OceanLake
 member, 912 posts
Thu 30 Jul 2015
at 20:22
Re: More appointment woes
Regarding the model: Is there a policy that allows the model to bring a friend/relative, who will stay out of the way, to observe...sort of a duenna.
kouk
 member, 584 posts
Fri 31 Jul 2015
at 10:09
Re: More appointment woes
Isn't there some sort of introductory pamphlet to give new people, explaining the process?
kouk
 member, 585 posts
Wed 5 Aug 2015
at 00:23
Re: More appointment woes
Vent: RPOL is pretty much the only place where I can use my vocabulary.

It feels like the majority of humans in the world people around me haven't touched a book since they left high school.

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ShadoPrism
 member, 825 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Wed 5 Aug 2015
at 00:28
Re: More appointment woes
In reply to kouk (msg # 46):

bo-ok ? what is this strange thing you mention ?

This is what it seems like around non gamers or persons who at least know that a book store is more than a place to get coffee at.
ShadoPrism
 member, 826 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Fri 7 Aug 2015
at 22:53
Re: More appointment woes
This is so not my week, started with a twisted ankle (right side), then dropped an 80 lb bag of sackrete (quick drying concrete) on same foot the Very next day, then ended up having to drive a couple hundred miles (round trips) over the last couple of days, which further aggravated my ankle to the point that my lower leg is so swollen it's hard to tell where my calf muscle ends and my foot (below the ankle) begins. The foot is swollen to.
needless to say I am turning my phone off for the weekend so no one can call and tell me they need me to take X to Y again for at least a couple of days.

Oh and to add to it all, it rained the day I dropped the sackete so now it is turning in to a bag of rock where it is laying. (I can't pick it up cause of an older shoulder injury, by myself. The X in my above equation is laid up do to a knee injury and it has been getting stuff for him that has me doing all this extra driving)

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jait
 member, 334 posts
Sat 8 Aug 2015
at 07:57
Re: More appointment woes
OceanLake:
Regarding the model: Is there a policy that allows the model to bring a friend/relative, who will stay out of the way, to observe...sort of a duenna.


Hell yes!

Models can definitely bring an escort.  Especially on shoots in public places (like this one was).  In-studio, I limit it to one escort... 'cause, you know, only so many people I don't know should have potentially unsupervised access to (steal) my equipment.

After this experience, I wrote up an article on safety-protocols for first-time models...  Submitting it to various places now.  So, at least some positives will come of it.

It was hard not to out her.  But she is definitely on my own personal blacklist. And the sad thing is that I am good enough that I get people and clients seeking me out.  Piss off the photographer during the time-for-images shoot, don't get called for paying gigs.
Eggy
 member, 602 posts
Sat 8 Aug 2015
at 08:06
Re: More appointment woes
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 48):

Why turn your phone off? Didn't you recently post about the burnout you felt from helping so many people? I think you should leave your phone on. If people in need call you up, explain why you're not up to it. If someone attempts to guilt trip you, then you know that person is not a friend.
Brianna
 member, 1993 posts
Sun 9 Aug 2015
at 03:49
Re: More appointment woes
Eggy: Probably because just hearing the phone will be stressful?  Hearing my husband's phone can stress me, and I'm not even the one people are after!  Checking messages occasionally should be enough (my husband doesn't really have much of an option).  And if there really is a serious emergency, someone can find a way.
TJCK
 member, 13 posts
Sun 9 Aug 2015
at 03:52
RTJs

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Eggy
 member, 603 posts
Sun 9 Aug 2015
at 21:43
Re: More appointment woes
In reply to Brianna (msg # 51):

I'm not sure how to respond because I don't understand your situation or your feelings. Is it a minor stress that comes from being annoyed? Or is it more like a sense of dread? What do you do about it?

New Vent: I worked a crazy double shift and came home around 9am. Two hours later, the next door neighbours have a 6-year old's birthday party in full swing. There are about a dozen cars in front of our houses. The kids are all running around screeching and blowing noisemakers that sound like dying geese. I didn't want to be a jerk, so I put in my earplugs. I woke up to find that I'd missed the alarms I set for an appointment today.

