Mika
 member, 321 posts
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 14:38
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
In reply to RosstoFalstaff (msg # 1668):

I tested positive for covid earlier but they think itís false so Iím going again I donít think the game ppl might understand
ladysharlyne
 subscriber, 2967 posts
 You get out of a game the
 effort you put in it !!
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 15:48
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
TAking a mental break is not bad at all.  As it has been said please just let your GMs know what you are doing.  If you know how long fine if not then tell them you do not know and they have different ways each GM will handle that.  But you must take care of yourself first hun.
Mika
 member, 322 posts
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 15:53
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
In reply to ladysharlyne (msg # 1670):

Thank you. I did but they just donít seem kind. I need to not let them stress me
Starchaser
 member, 801 posts
 Shoda mo tsumoreba taibok
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 15:57
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
In reply to Mika (msg # 1671):

A good GM would understand and not be unkind. Don't stress about it. What others have said makes sense. You need to look after yourself first.
ladysharlyne
 subscriber, 2968 posts
 You get out of a game the
 effort you put in it !!
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 16:20
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
Mika, if a GM is unkind to you then you don't need that game to worry about.  Almost every GM will understand, they as a GM most likely have needed a rest for their 'Muse'.  As I said, you don't worry about them you worry about you and take all the time that you need.  We ALL, including me, have had to do it sometimes.  A person's mental health and stress level has to come first.  Take your time and only return to gaming when you feel you want to and can do it.  I know I had drather have happy gamers in my games than ones that are struggling and pushing themselves. Quit a game asking if you feel more fit to play it that you might re-apply to it. But if a GM were unkind and not understanding to me.  I would just say 'I quit', but I would say it so they knew to remove me and that I just didn't disappear which is just rude. xx
Starchaser
 member, 802 posts
 Shoda mo tsumoreba taibok
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 16:26
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
I can attest to the fact that LadySharlyne is a kind GM and patient. Even with the ones that just disappear occasionally (eyes LadySharlyne apologetically).
donsr
 member, 2151 posts
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 16:30
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
Mika? it will depend on the  age and how mature the people in the game are?

My game has folks who have had all manner of   troubles, deadly helath Issues ( a few have passed)...work.. weather.. have a felow   on the elft coast who had to worry about  fires, and a  Lady in england  fighting Covid, while  being a doctor.....

 many folks have taken a break. For your part, you sai " I can't be here for  ...whatever time.."

 if the GM and players  can't acpet that? you are in the wrong  game, with the wrong type of people.

 GMs  can come up with logical reasons  atr the dorp of a hat, to why 'someone  is on the back burner'...again? if they can't, they shouldn't be runnign a game.

 anyone  can  run/play a game when things  are going fgreat... the real test comes,when things go badly.
Mika
 member, 323 posts
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 21:44
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
Thank you all for the support Iím leaving because itís not healthy for me. I was told I have a gag order and not to talk about it. Iím just going to take a break from gaming
Piestar
 member, 769 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 22:15
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
In reply to Mika (msg # 1676):

You have to do what is best for yourself and your health. It can be pretty rough here sometimes. Take care.
Mika
 member, 324 posts
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 22:26
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
In reply to Piestar (msg # 1677):

Iím adding wine to the list after that fall out. Iím happy people here are supportive. Thank you
Piestar
 member, 770 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 22:29
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
It can be pretty traumatic sometimes. Early on I would take a falling out pretty harshly, and I actually took a few years off. I am learning to take things less personally, and I will walk away from a game pretty quickly if I feel things are not a good fit. Hope you feel better soon...
Yaztromo
 supporter, 409 posts
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 22:36
It's a waste of time...
Why do companies approach you offering a job, and then it turns out that they propose the same job you are already doing, but in a different place (so you would have to relocate at your expenses) and they offer the same money if not a bit less.... and they expect you to accept! ...and then, after you reject the proposal, they keep nagging you?
It's just a waste of time!
Piestar
 member, 771 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 22:49
It's a waste of time...
Sad but true. A lot of companies simply do not value their employees any more.
Mika
 member, 325 posts
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 22:49
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
In reply to Piestar (msg # 1679):

I really tied to make it work but the everyday berating and pushing I shouldíve known to leave. It was like an abusive ex you keep trying to work it out.

