Fleahop
 member, 4 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 18:54
So Adult Games...
Why are there so many of the things?

I am quite new to the site, so I may be interpreting this incorrectly, but it looks kinda off-putting. I'm trying to get more people into this, but when I see A on nearly every players wanted post I second guess myself. Why do we need explicit sexual content in so many games?

If I tried to tell my friends about this place and they saw that they'd never play here. Just saying.

Am I wrong about adult games or is there something I'm missing here?
donsr
 member, 1358 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 18:57
So Adult Games...
I have a GM I game3d with for years.. she  puts Adult on hers  to keep kids out of her games, and..in case  folks get frisky.

 for me?.. all my games  are Mature, and I try to keep  it 'over 18' just so I get folks with commitment . My games  are darker, folks get blown up, eaten sad stories  ect ect… but if  folks   deciede to hook up, they fade to black.

 I stay away from Adult games  myself, because i'm here for the stories, adventure  and RP..not   the  extra stuff.
tmagann
 member, 536 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:02
So Adult Games...
There has been a rash of Adult ratings lately. I think part of the problem is that folks are confusing Mature and Adult, at least as far as RPoL uses them. I avoid them because I don't see the need for too much detail in blood and gore, and RPGs are sexual activities in my mind.
Rinandien
 member, 56 posts
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Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:03
So Adult Games...
A game being Adult just means that any of the following CAN appear in it:
/help/content.cgi?t=faqs&page=adultpolicy

Not that any/all of it is. Might depend on the type of game. A lot of D&D games I'm in are Adult but get nowhere near sexual content. Could be for gore/drug/to be safe or as donsr said just to keep people out.
NowhereMan
 member, 229 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:04
So Adult Games...
Adult games don't have to necessarily include explicit sexual themes. There are other reasons to need the tag. For instance, I have a crime drama game that includes gritty and graphic drug use and other street-level crime, which doesn't necessarily include sex, but it's not content I'd be comfortable presenting to minors, so it gets the Adult tag.

And like donsr said, sometimes people add the Adult tag simply because they don't want to game with kids.
Fleahop
 member, 5 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:12
So Adult Games...
I totally agree with the fade to black thing. My point is the mature tag seems to encompass what I would consider mature and adult themed in a game. While adult tag gives off a vibe of people doing horrid things while frantically typing on their keyboard to some imaginary situation.

So why not have a way to only allow 18+ and also disallow sexual content? If people are using the adult tag just because they don't want kiddos then it seems a little misused. It frankly comes off as immature (not trying to bash anyone else here, you do you booboo).


Again, this is me trying to introduce more people to the site and not have them run off immediately.
NowhereMan
 member, 230 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:13
So Adult Games...
The way to only allow 18+ and disallow sexual content is simple: Tag the game Adult, and disallow sexual content in your game rules. Lots of games do precisely that.
donsr
 member, 1359 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:27
So Adult Games...
over the eyars    that  I have played  and run games here?  I really hate when we have players  come in , that after the  pre-acceptance  talk, said  ,yeah they were  teens  ect…

 I don't  care so much about the age,  the  games I have don't have  any thing worse in the most M  Video GAmes ( I know cause I play, left grandkids  play with the  stiff edict  that if they talk  like that aroudn  me or their parnest they are done ::chuckles::

 But, I have  damn good players, swearing   is kept to 'mild' with  "hard stuff' saved  for expounding on  anger  ect……

 havign said  all this, I hate to spend the time  with a  'kid'..and then  they go dark, its  easy enough to cover the   vanishing  character, but it leaves a hole for players who liked   'sharing the fox hole: with them.


 regardless?.. I still stay away from Adult  games, and  Id Never  really run one.
NowhereMan
 member, 231 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:33
So Adult Games...
I have just as many adult players disappear on me as I have minor ones, personally, donsr.

But I'd say your reservations, Fleahop, comes from a misperception of what the Adult tag is used for. Yeah, it's used for sex games, and you're allowed to feel about that whatever you'd like, but it's also used for a lot of other reasons.

For instance, a horror game based on splatterhouse films like Saw would need the Adult tag, even if there was never so much as an errant peck on the cheek.

And you can ask players to only apply to your Mature game if they are 18+, but the Adult tag means they are in breach of the site rules if they lie about their age in order to apply, and the whole thing is taken care of automatically by the age check that's prompted when entering an Adult game.
donsr
 member, 1360 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:36
So Adult Games...
 Yep Nowhereman…  I had folks   vbanich..I don't keep ghosts with out a heads up... by the ypunger  folks have a lot more  'real life' things..even college kids  ebb and flow  with when they are in school and when they are not
tmagann
 member, 537 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:40
So Adult Games...
The problem is: You don't necessarily know WHY the GM is using it, so you have to assume that it includes anything. Even the things you might want to avoid in a game. With Mature, you don't have that problem.
NowhereMan
 member, 232 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:43
So Adult Games...
And why can't you just... Ask? I'd think that asking about game expectations was kind of expected anyway.
Fleahop
 member, 6 posts
Fri 20 Jul 2018
at 19:51
So Adult Games...
Just making an observation here...about 40% of the games on the first couple pages of the players wanted forum are adult in nature. About a tenth of those don't allow sexual content in their games. A little less than half have obvious sexual themes. The others are up in the air and don't say.

It gives a seedy vibe. I've been in quite a few game shops and watched quite a few games or was around while they played. That doesn't happen there, and I don't understand why it's a thing here. From what little "adult" roleplay I've been around or witnessed, it tends to be very immature and basic. Rarely does it help the group either. Why not go to discord or one of the many other areas where you two or three can live out your fantasy?

Well I guess I'll introduce them and tell them not to worry about it. I just wanted to know why it was so prevalent and my question was answered I guess. Hopefully it isn't too off putting. I really didn't expect it to be so often used honestly.