In reply to TheatricalHysterics (msg # 801):
If, or when, I find a woman that I have gone past the third date of, this conversation will come up, yes.
Very simply, my love life wasn't what I was happy about. I have to sort of kick myself for phrasing marriage into it. xD
Since I brought it up though, might as well cover me bases.
- Yes, this would be romantic interest wouldn't be left the scraps. I would devote time to her, and cultivate trust and friendship. After all, I probably won't want a hot date, I'd want another relationship.
- Yeah, Anne and this woman would be aware of each other. Probably not on the first date, most likely on the third.
- Circumstance on the then present would be taken into consideration. Would I mover out, onto my own? Would this girl care? If Anne and this woman don't like each other, how to I handle that?
Bottom line, I'm not ready for a romantic relationship. I've had that, and right now, I don't miss the "low level" parts. There is no soul mate waiting for me. Having a relationship take work. Work I can't afford to spend right now.
I have PTSD and other problems I'm barely managing right now. I'm finally making progress though. I would need to think carefully about mixing in dating and a love life. I'm honestly happy as I am. When a love life becomes a present desire, then I will allocate the time and energy to.
I've learned I don't need a master plan, or much advice when it comes to that. My mistakes will teach me, and that will be acceptable. I'm not (as) afraid to fail, or be rejected.
It's only fair I take whatever woman I meet into account for whatever tactics I use to introduce them to Anne. Right now it's all hypothetical and in an unforeseeable point in the future.
Certainly though, yeah, I'm going keep all this is mind.
Most important, isn't my love life though. Most important is the kick ass job Anne has done in improving the home and herself. This place was a mess. She slaved over getting it done, and I helped until I hurt, but she did an amazing job. The place looks brand new! She also had to deal with her parents (whom arenot good people) coming in to town, and STILL finishing her finals for school. We'll see her grades soon, but I just have to applaud her. And she's STILL going! She started training for a new job on finals week, and tomorrow (today technically) is her last day of training. *Whew* She's been on fire!
This message was last edited by the user at 08:20, Wed 16 May 2018.