player at 19:51, Wed 23 July 2014.
Grandmaster Cain
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Tue 21 Oct 2014
at 01:32
  • msg #194

Re: Marriage Equality

Thought this might be pertinent:  RPOL won't let me post the link, but there's a chapel in Idaho facing fines for refusing to perform a gay marriage:

quote:
While some might be wondering why ordained ministers are purportedly being forced to marry gay couples, consider that the Hitching Post Wedding Chapel, which opened in 1989, is a for-profit business, which means it is not exempt from local nondiscrimination regulations.

This one gets tricky.  If they're really a religious group, they should incorporate AS SUCH.  But they're a for-profit business, which in Idaho, means they can't claim a religious exemption.
Tycho
GM, 3948 posts
Tue 21 Oct 2014
at 10:56
  • msg #195

Re: Marriage Equality

From what little I read of it, it sounded like they had re-structured their business intentionally to cause this conflict, and thus take it to court.  I guess in the legal war over same-sex marriage there will inevitably be many battles; some of them even after almost everyone else has decided the war is over.

Legally I don't think they have much chance with this case.  Being a religious person doesn't mean your business gets to break the law.  As GMC said, if you want the benefit of exceptions given to religious institutions, create a religious institution.  If you want the benefits of incorporating as a for-profit business, then incorporate as a for-profit business.  These are two different things, and they come with different benefits and restrictions.  Pick which ones are most important to you and play by the rules of whichever you pick.

Sort of looks like someone who's always had the law on their side suddenly realize the law has changed.  They've had the law agree with them for so long that they think it's their right to have their opinion be the law.  I suppose these kinds of cases are probably inevitable when there are big legal changes like this, but it seems like a bit of a waste of everyone's time.
katisara
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Tue 21 Oct 2014
at 13:43
  • msg #196

Re: Marriage Equality

I'd tend to agree from the legal standpoint, but it does bring up some questions still (including how much power a private business has in selecting its clientele). I know this was brought up previously with the baker.

I do think people have a right to not do business with someone they find morally reprehensible. If Hitler walked into my cookie shop, I would decline to do service with him. Businesses can decline service with people who are too young or too old or who smell funny or aren't wearing shoes. Yes, some classes are protected--I can't choose not to do business with you because you're white, for instance. But I can choose not to if you're breaking windows (even if you are white).

This enters into a weird space because, as a culture, we make so little separation between 'homosexual' and 'homosexual activity'. (There's no such thing as 'white activity', so that doesn't quite compare!) I think it's reasonable to say people cannot kick someone out of the store because they self-identify themselves as homosexual. But it IS reasonable if they say they're going to use your products for homosexual activity.

In the case of the bakery, there was some dispute about whether two women walking into a bakery in wedding dresses shopping for wedding cakes and holding hands all the time might use said cake in their homosexual activity (specifically, a homosexual marriage). But I'm feeling *pretty* confident that we can tell that for certain when the business is a wedding chapel.
Grandmaster Cain
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Tue 21 Oct 2014
at 13:59
  • msg #197

Re: Marriage Equality

Actually, you can't discriminate against people because they're too old.  Age discrimination is a real thing, and older people found it was very hard to get jobs, especially if they had been retired but needed to start working again.  Hence, laws against age discrimination were passed.

However, regarding the use someone wants to put your products toward, I'm not at all sure there's any exceptions.  Gun shops sell legal weapons to all kinds of people, and they cannot be held responsible (morally or otherwise) to how their products are used.  Every single mass shooting in the US for the last 20 or so years was done with legally purchased firearms, but no ones is holding the gun sellers responsible.  (Nor should they, IMO.)  So, if they sell a gun to someone who blatantly states that they're going to rob a liquor store, I don't think the gun store owners are responsible in any way.

What it comes to is, unless there's a good business reason to discriminate, you should not discriminate.  For example, auto sellers might refuse to do business with people with bad credit.  They can point to a very reasonable explanation for why they do so.  From that standpoint, there is no good reason to discriminate against homosexuals.  Their objections are entirely personal in nature, which is fine in your personal life, but should not carry over into professional work.
Grandmaster Cain
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Tue 21 Oct 2014
at 14:11
  • msg #198

Re: Marriage Equality

I decided to go digging for examples; I found one case that might explain things, but I can't find an unbiased news source on it.  Sara Hellwege, a nurse-midwife, is suing a women's health clinic in Florida because they wouldn't hire her.  The issue is that Hellwege is a strong christian, and refuses to prescribe any medical birth control or discuss abortion.  Which is fine in a personal practice, but as this clinic's business centers around prescribing birth control and discussing options, she was not hires.

While this case is likely to get dismissed out of hand, it shows us that our personal beliefs sometimes conflict with our professional duties.  If that happens, you can either bite the bullet and do it, or leave your job.  In the Idaho case, if you are running a for-profit wedding chapel, you have to acknowledge that you need to perform weddings for everyone, including homosexuals.  If your personal views are strong enough that you feel you can't do that, then you need to change your line of work: go fully religious, or sell the business and do something else.
katisara
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Tue 21 Oct 2014
at 18:08
  • msg #199

Re: Marriage Equality

The gun example doesn't quite apply. I'm pretty sure a legal gun store wouldn't sell a gun to someone who said "I am going to go shoot up a school! What's the best gun for shooting up schools?" There's a difference between 'I do know (or suspect) what the product will be used for, what rights do I have' and 'I do not know, what responsibilities do I have to determine it prior to sale'.

The nurse example also doesn't quite apply. I agree with you that if you're applying for a job that includes duties that violate your religious beliefs, the job is warranted in declining to hire you. This is the right of businesses (and business owners) to hire people who they think are best able to perform the duties, and not hire people who cannot. But in this case, the people in question owned the chapel. No one hired them; they own it. No one is asking if they should fire themselves :)

So on both of your points, I guess I disagree. While they're related, they don't quite apply.
hakootoko
player, 154 posts
Tue 21 Oct 2014
at 20:55
  • msg #200

Re: Marriage Equality

As far as I understand, the Hobby Lobby birth control case was an extension of an existing law that allowed family owned businesses religious-based exemptions that were then extended to exemptions for family owned corporations.

I know this thread isn't about birth control, but it is similar in that these people running a for-profit business have religious reasons for their actions.
PeaceLoveScience
player, 6 posts
Agnostic Atheist
Med. Biochemistry, B.S.
Wed 22 Oct 2014
at 04:30
  • msg #201

Re: Marriage Equality

Grandmaster Cain:
Gun shops sell legal weapons to all kinds of people, and they cannot be held responsible (morally or otherwise) to how their products are used.  Every single mass shooting in the US for the last 20 or so years was done with legally purchased firearms, but no ones is holding the gun sellers responsible.  (Nor should they, IMO.)  So, if they sell a gun to someone who blatantly states that they're going to rob a liquor store, I don't think the gun store owners are responsible in any way.


I actually disagree on this point. Anyone that sells a product with the potential for enabling harm has a moral responsibility to ensure that their product is used for societal good-- not evil. One cannot enable immorality and still be a moral person, even if it is legal to do so. If I am asked to sell Sudafed (pseudoephedrine) to someone that I think is going to use it for something other than a legitimate, medical purpose, I have a moral responsibility to protect the public, and should refuse the sale. Likewise, if the owner of a gun shop is asked to sell a firearm to someone that he/she believes is going to use that firearm for something other than that which is good and moral, then that person has a moral responsibility to protect the public. Whether or not there is a legal responsibility is irrelevant.

quote:
What it comes to is, unless there's a good business reason to discriminate, you should not discriminate.  For example, auto sellers might refuse to do business with people with bad credit.  They can point to a very reasonable explanation for why they do so.  From that standpoint, there is no good reason to discriminate against homosexuals.  Their objections are entirely personal in nature, which is fine in your personal life, but should not carry over into professional work.


Here, I absolutely agree with you. (: Even as a health professional, I do not believe that health professionals should discriminate on the basis of personal (religious) objections; e.g., it is unprofessional for a pharmacist to refuse to dispense birth-control medications, or the "morning after pill." It's no different than refusing to fill prescriptions for adherents of other religions. One must take the patient's beliefs first regarding political and religious ideas (within reason). Obviously, if one's religious beliefs are to concoct methamphetamine then there's a problem, but the morality is otherwise black and white: a seller of a product has a moral responsibility to ensure that their product is used for societal good, not evil, and should act in interest of the patient, as well as society as a whole, deferring to the patient's personal beliefs within reason.
katisara
GM, 5677 posts
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Wed 22 Oct 2014
at 19:06
  • msg #202

Re: Marriage Equality

PeaceLoveScience:
but the morality is otherwise black and white: a seller of a product has a moral responsibility to ensure that their product is used for societal good, not evil,


I firmly believe that abortion is evil for society, with the same level of belief that you believe drug abuse is evil. Ergo, I clearly should block the sale of abortificants.
PeaceLoveScience
player, 7 posts
Agnostic Atheist
Med. Biochemistry, B.S.
Wed 22 Oct 2014
at 21:04
  • msg #203

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 202):

The objection to drug abuse is to protect the patient/society-- withholding sale is a medical necessity. The concept of abortion/personhood is a religious/political matter, and should be treated as such; ergo, defer to the patient's morality/politics.

There's a clear difference between using one's profession to safeguard the public and using it as a pulpit from which to preach morality. Whether or not a pharmacist believes that "abortion" is an evil for society, or whether or not an emergency contraceptive like Plan B is an abortifacient (by the way, it isn't), has no place in performing one's professional duty to the health of the individual and the public at large.
Grandmaster Cain
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Meddling son of
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Wed 22 Oct 2014
at 22:16
  • msg #204

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
PeaceLoveScience:
but the morality is otherwise black and white: a seller of a product has a moral responsibility to ensure that their product is used for societal good, not evil,


I firmly believe that abortion is evil for society, with the same level of belief that you believe drug abuse is evil. Ergo, I clearly should block the sale of abortificants.

I disagree that selling or endorsing a product gives you the moral responsibility over how it's used, but that's a tangent.


More to the point, if you have moral objections to something, you should avoid it in your professional life.  For example, if you're a strict pacifist, you should not be looking for work at a gun shop.  In katisara's case, he probably should not get a job at a woman's health clinic, or other place where they prescribe birth control or plan B.  Your job is not a place where your religious beliefs should dominate.

Now, up to this point, running a wedding chapel business meant you would never have to deal with gay weddings.   However, the law has changed, so you may want to reconsider staying in that business.
This message was last edited by the player at 22:18, Wed 22 Oct 2014.
katisara
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Thu 23 Oct 2014
at 15:19
  • msg #205

Re: Marriage Equality

I've been a doctor for twenty years. I went into it because I want to help people. But abortion pretty clearly kills one of the patients. That isn't political or religious, it's medical fact. Clearly I should deny it.

However, marijuana has no significant health impacts. If someone is buying medical marijuana for a clearly non-medical purpose, I have a *legal* responsibility to speak up, but medically none at all.
PeaceLoveScience
player, 8 posts
Agnostic Atheist
Med. Biochemistry, B.S.
Thu 23 Oct 2014
at 18:54
  • msg #206

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 205):

That's still a political/religious issue, not a medical fact. Whether or not a zygote/embryo/fetus has achieved personhood, and thus qualifies as a "patient," is a matter of philosophy/religion-- not fact. The mere fact that it is "alive" doesn't make it a patient; e.g., tumors too are alive, but not patients. It makes much more sense to defer to the morality of the patient in issues that are not medically-relevant, like this one.

Marijuana hasn't been studied enough to determine if it has no significant health impacts. Although the research certainly isn't finished on this topic, there's definitely reason to be suspicious. There are cannabinoid receptors in the brain, so-named because they can be acted upon by Cannabis. These receptors are important, and playing with the chemistry of one's brain, especially when we don't really know what will happen, isn't exactly recommended.

There's some research out there already that suggests a link between psychosis and cannabis, as well as the usual things you'd expect (impacts on memory, etc), and I've heard a variety of perspectives on it; some think that marijuana use can cause psychosis, others think that it simply accelerates psychosis in certain people, and some are actually interested in possibly using marijuana (or, at least, some compounds within it) to treat psychosis.

If someone is buying marijuana, medical or otherwise, the medical professional does have a responsibility to speak up on the basis of a legitimate, medical concern.
katisara
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Thu 23 Oct 2014
at 19:14
  • msg #207

Re: Marriage Equality

Personhood isn't a medical term. I also don't define 'patient' as 'the person who is paying me'. A fetus is a separate individual from the mother, and is alive. These are medical facts. Ergo, your definition of personhood is one of your personal political and religious beliefs, despite your wishes that they be objective.

Or, to be more meta, your claim that we as service providers should do only 'objective' good, but not good based on religious or political beliefs, is clearly flawed. There is no accepted 'objective' good, and peoples' definitions of good are intrinsically tied with their religious and political beliefs (I've yet to meet anyone who votes or attends church believing they are doing evil).

If your belief is that service providers have the obligation to ensure their business only supports societal good, that necessarily implies that they have the right to define what is 'morally good', AND that that definition may not agree with yours.
Heath
GM, 5259 posts
Thu 23 Oct 2014
at 20:21
  • msg #208

Re: Marriage Equality

To the original question about the Idaho couple to be prosecuted (sorry, I didn't read the intervening posts):

I think that they have a good chance legally.  This falls under the Hobby Lobby type of idea that a person, including a closely held corporation (or other legal "persons"), cannot be forced to perform contrary to their personal conscience, and cannot be punished for it.

This kind of case is different from other similar ones in the news.  For example, the people who won't make a cake for a couple getting married.  In those cases, baking the cake and providing it is not an act against their conscience -- the marriage itself is.  In other words, they are a step removed.  Not providing the cake is simply discrimination.  And since they are not part of performing the wedding or getting married, that is a completely different situation from a couple like this that actually performs the wedding and therefore validates and executes the very deed that violates their religious mandates.  Performing the wedding by the very nature of the act forces the couple to do something that violates their religious dictates.

My bets are that the Idaho couple wins.
Grandmaster Cain
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Thu 23 Oct 2014
at 22:40
  • msg #209

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 207):

With no disrespect meant, katisara, I doubt anyone will change your mind on abortion.  It's a very polarized issue.

But, what it means is that while no one should ask you to perform an abortion, you probably shouldn't try to get a job at an abortion clinic.  And it should go without saying that it's not ok to firebomb a clinic.

What's happening here is analogous to you working at a clinic, which suddenly decides to offer abortions.  Because the situation has changed, and your job requires you to support something you don't believe in, you're in a hard spot.  You may be forced to quit, which is bad, but might be your best option.
PeaceLoveScience
player, 9 posts
Agnostic Atheist
Med. Biochemistry, B.S.
Fri 24 Oct 2014
at 03:56
  • msg #210

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Personhood isn't a medical term. I also don't define 'patient' as 'the person who is paying me'. A fetus is a separate individual from the mother, and is alive. These are medical facts. Ergo, your definition of personhood is one of your personal political and religious beliefs, despite your wishes that they be objective.


By "personhood," I'm referring to that quality which makes a "person," and only people can be patients, after all. I wouldn't define "patient" on a cost-basis either (wouldn't the insurance companies just love that?), but I also don't see a reason to inject my own, personal beliefs regarding what defines a "person" when dealing with patients. Of course I have my own definition of personhood, which may differ from my patient's; that doesn't mean that I should then refuse treatment, thereby overruling my patient's political/religious beliefs on this issue. It's disrespectful to the patient, is medically unnecessary, and is frankly unprofessional to do so.

katisara:
Or, to be more meta, your claim that we as service providers should do only 'objective' good, but not good based on religious or political beliefs, is clearly flawed. There is no accepted 'objective' good, and peoples' definitions of good are intrinsically tied with their religious and political beliefs (I've yet to meet anyone who votes or attends church believing they are doing evil).


Whether or not there is an "objective good" is irrelevant to this discussion. Of course, people are going to inform their beliefs based upon their religious/political preferences-- and health care professionals are people too. However, the question is about whether or not a professional should overrule the belief of a patient. I would argue that it is necessary to do so only when medically relevant (e.g., in the case of drug abuse), but not so when the matter of opinion is merely a political one.

Medical professionals have a duty to the public, not to a political party or an ideology. If you think that I'm asking a health professional to suspend their own morality in these cases, in favor of the patient's, you're absolutely correct. That is what being a professional is all about; seeing past politics, religion, race, and all of those other factors, in an attempt to act as close to an objective source of medical expertise as humanly possible. If I let my own political views get in the way of my service to a patient, then I've failed the public in my responsibilities.

katisara:
If your belief is that service providers have the obligation to ensure their business only supports societal good, that necessarily implies that they have the right to define what is 'morally good', AND that that definition may not agree with yours.


