Piestar
 member, 904 posts
 once upon a time...
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Sat 29 May 2021
at 17:12
Re: Family
An old peeve, made new again here recently.

It stems back to when I was a DM in the Army, and we were getting ready to game, when one Michael Ramos vanished on us. We found out later he had decided to go to a movie, mere minutes before the game started.

His response (I wont call it am excuse, as he felt there was nothing wrong with his actions) was that 'it was just a game'.

And while it is just a game, when people flake like that, it is the people they play with they are disrespecting, not the game. It is the commitment to the people not that game, that is the issue.

Grump, grump...

Anyway.
ladysharlyne
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Sat 29 May 2021
at 22:25
Constantly the victim lol
Age-old problem here, there, everywhere and one of my biggest pet peeves too but nothing you can do but delete, delete, delete.  I mean if someone leaves the game hanging like you said, then it is disrespect to not only you but all the players like you said.  If a player lets me know they need to be gone but are coming back that is fine.  It is the flakes that join, don't post but maybe a post or two then just disappear, when players are in a game they should at least be courteous.  I am gone often from my own games but I let my players know it is my illness that takes me away, or other things but they always know I will be back.  This is caring and common courtesy, Is that so hard for someone to do!  I agree completely with you Piestar.

Before it is said, I DO know that there are cases that something has happened to that player either health wise or computer wise but in the latter there are phones, libraries, friend's computer, contact to let you know something is going on is available.
Piestar
 member, 905 posts
 once upon a time...
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Sun 30 May 2021
at 08:51
Constantly the victim lol
In reply to ladysharlyne (msg # 1844):

Real life is certainly outside of the bounds of this peeve. It does bug me when real life interferes with my plans, but I am mad at life, not the person. This peeve is specifically people who blow off the game for trivial reasons.
ShadoPrism
 member, 1379 posts
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Tue 1 Jun 2021
at 21:40
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
I just got out of the hospital - the Infectious Disease doctor prescribed a strong antibiotic for me - one that states in its description DO NOT GIVE TO DIABETICS, which I am.
I had 2 doses in the hospital and already show some potentially dangerous side effects; bleed like a stuck pig, just from a simple finger stick, also sweating like mad, got bad shakes (which makes typing this a real challenge) and my vision keeps going in and out of focus, which makes it dangerous for me to drive. Which means I can't safely go get my meds, or go to any of the prescribed doctors appointments. (The local bus does not have a stop anywhere near me and a taxi is beyond my poor ability to pay for.)
I tried to call them about changing the meds but they just told me to see about staying in the hospital longer - After I had already been discharged. The hospital sent me home anyway. (nice Lyft driver though)
Manticore
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Wed 2 Jun 2021
at 05:16
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 1846):

That sounds like an unsafe discharge, Robert. And possible medical malpractice on the part of the doctor in charge of you there.
ShadoPrism
 member, 1380 posts
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 Gamer-Disorder
Wed 2 Jun 2021
at 11:40
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
In reply to Manticore (msg # 1847):

Unfortunetly its par for the course for the local hospital group - they have the worst reputation in the region for pretty much anything medical except Heart problems.
Most hospitals, as an example, serve turkey on wheat sandwiches as a quick meal for patents, Piedmont serves peanut butter and jelly crustless sandwiches (the kind you can get in a grocery). They have nothing for anyone who is allergic to peanuts, is diabetic, or other such conditions and their food service does not really care. (Their diabetic diet plan includes high fructose fruits, such as canned peaches and pineapples, with every meal.)
I really don't know how they are still in business, save they are the Only hospital in this city.
Piestar
 member, 906 posts
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Wed 2 Jun 2021
at 13:03
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
What a nightmare! You should be able to find a lawyer who would take this on at no cost to you, that hospital should end up paying out the nose for their behavior. Unbearably unsafe and uncouth.
MelJill
 member, 71 posts
Wed 2 Jun 2021
at 13:32
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
https://www.jointcommission.or...oncern-or-complaint/

The above is no cost.
V_V
 member, 948 posts
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 peace and vigor return.
Wed 2 Jun 2021
at 21:39
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 1846):

Sad to hear it. I had medical malpractice suit I was afraid to pursue, for similar reason; very poor. I hope that if you have case, you can get some boon of fortune to show that path to you.

However, my biggest concern is for your health. I had nowehre near the situation you did, but I had an allergic reaction to interraction with my Haldol, Remeron and Lexapro (all generic, but better searched by brand name). I had delusions and paranoia, called my mother in the middle of the night telling her I was god. Ruined a friendship calling them about my sister's boyfriend, who in reality was scumbag, but I thought was at my door.