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ShadoPrism
 member, 827 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Sun 9 Aug 2015
at 22:47
Re: More appointment woes
In response to the phone bit, combination of both actually - I turned my phone on yesterday to check messages and a different person called and asked me to take them to an emergency room (for a problem that has been bothering them for the past month).
They told him pretty much what I expected (cause this is not the First time we have been through this) and like last time he ignored their advice. Which is another level of frustration for different reasons.
Turning my phone on is starting to feel like Russian Roulette, only it's the phone that is the bullet AND the gun.

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Eggy
 member, 604 posts
Mon 10 Aug 2015
at 02:27
Neighbors
Follow-on Vent

I was packing for a trip, but my suitcase finally bit the dust. I went out to replace it. The neighbor's birthday party is still going on. Bounce house, grill, inflatable pools. Good stuff. I went out to a store, bought a suitcase, came back. When I returned, all the kids are wearing helmets and skating around. The mom next door is putting out traffic cones. Our houses are at the end of a cul-de-sac with a large, rounded planter with a tree and some shrub. We all have marked parking. The parking allocated for me by my renter's agreement is the spot next to the tree directly in front of the house. All of her guests are either in other residents' spots or double parked on the other side of the line of cones. I have a small car, so I drove between the cones and parked. The mother approached while I unloaded my suitcase and some other stuff from my car.

Neighbor: Hi! Can you move your car?
Eggy: I'm not moving my car.
Neighbor: Everybody else moved their cars.
Eggy: I'm packing some luggage. I'll move my car when I'm done.

She said something else, but I was walking away and didn't hear it clearly. A few minutes later, one of my housemates comes knocking.

Housemate: Hey, it's the neighbor lady. She wants to know if you'll move your car down to the visitor lot?
Eggy: You mean where none of her visitors are parked?
Housemate: Come on. I moved my car.
Eggy: I noticed. Into a handicapped space. Nice job.
Housemate: It's just gonna be for, like, two hours.
Eggy: Yeah, right.

So now I'm venting instead of packing. I'll get around to it.
ShadoPrism
 member, 828 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Mon 10 Aug 2015
at 04:15
Re: Neighbors
In reply to Eggy (msg # 55):

Good to Vent it instead of letting it fester. Get it out now and not explode on someone later.
V_V
 member, 478 posts
Wed 12 Aug 2015
at 04:06
Re: Neighbors

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Wyrm
 member, 579 posts
Wed 19 Aug 2015
at 17:25
Another work thread
This is less a vent, more of a needing advice.

So, after finally being granted the nod to apply for a prospective company as a referral from someone that works there, they go ahead and ask me to come in for testing. They were looking to put a training class up for the beginning of September. I did not do my best, but I did not completely bomb it either. Afterwards, is where things get confused for me. After the testing on Tuesday of last week), she said since i was a referral, one way or another, I was going to get a call back if I was to be granted an interview, or passed over. She said typically they take about a week, but since she was going on vacation this week Tuesday (yesterday) that she would call me by Friday, possibly Monday at the latest. Come Friday, no call (fearing the worst) so I a breath was being held for Monday. Monday came and no call. OK, so maybe I misheard and she said she would be on vacation over the weekend, so she would be out Friday and Monday (it did not sound it, but I might have been frazzled from the testing).
Tuesday, no call. Now I am doubting one way or the other.

And now Wednesday, over a week later and half the day is gone. I am not sure if there is a hold up considering my status, if there is stuff going on higher up the process, or what. From sources I know, they need at least the week to do the background checks, so they need to have the interviews squared away before the end of the month. I am not sure if I need to try and get in contact to ask what's going on (in a nice, polite, I still want the job way) or just let it pass without a word and move on.
trabian
 member, 100 posts
Wed 19 Aug 2015
at 17:43
Re: Another work thread
I'd say contact them. Being nice and polite has nothing to do with calling or not, just how you make said call.

If you're calm and polite during the call, at worst you'll have a collague of said woman, who is overworked due to double work and thus a bit snappy, who forgot to call.
Or an employee who herself is a bit awkward because ss/he doesn't like giving bad news.