The belief that service providers have the obligation to ensure that their businesses support the general welfare of society does not, by any means, imply that they themselves should be given the right to define what is "morally good" for everyone else. Unless the good of the public is at risk, one should really defer to the patient's beliefs. This is what I meant when I said that one should defer to the patient's morality within reason. Of course, we can quibble about whether or not "abortion" is a "societal good" or not, and thus whether or not physicians should provide abortion services if it goes against their own beliefs, but that entire discussion is irrelevant to my point because the issue itself, that of abortion, is itself an inherently political/religious one.

I'm a believer in the objective nature of all things, whether that be political truths, religious truths, etc, but that's different from saying that it is possible to know objective truth itself. So, while I would assert that a particular religious view can only be objectively true or untrue, I will not assert the validity of that view one way or the other with objective certainty.

Providers, should they wish to be professional, should recognize the unfortunate, subjective nature of our existence, and act within reason to safeguard the public good. Sure, that does indeed ultimately come down to individual providers attempting to ascertain what is "objectively good" for society, but that requires that they actually think objectively when they do so; i.e., make a decision regardless of their own political/religious views.

I feel like we're talking about the definition of pornography. While I can easily say that there must necessarily exist a line that separates that which is pornographic and that which is not, I will not claim to know where that line exactly falls. Is an artistic nude pornography? Does the artist's intent matter? There is some ambiguity that we, as humans, have trouble sorting out (despite the fact that an objective truth must exist-- its existence depends not on if it is obtainable). When trying to define pornography, should I insert my own personal biases if I want to approach objectivity? Of course not, and the same can be said of a service provider. Biases aside, one makes a rational decision, even if it is difficult to draw the line of what is objectively "good" for society and what is not. Despite the uncertainty, I don't think that a provider should have any difficulty discerning whether or not it would be to a greater societal detriment to allow a patron to purchase a gun with the stated intent of cutting down a grade-school classroom, nor of a pharmacist in deciding whether or not to allow a patient to make a decision on a medication for emergency contraception based upon their own conscious, rather than that of the pharmacist his or herself, or for a doctor in decided whether or not to provide an abortion two weeks after conception.
Heath
GM, 5260 posts
Fri 24 Oct 2014
at 16:16
  • msg #211

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg # 209):

Are we talking about the Idaho situation?

If so, I have to disagree with your abortion analogy.  If someone owns and operates a wedding chapel because they believe that marriage is ordained of God, they are doing it based on their religious background.  If the government intercedes and tells them that the only way they can meet their religious prerogative to ensure people are married (before having sex, procreating, etc.) is if they also do something that directly contravenes the religious tenet that is behind the activity (by forcing them to perform homosexual marriages), then it directly affects their constitutional rights.

They don't just "work at" the wedding chapel, they own and run it.  The wedding chapel did not change what it does--the government changed its requirements in a way that infringes on their religious freedoms.

So I think the abortion analogy is flawed from a number of angles.  This is more like the Hobby Lobby case.  If you provide medical insurance/services, and the government FORCES you to perform or provide for abortions, which are contrary to your religious beliefs, then we have a constitutional violation.  The government cannot impose such a restriction.
katisara
GM, 5680 posts
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Fri 24 Oct 2014
at 17:11
  • msg #212

Re: Marriage Equality

I half agree with Heath (and GMC) so far.

In this case, the owners OWN the business. This is not quite analogous to someone who works at a clinic someone else owns. If you work at a clinic and they decide they're going to offer abortions/eat ham sandwiches on Friday/work on Sundays, and that doesn't work for you for religious reasons, the onus is on you to make it work. I do believe in reasonable accommodations (so if eating ham sandwiches is not part of their core business and they can offer vegetarian sandwiches at minimal additional cost, the ham sandwiches shouldn't be grounds for your termination). But if you're working at a medical clinic and abortions is just what they do, you should expect to be fired (yes, for standing up for your beliefs).

However, if you OWN the clinic, I don't know what business the government has telling you how you should run your business. Unless you are working directly for the government, they have no right to fire you. The wedding chapel people OWNED the chapel, so it's none of the government's business who they do or don't marry (barring a limited set of protected classes).

On the other hand, this was not a religious chapel. Heath's comment about ordinations and religious backgrounds do not apply because they are not registered or recognized as religious. If I set up a religious pasta shop which only serves Pastafarian religious services, I get certain protections respective to my role. If I'm just a pasta shop, I'm just a pasta shop, and those protections do not apply.

Heath, knowing that this is registered as a secular chapel, not as part of a registered religion, does this change your opinion at all?



PeaceLoveScience:
By "personhood," ...


I brought up abortion for a specific purpose--to show that your 'objective' morals do not exist. Suffice to say, you think it is obvious that this is a 'political/religious' issue. Meanwhile, I know plenty of people who think it is is obvious by the facts that a fetus is a person, or that a fetus is not a person, without respect to politics or religion. I think you know this is the case as well. However, because it's off-tangent, I'm not going to pursue it further in this thread. But I'd be happy to follow up in another thread if you'd like.

quote:
I would argue that it is necessary to do so only when medically relevant (e.g., in the case of drug abuse), but not so when the matter of opinion is merely a political one.


And I still think you're totally missing the point. If I honestly, without political or religious bias, (if such a thing could exist) believe XXX belief (you can insert whatever you like), then I am morally OBLIGATED by your own reasoning to not offer, or even directly impede, that activity.

And here's the thing; you do not get to decide which beliefs are 'relevant', 'objective', 'political', or 'religious'.

This applies just as much here in the marriage case. I believe homosexual marriage seriously hurts the people getting married. I can google plenty of studies which support my hypothesis. Therefore, I should do the extra due diligence to ensure my services are not used in a way that may cause societal harm. You may disagree, but then we're just two adults disagreeing on matters of philosophy, and we know how often those are settled with a single, definitive answer.

Given the history of the argument, I actually have to turn it around; do you believe that the anti-homosexual marriage/anti-abortion/pro-drug abuse/whatever you disagree with crowd know there's no factual basis for their argument? Do you think they hold that position for purely religious or political reasons? And that, if only they would dismiss those religious/political reasons, they'd all agree with you?


quote:
The belief that service providers have the obligation to ensure that their businesses support the general welfare of society does not, by any means, imply that they themselves should be given the right to define what is "morally good" for everyone else. Unless the good of the public is at risk, one should really defer to the patient's beliefs.


The issue here is you immediately fall back when it comes drug abuse. "We should defer to the patient in all things--except drug abuse, OBVIOUSLY".

You are making a moral judgment about when it is okay to make moral judgments. That doesn't work. You can't defer to the patient in everything, except when it's convenient to you.


quote:
I feel like we're talking about the definition of pornography.


This is another great example, and I think it works precisely against your argument.

Specifically, what may be pornography for you may be art for me. This isn't that it isn't art and one of us is wrong. It's that it simultaneously is, and is not art, based on context. Art is *defined* by the subjective experience. You can't say 'well, objectively speaking, this is art', because art is defined by the experience of the artist and of the viewer.

i.e., there is no line that separates what is pornography from what is not (or, there is, but you have a line, I have a different line, and Heath has a third line, which again is the definition of subjectivity).

PeaceLoveScience can't simply look at piece of work and say 'this is art!' 'this one is pornpgrahy!' and we all nod our heads and agree, this is objectively true. The objective truth, even if it does exist (which it doesn't in the art case), can't be pinned down, and when PeaceLoveScience says "toothbrush in vagina is pornography", and I say "it is art!", we are both equally justified in our claims. There is no way to settle it; not through vote or qualitative testing, nor killing me and burying me in a shallow grave. If you are seeking truth, you MUST accept that my view is equally valid, and warrants as much support, as your own (at least in this case).
Heath
GM, 5261 posts
Fri 24 Oct 2014
at 22:02
  • msg #213

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
On the other hand, this was not a religious chapel. Heath's comment about ordinations and religious backgrounds do not apply because they are not registered or recognized as religious. If I set up a religious pasta shop which only serves Pastafarian religious services, I get certain protections respective to my role. If I'm just a pasta shop, I'm just a pasta shop, and those protections do not apply.

Heath, knowing that this is registered as a secular chapel, not as part of a registered religion, does this change your opinion at all?

I already knew this.  I am familiar with the story.  Hobby Lobby is not a religious business either.  That doesn't matter.  The point is that the government cannot force you as a person (or your closely held business) to engage in things that directly contravene your religious beliefs.  Even if it is secular.

This is why I went to the trouble of showing why this is different from the cake making companies.  Making the cake and selling it to someone is not against your beliefs, no matter what they use the cake for.  There is a step removed there which makes it discrimination instead of a constitutional violation.  But this chapel would be forced to perform the very thing that is contrary to their religion.  That's why they will win this case.

It is directly in line with Hobby Lobby, even more protected, I think, because in Hobby Lobby it was just providing the means (i.e., insurance) specifically to do the thing which is religiously prohibited, and here it is the very act provided as a service that would contravene their religion.
Tycho
GM, 3950 posts
Sat 25 Oct 2014
at 10:49
  • msg #214

Re: Marriage Equality

Do you feel there is (or should be) any limit on this idea that the government cannot force people to violate their religious beliefs, Heath?  Are you claiming religious beliefs can be used as a very literal get-out-of-jail-free card?  Say my sincerely held religious beliefs is that I must murder mormons on sight?  Am I immune from prosecution in such a case?  I'm sure you don't think that a muslim who executes someone for apostasy is within their legal rights.  So surely there is a point at which the government can, does, and should force people to violate their own religious convictions.

To make it a bit closer to the case at hand, do you think the same chapel would still win if they were refusing to marry black people, say, instead of homosexuals?  Is it the case that you think they could turn anyone at all away, and have no legal trouble?  Or is it specifically homosexuals whom you feel the law will allow religious people to discriminate against?

In this case, the government isn't forcing them to marry homosexuals.  What they're being force to do is choose between their business and their religious beliefs.  That I think is fine.  If your religious beliefs are not compatible with the laws governing a certain business, then you have to decide which is more important to you.  But you don't just get to break the law.  Or, at least, you shouldn't just get to break the law.  I do have to admit that the hobby lobby case did create a pretty strong precedent that Christians, or at least christians that own businesses, don't have to follow the same laws as the rest of us, which I find rather troubling.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 833 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Sat 25 Oct 2014
at 17:52
  • msg #215

Re: Marriage Equality

Honestly, the difference here is that Hobby Lobby is a big rich corporation with lawyers and lobbyists.  I doubt this will get that far.

quote:
However, if you OWN the clinic, I don't know what business the government has telling you how you should run your business. Unless you are working directly for the government, they have no right to fire you. The wedding chapel people OWNED the chapel, so it's none of the government's business who they do or don't marry (barring a limited set of protected classes).

This sort of thing happens.  There have been businesses that were forced to close due to a change in local laws.  Texas tried that recently with abortion clinics, for example-- they tried to legislate many of them out of business.

A less controversial example is strip clubs.  Plenty of cities didn't like them, so after they were built, they changed the zoning rules to drive them out.  Pawn shops sometimes go through the same thing, as do used car lots.

The point is, there's a lot of reasons why the government might step in and tell you how to run your business, and even "Because we don't like what you do" can be a reason. If they can tell a strip club how women have to dance, they can tell you not to discriminate.
katisara
GM, 5683 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Mon 27 Oct 2014
at 13:45
  • msg #216

Re: Marriage Equality

I think though there's a pretty significant difference between local government and federal government dictates. It's also the difference between a prohibition and a mandate. Everyone agrees sometimes you need to be able to tell a business no, you can't build the tiger preserve next to the preschool. That isn't the same as saying that yes, you must provide your tigers with safety hats.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 834 posts
Meddling son of
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Mon 27 Oct 2014
at 18:28
  • msg #217

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
I think though there's a pretty significant difference between local government and federal government dictates. It's also the difference between a prohibition and a mandate. Everyone agrees sometimes you need to be able to tell a business no, you can't build the tiger preserve next to the preschool. That isn't the same as saying that yes, you must provide your tigers with safety hats.

What happens when it's already built?

For example, there was a case in Seattle many years ago, a strip club opened up on a naim road.  However, the residents didn't like it, so they used the fact that there was a school close by to change the zoning laws: now you can't operate a strip club within a half mile of a school.  This was done just to drive the club out of business.

The point is that laws change, and businesses have to adapt or close.  This happens for a lot of reasons, not all of which are religious.  In this case, a for-profit wedding chapel has to either change with the times, or change their business, by going non-profit.  Or, sell the business or close.  Either way, change is coming.
katisara
GM, 5684 posts
Conservative human
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Mon 27 Oct 2014
at 22:25
  • msg #218

Re: Marriage Equality

I don't have any issue legally with the fact that laws change and businesses have to adapt (although in practice it can frequently be a petty move). And the fact that the chapel was there 'first' doesn't have any bearing on my consideration in this particular case.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 835 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Mon 27 Oct 2014
at 22:50
  • msg #219

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 218):

Well, governments do have the right to say what businesses do, even as a privately owned entity.  Here, the law changed, and that means their business has to change as well.

I also suspect this company is trying to martyr themselves.  By the look of things, no one actually asked them to perform. Homosexual wedding; someone inquired if they did them, but that's not the same as actually trying to get services from thedm.  It'd be like you receiving a mass email looking for a doctor who did abortions, and showing up to your clinic demanding one.
katisara
GM, 5685 posts
Conservative human
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Mon 27 Oct 2014
at 23:02
  • msg #220

Re: Marriage Equality

Governments have the power, but that doesn't make it right (nor do they always have 'the right', depending on what is being legislated).

I do agree though that these guys were pretty much fishing for it.
PeaceLoveScience
player, 10 posts
Agnostic Atheist
Med. Biochemistry, B.S.
Tue 28 Oct 2014
at 02:16
  • msg #221

Re: Marriage Equality




Katisara:
I brought up abortion for a specific purpose--to show that your 'objective' morals do not exist.


Simply demonstrating that a difference of opinion exists does not disprove the existence of an objective truth among them. We know that two opinions are possible, in the basic dichotomy of "true" and "not true." This is true, whether we're talking about morals or not; a belief is either "right" or "not right" (if I can say as much without having to dive down the rabbit hole of "how do we know if something is morally right or not?"). It makes no difference how we define "right" and "wrong" (not right); i.e., with what context (belief system) we ascribe to each term. Just an objective truth must exist between right/wrong within a given belief system, so much given belief systems be subject to objectivity; a moral framework must be objectively moral or not, and the mere prevalence of multiple frameworks doesn't disprove this. To reiterate my point, demonstrating a difference of opinion doesn't mean that both opinions are equally valid, for if the difference is a true dichotomy then it must be so that only one of them is objectively true (to avoid a paradox).

katisara:
If I honestly, without political or religious bias, (if such a thing could exist) believe XXX belief (you can insert whatever you like), then I am morally OBLIGATED by your own reasoning to not offer, or even directly impede, that activity.

And here's the thing; you do not get to decide which beliefs are 'relevant', 'objective', 'political', or 'religious'.


One certainly is obligated to act upon what they view as moral. However, that doesn't make their actions "right." Although I, nor anyone else, get to individually define what beliefs are moral or not (although, I might ask, if not we, then whom?), that doesn't change the fact that actions must be objectively right or wrong. A person can act upon a given moral framework, obligating them to act in a given way, but there's a difference between acting consistently with one's beliefs and acting in accordance with objective truth.

Now, to reiterate, I'm not going to claim to know objective truth, or to claim that I or anyone else can access it. However, I find it impossible to deny that it must exist be necessity. As a human beings, admittedly fallible and subjective, should we not hold other human beings to this standard? Or would you prefer that we hold people to the standards (moral frameworks) they set for themselves? Such a relativistic view has no place in society.

katisara:
This applies just as much here in the marriage case. I believe homosexual marriage seriously hurts the people getting married. I can google plenty of studies which support my hypothesis. Therefore, I should do the extra due diligence to ensure my services are not used in a way that may cause societal harm. You may disagree, but then we're just two adults disagreeing on matters of philosophy, and we know how often those are settled with a single, definitive answer.


This is my point, however. One is welcome to believe that homosexual marriage seriously hurts the people getting married, and others may disagree, but that does not mean that both answers are valid. Regardless of our opinions, an objective truth must exist. If you claim that homosexual marriage is harmful, and I claim that it is not, we cannot both be right about our assertions, and whether or not one of us is correct is not a matter of opinion. The tendency for human beings to disagree and have differences of opinion is merely exemplary of our subjectivity.

katisara:
Given the history of the argument, I actually have to turn it around; do you believe that the anti-homosexual marriage/anti-abortion/pro-drug abuse/whatever you disagree with crowd know there's no factual basis for their argument? Do you think they hold that position for purely religious or political reasons? And that, if only they would dismiss those religious/political reasons, they'd all agree with you?


I certainly believe that people try to act in accordance with what they perceive to be truth or morally right. However, the fact that human beings can be convinced within the same universe to have a difference of opinions does not demonstrate that the morals themselves are relative issues rather than objective ones.