Basically it's a blessing I called the cops and they just thought "this guy is high" and didn't arrest me. I was not in situation to drive, and so walked. It was quite bad, but never directly affected my health. Like I didn't have heart palpitations, like you're describing (#NotaDoctor). Still it affected me in the longterm, even if the physical symptoms faded.

That wasn't the malpractice suit I mentioned by the way.

I tell this story to show solidarity. I worry that you need to fight an infection, for whatever you were in for, be it surgery of illness, but also that the antibiotic has poisoned you, effectively. I really hope you can get some aid! You've had it rough! Aren't you who had the problem with the dentist and heart problems? Maybe I'm mixed up, and if I am just understand someone posted here about that, and I just got mixed up.

Can't really comment of RL politics, but I hope you can get some aid where you live. Best wishes. I know that's little good in practice, wishes won't fix problems. Sadly, all I can say is I feel for you, comrade.
Bastian
 member, 48 posts
Thu 3 Jun 2021
at 01:31
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 1846):

Sorry to hear that, it must be a frightening and annoying situation.

Did your doctor explain why he'd give you that antibiotic? Doctors have to weigh the benefits from side effects which sometimes means discomfort/pain/etc. Though the doctor should make sure you understand why or what can/could happen.

There's also always the option to switch doctors and, don't cite me on this, I've heard that there are places where you could get help to pay hospital bills from the hospital directly (especially if they gave you antibiotics that might harm you without your consent/knowledge)
Evil Empryss
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Fri 4 Jun 2021
at 05:44
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
Advice from someone with family in the medical field: do not trust that your doctor has read your records! ALWAYS bring up whether or not a new med will react with your other issues/known allergies! Make the doctor check, and then double-check with a nurse or (preferably) a pharmacist for adverse reactions. Doctors can have a bad habit of getting hyper-focused on the one thing they're treating you for and forget that you are a person with other conditions and medications they may have to take into consideration. Maybe you still won't have a better option, but at least you'll know what to expect when you take it.

I always thought it was just the VA that was bad about this, but I've found it true in the private sector, too.
Brianna
 member, 2239 posts
Fri 4 Jun 2021
at 19:28
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
I always ask my pharmacist about my meds.  (One good reason why you should always deal with just one pharmacy)  I haven't found that the doctor seems to notice what else I'm taking, even other things he's prescribed. While the pharmacy tends to look at the whole picture, including all the over the counter things like vitamins that I take.
Fyrerain
 member, 101 posts
Sat 5 Jun 2021
at 21:50
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
Don't trust medical staff to pay attention to your medical restrictions. They'll make you waste time listing them, reciting them, and still prescribe on autopilot. I had a minor surgery ~7 years ago, and stressed to the intake nurse, the anesthesiologist, and the doctor that I am allergic to Cipro and ALL opiods. So guess what prescriptions I was sent home with post-op? Thankfully, the pharmacist was a friend and caught it.

I have a surgery on Monday. Yesterday I had several phone calls with different people at the hospital, and every time my drug allergies came up,they recited a few of the common opiods as if I were only allergic to those specific ones. I corrected them - and when I'm released on Tuesday, if I'm still out of it, the friend picking me up knows to check my scripts. She's had to sit with me at the pharmacy before, waiting an hour or more for the doctor to get back from his lunch break so he can send over new scripts of drugs I'm not allergic to.

Few doctors recheck the charts before prescribing. They use their standards by default.

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Piestar
 member, 907 posts
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Sun 6 Jun 2021
at 17:57
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
Nothing new, but damn useless, annoying HOA's. Been an enormous branch down for almost a month in the front area. Grounds crew ignores it. Huge hole in the street for a month, obstructing a fire hydrants. They finally got to that, but it took way too long. And every time I contact them to do anything, they send me some little harassing note, this time because some nasty neighbor let their dog crap in my yard and left it there. Seems like something the grounds crew should clean up, if they aren't going to make the effort to spot the owners from being such nasty people.
Grrr....
Piestar
 member, 909 posts
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Fri 11 Jun 2021
at 03:27
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
Frustrated with game masters who seem unwilling to move things along. Really considering dropping a few games. Pacing is so important.
GreenTongue
 member, 975 posts
 Game Archaeologist
Fri 11 Jun 2021
at 17:13
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
In reply to Piestar (msg # 1857):

Finding that fine line between moving things along and skipping people can be hard.
Especially as it is a moving target.
Piestar
 member, 910 posts
 once upon a time...
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Fri 11 Jun 2021
at 19:38
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
In reply to GreenTongue (msg # 1858):