In you're doubt, you're already half-accepting of rejection, which might plague you in the long run. Actually hearing about said rejection helps soothe your mind. Sure, rejection hurts, but it'll be easier to put the experience behind you.

Who knows, you might get good news.

If they've accepted you, but forgot to call and heard nothing from you, they might figure that you're not interested enough to make a follow-up call.

Call them.

Goodluck.
Shei-kun
 member, 824 posts
 A Giant Shei draws near!
 Fight-Magic-Item-Flee
Wed 19 Aug 2015
at 17:51
Re: Another work thread
So, apparently my right foot has a teeny tiny fracture in a bone on the right side of it.

I have absolutely no idea what caused it, but it's been there since last Saturday at the latest.  Now my foot is in a boot, I have crutches, I'm taking Ibuprofen, and I'm putting ice on it.

I'm supposed to be job shadowing someone to replace them while they're on maternity leave starting at the end of this month, possibly sooner (babies don't care about your schedule).  I've been doing it since the middle of last month, but there are a few more things I want training in before she heads out.  I've been told this could take 4-6 weeks to fully heal.

I'm going in to work tomorrow one way or another.  The question is what I'm going to do after that, since I won't have my dad to drive me there and back after tomorrow.  A friend has offered to drive me, and I promised her compensation for gas AT MINIMUM (she says "you're a friend, it's what we do" and my first reply was "Yes but I have money coming in and you really don't LET ME COMPENSATE YOU FOR YOUR TIME"), but I have no idea how long that would go on, and I really don't want to have to rely on someone who'd be doing a solid hour commute twice a day just to help me do what would be a 25 minute commute on my own.
Brianna
 member, 1995 posts
Wed 19 Aug 2015
at 19:12
Re: Another work thread
In reply to Shei-kun (msg # 60):

Your friend is willing to give the help you need, take it unless you can find an alternative.  Yes, pay for gas plus whatever else she'll accept, but don't push too hard if she's not comfortable about it.  Sometimes you just have to take and do it graciously, even though you'd rather not.
Townsend
 member, 5 posts
Wed 19 Aug 2015
at 19:27
Re: Another work thread
Bit of advice on the bone -- a couple years ago when I broke my hand I was informed by my osteopathic specialist that ibuprofen slows bone growth. I spent nearly 5  months in an assortment of torturous casts, much of that taking high doses of OTC ibuprofen to deal with the cast-caused pain, only to find out I may have hampered my own healing. :P (An allergy to opiates is not good when one is injured.)

Let your friend help as she wants. I only let my friends chip in gas if I need the money. Otherwise, I know I'll pay them back later, when they need my help. It evens out. :)
ShadoPrism
 member, 831 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Wed 19 Aug 2015
at 23:58
Re: Another work thread
In reply to Shei-kun (msg # 60):

I myself being the one my friends call on for help with driving, or other sorts of help, I find alternatives to money - you could take them out to a meal (dinner usually but any your both comfortable with works), or maybe a movie or other outing, once a month to show how grateful you are for their help.
I have a friend who is uncomfortable excepting any kind of gratuity for when he helps me out, so I make myself available to help him out when he or his girl friend need help. This works best with him.
Another friend, we have a system of buying each other breakfast after helping the other out.

You get the Idea I think.
kouk
 member, 588 posts
Thu 20 Aug 2015
at 00:18
Re: Another work thread
In reply to Wyrm (msg # 58):

Always follow up. It can't hurt your chances any and shows initiative.
Isida KepTukari
 member, 88 posts
 Elegant! Arrogant! Smart!
Thu 20 Aug 2015
at 13:25
Can I do anything about this now?  No?  Then shut up.
I am not having a good week.  Or month.

After a very long house search, husband and I find a house, make an offer, get accepted.  Our house is already on the market, so we think this won't take too long to get ours sold so we can buy the new one.

Two months later, our house is still not sold.  We finally had to bite the bullet and put a few thousand dollars into updating the kitchen (including shuffling around appliances, putting in new flooring, countertops, sink, paint, and refinishing cabinets).  Only half the work is finished, and we still have people coming to see the place in its ripped-apart state.  My husband is of the opinion that if the kitchen remodel doesn't make the house sell, we stay here for two more years and try again.