I'm unsure of what it means for a person to hold a position for "purely" religion/political reasons, but I think you mean to refer to personal biases. If so, I think you'd be hard pressed to find somebody that advocates for a position that they actually disagree with. I think that people make decisions based upon what they perceive to be a rational argument, though the rationality of their argument isn't demonstrated by virtue of its existence. You seem to be arguing that because one can perceive of a difference of opinion, there must be an rational argument in favor of the opinion, just as one can make an equally rational argument against the opinion, but that simply delegates one's preference to nothing but a matter of personal choice, preference, or bias. I am arguing the opposite; that, despite whether or not one can make a "rational argument" for/against a belief, the two positions are not equal, and there must necessarily exist an objective truth between them.

katisara:
The issue here is you immediately fall back when it comes drug abuse. "We should defer to the patient in all things--except drug abuse, OBVIOUSLY".

You are making a moral judgment about when it is okay to make moral judgments. That doesn't work. You can't defer to the patient in everything, except when it's convenient to you.


Drug abuse is a convenient example because it is practical. Drug abuse is either harmful or not harmful-- it cannot be both. We can discuss specific situations too (since, of course, actions do not happen in vacuums), but we could simply construct dichotomies for those as well (for example, rather than discuss if it objectively right or not right to kill, it is more practical to discuss situations in which we might examine the morality of killing in that circumstance, and then construct a dichotomy around that in the form of "it is either right or not right to kill in situation X").

It may seem like I'm making an exception within my own morality to defer to the beliefs of a patient in issues that do not put them (or others) at a medical risk, but I'm really not.

If I'm anti-contraceptives, for example, and my patient requests a contraceptive, I now have a conundrum: to I defer to the patient's morality, and provide them with the product, or do I disregard their morality as invalid, and refuse to provide them with the product? How should I go about making that decision? One must consider the welfare of the patient. While I would recognize that my beliefs dictate that the use of contraceptives is immoral, what medical basis to I have denying them the product? Because the difference is merely one of morality, and not medical science, the professional should defer to the patient's morality and provide them with the product.

Now consider a different situation, in similar format. If I'm anti-flu vaccine, and my patient requests an influenza vaccination, I have the same moral conundrum as before, but with a twist; I now have a medical objection to providing the vaccine (which may or may not be valid). The difference is not one of medical science (or, more specifically, my perception of it), and the professional, by their own morality framework, should disregard the patient's morality and refuse to provide them with the product.

I used that example because it points out a key point: our beliefs are indeed based upon perception, or our subjective beliefs. However, that does not mean that an objective truth doesn't exist. I used this example because we all know that medical science, as close to being objective as it can, favors providing an influenza vaccine, and so my, the professional in the example, decision was (now I use the term loosely) objectively wrong, despite the subjective (and morally consistent) choice I made in the example. This is how professionals (indeed, everyone) ought to act. However, what do we do about me, the anti-flu vaccine professional in the example? To what standard should you hold me; to my own moral framework, or that of what we determine to be closer to an objective one? While it's obvious that it can be very difficult to discern between what is closest to objective truth in some situations, we have a responsibility to try. We cannot simply hold people accountable to their own sense of morality; we must hold them to something higher, an objective morality, even if we admit that we cannot even know when we've gotten there, let alone reach it in the first place.

katisara:
This [the pornography analogy] is another great example, and I think it works precisely against your argument.

Specifically, what may be pornography for you may be art for me. This isn't that it isn't art and one of us is wrong. It's that it simultaneously is, and is not art, based on context. Art is *defined* by the subjective experience. You can't say 'well, objectively speaking, this is art', because art is defined by the experience of the artist and of the viewer.

i.e., there is no line that separates what is pornography from what is not (or, there is, but you have a line, I have a different line, and Heath has a third line, which again is the definition of subjectivity).

PeaceLoveScience can't simply look at piece of work and say 'this is art!' 'this one is pornpgrahy!' and we all nod our heads and agree, this is objectively true. The objective truth, even if it does exist (which it doesn't in the art case), can't be pinned down, and when PeaceLoveScience says "toothbrush in vagina is pornography", and I say "it is art!", we are both equally justified in our claims. There is no way to settle it; not through vote or qualitative testing, nor killing me and burying me in a shallow grave. If you are seeking truth, you MUST accept that my view is equally valid, and warrants as much support, as your own (at least in this case).


Art itself is a quality that is defined by subjective perception, not merely limited by it (as with every previous example). Whether or not something is dangerous to the health of a human being is defined by whether or not it endangers the life of a human being; in contrast, whether or not something is considered to be art is defined by whether or not someone considers it to be art. These are different matters entirely. It would make more sense to ask of someone's opinion; i.e., one either views something as art or does not, and only one of these opinions may be objective truth. If you prefer to understand it that way, art is a concept that is, in itself, a matter of aesthetics, and of opinion-- not fact.

However, I can also ask of "art itself," as I did with my pornography example, but we have to keep in mind how art is defined. I can still declare that something either is or isn't art, and that only one objective truth exists amongst them. Given that art is a quality defined by subjective perception, it would make sense that one can ascertain whether or not something objectively is or is not art by possessing all subjective perceptions; i.e., by polling every organism capable of making a determination within the universe, and tallying the vote. As I noted before, objective truth doesn't have to be obtainable-- it merely exists, and necessarily so.

You can declare that "toothbrush in vagina" is art, and I can (happily) dispute that claim, but only one of our opinions are objectively true. When we say "is art," we either mean "it is my opinion that this is art" (as in my first example) or "this is an example of art itself" (as in my second example).
katisara
GM, 5686 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 28 Oct 2014
at 14:56
  • msg #222

Re: Marriage Equality

PeaceLoveScience:
Simply demonstrating that a difference of opinion exists does not disprove the existence of an objective truth among them. We know that two opinions are possible, in the basic dichotomy of "true" and "not true."



Some issues here;
1) There are more than two opinions possible. If you demand we stick to binary, this is easily a gigabit problem. Your metric seems to be one of physical and psychological harm to the individual. If the question is 'legalize homosexual marriage', then the audience of that potential harm or benefit is 300 million people (those directly or indirectly influenced), and the benefits may be multiple; my home values go up because a homosexual couple can afford to move into the neighborhood, but my church is negatively impacted and spends more money on legal claims. Meanwhile my overall freedom (albeit, a qualitative measure) increases, but the security of my personal philosophies decreases. These are just four impacts for someone who isn't even directly getting married. There are of course many more; tax rates, insurance rates, overall health, population growth and demographic changes.

So while the question is (generally) binary; legalize homosexual marriage or not, the answer is definitely not. Legalizing helps Bob in A, B, C, harms him in D, E. It helps Jim in B, C, D, harms in A, E. Helps Sally in ... and so on.

In other words, the answer is *really* complicated. Saying it's binary is a gross simplification, and ultimately useless in reaching substantive answers.


2) Assuming objective truth exists (I'm not accepting this assumption, but let's move on), that doesn't mean it can be determined. To pick an easy one; is marijuana good or bad? We don't have enough testing done to have a conclusive answer. What about the morality of homosexual marriage? Because morality is so infrequently testable, we may *never* know the answer, even if an objective answer does exist.

3) You happily sidestep the question of "how do we know if something is morally right or not?" by pinning it on the belief system. But you fail to define which belief system is right. Morals, again, are generally untestable. We don't have any way to say that utilitarianism is right and Christian-based deontology is wrong. Until we settle on a belief system, the whole idea of proving things right or wrong within a belief system is useless.



quote:
Now, to reiterate, I'm not going to claim to know objective truth, or to claim that I or anyone else can access it. However, I find it impossible to deny that it must exist be necessity. As a human beings, admittedly fallible and subjective, should we not hold other human beings to this standard?


And this is basically the sum-total of the conflict.

You (and I) don't know what objective truth is, but we hold ourselves to enforcing it.


quote:
Or would you prefer that we hold people to the standards (moral frameworks) they set for themselves? Such a relativistic view has no place in society.


Since this is a direct question--I would like to maximize the ability of individuals to determine and follow their view of truth for themselves. Because I know I can't figure it out for myself, I certainly can't figure it out for anyone else.

So in my opinion, we need to limit laws to those that maximize the freedom of people to do their own thing. Behavior that limits the freedom of others (ex: murder, theft) obviously needs to be limited. You can't find truth if you're dead. But short of that, the less I enforce my belief on others, the better it is for both of us.



quote:
This is my point, however. One is welcome to believe that homosexual marriage seriously hurts the people getting married, and others may disagree, but that does not mean that both answers are valid. Regardless of our opinions, an objective truth must exist. If you claim that homosexual marriage is harmful, and I claim that it is not, we cannot both be right about our assertions, and whether or not one of us is correct is not a matter of opinion. The tendency for human beings to disagree and have differences of opinion is merely exemplary of our subjectivity.


(I believe I addressed this in my three points at the beginning of the post. However, it's worth noting--unlike drug abuse and abortion, this isn't a medical question at all--it's purely moral. Objective morals, if they do exist, are untestable, so they may as well not exist. In which case, we're back down to just opinions.)



quote:
I'm unsure of what it means for a person to hold a position for "purely" religion/political reasons, but I think you mean to refer to personal biases.


I'm using your words. Hence the request for clarification :)


quote:
You seem to be arguing that because one can perceive of a difference of opinion, there must be an rational argument in favor of the opinion, just as one can make an equally rational argument against the opinion, but that simply delegates one's preference to nothing but a matter of personal choice, preference, or bias. I am arguing the opposite; that, despite whether or not one can make a "rational argument" for/against a belief, the two positions are not equal, and there must necessarily exist an objective truth between them.



It really depends on the topic. In the case of 'do vaccines reduce disease', yes, there is an objective, testable truth, and we should probably stick to that. On the question of 'is homosexuality bad for the soul?' I don't know. It's not testable. There might not even be an objective truth. Perhaps we don't have souls? I've never seen a soul or put one on a scale. Without solid, given statements to build off of, any argument is equally valid (and invalid). Just like any mathematical equation works when you leave the number system undefined.




quote:
Drug abuse is a convenient example because it is practical. Drug abuse is either harmful or not harmful-- it cannot be both.


Your terms are poorly defined here.

Tylenol is harmful--in sufficient doses (which vary based on the individual) it can impair liver function and also serves to thin the blood. EVERYTHING is harmful. Oxygen is harmful.

The question isn't whether it's harmful (since the answer is 'yes'), but if the harm outweighs the benefits. Tylenol's harm is quite mild, with low risk of occurrence, however the painkilling benefits are clear and documented, and help relieve many ailments and otherwise improve human life.

If your sole argument is 'avoid harm', we should absolutely keep homosexual marriages illegal.


quote:
It may seem like I'm making an exception within my own morality to defer to the beliefs of a patient in issues that do not put them (or others) at a medical risk, but I'm really not.


The reason I brought up abortion is because it's still necessarily a moral question. Medical science does not define 'person'. It struggles to define what makes something an individual organism (as opposed to a sufficiently complicated outgrowth). As far as science is concerned, we're all just 'masses of cells'. In order to define if abortion is 'good' or 'bad', you must first define what is a 'person', and that is a moral, not a medical question.

Similarly, homosexual marriage is not a medical question, nor a scientific one. It can't be weighed or measured. The best we can do is subject it to case studies, but that still doesn't clarify whether homosexual sex is moral or not. We, as thinking humans, need to discuss to come to a common answer.



quote:
Given that art is a quality defined by subjective perception, it would make sense that one can ascertain whether or not something objectively is or is not art by possessing all subjective perceptions; i.e., by polling every organism capable of making a determination within the universe, and tallying the vote.


Are you literally suggesting that whether something is art or not should be determined by popular vote?!?
Grandmaster Cain
player, 836 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Tue 28 Oct 2014
at 23:02
  • msg #223

Re: Marriage Equality

quote:
Similarly, homosexual marriage is not a medical question, nor a scientific one. It can't be weighed or measured. The best we can do is subject it to case studies, but that still doesn't clarify whether homosexual sex is moral or not. We, as thinking humans, need to discuss to come to a common answer.

This is absolutely true.  To expand on it: there is a moral benefit to homosexual marriage, in that it allows consenting adults to express their love for each other in a culturally-acceptable fashion.  The objection is that some people thing gay sex is icky, which isn't actually supported by the bible. (Homosexual sex is forbidden to Jewish men, but most christians aren't Jewish, and those parts of Jewish law are frequently ignored anyway.  The bible is also silent on the topic of lesbian sex.)

quote:
Are you literally suggesting that whether something is art or not should be determined by popular vote?!?

I see where he's going with this, although I agree that this view is a bit extreme.  What constitutes good art is based on what is popular at the time.  My middle school daughter thinks Miley Cyrus and One Direction are great musical artists; I think that in middle school, good taste hasn't fully developed yet.

However, what is art is not a question anyone can answer.  It's not about popularity, since great art can be very unpopular, and even highly offensive.  The Mona Lisa wasn't considered to be very special until after Da Vinci died.  Ecce Homo is a beautiful arrangement, but it also angered a lot of people.  Basically, no one gets to decide what art actually is-- they can decide if it's popular art, but not if it's art.
Heath
GM, 5262 posts
Thu 30 Oct 2014
at 19:24
  • msg #224

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
Do you feel there is (or should be) any limit on this idea that the government cannot force people to violate their religious beliefs, Heath?  Are you claiming religious beliefs can be used as a very literal get-out-of-jail-free card?  Say my sincerely held religious beliefs is that I must murder mormons on sight?  Am I immune from prosecution in such a case?  I'm sure you don't think that a muslim who executes someone for apostasy is within their legal rights.  So surely there is a point at which the government can, does, and should force people to violate their own religious convictions. 

Tycho,
The issue here is whether a government can force you to do something that is against your religious beliefs, not whether a government can prevent you from doing something that you claim your religion says you must do.  These are two completely separate issues.

In other words, the limits of religious practice tend to disallow any religious practices that violate civil law, but civil law cannot violate unalienable rights.  The moment you begin forcing the government into people's practices in a way that forces them to violate their conscience by performing some act, you have a more contestable freedom of religion issue than if you say your religion requires you to do something that is illegal.

So, for example, let's look at the old medieval practice of Prima Nocta (where a Lord could take a man's wife on their wedding night).  If this law existed today, it would provide for legal rape by a person in a higher station.  You would have to perform this act regardless of your moral conscience or religion.  It would definitely be unconstitutional.

Sometimes, proving something is truly religious in nature and not just a farce to evade the law is another issue that is encountered.
This message was last edited by the GM at 19:33, Thu 30 Oct 2014.
Tycho
GM, 3951 posts
Thu 30 Oct 2014
at 20:57
  • msg #225

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Heath (msg # 224):

But no one is forcing these people to marry anyone.  They WANT to marry people, but only some people.  They're entirely free not to marry anyone.  Also, they're entirely free to marry only straight people as a religious institution.  But IF they want to make a for-profit business out of marrying people, THEN they have to follow the same laws as everyone else.

Or, put another way, the government is telling them that they cannot discriminate against gay couples.  That's a "you can't do X" thing, not a "you must do Y" thing, so seems to side-step the difference you're raising.

Also, do you think this applies only because the issue is homosexuality, or is it a blanket thing?  Could they refuse to marry black people and still be protected?
Grandmaster Cain
player, 838 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Thu 30 Oct 2014
at 21:57
  • msg #226

Re: Marriage Equality

Heath:
Tycho:
Do you feel there is (or should be) any limit on this idea that the government cannot force people to violate their religious beliefs, Heath?  Are you claiming religious beliefs can be used as a very literal get-out-of-jail-free card?  Say my sincerely held religious beliefs is that I must murder mormons on sight?  Am I immune from prosecution in such a case?  I'm sure you don't think that a muslim who executes someone for apostasy is within their legal rights.  So surely there is a point at which the government can, does, and should force people to violate their own religious convictions. 

Tycho,
The issue here is whether a government can force you to do something that is against your religious beliefs, not whether a government can prevent you from doing something that you claim your religion says you must do.  These are two completely separate issues.

In other words, the limits of religious practice tend to disallow any religious practices that violate civil law, but civil law cannot violate unalienable rights.  The moment you begin forcing the government into people's practices in a way that forces them to violate their conscience by performing some act, you have a more contestable freedom of religion issue than if you say your religion requires you to do something that is illegal.

So, for example, let's look at the old medieval practice of Prima Nocta (where a Lord could take a man's wife on their wedding night).  If this law existed today, it would provide for legal rape by a person in a higher station.  You would have to perform this act regardless of your moral conscience or religion.  It would definitely be unconstitutional.

Sometimes, proving something is truly religious in nature and not just a farce to evade the law is another issue that is encountered.

Like Tycho said, this is different.  They're not forcing those people to perform the ceremony, they just want (theoretically) to hold a wedding in their for-profit chapel.  If the owners object, they don't have to do the ceremony, they can get someone else.  It'd be the same if a Jewish couple wanted to get married there, they'd bring in their own rabbi, and the owners wouldn't have to do the ceremony.