@yaztromo
The same so that here but offer less pay abs expect you to leave your job for them because....yea itís evil and ignore them and I wish them luck. They still try though!
Piestar
 member, 772 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 23:01
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
There are a lot of games on here Mika, it sometimes takes awhile to find a good fit. It really isn't worth the effort of 'making it work' if they are being abusive. Simply move to the next one and hope for better. I've quit four games in that last month, the goal is to have fun, don't stay in any game where you are not.
Mika
 member, 326 posts
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 23:11
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
In reply to Piestar (msg # 1683):

I knew I had to leave when they got mad I was reaching out here for advice and trying to shut me up. It reminded me of my ex so I had to leave
Piestar
 member, 773 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Fri 8 Jan 2021
at 23:44
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
That does sound pretty abusive, but I can promise you, most games on here seem to be very nice people. Consider looking around and trying other games when you feel up to it.
Mika
 member, 327 posts
Sat 9 Jan 2021
at 00:36
It's not great, but don't make it worse...
In reply to Piestar (msg # 1685):

When I get the same feeling I got after leaving my ex that hurt me I now know that game was making me feel triggered. Thank you for helping me and giving me the strength to say my peace and leave. They did want to kick me anyways lol
ranna
 member, 75 posts
Sat 9 Jan 2021
at 01:36
It's a waste of time...
In reply to Yaztromo (msg # 1680):

Yeah, I never understood it. I've been offered to transfer within a single company, to another position, which they presented as an upgrade from my current position, only for me to find out they didn't have a properly made systematization for that spot and the "initial starter pay" they offered was going to be a "permanent starter pay" until they "sort out the details" aka, never gonna happen.

I refused, but another coworker accepted and left within three months, once they realised the spot was a low-paid dead end.

The head of the company was baffled no one wanted to take up that position after that, lol.
Mika
 member, 328 posts
Sat 9 Jan 2021
at 02:14
It's a waste of time...
In reply to ranna (msg # 1687):

Shocked pikachu face!

I feel this daily as an educator (they need us but donít want to pay!). I got headhunted and they contacted me to try and get me to sign (but not sign and verbally agree to a position without knowing where I was going) and agree to join their team.

They wouldnít match my current pay and offered the cheapest insurance with more traveling and no pension so I would pay the full amount. They were SHOCKED I refused the second stage because they ďwanted my expertiseĒ there. They also wanted me to travel to a lockdown zone to secure it and be happy about taking hundreds less a month. I luckily made friends with a recruiter who privately told me donít go because they blacklist you if you tell them no. Iím also unionized and they told me to leave the union for better pay....

I wished them luck on finding properly qualified people willing to work in office during a pandemic. Their ads are still looking.....

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Piestar
 member, 774 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Sat 9 Jan 2021
at 02:37
It's a waste of time...
In reply to Mika (msg # 1688):

People are baffling. Sucks that the world is now apparently dominated by business majors, whose only skill is squeezing the most money out of things, and not people who understand the various fields they are in charge of, and how to deal with people.

Ran into this a lot back when I worked for the government, the stress of trying to do my job against their profiteering caused me to retire early.
Mika
 member, 329 posts
Sat 9 Jan 2021
at 02:44
It's a waste of time...
In reply to Piestar (msg # 1689):

They were shocked I was not going to starve my family for their bottom line is appalling!!! How dare I want insurance, full pay, hazard pay and transport money when I could brighten students lives? I canít do that if Iím dead! They also donít like zoom meetings so drive and hour to hear more about what they wonít give me. I said no abs now they keep emailing me offering me raises but not matching my current jobs salary. Nope not leaving!
Starchaser
 member, 803 posts
 Shoda mo tsumoreba taibok
Sat 9 Jan 2021
at 09:11
It's a waste of time...
I don't know why but I'm struggling with communication issues in general right now. It's confusing the hell out of me because in the past I really didn't have this problem. Now I just seem to be annoying people in general or just failing to come to even simple agreements.

It could be pandemic stress but I don't know.

I have been given some excellent book recommendations but don't have a lot of time to digest them. (Thank you cool blonde Danish girl I do appreciate it).

I just feel like I'm starting to have issues connecting, you know? Not with everyone just with enough people for me to notice the change.
Yaztromo
 supporter, 410 posts
Sat 9 Jan 2021
at 14:51
It's a waste of time...
I can understand that there is no harm in offering, but once the offer is rejected, that should be it.
If an application is rejected, it's inappropriate that the applicant keep nagging the recruiter, right?
Why do you feel OK to keep nagging somebody that rejected your offer (and that never applied for that position, by the way)? Stop wasting my time!
Mika
 member, 330 posts
Sat 9 Jan 2021
at 15:53
It's a waste of time...
In reply to Yaztromo (msg # 1692):

I think they assume itís an honor they are looking at you. I usually have to threaten some places to stop especially now with covid and jobs being lost left and right. Itís not right they assume they bug you enough to say yes. I had to block four companies because they pulled ďwe can keep you employedĒ without even reading my resume. There are assuming you are so desperate youíll take it. It wouldnít be the first time I lit an unwanted bridge on fire and emailed their HR department.

I humored one for an interview abs they tried to bully me into a contract in person meeting. They didnít like me telling them off. Just because you found me on LinkedIn doesnít mean I want to work for you especially if I didnít apply!