LOL, no.

We already have half of our stuff packed, a good house picked out, and no way in Hades am I going through this process again.

But on top of this stress of redoing the kitchen while somehow trying to keep the house in a mostly show-ready state, I'm taking a lot of stress at work.  I'm a lead operator, an hourly employee who does some supervisory duties (scheduling, troubleshooting, end-of shift reports, which does come with a higher pay grade).  Mostly it's all right, I get along with my co-workers and my salaried supervisors, except the last two days have been rather terrible.

We had multiple things break on one of our machines, so much the mechanic said we couldn't keep processing material that day, so I shuffled everyone over to the other machine.  And then we had multiple problems with that the rest of the night to boot.  Technically my immediate supervisor (who isn't there on nights, when I work) should have been notified right when that stuff happened, but I knew he was on his last night of vacation.  Also, there was bupkis he could have done from home.  I was intending to write him a full report in the morning so he'd have it when he came in, but of course that's when the entire computer network went down.

So when he comes in in the morning for a meeting, he spends most of it dressing us down for not calling him in the middle of the night for a problem he couldn't have fixed anyhow.  Luckily my crew was in agreement with me (it wasn't like we'd been sitting around waiting all night, I'd kept everyone working) but that wasn't a pleasant way to end the night.

The next evening, I was called to a different department to answer for some material we had sent them (processed on our machines) that wasn't up to snuff.  Again, nothing our crew could do about it right then, they just wanted me to see what had happened to go inform my crew to avoid a repeat.  While I was dealing with that, another employee in that department comes up to me and starts yelling at me for something we had done nearly two weeks(!) ago.   Just unloaded a double-barrel of rage in my face about something that had been bothering him, because I happened to be there.  Note, he didn't say anything in the moment so I could have fixed it, but decided to wait until now to say anything.

Jerk.

I am not one of those people who tends to yell back.  I am, in fact, one of those people who tends to cry when frustrated, and though I held it in during most of the confrontation, I was sobbing by the time I got back to my department.  I have been diagnosed with depression, and while I'm doing fairly well right now, stuff like this tends to send me into a downward spiral, my little personal hell of thinking "I'm not good enough."  Other people were sympathetic of the jerkiness of the people bugging me, but I got a lot of, "Don't let them see you cry," and "Tell them to kiss your butt," and "You've got to not let this stuff bother you."

Honey, I've been trying to not let stuff bother me since I started getting teased in school in the third grade.  The fact that I didn't immediately start to sob when getting yelled at is actually quite an accomplishment for me.

The fact is, I don't need to get yelled at to "motivate me."  Just telling me, calmly, that you need me to call about machines breaking down for this reason, is enough to make me do it.  Telling me you need me to process the material this way for a reason, is enough to make me try to do it.

Don't beat me up.  I do that enough on my own.

Oh, and to add the icing to this manure cake, I managed to roll my ankle badly at the end of the night, kicking off my two days off with ice packs and pain killers.  Awesome.
ShadoPrism
 member, 832 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Fri 21 Aug 2015
at 00:28
Re: Can I do anything about this now?  No?  Then shut up.
In reply to Isida KepTukari (msg # 65):

You need to hug some kittens (or puppies) I find that always makes me feel a little better.
tulgurth
 member, 160 posts
 35 years of gaming
 Still going strong
Fri 21 Aug 2015
at 08:18
Re: Can I do anything about this now?  No?  Then shut up.
smoke a joint and have a crown and coke at the end of the night !!!  LOL

Your co-worker was right, you have told the jerk to kiss the darkest part of your lily white...
ShadoPrism
 member, 838 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Thu 3 Sep 2015
at 20:06
Re: Can I do anything about this now?  No?  Then shut up.
Today was going good, a friend gave me a card that got me a dollar ($1) off each gallon on gas (max 20 gallons) and I filled my tank and a 5 gallon can.
Then the can tipped over while I was taking it home and the lid sprang a leak. About 3 gallons of gas is now soaked in to Everything in my trunk - the stench alone is terrible and the only way I have to deal with it is to leave my trunk standing open till it dry's / dissipates.