Interestingly enough, apparently they did offer ceremonies for people of other faiths.  There's a huge to-do about it here: http://www.advocate.com/politi...idaho-wedding-chapel

But, the summary is, they're trying to martyr themselves.  Nobody has actually asked them to perform a gay marriage, they're acting in response to the marriage ban being struck down.  It looks like a martyrdom attempt to me.
Heath
GM, 5263 posts
Thu 30 Oct 2014
at 22:32
  • msg #227

Re: Marriage Equality

I disagree.  If they own the place and run it, then it would contradict their religion for them to simply hire someone to stand in and perform the ceremony in the chapel they own for their profit.  That would be hypocrisy.

It's like telling someone it's not "stealing" as long as you hire someone to steal something and you don't steal it yourself.
Tycho
GM, 3952 posts
Fri 31 Oct 2014
at 07:26
  • msg #228

Re: Marriage Equality

Heath, I'm still interested to know if you think they would be (or should be) in the legal clear if they refused to do weddings for black people.  Is the case in question okay (in your view) because it's an issue of homosexuality, or do you feel religious beliefs, no matter what they are, trump the law?
This message was last edited by the GM at 16:42, Fri 31 Oct 2014.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 839 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Fri 31 Oct 2014
at 10:02
  • msg #229

Re: Marriage Equality

Heath:
I disagree.  If they own the place and run it, then it would contradict their religion for them to simply hire someone to stand in and perform the ceremony in the chapel they own for their profit.  That would be hypocrisy.

It's like telling someone it's not "stealing" as long as you hire someone to steal something and you don't steal it yourself.

Just a few weeks ago, they openly advertised that they would perform ceremonies for Jewish people. That goes against their religion, too.  They also were offering civil ceremonies, apparently for atheists and non-christians.  I can't see how that'd go with their religion.

So, unless the owners are ordained rabbis as well as ministers, I can't see how they could perform Jewish ceremonies without having to call in someone else.  And since they were doing civil weddings for atheists, I can only assume they weren't doing that themselves, either.

The hypocrisy is on their side. They never stood on religion for non-christians, but they are now that it's homosexuals.  And they're not even doing it in good faith, they're trying to make an extreme example of themselves.
Tycho
GM, 3953 posts
Fri 31 Oct 2014
at 16:45
  • msg #230

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg # 229):

My understanding was that they were doing all the ceremonies themselves, actually.  There's no legal requirement to be a rabbi to conduct a jewish wedding.  You just need state approval to conduct any weddings at all.  What religious flavour you put on it is up to you and the participants.  I got the impression it was a case of "you want a jewish wedding?  Sure, we can do that, just tell us want you want us to read/say" kinda thing.  Granted, I didn't read too deeply into the details, so I may be wrong.
Tycho
GM, 3954 posts
Fri 31 Oct 2014
at 17:36
  • msg #231

Re: Marriage Equality

Did a bit more reading on this, and figured I'd share what I'd found:

This one seems to indicate that they've already been granted an exemption from the city ordinance, so the whole suit seems rather pointless.  It also notes that they used to advertise their willingness to perform ceremonies for other faiths, but changed their advertisements to "traditional christian" marriages only after gay marriage became legal.

So it seems the whole thing is sort of moot at this point, because the city has given them an exemption.  I'm still curious to hear what the limits are (or should be) to such exemptions?  If someone opens a "Yaweh's Coffee" shop, declares it a "religious business", then refuses to serve non-christians, is that allowed?  What if they open a "Bob's super-christian whites-only cafe"?  Could they legally refuse to serve non-whites?  How about a "Big Adolf's no-jews-allowed Diner"?  Would that be legal?  "Mohamed's heathen-free shop"?  Is there any limit to what kind of discrimination your for-profit business can get away with if you claim a religious exemption?

Are there any laws a "religious business" needs to follow?  Does a religious-theme restaurant have to get health inspections and follow the same sanitation laws that other restaurants do?  Does a religious cab company need to put license plates on their vehicles, and follow speed limits?

Put another way, what laws do everyone have to follow, and which laws are only for us atheists?  That sounds flippant, but I'm actually interested in the answer.
Heath
GM, 5264 posts
Fri 31 Oct 2014
at 18:26
  • msg #232

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg # 229):

I disagree with this.  Offering ceremonies for different faiths is not against one's religion.  Offering ceremonies which by their nature violate the moral law you follow do violate your religion.

In other words, their religious code is likely:  Marriage is ordained of God as only one man and one woman.  Anything else is immoral and sinful.

Marrying a Jewish man and a Jewish woman does not violate this moral/religious code.

I seriously doubt anyone's religious code states that any marriage outside one's own faith, no matter how moral otherwise, is in and of itself immoral.  And if they did, they proably wouldn't advertise that they'd do weddings for other faiths.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 840 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Fri 31 Oct 2014
at 18:47
  • msg #233

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg # 229):

My understanding was that they were doing all the ceremonies themselves, actually.  There's no legal requirement to be a rabbi to conduct a jewish wedding.  You just need state approval to conduct any weddings at all.  What religious flavour you put on it is up to you and the participants.  I got the impression it was a case of "you want a jewish wedding?  Sure, we can do that, just tell us want you want us to read/say" kinda thing.  Granted, I didn't read too deeply into the details, so I may be wrong.

There's no legal requirement, at least not in terms of state law,  Jewish customs might be different.  Technically, I could perform a ceremony for anyone, under state law.  That doesn't mean it'd be a "real" Jewish wedding according to their tradition.

But the point here is that they can't clam religious exemption, and do weddings for Jews and atheists  .  Their switch to "Christian only" weddings is sudden and suspicious.
katisara
GM, 5688 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sun 2 Nov 2014
at 16:39
  • msg #234

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho, I think that example is a bit different.

Sure, I can set up Bob's Jewish Cafe, but that just means I serve Jewish food, and that's all I serve. You want Indian food? Sorry, wrong cafe. Anyone is allowed to eat at my cafe, as long as they're eating Jewish food (because that's all I serve).

Similarly, in this case, the wedding chapel only offers heterosexual marriages. You're gay and want to get married? That's cool--as long as it's to someone of the opposite gender. Because that's all they serve. They aren't denying service to any people, just denying certain types of service (to all people).
Grandmaster Cain
player, 844 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Sun 2 Nov 2014
at 18:50
  • msg #235

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Similarly, in this case, the wedding chapel only offers heterosexual marriages. You're gay and want to get married? That's cool--as long as it's to someone of the opposite gender. Because that's all they serve. They aren't denying service to any people, just denying certain types of service (to all people).

That's still discriminatory, though.

You could use the same argument to say: "I only marry people to others of the same race.  You're multiracial and want to get married?  That's cool-- as long as it's to someone of the same race, because that's all I serve."  They're not denying service to any people, just denying certain types of service (to all people).  Same thing, right?

Similarly, you can have a rule that "applies to all people" that only targets women.  A teenage friend of mine ran afoul of her school's dress code.  Her skirt was half an inch too short, so she was pulled from class and lectured at length.  The school dress code does say "no short skits", which is supposedly a blanket rule.  However, it also only targets girls, because boys don't typically wear skirts, let alone short ones.  The dress code really targets girl's clothing, and largely lets boys slide.  I see boys running around with their pants around their knees all the time, nobody is pulling them from class, even though their butts are half-hanging out.
Tycho
GM, 3957 posts
Mon 3 Nov 2014
at 08:27
  • msg #236

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 234):

But the only thing that makes the service a "straight" marriage is who the people are.  The service doesn't need to be any different.  A gay marriage isn't a different product; it's the same product given to different customers.  Saying "we only provide straight marriages" is a bit like saying "we only serve jewish food" but meaning "any food we serve to a jewish person is jewish food.  The same food served to an Indian person is Indian food.  So anyone is allowed to come here and eat our jewish food.  But only if they're jewish, because that's all we serve."

You couldn't open up a gas station, and just sell "straight gas." I hope we'd all agree that gas isn't straight or gay, it's just a product.  Calling it gay or straight based on who buys it doesn't make any sense.  Saying "we'll sell our straight gas to anyone, as long as you're in a mixed sex couple, but that's all we offer," would clearly just be an attempt to not serve gay customers.  I don't see the wedding case being all that different.  Officiating a gay wedding isn't a different service than officiating a straight wedding.  The only thing different is the people involved.

So I disagree when you say "They aren't denying service to any people, just denying certain types of service (to all people)."  They really are denying service to gay people.  It really is about the people involved, not the service in question.  If a gay couple came in and said "we want that exact same wedding that you just performed.  Same words, same music, same exact thing in every way, but now for me and Bob here," this place would still turn them away because of who they were, not because they were asking for a different service.  It's not the case that chapel is saying "we don't do that for anyone."  Rather, they're saying "we only do that for straight couples."
katisara
GM, 5690 posts
Conservative human
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Mon 3 Nov 2014
at 10:56
  • msg #237

Re: Marriage Equality

A marriage is fundamentally about the participants. You can't say "I offer marriages between X and Y, insert your own nouns". A Reuben (sandwich) is still a reuben whether I give it to a dog or wear it as a hat, but a marriage is only a marriage if it's between two (or more) consenting humans, etc., etc. It's the people who DEFINE it as a marriage, which makes it pretty unique among products.

GMC is right though, that it does create and permit certain degrees of discrimination. But discrimination is not necessarily bad, or may be bad but should not necessarily be illegal. We already discriminate against marriage with underage people, for instance (and that's good). And I'd fully support an officiant who, upon seeing the couple, notices the groom has two black eyes and a swollen jaw and father-of-the-bride brought his shotgun, decides not to marry that couple (and I hope you'd support him too!)

In this case the question is not whether it's discriminatory, since discrimination is built into marriage, and absolutely must remain there, but whether this discrimination may be done by the officiant, and if so, on what grounds. I'm totally fine saying a Catholic priest in his church is not mandated to provide homosexual marriages. If he's an employee at Wedding Shack, I'm fine saying it can be mandated as part of his employment. But if he owns Wedding Shack?

Another, more practical question my wife (a wedding photographer) asked is, why would you WANT to force an officiant? She recently turned down a couple who couldn't stop talking about sports and they're sports-heavy wedding--because it's not her style of wedding, she couldn't connect with the couple, and the quality of work would be negatively impacted. It's better for her, and for the couple, that she not work for them, and so she declined and referred them elsewhere.

In this case, there are bazillions of people who can, and will, marry a homosexual couple. Would you really *WANT* your officiant who wishes your marriage would never happen?
Tycho
GM, 3958 posts
Wed 5 Nov 2014
at 19:18
  • msg #238

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 237):

A few points:

Both the cases where you argued it was okay to discriminate in marriage were cases where one party wasn't actually consenting (or isn't legally able to consent).  Gay marriage is not such a case.  So that's very much an apples-to-oranges example.

You ask when it's okay to discriminate, but don't give an answer to that, even though you seem to be arguing in favor of it being okay in this case.  From the examples you gave, I'd say "it's okay to refuse to marry a couple if one member doesn't actually consent."  If you think that doesn't go far enough, you need to make the case, I think.

As for why someone would want to force this chapel to marry them, so far at least, I don't think anyone does.  The last time I had read about it, no one had actually asked them to perform the service for them.  The chapel is the one bringing the suit against the city.  It's not the case that someone was turned away and is suing them, as far as I know.  As I understand it, the chapel is suing the city pre-emptively.  But that is sort of besides the point.  It's a bit like asking "why would a black person even want to eat in a diner that wishes they weren't there?" to defend a whites-only diner.  It's not a good reason to defend unfair discrimination.

I think the issue here seems to be that there is an assumption that religious beliefs get to trump the law in at least some situations.  I'm fairly uncomfortable with that idea.  The idea that you can just ignore laws that violate your religious beliefs just seems to set it self up for abuse.  Is there really anyway to apply such a thing fairly?  Who gets to decide which religious beliefs are "sincerely held?"  Who gets to decide which religions are actually religions?  Who gets to decide what laws religious people are allowed to break?  the supreme court?  All of which happen (at the moment) to be members of just 2 religions?  No one has even offered any guidelines for when religion should or shouldn't trump the law, nor offered any reasoning to back up the idea.  That seems problematic to me.
katisara
GM, 5692 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Thu 6 Nov 2014
at 19:00
  • msg #239

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
Both the cases where you argued it was okay to discriminate in marriage were cases where one party wasn't actually consenting (or isn't legally able to consent).  Gay marriage is not such a case.  So that's very much an apples-to-oranges example.


That's an unfortunate requirement of the argument in order to customize it to the audience. Specifically, I know that you're general moral rules for an acceptable marriage is consent (at least if I'm remembering correctly). Polyamory, homosexual, whatever, it's all good as long as they have consent.

So I did specifically have to choose an example where I know you would agree it's alright to discriminate.

However, it's not apples to oranges. You still think it's okay to discriminate when there's no consent (and that's a good thing). My point is just that we need to decide where that line of discrimination should lie, and who gets to make it.

In some places it's perfectly legal to marry where consent may still be in question. If you set up your wedding shack in that location, I would fully support your declining to officiate those weddings.


quote:
You ask when it's okay to discriminate, but don't give an answer to that, even though you seem to be arguing in favor of it being okay in this case.  From the examples you gave, I'd say "it's okay to refuse to marry a couple if one member doesn't actually consent."  If you think that doesn't go far enough, you need to make the case, I think.


My point is that it's not you or me who get to decide (unless it's our wedding).

I get absolute power of discrimination in my own marriage. I can choose not to marry you because you're a male or you're white or you're an atheist or you speak English, or for whatever reason I choose, and that's probably a good thing.

The officiant is also a participant in the wedding. It's not like the baker or whatnot, whose cake is present without the baker there as well, or even the caterer who is behind the scenes. As the officiant is a participant, the officiant's consent is also pretty darn important.


quote:
As for why someone would want to force this chapel to marry them, so far at least, I don't think anyone does.


I agree with this though. Like GMC said, they seem to be hamming it up for the public attention, not for any actual moral convictions. I suspect if a gay couple offered them enough, they'd take it on (under the table if possible, so they can still milk the other side too).

quote:
The idea that you can just ignore laws that violate your religious beliefs just seems to set it self up for abuse.


The idea of religious objection is about as old as America. If you're a Quaker and you don't want to serve in WWII? That's fine. They'll find another dirty job for you though.

That isn't the same as religious objection being cause to 'just ignore laws' and do whatever you want. It just protects you from having to do something you have an ethical objection against.

And frankly, I think it's something that should be expanded. You shouldn't have to serve in the draft if you're a pacifist atheist either.
Heath
GM, 5266 posts
Thu 6 Nov 2014
at 20:05
  • msg #240

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg # 235):

I hate the word "discrimination."  In fact, I want to discriminate against using that word.  We discriminate every single day in our lives in every choice we make.  If you have "discriminating tastes," that's even considered a good thing.  "Illegal discrimination" is a very narrow subset of "discrimination."  There are many things in which discrimination is very good.  So just saying something is discrimination has absolutely zero meaning.  You would have to show how it is illegal discrimination.
Tycho
GM, 3960 posts
Thu 6 Nov 2014
at 20:09
  • msg #241

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 239):

Seems like we're not making much headway on this particular case, so maybe trying to figure out the general concept would be useful?  Admittedly, the implications of the general concept that worry me as much as the specific case here.

So if we accept for the moment that there should be religious exemptions, who should get to decide when to allow them?  And on what basis?

Here are some of the concerns that I have:
1.  Will the person who gets to decide be of the same religion as the person wanting the exception?  I would imagine someone of the same religion will be far more sympathetic to the request than someone of a different religion (which possibly views the first religion as heretical).  That seems to create a caste system of religions, such that some will get more exceptions than others based on the fact that they have members making the call.  That seems very problematic.

2.  Who should decide whether a belief is "sincerely held?"  And what basis should they use?  Saying that judges (or whoever we pick) are qualified/able to identify which beliefs are sincerely held opens up a big can of worms.

3.  If one group gets a religious exception, should that exception be open to everyone? (at which point it's no longer really an exception, I suppose!)  If not, why?  Whatever your answer to "why?", what if someone replies "it is my sincerely held religious belief that what you just said is wrong!"  Should they then get access to the exception?

4.  What are the limits on this, if there are any?  When rights come into conflict, whose rights win?  Should killing apostates be legal if the killer does so out of sincere religious convictions?   Should it be legal to refuse to serve people of a certain race because of your religious convictions?  Should you be allowed to steal from someone based on your religious beliefs?  What if your religion rejects the concept of private property?  Should the government force you to act as if you believed in private property rights?  What if your religion banned you from driving sober?  Should you get an exception to drunk-driving laws?

