ShadoPrism
 member, 848 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 15:39
frivolous question
It was Burger King, so not a small place  (though last time I was down that way that store is totally gone, was a fishing tackle store in it's place).
fireflights
 member, 216 posts
 playing with Fire
 always burns
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 19:10
frivolous question
Okay, I really need to vent. not because I am mad, but because I am hurt. Why do men think we women are so stupid that we won't find out things especially when they put stuff on the internet. I have been in a relationship with someone I was planning on moving in with them as soon as they got their housing straightened, til then I was living with my friend at first in PA and since then in Illinois because I was waiting for him to tell me I could come. Well, today when he didn't tell me he loved me back, which he ALWAYS does, I don't know why but I just knew something was wrong so I began looking online under his name. I found a woman whom I won't name, calling my boyfriend babe! I followed it to her facebook account and lo and behold, she has that she has been in a relationship with him for three months! Three months he has been stringing me along, making me believe everything was fine in our relationship and that I would still be going to be with him only to find out he lied to me. Well I messaged her, told her about how he and I had been in a relationship for over a year, she blocked me but that's okay, I don't care I just warned her to watch her back when it comes to him because if he can do it to me, he will do it to her too. And then I confronted him and he couldn't tell me anything other than it was the distance, we had seen each other in April and I hadn't had the money to come back down and see him, but I guess it wouldn't have mattered anyway. Now I'm so hurt because I fell for him harder than I have for anyone else and I don't get it....what was so wrong with me that he couldn't just wait until his house was finalized and I could come be with him? I know you guys don't really know but I just need to get this out, I am hurt and so very, very confused.
Brianna
 member, 2005 posts
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 19:15
frivolous question
In reply to fireflights (msg # 118):

I know this doesn't help right now, but be glad you hadn't moved in with him when you found out.  A rat like that probably would have done other hurtful things, and at the very least you would have been out a place to live on no notice at all.  Hopefully the other woman thinks things over and gives him some measure of what he deserves.
fireflights
 member, 217 posts
 playing with Fire
 always burns
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 19:22
frivolous question
I hope she does too, but it still hurts really badly that he did this and he knows my past of men cheating on me, he swore up and down he was the one to always be cheated on and that he had never cheated on someone he was with. But now I believe he was just telling me what I wanted to hear.
Little_Devil
 member, 154 posts
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 19:41
frivolous question
I know you can't pick and choose I've been in your position before and it sucks majorly. However.. Some guys when they catch on you've been cheated on before see it as a gateway to do it because it's easy and because you've been through it before like you said he'll tell you things you wanted to hear.

But, he's a jerk for telling you it's because of the distance, it makes you feel at blame as well. But it's not, it's not your fault at all. He didn't need to go into a relationship with another woman, he could have told you 3 months ago he wasn't sure/happy.

For that, it makes it worse. But as Brianna said, be glad you didn't move in with him. If he wasn't willing to tell you for 3 months it could have gone on for a lot longer.

Thank god for us women, our gut instincts and FBI like minds and Internet at our ready.
ShadoPrism
 member, 849 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 20:14
frivolous question
Happens to us men to. I was dating a girl many years ago, we were even engaged to get married, then she married this Other guy and I only found out through a mutual friend it happened.
Ironically I had introduced her to the guy she married (he was the friend of another friend and we all met him at the first friends party).
Anyway you get the picture - even men get cheated on. It's hard to find good people sometimes.
fireflights
 member, 218 posts
 playing with Fire
 always burns
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 21:49
frivolous question
I know even men get cheated on, he told me he had only ever had girls cheat on him and he was the one always getting heart broken. Well so was I and it seems like it's still me in the end who is getting heart broken. I'm so tired of being the one hurting, I have never cheated on a guy, I have always given my all in a relationship, so I just don't get it. But oh well. Guess it's just how my life has to go.
ShadoPrism
 member, 850 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 21:58
frivolous question
Some of us seem doomed to have horrible love lives.
Me, I am turning 50 this year and I have totally given up on finding someone whom I could have in my life. Been hurt far to many times to put myself out there any more.
I hope this is not so for you.
fireflights
 member, 219 posts
 playing with Fire
 always burns
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 22:03
frivolous question
Sadly for me as far as I feel right now it is. I am tired of being hurt, I am almost 38 and I can't give anyone kids, I have multiple medical issues, one being precancer, one being my back with degenerative disc disease and two very bad knees. I'm a mess so honestly, I felt lucky I had found a guy like him, until now. So now.....I'm just done no one will want a broken woman who can barely walk.
ShadoPrism
 member, 851 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 22:37
frivolous question
You may be surprised on that one.
But I am in much the same boat medically speaking. Had 3 strokes (that we know of) over the last 20 years, broken bones, (shattered left shoulder with new steel joint that hurts all the time), the bad knee's (that one is actually pretty common I am finding, though the reasons vary), and many other health issue's.
Finding Anyone willing to put up with our problems is a godsend. I got some friends who help me out (between their own drama's), but nothing in the romance department.

