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Really? First off, who I AM is only what I look like?
You're putting words into my mouth. The point is, there are what people are and what they do, and those two sets are not identical.
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Are you also trying to say, someone isn't gay (or heterosexual) UNTIL they have sex? How much?
Being homosexual is based on attraction, not actions. I was heterosexual LONG before I had sex.
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...vendors don't NEED to know why I'm buying a Dress.
They don't, you're right. In the case you mentioned though, the customer voluntarily gave up that information. If I walk into your store and buy rope, you have no business prying further. However, if I walk into your store, loudly proclaim I'm tying my children to a tree overnight because they've been disobedient, THEN buy rope, you now have an obligation to intervene.
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...vendors just NEED to sell one when a buyer is there.
Um ... really? I think a vendor has the right to run his shop as he likes, whether it's effective or not. If I sit in my shop with the doors unlocked and the lights on, but don't unlock the register, are you going to call the police to force me to sell you things?
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And again, surely you don't think EVERY belief is sufficient to deny service...so why is ANY belief at all sufficient? IE What is the vendor objected because the marriage partner ...not same-gendered... were of different ethnicity?
Yes, I believe every belief is sufficient to deny service, and in fact I'm rather surprised that you, self-avowed revolutionary, would take any other stance. If you come into my hardware shop and say "I'm buying lumber to burn crosses", or "I'm buying rope to tie up my children", yes, I feel quite justified in saying "my beliefs prevent me from assisting you in this, and in fact, the police are on their way".
We *have* to accept "all beliefs" for two basic reasons;
1) I don't have God almighty sitting next to me when I'm running my shop to tell me which behavior is appropriate and which is extremely dangerous and destructive. I have to rely on my own best judgment. And this is the same for me and you and every other person in that position.
2) I have a right to exercise my beliefs with my property however I like! Are you proposing that, if I buy property and say "this property is only open to people who agree with me", that the police should bust down the doors so anyone at all can come in? That's ludicrous.
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First, no one is coming in "describing" an action that hurts ANYONE. In this case the VENDOR inquired, as a good sales person might. Then she let her bigotry and Semitic superiority fly.
Who is responsible for determining what action is harmful? Remember, we're not talking necessarily about criminal harm here. If I run a store and you come in and put a sticker on my window or rearrange my flowers, I can reasonably call that harmful and toss you out.
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Second, do you mean even a little to equate wedding with an at this point unjustified, premeditated murder?
I am selecting an event that everyone can agree is bad, so we have a baseline of agreement. It's not intended to be a comparison of 'badness' or anything of the sort.
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Last, selling an item is NOT endorsement. IF you think that, you need to read the terms of service of almost ever product you buy. AS WELL AS, the disclaimers on about ever DVD movie commentary. Those specific disclaimers are NOT required. But they would certainly BE sufficient.
There's legal endorsement and moral endorsement. You're confusing the two. Knowingly selling paraphernalia for an activity is a form of moral endorsement, even if you hold no legal liability.