5.  Where do the non-religious sit in all this?  Do atheists can exemptions from any laws, or are these exemptions available only to the religious?  If only religious people get exemptions, that seems to make atheists 2nd class citizens that are subject to a stricter set of laws than religious people.

6.  Couldn't this be used coercively by the government to promote one religion over others?  For example "everyone is required to pay 99% taxes!  However, we are offering an exemption to this particular religion, since they have strong anti-tax beliefs that we wouldn't want to infringe upon".  Other than just trusting the government not to do this, is there any way to prevent it?
Heath
GM, 5267 posts
Thu 6 Nov 2014
at 20:12
  • msg #242

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
But the only thing that makes the service a "straight" marriage is who the people are.  The service doesn't need to be any different.  A gay marriage isn't a different product; it's the same product given to different customers.

I'd have to disagree.  Marriage is not a "product."  Marriage is condoning of certain moral behaviors for certain societal goods, and is a matter of public policy, which is why it has things like tax benefits attached.  Comparing it to providing a service which does not have moral and public policy implications is a false analogy.  It also disregards the religious aspect, in that it would require one to violate one's religious imperatives, whereas providing an actual product to someone does not do that.

Let's take another analogy (that does not even include the religious aspect, which is a completely additional aspect).  Let's say you have the right to grant someone a driver's license.  Now you have a blind person come up to you and demand to get a license.  You say you believe it would be morally wrong to give that person a driver's license (due to public safety concerns, etc.).  That person says you are discriminating because he is blind.  Well, yes, but in actuality, you are refusing to provide a government license and special benefit based on a moral objection.  If the blind person asked you to take his picture (even if for a driver's license), you would have a different situation because you are not the one empowering the person to engage in the immoral activity (of driving while blind).  You are in that case just providing a service, i.e., a picture.  That's why this is different.
Tycho
GM, 3962 posts
Thu 6 Nov 2014
at 20:26
  • msg #243

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Heath (msg # 242):

What if we change "blind person" to "gay person" to make it more applicable?  If you work and the DMV, and think gay people shouldn't drive because of your religion, should you be able to just refuse them a license?  I say no.  Would you argue otherwise?
katisara
GM, 5693 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Thu 6 Nov 2014
at 21:33
  • msg #244

Re: Marriage Equality

Tycho:
1.  Will the person who gets to decide be of the same religion as the person wanting the exception?  I would imagine someone of the same religion will be far more sympathetic to the request than someone of a different religion (which possibly views the first religion as heretical).  That seems to create a caste system of religions, such that some will get more exceptions than others based on the fact that they have members making the call.  That seems very problematic.


Are you suggesting we should discriminate based on religion? ;)

In truth, that's a loaded question. We trust the supreme court justices to rule in the best interest for the nation and with honesty and integrity regardless of what their religious background is. We need to respect them based on their position.

quote:
2.  Who should decide whether a belief is "sincerely held?"  And what basis should they use?  Saying that judges (or whoever we pick) are qualified/able to identify which beliefs are sincerely held opens up a big can of worms.


That's a good question, and we've tackled it in many ways over the years. WWII the investigations were pretty invasive and they'd drop people for any reason (including 'person is atheist'). Right now in some states, all you need to count as clergy is to be registered on the rosters of an organization that says loudly it is a church and owns a building. In others, they have a minimum number of people in your church to qualify.

So to answer your question, I don't have an answer. I'd argue a lot of it would have to do with the issue in question. You need to own your father's eagle feathers with no intent to sell them? Fine, you're pretty convincing. You want to go tripping on crack for a dream quest? Well now we have a higher safety requirement.

quote:
3.  If one group gets a religious exception, should that exception be open to everyone? (at which point it's no longer really an exception, I suppose!)  If not, why?  Whatever your answer to "why?", what if someone replies "it is my sincerely held religious belief that what you just said is wrong!"  Should they then get access to the exception? 


Yes, if you can prove that it applies. If you're Catholic, there's no history of using eagle feathers in religious events of any sort, so obviously the eagle feathers exception doesn't apply.

quote:
4.  What are the limits on this, if there are any?  When rights come into conflict, whose rights win?  Should killing apostates be legal if the killer does so out of sincere religious convictions?   Should it be legal to refuse to serve people of a certain race because of your religious convictions?  Should you be allowed to steal from someone based on your religious beliefs?  What if your religion rejects the concept of private property?  Should the government force you to act as if you believed in private property rights?  What if your religion banned you from driving sober?  Should you get an exception to drunk-driving laws? 


Obviously reasonable precautions need to be taken. You need to drive drunk for your ceremony? Great. You put this amount in escrow for medical bills. You own or lease this amount of land where you can do it safely. You meet this number of safety precautions.

Killing apostates can't be done safely, so that's out.

Not serving someone where you're an employee means you lose. You chose a job where you can't meet the basic requirements. If you're talking about not serving food in a secular restaurant, you still lose because you're choosing a career where you can't meet basic laws. If the question is whether you're legally mandated to serve say Eskimos who want to join your church, I don't know. That falls into the grey area for me.

quote:
5.  Where do the non-religious sit in all this?  Do atheists can exemptions from any laws, or are these exemptions available only to the religious?  If only religious people get exemptions, that seems to make atheists 2nd class citizens that are subject to a stricter set of laws than religious people. 


That's been the case for about 250 years. And yes, it's an issue.

The big problem here is atheists don't fall into convenient groups like religious people do. If an atheist believes he needs eagle feathers for some reason, well he'd need to go through that process on his own. Then the next one would as well, and the next one. They could file as a community, but there's sort of a maximum size here. A religion acts like a corporation from a legal point of view, and atheists don't have that tool available.

For other items, such as being a pacifist, being part of a religion is just a strong piece of evidence in favor of that (if you're a Quaker or Buddhist, for instance). Atheists just need to build their case without that being available. If you're just Joe Shmoe and never did anything for anybody, you can't really make that case, while if you're an active member of Amnesty International and stop-war groups, that would obviously serve as evidence.

quote:
6.  Couldn't this be used coercively by the government to promote one religion over others?  For example "everyone is required to pay 99% taxes!  However, we are offering an exemption to this particular religion, since they have strong anti-tax beliefs that we wouldn't want to infringe upon".  Other than just trusting the government not to do this, is there any way to prevent it?



No, there are specific clauses in the law talking about stuff like that. And again, this isn't a free pass. If you want something special, that normally means it falls on you to do the work so you fulfill those requirements.

However, we do get some poignant examples where the work required to avoid doing harm is sort of nothing. Morally objecting to participating in a homosexual marriage would be one.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 852 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Thu 6 Nov 2014
at 21:36
  • msg #245

Re: Marriage Equality

Heath:
Tycho:
But the only thing that makes the service a "straight" marriage is who the people are.  The service doesn't need to be any different.  A gay marriage isn't a different product; it's the same product given to different customers.

I'd have to disagree.  Marriage is not a "product."  Marriage is condoning of certain moral behaviors for certain societal goods, and is a matter of public policy, which is why it has things like tax benefits attached.  Comparing it to providing a service which does not have moral and public policy implications is a false analogy.  It also disregards the religious aspect, in that it would require one to violate one's religious imperatives, whereas providing an actual product to someone does not do that.

Let's take another analogy (that does not even include the religious aspect, which is a completely additional aspect).  Let's say you have the right to grant someone a driver's license.  Now you have a blind person come up to you and demand to get a license.  You say you believe it would be morally wrong to give that person a driver's license (due to public safety concerns, etc.).  That person says you are discriminating because he is blind.  Well, yes, but in actuality, you are refusing to provide a government license and special benefit based on a moral objection.  If the blind person asked you to take his picture (even if for a driver's license), you would have a different situation because you are not the one empowering the person to engage in the immoral activity (of driving while blind).  You are in that case just providing a service, i.e., a picture.  That's why this is different.

Sorry, but there's a huge difference between gay marriage and your example.

First of all, driving is not considered to be a civil right.  It is a privilege that must be earned.  Marriage is a right, it is part of forming adult relationships.  There is no law that forbids consenting adults from forming relationships, and it's considered to be part of the "pursuit of happiness" that forms part of the American dream.

Second, as it must be earned, there are objective standards in place.  There are no good moral ways to object to someone getting a license; if you can't point to an objective measure, they'll get their license.  So, if we have a blind person who passes the written and practical tests somehow, they have earned the right to get their license.

With gay marriage, there is no good objective reason to prevent it.  There's no standard you can apply that wouldn't also hit straight couples as well, so if you're selectively enforcing a law, it's illegal discrimination.
Heath
GM, 5270 posts
Tue 11 Nov 2014
at 18:54
  • msg #246

Re: Marriage Equality

As the Sixth Circuit court of appeals confirmed last week, "marriage" is not a civil right either.  In fact, the Court of Appeals last week pretty much said the same things I've been saying on this subject for a few years now throughout our discussions--that marriage is a societal convention given special treatment for the purpose of encouraging procreation and then the raising of children by their biological mother and father to the extent possible, among other things.

Second, the objective measure is clear as day.  Two people of the same sex cannot ever, ever, ever procreate, so the objective of societal marriage cannot ever, ever, ever be met by two people of the same sex.

As the Sixth Circuit pointed out last week, there are very, very good reasons to promote marriage between only one man and only one woman, and redefining it any other way essentially does away with the meaning and purpose of marriage altogether.

(I must say that, even with those who have fought in the courts on gay marriage and won, it was not under the points you raise above.  Their point is that there is a denial of equal protection under the law, to which some courts created a "new fundamental right" -- despite the oxymoron in that phrase -- of a "right to dignity," which the courts then claimed is violated.  That's obviously a stretch and very much a judge created rule that begs potential reversal on grounds of separation of powers.  Anyway, that's  a different issue...)
hakootoko
player, 164 posts
Tue 11 Nov 2014
at 19:36
  • msg #247

Re: Marriage Equality

Grandmaster Cain:
Sorry, but there's a huge difference between gay marriage and your example.

First of all, driving is not considered to be a civil right.  It is a privilege that must be earned.  Marriage is a right, it is part of forming adult relationships.  There is no law that forbids consenting adults from forming relationships, and it's considered to be part of the "pursuit of happiness" that forms part of the American dream.

Second, as it must be earned, there are objective standards in place.  There are no good moral ways to object to someone getting a license; if you can't point to an objective measure, they'll get their license.  So, if we have a blind person who passes the written and practical tests somehow, they have earned the right to get their license.

With gay marriage, there is no good objective reason to prevent it.  There's no standard you can apply that wouldn't also hit straight couples as well, so if you're selectively enforcing a law, it's illegal discrimination.


If the culture war was only about marriage as a negative right, I think there would be fewer heated arguments about it. Unfortunately, it isn't about that. It's about which unions the state recognizes / approves of, for purposes such as inheritance, power of attorney, guardianship of children, etc.. All of these are positive rights. So it is closer to a drivers license than it is, for example, to freedom of speech.
Heath
GM, 5271 posts
Tue 11 Nov 2014
at 19:43
  • msg #248

Re: Marriage Equality

To clarify your point, those are the specific benefits related to marriage in order to incentivize people to get married, have children, and raise them in intact families.  But the reason behind it is to encourage them to procreate and raise children in intact families with a mother and a father, and additionally to promote a sexual morality and monogamy agreed to by the moral majority.  (Right or wrong, those have been the underlying reasons for centuries.)

A driver's license similarly has a purpose:  to encourage safe driving that can be regulated for public safety.  The benefits from that are that you get to drive (and get another form of government issued ID).

EDIT: Just to be clear, I totally agree with you on the negative right/positive right issue.  Those opposing traditional marriage turn it into an "anti-gay" or other prohibition, when in reality it is a license to promote something society deems as good and which is incentivized by certain government benefits.

If you look at gay marriage, for example, there simply is no reason why it should be given special treatment:  it cannot lead to procreation or other positive effects that are behind traditional marriage.  That is why the only way they can go after it is to label it unlawfully discriminatory, and then work their way into something that they cannot fit into based on the very reasons it was created.  That's also what the Sixth Circuit recognized last week.
This message was last edited by the GM at 19:46, Tue 11 Nov 2014.
hakootoko
player, 165 posts
Tue 11 Nov 2014
at 20:03
  • msg #249

Re: Marriage Equality

Heath: No offense intended, but please don't rephrase my words into something I don't necessarily agree with.

I am not taking a stand either for or against gay marriage. I think both sides are too polarized and unwilling to come to a compromise that would be to everyone's advantage. Plus it also seems to me that the gay marriage side has won in the courts, which means the door to compromise is pretty firmly closed.
Heath
GM, 5274 posts
Tue 11 Nov 2014
at 20:10
  • msg #250

Re: Marriage Equality

I wasn't rephrasing your words.  Your words did not match the law and were inaccurate, so I made sure they are accurate.

Also, gay marriage has not won in the courts.  The Sixth Circuit decision last week proves that.  In fact, the Supreme Court said it is up to the States to determine what marriage will be, so it is nowhere near being won or lost.  Most likely, the Sixth Circuit decision will be upheld, which will end up reversing many of the rogue liberal judges and reinstating state laws--which has now, of course, just happened in the states within the Sixth Circuit.

And of course the sides are polarized, as they have to be.  There is no middle ground, so no room for compromise.  Marriage strikes at fundamental values, morality, and procreation that have been interpreted only one way for this entire country's history.  An attack on those values means that you either have to completely abandon your moral beliefs or stick to them.

And actually, a "compromise" was already made many years ago:  (1) making discrimination against an individual based on sexual orientation forbidden, and (2) legalizing same sex partnerships as "domestic partners."  The problem was that this wasn't good enough for those seeking to invalidate 200+ years of the state of the law in the U.S. and to turn beliefs of moral behavior on their heads for all Americans.  So they will stop at nothing less than legalizing marriage.  They have not compromised one bit, and apparently won't.
hakootoko
player, 166 posts
Tue 11 Nov 2014
at 20:34
  • msg #251

Re: Marriage Equality

Domestic partnerships was the bulk of the compromise I was referring to. Both extremes of the culture war rejected them.

To me a full compromise would be:
- Barring the state and fed from defining or recognizing marriage
- Domestic partnerships for all couple who apply to the state for them
- Replacement of marriage in all state and federal documents with domestic partnership

The first is from the first amendment. The government cannot define religious marriage for churches, because that would be an establishment of religion. Beyond that, the culture war is driven by large segments of the population that believe either "marriage is a religious institution" or "marriage is not a religious institution." The government cannot agree with either side without violating the establishment clause. To me, the only solution seems to be for the government to get totally out of the marriage business. If marriage is no longer a legal term, it becomes a common term. Then any couple can call themselves married in their own sense of the word. Each church can do the same.

We do need the government to provide positive domestic rights to couples who ask for them, however. The government can't be left entirely out of the question. And this can't apply only to heterosexual couples. We all saw examples of this in the nineties and early double-oughts: one partner is a long-established gay couple is denied access to the other in a hospital, or one partner dies and the other has no inheritance rights. As a civil society we can't let abuses like that continue to occur.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 864 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Tue 11 Nov 2014
at 20:51
  • msg #252

Re: Marriage Equality

Heath:
As the Sixth Circuit court of appeals confirmed last week, "marriage" is not a civil right either.  In fact, the Court of Appeals last week pretty much said the same things I've been saying on this subject for a few years now throughout our discussions--that marriage is a societal convention given special treatment for the purpose of encouraging procreation and then the raising of children by their biological mother and father to the extent possible, among other things.

Second, the objective measure is clear as day.  Two people of the same sex cannot ever, ever, ever procreate, so the objective of societal marriage cannot ever, ever, ever be met by two people of the same sex.

As the Sixth Circuit pointed out last week, there are very, very good reasons to promote marriage between only one man and only one woman, and redefining it any other way essentially does away with the meaning and purpose of marriage altogether.

(I must say that, even with those who have fought in the courts on gay marriage and won, it was not under the points you raise above.  Their point is that there is a denial of equal protection under the law, to which some courts created a "new fundamental right" -- despite the oxymoron in that phrase -- of a "right to dignity," which the courts then claimed is violated.  That's obviously a stretch and very much a judge created rule that begs potential reversal on grounds of separation of powers.  Anyway, that's  a different issue...)

First of all, I disagree that it's "a stretch".  The majority of federal courts agree that marriage is a right.  Obviously, this won't be settled until it goes before the Supreme Court, but don't try and pretend that denying gays equal rights is a majority position.

Second, despite what you claim, marriage is not objectively for procreation.  There are millions of couples, hetero couples, who cannot or will not have children.  They have the same right to marriage as those who can and will, which makes them no different than a gay couple.

Third... "meaning and purpose of marriage"?  Are you seriously kidding?  Marriage has been redefined many times over the eras, including at least once during the 20th century.  Right now, it's got two purposes: tax breaks and legal shortcuts, and a public declaration of commitment.  The first is part of the equal protection argument, and the second is purely religious, you have no right to tell gay people that can't have a ceremony any more than you can tell Mormons the same.
Heath
GM, 5277 posts
Tue 11 Nov 2014
at 23:48
  • msg #253

Re: Marriage Equality

hakootoko:
Domestic partnerships was the bulk of the compromise I was referring to. Both extremes of the culture war rejected them.

