Ooc: Volume 3
Oh WOW.
Well first it seems to me that your husband is doing what he is suppose to do, that is protecting you as his wife. I believe it is in most vows, "Love, Honor, Cherish, and Protect" so he is not just being a jerk, even if it came across that way.
Your aunt might need to be sat down and gently showed how her actions could harm others. This is going to meet with push back. She is going to feel that she is being treated like a child. She may not ever forgive you.
There really is no way around this, IMHO. Your husband is doing the right thing, even if he went about it the wrong way. Your aunt will likely push back, but she may come around.
My two pennies.