Heh, we could problem fill a thread with our combined health issue's (everyone who visit's this thread that is). Sometimes we forget that. Which is why we have vent threads - helps us reconnect with others who can sympathize with our woe's and try and offer a little comfort to our wounded souls.
fireflights
 member, 220 posts
 playing with Fire
 always burns
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 23:11
frivolous question
Yeah, I'm sure it's been very rough for you and I'm sorry you have to go through all of that. Me, I have arthritis on both my knees, had a surgery to repair torn cartilidge on the right one. I had a girl at 150lbs jump up in the air and slam her entire body weight onto the middle of my back when I was 21 to now cause me to have degenerative disc disease moderate in my L5 and L4 and mild in my L3, I can't get my meds right now because of a transition, I have pre cancer in my uterus and haven't had my suppression meds for almost three days now, it can come back which is why I have decided to remove my uterus, I honestly weigh 340lbs right now because I can't exercise. So I am rather stuck and he knew all of this about me, not to mention the emotional scars I have from not only past relationships but from my abusive childhood too and he said he accepted everything, now I wonder just how much lying he did to me.
Eggy
 member, 622 posts
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 23:56
frivolous question
This room smells like cigarette smoke! >:(
Brygun
 member, 1977 posts
 RPG since 1982
 Author & Inspiration
Tue 15 Sep 2015
at 00:20
frivolous question
To my knowledge there was only ever one episode with Purple Smurfs

G'Nap
BobbiIngrid
 member, 4 posts
Tue 15 Sep 2015
at 03:09
frivolous question
Just have to write this to get this out:

Spotlight Stealers...  I wish I could say "Hey, can you delete that last post of yours so mine right before that can matter even a smidge?"
Merevel
 member, 995 posts
 Gaming :-)
 Very unlucky
Tue 15 Sep 2015
at 04:16
frivolous question
Fireflights, Shadoprism, I know the feeling.

Justing looking for friends, maybe some fun ^.^, but for now the idea of getting married again is definitely a no.

Tired of being lied to as well. Bleh.
Azazeal
 member, 56 posts
Tue 15 Sep 2015
at 23:34
frivolous question
I am getting quite frustrated with a series of horrendous GMs I've had. It's getting really annoying. I generally joinig adult games because I figure that the participants will be more mature, not less!
Wiglaf
 member, 765 posts
Wed 16 Sep 2015
at 03:46
frivolous question
Working two part time jobs to be able to afford to rent a room in someone's house.  Trying to make payments on debts that I can't legally fight, despite them not being my fault.  (Long story, but that's not the point.). Now, my work pants just ripped and I need to buy a new pair one one of my precious half days off.  Now I have to put my bedroom back together after an exterminator sprayed for ants.  Looks like another night of less than six hours of sleep.

Truth is, however, that I feel pretty blessed.  Things could easily have been much worse.  So, while I soak my feet, I raise a glass to my fellow RPoLers.  May your home always be too small to hold all of your friends!
Merevel
 member, 998 posts
 Gaming :-)
 Very unlucky
Sun 27 Sep 2015
at 23:00
frivolous question
Great.... my glasses just broke, and my eyesite is not good enough to fix the problem.
Flarelord
 member, 336 posts
Sun 27 Sep 2015
at 23:23
frivolous question
In reply to Merevel (msg # 134):

I have been right there where you are, friend :3
silverelf
 member, 171 posts
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 00:47
Re: frivolous question
ShadoPrism:
Which is why we have vent threads - helps us reconnect with others who can sympathize with our woe's and try and offer a little comfort to our wounded souls.

Really what we need is a gamer retirement home so we can all support each other >.>
Evil Empryss
 member, 1366 posts
 Because knowing
 is half the battle!
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 01:07
Re: frivolous question
Spent the end of last week scrambling with some coworkers to get everything prepared to help one of the other women escape an abusive domestic relationship.  She had a place to go where she could live indefinitely rent- and utilities-free, we'd haul her stuff out with my trailer for free, and we had all the paperwork for her to set up protective orders to safeguard herself and her kids.  Her husband was out of state and I had the police alerted to what was going down in case someone got word to him and he arrived home early.  All she had to do was walk out the door with her kids and let us get everything packed for her.

She bailed on us half an hour before we were due to arrive at her house.

Every woman that was helping her had been in an abusive relationship in the past.  We all know how hard it can be to get out, but none of us had this kind of help to do it.  This woman has everything someone in her position could want -- financial, emotional, social, and legal support -- and she won't take that step.  We can't make her do it, 'cuz then we'd be just as big of bullies as her husband, but it is taking all my restraint not to smack her one upside the back of the head to knock some sense into her.
ShadoPrism
 member, 860 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 01:53
Re: frivolous question
In reply to Evil Empryss (msg # 137):

Yeah, I can Totally see where your coming from there. Some people just seem to need that extra little push from time to time.
nuric
 member, 2858 posts
 Love D&D,superhero games
 Not very computer savvy
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 04:18
Re: frivolous question
In reply to Evil Empryss (msg # 137):

It's a very difficult situation.   I'm so glad you tried, though.
GammaBear
 member, 508 posts
 Gaymer
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 07:39
Re: frivolous question
Sadly, you can't help those who aren't willing to help themselves.
Merevel
 member, 999 posts
 Gaming :-)
 Very unlucky
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 13:36
Re: frivolous question
In reply to Evil Empryss (msg # 137):

:-/

I know a few women like that. Part of my bad luck with women lol. Anyhoots I know one that took a gun being pointed at her face to leave the relationship.

Wow I have to lean in close >.<