Actually, these were not at all rejected by the traditional marriage side.

quote:
To me a full compromise would be:
- Barring the state and fed from defining or recognizing marriage
- Domestic partnerships for all couple who apply to the state for them
- Replacement of marriage in all state and federal documents with domestic partnership

Well, that just eliminates marriage altogether.  The reason marriage exists (in society/government) is because of the benefits associated with supporting marriage, as I mentioned above.  So your idea eliminates all the good that comes out of recognizing marriage.  In my opinion, that is worse than recognizing non-traditional marriages, because even though they do not have the same societally recognized beneficial side, at least they still allow for promotion of that ideal for traditional marriages too.  Your idea seems to throw the baby out with the bathwater.

quote:
The first is from the first amendment. The government cannot define religious marriage for churches, because that would be an establishment of religion.

I'm not seeing the connection here.  Marriage in religion is different from marriage in society, even though the two may intersect.

quote:
Beyond that, the culture war is driven by large segments of the population that believe either "marriage is a religious institution" or "marriage is not a religious institution."

I don't think this is accurate either.  It is a religious institution in addition to a secular institution.  The question is whether getting rid of, or altering, one side of that equation hurts the other.

quote:
The government cannot agree with either side without violating the establishment clause.

Sure it can.  Society has a non-religious purpose in recognizing marriage, including the propogation of the species (such as creating new future taxpayers), and rewarding intact families for the purpose of ensuring the best future for those future taxpayers (i.e., making them the most productive members of "society" possible).  There is no establishment clause issue in that.
Heath
GM, 5278 posts
Tue 11 Nov 2014
at 23:50
  • msg #254

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg # 252):

I think you are mixing up federal courts, which consist of just one judge, with the Courts of Appeals, which rule over those federal courts and typically consist of a panel (en banc) or a full group of judges.  So the court that is higher than all those federal judges has ruled in favor of saying states can define marriage as between one man and one woman, and this is consistent with the supreme court holding.  So the Sixth Circuit rules over many federal judges, perhaps a couple hundred even.

So the weight of authority is actually in favor of traditional marriage, not the other way around.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 865 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Wed 12 Nov 2014
at 00:56
  • msg #255

Re: Marriage Equality

Heath:
In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg # 252):

I think you are mixing up federal courts, which consist of just one judge, with the Courts of Appeals, which rule over those federal courts and typically consist of a panel (en banc) or a full group of judges.  So the court that is higher than all those federal judges has ruled in favor of saying states can define marriage as between one man and one woman, and this is consistent with the supreme court holding.  So the Sixth Circuit rules over many federal judges, perhaps a couple hundred even.

So the weight of authority is actually in favor of traditional marriage, not the other way around.

You're arguing technicalities.  But, I'll clarify.  Of the 11 US District courts. four have publicly ruled in favor of same-sex marriage, one has ruled against it, and the rest haven't issued a ruling at all (although they seem to support it).  So, the majority of the rulings made all favor same-sex marriage.

quote:
Well, that just eliminates marriage altogether.  The reason marriage exists (in society/government) is because of the benefits associated with supporting marriage, as I mentioned above.  So your idea eliminates all the good that comes out of recognizing marriage.  In my opinion, that is worse than recognizing non-traditional marriages, because even though they do not have the same societally recognized beneficial side, at least they still allow for promotion of that ideal for traditional marriages too.  Your idea seems to throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Um, no.  You can recognize marriage as equal to domestic partnerships, treat them the same.  Of course, since separate is inherently unequal, you may as well fold them into the same thing.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 871 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Thu 13 Nov 2014
at 22:36
  • msg #256

Re: Marriage Equality

Addendum: while the US Supreme Court has yet to officially offer a ruling, they have declined to hear challenges to pro-homosexual-marriage laws, which effectively makes them legal in 33 states.  Only two Justices have said they would dissent.  But as of now, I'd say that as final of a word as we can get.
Doulos
player, 534 posts
Wed 20 May 2015
at 21:10
  • msg #257

Re: Marriage Equality

http://www.gallup.com/poll/183...rt-sex-marriage.aspx

Amazing how quickly Americans and their views towards Gay Marriage are changing.  It's pretty clear that there will come a day when this will be a non-issue except among the most hardcore fundamentalists in society.

I expect big changes in the doctrine of faith communities such as the Catholics and the LDS church within 20 years when it comes to this issue.  Cracks are already forming in both of those communities.
katisara
GM, 5716 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Thu 21 May 2015
at 15:06
  • msg #258

Re: Marriage Equality

You're correct on one, not on the other. At least for the Catholic Church, they've made it very clear that homosexual marriage is indeed dogma, and cannot be altered. They've not altered any item considered core doctrine before, and I don't expect this to be the one to change that.

To be clear, this doesn't mean the RCC doesn't change, but it does mean they have a core set of beliefs which do not. You won't hear the RCC ever say that Jesus was actually a talking horse (or that Mary died with her hymen broken). However, they may change their policy on priests getting married or the language or order of the mass.

I don't know where things like female priests fall in this. I do know that homosexual behavior is on the 'naughty' list. But it could eventually be as unremarkable as missing church services.
Doulos
player, 535 posts
Thu 21 May 2015
at 16:14
  • msg #259

Re: Marriage Equality

My understanding is that the Catholic stance on non-Catholics going to hell was considered dogma and is now no longer so.  I may be mistaken.

Call me skeptical, but public pressure will cause all major religions to cave on this issue eventually.  It will be on par with racism and be so socially unacceptable that they will have no choice but to change.

The LDS church and the Catholic church may be some of the most significant holdouts in the future, but I don't see any possible way for them to hold out forever.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 897 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Thu 21 May 2015
at 19:41
  • msg #260

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
You're correct on one, not on the other. At least for the Catholic Church, they've made it very clear that homosexual marriage is indeed dogma, and cannot be altered. They've not altered any item considered core doctrine before, and I don't expect this to be the one to change that.

To be clear, this doesn't mean the RCC doesn't change, but it does mean they have a core set of beliefs which do not. You won't hear the RCC ever say that Jesus was actually a talking horse (or that Mary died with her hymen broken). However, they may change their policy on priests getting married or the language or order of the mass.

I don't know where things like female priests fall in this. I do know that homosexual behavior is on the 'naughty' list. But it could eventually be as unremarkable as missing church services.

No disrespect intended, but that's kind of a circular argument.  "Our core beliefs never change, so if we changed it, it was never really a core belief."

But on a practical note, I expect over time, it'll be one of those things that gets glossed over.  Like Catholics getting married who aren't virgins, or who have been divorced, and so on-- there may be a doctrinal "No!  Bad sinner!" on paper, but it won't do much in practice.  I don't think the Catholic church has as much ingrained homophobia as many other groups, and they do grow and change over time.  So, I expect homosexual marriage will eventually be tolerated by the RCC, if not overtly accepted.
katisara
GM, 5717 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Thu 21 May 2015
at 19:59
  • msg #261

Re: Marriage Equality

There's actually a list (well, sort of. The RCC prefers loooong long diatribes over lists. But you get the idea.) The current items of dogma are written out and, effectively, set in stone. Items which are not considered dogma are not on that list :) So yes, the things on the list have never changed. There's a few things which maybe are on the list? No one's really sure, because the paperwork wasn't handled correctly :P (basically, papal claims which people aren't sure if they were made ex cathedra or not), but most of those are minor and not relevant here.

Homosexual relations is on that list (or more specifically, that marriage is between man and woman).

Will it be glossed over in the future? Maybe. I've known people who were in second marriages and still went to church. They were denied communion, but that's it. It did cause a major hold up in his baptism (he was going through RCIA) but it's not like anyone threw rocks at him. Maybe in twenty years a married gay man can go to church and that'll be about as exceptional. Heck, in some places it already is! (My parents' church in the Netherlands had a woman who was basically treated as a female deacon, even though women cannot currently complete the deaconate.)

(Getting married not as a virgin has never been a sin. It's the sex out of wedlock that's considered a sin, and yes, grounds for being excommunicated or denied communion if you don't get that forgiven. But once it's done, you're still allowed to get married.)
hakootoko
player, 172 posts
Thu 21 May 2015
at 21:16
  • msg #262

Re: Marriage Equality

Divorce and the RCC is a good issue to bring up here. After 500 years of Protestant divorces, the RCC still hasn't changed its position on divorce. Yet you expect them to change their position on gay marriage after only 20?
Grandmaster Cain
player, 898 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Fri 22 May 2015
at 00:11
  • msg #263

Re: Marriage Equality

hakootoko:
Divorce and the RCC is a good issue to bring up here. After 500 years of Protestant divorces, the RCC still hasn't changed its position on divorce. Yet you expect them to change their position on gay marriage after only 20?

Officially, no.  In practice, however, I haven't heard of anyone making a big deal about divorces in the RCC, or denying people a second marriage.  So, Katisara is right that the official position hasn't changed at all.  But unofficially, it's tolerated, if not somewhat accepted these days.

The same thing is likely to be true for homosexual marriage.  Even if it's on the books as a sin, I don't think the modern RCC is likely to excommunicate someone for being out and gay.  I suspect that eventually, there will be a token protest on paper, but the marriages will be treated exactly the same.
katisara
GM, 5718 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Fri 22 May 2015
at 14:04
  • msg #264

Re: Marriage Equality

I'm curious, how many Catholics do you know?

For an individual to be married in the church while the first spouse is still alive requires an annulment from the bishop, and that in turn requires proof that the marriage was never valid in the first place. Annulments are not easy to get.

Can a divorced and remarried person go into a church and receive communion? Most likely, even though it's a mortal sin to do so. They are considered to be in an ongoing state of sin as long as they are living with their spouse (which implies they're having sex, in this case, adultery). they cannot get married in the church, they cannot be baptized, they cannot receive anything else which requires formal recognition of being in good standing.

Like I said, we were friends with a guy who personally ran into this issue; he was looking to get baptized, but he was married when he was 20, then divorced and remarried, and had been married for at least 16 years when we met him. But his wife was alive, on another continent, and they couldn't get an annulment. Last I heard, the entire family got baptized except for him (his wife already was baptized before they'd married).

In 2035 if a thirty-something man walked into a church and all the neighbors know he shares his apartment with another thirty-something man, would he be allowed to stay? I really do hope that is the case. Will he be able to receive communion? I don't know. Will that man be able to pursue a homosexual marriage in the church or get baptized? I can't imagine.

(I do wonder if homosexual marriages can be more easily annulled than heterosexual ones. I might have to ask my dad about that one.)
Doulos
player, 536 posts
Fri 22 May 2015
at 15:31
  • msg #265

Re: Marriage Equality

hakootoko:
Divorce and the RCC is a good issue to bring up here. After 500 years of Protestant divorces, the RCC still hasn't changed its position on divorce. Yet you expect them to change their position on gay marriage after only 20?


This is actually a really good point, you're right.  I guess it will likely take a lot longer than I think :(
Grandmaster Cain
player, 899 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Fri 22 May 2015
at 22:59
  • msg #266

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
I'm curious, how many Catholics do you know?

Most of my father's side of the family are Catholic.

quote:
For an individual to be married in the church while the first spouse is still alive requires an annulment from the bishop, and that in turn requires proof that the marriage was never valid in the first place. Annulments are not easy to get.

Can a divorced and remarried person go into a church and receive communion? Most likely, even though it's a mortal sin to do so. They are considered to be in an ongoing state of sin as long as they are living with their spouse (which implies they're having sex, in this case, adultery). they cannot get married in the church, they cannot be baptized, they cannot receive anything else which requires formal recognition of being in good standing.

Some of that is "don't ask, don't tell".  I know plenty of people who have committed "mortal sins" who are practicing Catholics, and don't face any issues.  One girl I knew in high school had an abortion, although I believe she didn't announce it.  My father was nondenominational, but his third wife insisted in a Catholic wedding, and they had no problems.  (Yes, her previous husband and both of his previous wives are still alive.)  Knowing him, he probably glossed over those details, but I'd imagine the priest didn't push too hard either.

I do know that when I've gone to Mass with my Catholic relatives, they offered me communion right alongside everyone else, even though I've probably committed eight of the seven deadly sins.  :P  Taking it probably kicks me up to nine, although the first few times I was rather young.  So, I rather suspect it's not a big deal.

quote:
In 2035 if a thirty-something man walked into a church and all the neighbors know he shares his apartment with another thirty-something man, would he be allowed to stay? I really do hope that is the case. Will he be able to receive communion? I don't know. Will that man be able to pursue a homosexual marriage in the church or get baptized? I can't imagine.

I suspect it'll be tolerated, at the very least.  There's growing trends towards tolerance now; if someone wanted to rent the gym at the Catholic high school for Queer Prom, I don't think anyone would really object.  In the long run, I think eventually homosexuals will be able to "rent" the cathedral for their weddings, and there will be tactic acceptance in practice, even while there are objections on the books.
katisara
GM, 5719 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Fri 22 May 2015
at 23:57
  • msg #267

Re: Marriage Equality

Oh wow. Totally different community from what I grew up in.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 900 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Sat 23 May 2015
at 01:34
  • msg #268

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Oh wow. Totally different community from what I grew up in.

To be fair, times have changed.  Many Christian groups are moving towards a "Love the sinner, hate the sin" approach.  I have a friend who's actively gay, and a practicing Christian (Lutheran, I believe, although I'd have to check).  His church's official stance is that all are welcome to worship and join the church.  They don't approve of sex outside of marriage, but they don't actively condemn people of any sexuality for it. A little chiding on the side, but that's about it.  They don't treat extramarital sex any differently if you're gay or straight.

In my dad's case, he's a professional salesman, and can convince people to buy nearly anything.  He sells agricultural chemicals to organic farmers, if you want one example.  So, I do think he probably told the priest what he wanted to hear before the third marriage.  Plus which, I don't think he's a full member of the Catholic church, so I have no idea what rules apply to him.

Still, times are changing.  From what I've seen of the current pope, he's also moving towards "Love the sinner, hate the sin".  I think within the next ten-twenty years, we're going to see a decrease in outright condemnation of homosexual marriage (in fact, we're seeing the start of that now), and we'll probably see a degree of unofficial acceptance.  "I'd rather be an example of Christ's mercy than God's wrath", that sort of thing.
katisara
GM, 5720 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sat 23 May 2015
at 10:29
  • msg #269

Re: Marriage Equality

I hope you recognize I'm only 34, and these anecdotes I've been sharing are from less than 15 years ago. I suspect a lot of this is regional.

I do hope you're right though. Pope Francis does seem to have his head and heart in the right places, which is fantastic.

(But I still don't expect it to be 'acceptable' by the Church, and homosexual marriages performed by the Church just aren't going to happen.)
Grandmaster Cain
player, 901 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Sat 23 May 2015
at 22:05
  • msg #270

Re: Marriage Equality

Well, there's a difference between "unofficially acceptable" and publicly embraced.  You're likely right, the second isn't going to happen anytime soon.  But I am seeing a growing polarization in churches, including the RCC: as some radicals cross into full homophobia, others are becoming more welcoming and inviting.  "We don't approve of everything you do, but we accept you for who you are" is the new method.

And like I said, there's some crossover already happening.  Some churches that don't personally perform gay marriages are willing to rent their church space to gay couples.  That's a form of unofficial acceptance, even though they haven't officially changed their doctrine.  I think that before long, we'll have "commitment ceremonies" performed by various religious officials-- since it's not technically a marriage, just a statement of commitment, pastors can perform them without violating the rule against gay marriage.  (I've actually seen one of these, personally, performed by a Southern Baptist pastor; it was for a couple that couldn't get married for various reasons.  They were straight, but the same thing could apply to homosexuals as well.)

Oh, for the story... the girl I was talking about had an abortion in 1983.  To be fair, she was 12, and it came about after a long discussion with her parents.  I'm not sure how her and the Catholic church worked it out, but I believe she's still a member, and I'm reasonably sure they didn't make a big deal about it.  So, it was effectively "Don't ask, don't tell", at least from where I'm standing.
C-h Freese
player, 6 posts
UCC
Knight
Mon 25 May 2015
at 12:25
  • msg #271

Re: Marriage Equality

So what does a person do if the find that their customer is gay and they are getting a religious wedding officiated by a member of that religions clergy.  If their religion officially allows such a wedding, is that different than two persons not in good standing with a religious group if it isn't yours, does that make a difference in serving them.

I personally have no problem with a "Cleric" who has issues with homosexual marriage not doing them.  If he or she opens a denominational wedding chapel still no problem, that chapel having exemptions allowing doing marriages for affiliated religions, still no problem. but they had better keep track of current issues in those denominations.

