Kertook:
[above is katisara--sorry not quite getting the quote thing yet]
(Just write (quote) like that, then later do another (/quote) to close it. Except use angly brackets instead of parens.)
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You are showing examples where there is an scertainable harm to a concrete victim (unwanted rape to the specifc, unconsenting child.) That is pretty objectively wrong [we can get into why, but let's assume we agree there], and I can agree on that. But that's very different from something that you just think is wrong (immoral) based on a dogmatic position. [yes, tie-in to my other thread].
How? Because it's something we both agree on? Is morality decided by popular vote? Why is it okay to limit an activity when
you think it's wrong, but not when
I think it's wrong?
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You go from store to store trying to get lemon pie but to no avail as everyone operates under your assumption and says "no lemon pie for women" and its ok to do that, while all the men around get lemon pie as much as they want. How fair would that be? Aren't your interests being unduly harmed for the benefit of the lemon pie monopolists who know better than you what's "wrong" ? In other countries/cultures there would be no way to get that lemon pie without risking a stoning or some similar punishment for the "immorality" your were committing. But that would be ok?
There's a few points here.
1) Life isn't fair. Life is not meant to be fair. I'm not sure why being fair is even desirable. So the fact that boys can eat pie and girls can't, while indeed not fair, isn't a huge social wrong that needs to be fixed any more than the fact that girls can give birth and boys can't. I'm not upset about discrimination because it's not 'fair' because we're not in second grade any more.
2) This is of course a constructed example, and an important detail here is "no one" will sell you lemon pie. However, in the US at least, and most of the western world, you're not going to find a lot of examples where one bakery won't sell because of moral beliefs, and none of the others will either. In the original case here, if the woman couldn't buy her wedding dress at shop A,
she should go shop at shops B, C, and D. Yes, if there was conspiracy to not sell this individual a dress, or if there's a monopoly of this sort of service, I'd be more inclined to agree with you, but that isn't the case.
3) Lemon pies, like wedding dresses, are luxuries. Again, I'm not going to die from not getting lemon pie. I am, at most, minorly inconvenienced, because I have to spend half an hour making my own damn pie. If the saleswoman was refusing to sell insulin to a gay diabetic, again I'd be more inclined to agree with you. But she's selling wedding dresses, and I'm not aware of anyone suffering from a medical condition whose only cure is more wedding dress.
4) Ultimately, I do understand the situation (honestly!) I have been turned out of shops before, and it feels bad. I'm not saying the buyer doesn't have a case; she does. But the seller also has a case. In a perfect world, the buyer should be able to buy her dress, and the seller should be able to NOT sell it, but obviously, that isn't possible in the real world. So we have to decide in favor of one person or the other. In this case, I think the right of an individual over her own personal property trumps the privilege of having money. The lesbian woman does not have a 'right' in question here. We have no right to excellent service, or to a great product at a great price. But we do have a right to refuse to associate with people, and to control our personal property. So, while I feel for the lesbian woman, I don't think it's fair to the saleswoman to force her to do business like that.
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katisara:
What line of business would that be?
Doesn't matter. Writing technical manuals for computer parts, or similar. The point is why make the public at large suffer for you following your dogma rather than have you make a practical/financial sacrifice for your deeply held beliefs? After all, aren't thay more important than money or what job you have?
'the public at large'? The lady isn't running a strip club in front of a pre-school. She's denying a single individual from buying her product. But really, your question rephrases to "why inconvenience this woman, when you can quit your job and livelihood and maybe get another job in a field you have no skill in" (ignoring the fact that if I happen to be a salesperson, I probably don't know anything about writing technical manuals). I'm not sure where you work, but my field is pretty specialized, and if a law was passed that said I had to engage in unethical behavior in order to keep my job, that would literally mean I'm choosing between following what I, with an educated conscience, believe is right, and living, with my kids, on the street. Do you honestly think that living on the street is the less of a nuisance than asking a customer to go to the other shop down the road?
This message was last edited by the GM at 13:04, Fri 15 June 2012.