In my denomination if the Pastor feels called to do homosexual marriage they can. If the church council wishes to allow church property and sanctuary to be used for such a marriage they can. Our churches are highly independant at certain levels and subjects, as this denomination is the creation of a series of joined denominations.

    I have a few issues with the whole question [biases]; first I'm libertarian, I fit well with my denomination, I am married and have two boys with my wife, the boys obviously like girls [we are still trying to get our oldest married to the mother of our grand daughter(she has emotional issues from her first marriage)], I find it doubtful that Homosexuals are not created that way, I feel that a homosexual marrying one of the opposite sex is perpetuating a lie and so is a sexual perversion of their nature.
 (I swear I thought I had posted on this issue before but don't see it, maybe I only planned to)
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Tycho
GM, 3990 posts
Mon 25 May 2015
at 17:11
  • msg #272

Re: Marriage Equality

On the topic of same-sex-marriage and Catholicism Ireland had a vote this past weekend.

When what is probably the most Catholic country in Europe has such a one-sided vote to legalize gay marriage, the times are definitely changing.  How the Catholic church will adjust to the changing world, I don't know.  As others have already pointed out, they've stuck to their guns on several things (e.g., contraception, divorce, female priests, etc.) that the western world has largely moved on from, so it seems unlikely that there will be an "official" change in stance.  But is there a limit to the number of rules the average catholic will overlook before they start to think "why am I still a part of this group?"

If I recall correctly, the RCC has been declining numbers-wise in the west (though growing in other parts of the world, I think) for a while now.  A vote like this seems to really highlight the degree to which many catholics don't share the beliefs/practices of the church they're a part of, and I have to wonder how sustainable that is for the RCC.  I have to say, I was surprised by the result of the vote (pleasantly so!), and even more so by the wide margin it was decided by.  If the RCC can't count on Ireland to back its version of morality, is steady decline the only foreseeable future for it (in Europe, at least)?
This message was last edited by the GM at 19:56, Mon 25 May 2015.
Doulos
player, 537 posts
Mon 25 May 2015
at 17:39
  • msg #273

Re: Marriage Equality

I wish had more experience with those who are Catholic.  Those I grew up with were mostly French Canadians who moved out west for farming (from Manitoba).  Foam at the mouth over things like getting married in the Catholic church, or when one of their kids would get baptized in a Baptist church (shaming our family!) - but had no issues sleeping around and could outdrink most other folks...haha.

I don't get the sense they were representative of the larger Catholic community.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 902 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Mon 25 May 2015
at 20:48
  • msg #274

Re: Marriage Equality

C-h Freese:
I personally have know problem with a "Cleric" who has issues with homosexual marriage not doing them.  If he or she opens a denominational wedding chapel still no problem, that chapel having exemptions allowing doing marriages for affiliated religions, still no problem. but they had better keep track of current issues in those denominations.

Well, there's a bit of a difference there.  Churches are essentially private organizations, you don't have to let in everyone.  So, if you say you'll only do weddings for members, and you have clear criteria for membership, you're well within your rights to turn down anyone else.

A wedding chapel is a business, though.  They might be privately owned, but if they do business with the public, then they pretty much have to accept everyone, regardless of the owner's beliefs.

For example, a restaurant at a racist golf club might turn away black people, legally, because they only serve members of the club.  That same restaurant on a city corner, not so much-- if they're accepting walk ins, they really don't have the right to cry "free association".

Someone who ran a "Baptist only" wedding chapel would tread the line, so it would get very dangerous for them.  It'd be even murkier if they let in affiilated denominations, because after a certain point it could be argued that this is no different than accepting walk-ins.
katisara
GM, 5721 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 26 May 2015
at 11:54
  • msg #275

Re: Marriage Equality

Bear in mind, "I believe this is morally wrong" is not necessarily the same as "I believe this should be illegal".

Also in my experience, most Catholics take a pretty kind view to drinking ;) There's a reason why there are so many beers named after Catholic monasteries and orders.
C-h Freese
player, 7 posts
UCC
Knight
Wed 27 May 2015
at 16:17
  • msg #276

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg # 274):

Not only is it a private membership. But due to the idea of separation of church and state, membership and property ownership issues for church's have been handed over to Church tribunals to make rulings on church portions so the court can finish up the lawsuits.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 903 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Wed 27 May 2015
at 22:08
  • msg #277

Re: Marriage Equality

C-h Freese:
In reply to Grandmaster Cain (msg # 274):

Not only is it a private membership. But due to the idea of separation of church and state, membership and property ownership issues for church's have been handed over to Church tribunals to make rulings on church portions so the court can finish up the lawsuits.

You can still run into issues.  If a church runs a business, and that business accepts public customers, then that business must abide by anti-racism laws even if the church is exempt.

For example, let's say a church has a known anti-gay stance, and clearly does not allow gay members.  This is perfectly legal, even if it is scuzzy. However, let's say they run a thrift shop on the side, on the church property.  Because that shop accepts walk-ins, they can't deny anyone service without a good reason-- they can't turn away black people, or gays, or whomever, and cite their religion as a defense.
TheMonk
player, 122 posts
Atheist
Most of the time
Wed 27 May 2015
at 22:56
  • msg #278

Re: Marriage Equality

Can a religion, solely for religious purposes, deny black folk services?
Grandmaster Cain
player, 904 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Wed 27 May 2015
at 23:02
  • msg #279

Re: Marriage Equality

TheMonk:
Can a religion, solely for religious purposes, deny black folk services?

Technically, yes, although it does depend.

Again, a private group is free to set their own standards for membership.  So a church, under that law, can say that only whites can be members.  Then, they can say they'll only do certain services for members-- like weddings-- and be in the clear.

However, if they accept non-members for certain services, then those services need to be open to the whole public.  So, if they do weddings for non-members, it's a public business and needs to be open to the public.

This is basically the same thing as the Salvation Army saying they'll only do weddings for members, it's legal and acceptable, and no one is seriously trying to change that.  But if they tried denying gays access to their thrift stores, there'd be a problem.  Same with Mormons-- you can't force them to do homosexual weddings, but Deseret Industries stores can't block gays from shopping there.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 905 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Fri 26 Jun 2015
at 20:27
  • msg #280

Re: Marriage Equality

Well, it's over except for the whinging.

http://www.cnn.com/2015/06/26/...ge-ruling/index.html

Homosexual marriage is now the law of the land.  You don't have to like it-- you don't have to like any marriage, I think the Kardashian wedding was a joke-- but don't pretend that it's not real.
Doulos
player, 538 posts
Fri 26 Jun 2015
at 23:42
  • msg #281

Re: Marriage Equality

Long overdue.  Really glad to see it.
katisara
GM, 5723 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sat 27 Jun 2015
at 11:24
  • msg #282

Re: Marriage Equality

My dad said we have a responsibility to resist SCOTUS. I'm not quite sure what precisely he thinks he's going to do. Unless  you are a non-religious person working in the wedding industry, there's not a lot of steps you can take to 'resist'.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 906 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Sat 27 Jun 2015
at 21:04
  • msg #283

Re: Marriage Equality

Yeah, SCOTUS is pretty much the final word.  Even with controversial decisions, the court is loathe to overturn their previous rulings.  I mean, I get some people resist to the bitter end, but it's kinda like resisting the tide.
TheMonk
player, 124 posts
Atheist
Most of the time
Sun 28 Jun 2015
at 02:12
  • msg #284

Re: Marriage Equality

I'm pretty happy with the ruling, but I'm certain there will be some resistance similar to the civil rights conflicts.

Yay.
katisara
GM, 5724 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sun 28 Jun 2015
at 12:26
  • msg #285

Re: Marriage Equality

I think I've made my previous views on this clear. While I do appreciate the end result, I think this is just about the worst way we could have reached it. The SCOTUS has circumvented congress, and the rights of states.
hakootoko
player, 174 posts
Sun 28 Jun 2015
at 17:28
  • msg #286

Re: Marriage Equality

I don't think SCOTUS has exceeded their authority. This is similar to other civil rights issues they've resolved in the past.
katisara
GM, 5725 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sun 28 Jun 2015
at 22:40
  • msg #287

Re: Marriage Equality

It's not up to them to decide what is a protected class. The 14th was passed through the amendment process, and clearly defines what is protected. The judges just decided that it includes this other class. It should have gone through legislation. That's why the congress exists in the first place.
C-h Freese
player, 8 posts
UCC
Knight
Mon 29 Jun 2015
at 13:18
  • msg #288

Re: Marriage Equality

If not the courts who is to defend the minority.. the majority?
   I remember reading a sqib by one of the justices, about how she had been questioning why something that had not been an issue for the supreme court should become one.  It seemed she was startled when she came up with an answer, when the legislature started giving tax brakes to married folk that was claiming a federal interest in marriage in a manner that was legal.
   I belong to a denomination that has a reputation for being heavily into social justice since before the civil war.  We have ordained openly Gay Pastors, and Pastors have permission to marry gay couples, and church councils have permission to decide if they will hold gay marriages in there sanctuary.
   There are some "feminist" non-duality pagan religions that appeared as a response to the cruelty of the "church" whose ordained priests and priestesses would hand-fast in a moment.

   I have a tendency at this point to remind people that one authority God gave Adam was to name things, do you really believe we have stopped.  And if that is the case what of those words and ideas that didn't exist when the scriptures were written or by those writing them.

   I may believe that "God is Still Speaking" though I personally believe He is saying the same thing He always did, just we now have more words than we did before to make his will clearer.
katisara
GM, 5726 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 30 Jun 2015
at 00:12
  • msg #289

Re: Marriage Equality

If your argument is that the ban on homosexual marriages infringes on the right to practice religion, I'd be inclined to agree. But that's an application of the current laws as written, and it doesn't seem to be what the justices did. Alternatively, if they said the government's applying definitions of marriage is violating separation of church and state, again I'd be inclined to agree.
C-h Freese
player, 9 posts
UCC
Knight
Tue 30 Jun 2015
at 04:11
  • msg #290

Re: Marriage Equality

I don't want to seem to claim to be better read on this then I am but as I said the reading I have done it started with tax exemptions to support married households.  Without it they would never have agreed to see the case.
  The courts have listened carefully to suggestions of issues that would compromise that very strentgh of household those tax breaks were meant to protect.  Because the 14th amendment was ruled by the supreme court to enforce the same rights as repesented by the bill of rights on the states, it is the job of the supreme court to protect the rights of the individual, and especially one belonging to a minority of some kind.
  The problem is if they couldn't find an issue that threatened that household that was special in the nature of gay marriage then they had to rule the union and the state had no valid intrestin excluding gay marriage from the definition.  This is not taking a power it is refusing to take one.  That said because that power is refused the current powers enforcing and supporting marriages now includes them.
katisara
GM, 5727 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 30 Jun 2015
at 12:45
  • msg #291

Re: Marriage Equality

Except that the marriage tax benefits were established for a very specific public good; establishing cohesive families to produce future tax-payers. The majority of homosexual couples do not and will not have children, and in a large number of places, cannot adopt. Therefore, the marriage tax benefit does not apply.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 907 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Tue 30 Jun 2015
at 14:16
  • msg #292

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Except that the marriage tax benefits were established for a very specific public good; establishing cohesive families to produce future tax-payers. The majority of homosexual couples do not and will not have children, and in a large number of places, cannot adopt. Therefore, the marriage tax benefit does not apply.

That's actually not true. Here in the US, marriage benefits were established to give a break to couples who were solemnized by religious groups.  Also, nowhere are marriage benefits actually dependent on having children; you get them even if you state from the get-go that you're not going to have any.
Doulos
player, 539 posts
Tue 30 Jun 2015
at 15:17
  • msg #293

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Except that the marriage tax benefits were established for a very specific public good; establishing cohesive families to produce future tax-payers. The majority of homosexual couples do not and will not have children, and in a large number of places, cannot adopt. Therefore, the marriage tax benefit does not apply.


Sounds like an argument for making the rules much easier (ie less discriminatory) for same sex couples to raise a family.  I just tried to find some numbers on same-sex couples vs opposite-sex couples and couldn't find anything with a cursory glance, but I imagine there are good numbers out there.  Looks like as of 5 years ago there were already about 25% of same-sex couples who had kids - and this despite discriminatory laws regarding adoption for those folks.

It only makes sense that as same-sex couples are now legally allowed to marry, and as adoption laws are brought more into line with what is fair, that same-sex couples will also have more kids. Either way, even if 'only' 25% of those couples have kids, that's still a significant amount (again, not sure how that compares today with opposite-sex couples).

The argument that same-sex couples are not capable of establishing cohesive families that will produce future tax-payers (if that's even truly the purpose of that specific tax benefit) seems completely offbase.
C-h Freese
player, 10 posts
UCC
Knight
Tue 30 Jun 2015
at 16:46
  • msg #294

Re: Marriage Equality


katisara:
... The majority of homosexual couples do not and will not have children, and in a large number of places, cannot adopt...

Grandmaster Cain:
That's actually not true. Here in the US, marriage benefits were established to give a break to couples who were solemnized by religious groups.  Also, nowhere are marriage benefits actually dependent on having children...


K; and marriage will make it easyier to adopt.
 Circular logic that they shouldn't marry because they can't adopt, because they aren't or can't marry, won't be an issue.  People worry about legalizing pologamy, minor marriages and beastiality, my thought will be the next push will be against banns on adoptions.

Gm-C; and by Captains at sea and Justice of the Peace on land.
katisara
GM, 5728 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 30 Jun 2015
at 20:52
  • msg #295

Re: Marriage Equality

Grandmaster Cain:
katisara:
Except that the marriage tax benefits were established for a very specific public good; establishing cohesive families to produce future tax-payers. The majority of homosexual couples do not and will not have children, and in a large number of places, cannot adopt. Therefore, the marriage tax benefit does not apply.

That's actually not true. Here in the US, marriage benefits were established to give a break to couples who were solemnized by religious groups.  Also, nowhere are marriage benefits actually dependent on having children; you get them even if you state from the get-go that you're not going to have any.


It is quite true; most marriage law was established in the English and French systems hundreds of years ago, when the most advanced form of birth control was a sheep's bladder. At the time, most marriages resulted in children (or were formed to care for existing children), and the civil concept of marriage established parental rights, inheritance, so on and so forth. The tax benefits, when income taxes were established int eh 19th century, just followed what was already there; support the family.

The transition to the modern setting is laws not keeping up with technology. Young married people not having children is an option now, where it really wasn't before, and the elderly have always been an edge case (plus, it's grandmas, who's going to harass them?) Judging the current laws based on the current technology rather than the original intent is a mistake.
katisara
GM, 5729 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 30 Jun 2015
at 20:56
  • msg #296

Re: Marriage Equality

Doulos:
Sounds like an argument for making the rules much easier (ie less discriminatory) for same sex couples to raise a family.


Assuming homosexual families raising children is decided to be the best course for society. And this is something that needs to be decided by legislators with support of scientists and studies, not judges.


quote:
I just tried to find some numbers on same-sex couples vs opposite-sex couples and couldn't find anything with a cursory glance, but I imagine there are good numbers out there.  Looks like as of 5 years ago there were already about 25% of same-sex couples who had kids - and this despite discriminatory laws regarding adoption for those folks.


You'll probably need to look at other countries where it's been legal for longer.


quote:
same-sex couples will also have more kids. Either way, even if 'only' 25% of those couples have kids, that's still a significant amount (again, not sure how that compares today with opposite-sex couples).


"More" does not mean "a significant number". Adoption is difficult and expensive. Very few sterile heterosexual couples adopt because of that. If only 5% of homosexual couples adopt, it isn't clear that they are providing the same benefit to society. Therefore, the benefits should not necessarily be the same either.

quote:
The argument that same-sex couples are not capable of establishing cohesive families that will produce future tax-payers (if that's even truly the purpose of that specific tax benefit) seems completely offbase.


That's empty rhetoric and you know it.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 908 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Tue 30 Jun 2015
at 21:12
  • msg #297

Re: Marriage Equality

quote:
It is quite true; most marriage law was established in the English and French systems hundreds of years ago, when the most advanced form of birth control was a sheep's bladder. At the time, most marriages resulted in children (or were formed to care for existing children), and the civil concept of marriage established parental rights, inheritance, so on and so forth. The tax benefits, when income taxes were established int eh 19th century, just followed what was already there; support the family.


Not quite true; marriage law allowed religious-recognized unions to have inheritance priority over others, which is wht it was needed.  Because religious and civil marriage were identical back then, the distinction wasn't really needed.

quote:
Assuming homosexual families raising children is decided to be the best course for society. And this is something that needs to be decided by legislators with support of scientists and studies, not judges.

There's actually no evidence for that position.  I haven't seen a single study indicating that kids of homosexual parents/partners are any less well off then those from hetero unions, and a fair amount of evidence that they're much better off than a single-parent family.
Doulos
player, 540 posts
Tue 30 Jun 2015
at 22:01
  • msg #298

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Assuming homosexual families raising children is decided to be the best course for society. And this is something that needs to be decided by legislators with support of scientists and studies, not judges.


Work in this area has already been done and from what I've seen gay parents do just as well as non-gay.  More work needed, but no massive red flags yet that should set off alarm bells as far as I am aware.

katisara:
"More" does not mean "a significant number". Adoption is difficult and expensive. Very few sterile heterosexual couples adopt because of that. If only 5% of homosexual couples adopt, it isn't clear that they are providing the same benefit to society. Therefore, the benefits should not necessarily be the same either.


A lot of ifs there to try ad create a narrative that maybe, if, perhaps, gay parents are not capable of establishing cohesive families that will produce future tax-payers

Doulos:
The argument that same-sex couples are not capable of establishing cohesive families that will produce future tax-payers (if that's even truly the purpose of that specific tax benefit) seems completely offbase.


katisara:
That's empty rhetoric and you know it.


Your words, not mine. You said "Except that the marriage tax benefits were established for a very specific public good; establishing cohesive families to produce future tax-payers."  I am challenging whether that does not apply to gay couples as well.  I don't see it being different whether a couple is gay or straight.
This message was last edited by the player at 22:05, Tue 30 June 2015.
Tycho
GM, 3991 posts
Mon 7 Sep 2015
at 16:00
  • msg #299

Re: Marriage Equality

So, what do people think about the whole Kim Davis thing?  I'm pretty firmly in the "if doing your job conflicts with your religious views, you should probably look for a different job" camp.  Anyone here feel she's the victim/hero/martyr/whatever?
Doulos
player, 541 posts
Tue 8 Sep 2015
at 00:01
  • msg #300

Re: Marriage Equality

I agree.

However, the narrative that comes across my wife's facebook feed from her fundy friends is that she doesn't have to follow the law because it's not really a law and even if it was then she wouldn't have to obey it since it goes against God's own wishes.

Same old story.

Looking forward to the day (likely by the time my kids are adults) that % of people who think that way are so low as to be mostly a non-issue.
katisara
GM, 5731 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Tue 8 Sep 2015
at 16:25
  • msg #301

Re: Marriage Equality

The part that causes me to pause is the fact that she is elected. She isn't a government clerk who submitted her resume and did an interview. The people in her county specifically chose her to run that office. As such, I don't know if she should resign, or if she should instead work to support her constituents beliefs on the matter however she feels is most appropriate (and that if she has a moral complication with this particular task, she might appoint a different individual to fill that role). At the same time, she's either personally violating a court order, in which case jail is correct, or she's doing so in an official capacity, which would be... what, rebellion?
Grandmaster Cain
player, 909 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Thu 10 Sep 2015
at 00:51
  • msg #302

Re: Marriage Equality

She doesn't have a leg to stand on.

First, the Bible makes it clear that God raises powers and principalities, so they're part of the divine plan.  On top of which, Jesus was clear that his followers could "Render unto Ceasar" and still be righteous, so that's not an exemption either.

The Bible also makes it clear that oaths are sacred, and that if you make an oath (regardless of what it is) you are expected to keep it.  By a coincidence, the oath Davis took upon taking office was to "uphold the Constitution".  Since the Supreme Court has very clearly said that homosexual marriage is a part of that Constitution, she's breaking her oath-- to not just the government, but to the people, and to God.
Doulos
player, 542 posts
Thu 10 Sep 2015
at 15:08
  • msg #303

Re: Marriage Equality

You're not even speaking the same language as the people who are defending her though.

Internet troll Matt Walsh said this:

quote:
But for another thing, gay “marriage,” even if it’s legitimized with the obligatory paperwork, still cannot exist. Gay “marriage” is an impossibility, a non sequitur. It has been not only illegally imposed on us, but impossibly. No matter what the Supreme Court says, or what anyone says, men and women will still be different. And it is that difference that defines marriage, that breathes life into it, that gives it a purpose, that makes it integral to society.

hakootoko
player, 175 posts
Fri 11 Sep 2015
at 00:39
  • msg #304

Re: Marriage Equality

Assuming people are trolls is a way of shutting down dialog. It's better to assume people are honest until proven otherwise.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 910 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Fri 11 Sep 2015
at 02:04
  • msg #305

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
The part that causes me to pause is the fact that she is elected. She isn't a government clerk who submitted her resume and did an interview. The people in her county specifically chose her to run that office. As such, I don't know if she should resign, or if she should instead work to support her constituents beliefs on the matter however she feels is most appropriate (and that if she has a moral complication with this particular task, she might appoint a different individual to fill that role). At the same time, she's either personally violating a court order, in which case jail is correct, or she's doing so in an official capacity, which would be... what, rebellion?

Forgot to add: this *is* exactly like the Civil Rights movement.

Back then, when Equal Rights were clarified to be the law, there were plenty of elected officials who got in on a platform of racism.  For the most part, they decided they had to follow the law, and move on.  There were a couple of hold outs, but getting arrested eventually took the wind out of their sails.  Plus, some of the ones who moved with the times became very successful: Strom Thurmond fought against equal rights for a long time, but eventally came along, and started getting more support for it.

But even so... Strom Thurmond fought within the system, he might have argued bitterly against the law, but he obeyed it.  So, we have a very strong historical precedent that even if the law goes against the politics you were voted in with, effective leaders still follow the law.
Doulos
player, 543 posts
Fri 11 Sep 2015
at 04:10
  • msg #306

Re: Marriage Equality

hakootoko:
Assuming people are trolls is a way of shutting down dialog. It's better to assume people are honest until proven otherwise.


If you're familiar with Matt Walsh and his "work" then you would know that I am not assuming anything.
katisara
GM, 5732 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Fri 11 Sep 2015
at 17:02
  • msg #307

Re: Marriage Equality

A friend posted this recently, which I thought was interesting:
http://www.newyorker.com/news/...be-militant-atheists

Specifically, this: "Belief or nonbelief in God is irrelevant to our understanding of the workings of nature—just as it’s irrelevant to the question of whether or not citizens are obligated to follow the law."

I think this is a broader question; is Ms. Davis justified in saying she does not care to participate in an activity she finds immoral? Is this changed because it's founded on religious beliefs, rather than personal morality? Is it changed because she's elected vs. employed vs. a business owner (since we've seen all three examples)?

If she were the state comptroller and decided redlining was unethical, and she would stop signing off on banks that planned to do that, would we feel the same way? I imagine in that case we'd support her "standing up against the banks". But that's just because her views happen to align with ours, doesn't it?
Tycho
GM, 3992 posts
Fri 11 Sep 2015
at 18:08
  • msg #308

Re: Marriage Equality

In reply to katisara (msg # 307):

Yeah, I'd largely agree with what that article says (though the title is a bit over the top, presumably on purpose).

To answer your questions:

1.  Yes, Ms. Davis is absolutely entitled to not participate in activities she finds immoral.  However, if that prevents her from doing her job, she needs to resign.  I saw an article today that summed it up like something like this "you're free to be a conscientious objector, but if you exercise that right, you can't turn around and demand a career in the military".

2.  I think it currently *is* treated differently because its a religious belief, but I think it *shouldn't* be treated differently from any belief based on personal morality.

3.  I don't think the issue is so much whether she's a boss, official, or employee, so much as whether what she's doing infringes upon other people's rights or not.  She's free to practice her religion, but she's not free to force other people to live as though they practice it too.  Others who don't agree with her religious views have just as much right to follow their beliefs as she does, but she's using her position to prevent them from doing so.

4.  Definitely people's reactions will be heavily influenced by whether they agree with the view being pushed.  The point has been raised by many people that if Kim Davis were a muslim denying marriage certificates to women without head coverings, she wouldn't be getting all the support she's getting now.  And many people who we now view as heroes violated the law by participating in civil disobedience in the past.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 911 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Fri 11 Sep 2015
at 21:50
  • msg #309

Re: Marriage Equality

Let's try an easier example.

Say you're a vegan, or just converted to being a vegan.  You have a deep seated belief that all animal products are immoral.  Now, that belief is fine, and how you practice that in your own life is up to you.

But.. let's say you want to get a job at a butcher, or work at one when you convert.  Vegans cannot handle meat products like that.  So, they have a very moral reason why they shouldn't do their job anymore.  Now: does the employer have a duty to accomodate them?

The answer is, of course not.  You have every right to your beliefs, but you can't ask to ignore major job duties as part of your beliefs.  Your employer doesn't have to make an exception for you.

Let's get even sillier.  Let's say you're a staunch anti-birth control, anti-abortionist activist.  Again, that belief is fine; but then you apply for a job as a birth control counselor.  This really happened, and the lady was rightfully denied the job-- but she followed up with a long complaint about religious discrimination.

Basically: if your moral beliefs mean you're not suited to do a given job, you should not try and work that job.  Quit, and find something else.  And let's face it, with all this media attention, Kim Davis would have a long list of people willing to hire her for nearly anything.  She can find a new job easily enough, she's just using her current position for political attention and grandstanding.
Doulos
player, 544 posts
Fri 11 Sep 2015
at 23:38
  • msg #310

Re: Marriage Equality

Wouldn't it be slightly different in this case.

More like you were someone who applied (or ran to be elected) to work at a women's health facility in a country where abortions were illegal. You got hired/elected.

Then the law changed to make abortions legal, and you were required to sign off on that abortion should anyone come into your facility to perform one.

Again, I think that individual should step out of their position at this point, but it's somewhat different than asking to be hired on when abortions were already a part of that equation.
katisara
GM, 5733 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sat 12 Sep 2015
at 12:03
  • msg #311

Re: Marriage Equality

Again though, the fact that she's elected is very important. She didn't 'apply for a job'. She was elected to represent her constituents. If her constituents feel she is not representing them, it is up to them to remove her. If she is accurately representing them, why should she resign?
Doulos
player, 545 posts
Sat 12 Sep 2015
at 16:05
  • msg #312

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Again though, the fact that she's elected is very important. She didn't 'apply for a job'. She was elected to represent her constituents. If her constituents feel she is not representing them, it is up to them to remove her. If she is accurately representing them, why should she resign?


Because what she is doing is no longer allowed under the law.
katisara
GM, 5734 posts
Conservative human
Antagonist
Sun 13 Sep 2015
at 01:37
  • msg #313

Re: Marriage Equality

That's reason for her to be arrested, yes. But 'following the law' isn't the end-all and be-all of what is moral behavior.
Doulos
player, 546 posts
Sun 13 Sep 2015
at 15:49
  • msg #314

Re: Marriage Equality

Your question didn't appear to be about morals, but rather about why she should resign from her elected position.
Tycho
GM, 3993 posts
Sun 13 Sep 2015
at 18:08
  • msg #315

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Again though, the fact that she's elected is very important. She didn't 'apply for a job'. She was elected to represent her constituents.

I'm not sure I really consider a county clerk to be someone "elected to represent" constituents.  She's not in a governing or legislating job, but a carry-out-some-duties job.

katisara:
If her constituents feel she is not representing them, it is up to them to remove her. If she is accurately representing them, why should she resign?

A few points here:
1.  She's never really made this argument, and its been pretty clear that she views this as a personal rights issue, not a "I'm just doing what my constituents want" issue.  I think she's made it pretty clear that she'd still refuse to marry gay couples, even if most people in the county want her too, which sort of undermines this whole line of argument.
2.  Remember that the people she's refusing to serve are also "her constituents," just as much as anyone else in the county.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 912 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 03:29
  • msg #316

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Again though, the fact that she's elected is very important. She didn't 'apply for a job'. She was elected to represent her constituents. If her constituents feel she is not representing them, it is up to them to remove her. If she is accurately representing them, why should she resign?

Because even elected officials have to follow the law.

Look, back in the Civil Right's movement, when school desegregation became the law, there were a number of elected officals who held out-- they refused to follow the law, even going to far as to physically block black students from entering schools.  I think one guy ended up being confronted by a squad of soldiers, led by a General, and backed with a request from the President to let the black students in.

As I recall, that guy ran on a policy of segregation, and was elected on that policy.  So, he was definitely following the will of his electorate.  However... our country's laws were, in large part, built to protect a minority from the will of a majority.  That's why equal rights is so important, and why "majority rules" is not an excuse for breaking the law.
Tycho
GM, 3994 posts
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 08:09
  • msg #317

Re: Marriage Equality

Another issue with the line of reasoning is that it seems to lead directly to "elected officials don't need to follow any laws they don't like."  Should everyone from the president to small-town county clerks consider themselves an elected dictator, who needn't follow any laws as long as they win elections?

One of the things I find frustrating about the Kim Davis situation is that the people who seem to be praising her seem to be the same folks who complain about Obama's executive order, and freak out about Sharia law.  They're all for ignoring the law of the land as long as it's them that's ignoring it, and they're all for the government imposing religious laws, as long as it's their religion.
C-h Freese
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Tue 15 Sep 2015
at 14:46
  • msg #318

Re: Marriage Equality

My read of what happened included an article where it listed the items that the conservitave judge offered to allow so that she would be able to be considered NOT In Contempt, a big one was if she just stepped back and allowed the five of six subordinates who told the Judge they would, to carry out the marriages.  She might as the elected boss she may already have her name on the marriage certificates I Don't Know.  So that might have been her issue when she refused to allow her subordinates to carry out the marrages.
   My understanding is that currently and for sometime before this marriage issue, precedent is that the court supports religous taboos of individuals as long as a work around is not overly inconvenant to the employer, or office [as in the county clerks office] if it is either the religous person must find a new job or rethink their leanings.
There was apperently a court case Where a muslim flight attendent requested to not be required to serve alcohol due to her beliefs, it turns out her request was to be allowed to Go Back to not serving alchol.  As she had been doing before with her catching up other items while another served the drinks.  It was never a question of drinks not getting served,

     The big problem is one as she is elected she very truely does represent her governance subdivision. But; when the Civil War ended and the 14th & 15th ammendments were passed, my understandind of supreme court thoughts on the matter, may have included such thoughts as "idiots", "nit-wits", "what do they think we can Do With THIS", if it had been a law it could have been ruled "Unconstitutionaly Vague".  What they decided to do was use the only Establested yard stick for good governance the Bill of Rights & All it's Precedents as Hold.

     The question of a governmental santion of marriage has no religious dimension, even religious oaths under Gods name didn't take place until two-hundred years afther the birth of Christ.  Under the 14th ammendment unlike before the civil war items of only State intrest are now subject to not only the Bill of Right be the precedent created for those ammendments.  BUT; only as soon as the courts rule on them, as courts usual pace is glacial we are still getting new rulings based on the "new" precedents.

This does not mean Church is helpless, that Legal Courts, Have called on Religious Tribunals to rule on questions of Membership, and Church Property, so that the legal court could take the tribunals ruling to complete their own.  In the Union a Sharia Court like a tribunal may only rule on those two items; no head or hand chopping, no stoning, Only is this person a member? or not? on probation?  If a mosque splits, either due to "steeplejacking", or over question of dogma, or personality conflict who does the property go with.

   If you church does not see their dogma as allowing married gays, and or their children, that is covered under religious freedom.  This will not stop them from joining those churches who are that inclusive, and marrying their.  And if some current Religious Hardliners get their way, it won't stop want-to-be polygamists from joining a supportive religion and marrying.

    If She doesn't want her name on Gay marriage licences I see that as a valid issue.  But if the law currently allows only Her name on the licence, was his offer to allow others to act, ignoring that, setting precedent that in such a case excusive name requiremnt was a violation of her religious rights and her subordinates could lawfully act in her place in case of religous taboo?  Though I could see a Seal of office acting in place of a name, under the precedent "give to Ceasor what is Ceasar's" as this Gay marriage is Ceasar's act.
This message was last edited by the player at 14:46, Tue 15 Sept 2015.
katisara
GM, 5735 posts
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Tue 15 Sep 2015
at 15:03
  • msg #319

Re: Marriage Equality

Grandmaster Cain:
katisara:
Again though, the fact that she's elected is very important. She didn't 'apply for a job'. She was elected to represent her constituents. If her constituents feel she is not representing them, it is up to them to remove her. If she is accurately representing them, why should she resign?

Because even elected officials have to follow the law.


I didn't say she shouldn't have to follow the law or that she shouldn't go to jail--just that she shouldn't resign.
Grandmaster Cain
player, 913 posts
Meddling son of
a bezelwort
Thu 17 Sep 2015
at 01:24
  • msg #320

Re: Marriage Equality

katisara:
Grandmaster Cain:
katisara:
Again though, the fact that she's elected is very important. She didn't 'apply for a job'. She was elected to represent her constituents. If her constituents feel she is not representing them, it is up to them to remove her. If she is accurately representing them, why should she resign?

Because even elected officials have to follow the law.


I didn't say she shouldn't have to follow the law or that she shouldn't go to jail--just that she shouldn't resign.

If you won't do your job, you should resign.
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