There is a fine line, but when you are standing well to one side of it, the risk of crossing it is minimal, especially when you have a large party. A bit of exposition to bring us up the point where things are new isn't a risk of any kind. Montage if you must, but when it takes a month and a half to get to anything interesting it is risking a different problem.
Yaztromo
 supporter, 438 posts
Fri 11 Jun 2021
at 20:43
Pace in on line games
In reply to Piestar (msg # 1857):

I agree that pace is critical for on line games.
Piestar
 member, 911 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Fri 11 Jun 2021
at 20:45
Pace in on line games
In reply to Yaztromo (msg # 1860):

I simply don't feel up to running my own anymore, but when I last ran a game, players who didn't post within three days did nothing, and we moved ahead.
praguepride
 member, 1830 posts
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Mon 14 Jun 2021
at 22:00
Ummm, I'm gonna need you to go ahead come in tomorrow.
I joined a new team and my new manager seems to be establishing a schedule of putting meetings in place at 5pm right as the day is leaving and then immediately dropping bombshells on us causing our whole team to stay hours after we would normally leave.

I'm usually very good at pushing back against this stuff but he is dropping critical emergencies on us at the last minute and it is really hard to push back on "oh, that system can stay down for 18 hours. I'll be in work tomorrow morning!" but on the flipside WHY ARE YOU WAITING UNTIL THE END OF THE DAY TO TELL US THIS STUFF!?!?!?!

It's been two weeks of so far because of a specific thing on our plan but once that is done if he tries this again I am going to fold my arms and give him a big NOOOOPE. I'll put in extra hours one time. After that, it is on you to manage YOUR time so we are effectively used during the day but I am not spending another month where I spend 6 hours a day twiddling my thumbs and then another 6 hours working my butt off because you didn't give this news to me at the beginning of the day like a normal person would.
Piestar
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Mon 14 Jun 2021
at 22:28
Ummm, I'm gonna need you to go ahead come in tomorrow.
In reply to praguepride (msg # 1862):

Are you at least getting overtime? That should come to the attention of the people over him, and hopefully that will pressure him to straighten up. I hate bosses like that...
SunRuanEr
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Mon 14 Jun 2021
at 22:55
Ummm, I'm gonna need you to go ahead come in tomorrow.
Any chance that it's just coincidence, and the end of the day just happens to be when the manager's been finding out about these things in urgent need of fixing? I mean, it's probably not, but if it's just been a few weeks, it could just be really unfortunate coincidence. Might be worth asking around to see when information is being passed to him in the first place.

Could you suggest scheduling meetings in the AM, 'to make sure the day is used most efficiently' or whatever necessary excuse, instead of in the afternoon, in case the issue is one of 'he knows about this, but won't mention it until everyone's in one place at a meeting, and he just likes/is used to calling meetings at the end of the day' or something? It seems really bizarre (to me, at least) that he's scheduling meetings that late in the day anyway.
Zag24
 supporter, 698 posts
Tue 15 Jun 2021
at 01:18
Re: Family
In reply to praguepride (msg # 1862):

Wow.  That sucks.  Do you get overtime for this BS, or are you salaried?

Don't do anything dramatic until you're ready to walk away.  Get ready to walk away.  Spiff up your resume and know what your value is in the marketplace.  Go on a few first interviews.  This is OK even if you don't plan to leave, but moving on to second interviews and salary negotiations is not cool if you're not doing it in good faith.  It is even OK to tell your interviewers that you are not desperate to leave, you're just putting your toe in the water.  If they're professionals, they will understand.  If they don't understand, you don't want to work for them, anyway.

Once you're ready, which means that you've had a couple of promising interviews, address the problem calmly and without threats.  Explain that the constant "emergencies" and the significant overtime has become unacceptable.  I strongly suspect that the manager won't take it well, because he sounds like he gets off on jerking you around.  When he pulls the BS once more, then just confirm that you'll be on top of it the first thing in the morning, but you have to go now.  Then leave.  He'll explode, or maybe he'll back down.  That will tell you whether or not you want to move forward with the interviews.

I've done a ton of hiring as well as my full share of getting hired, and I do know a bit about it, including what makes a good resume.  If you'd like me to look over yours and give suggestions, I'd be glad to.  While my background is in software, I've successfully given resume advice to a nurse, a pastor, a medical equipment engineer, and others.  rMail me or PM me in your game that I'm in, and I'll give you my home email address.

What do you do?  Is it something you can do remotely?  Lots of companies have learned in the pandemic that people can be very effective working remotely, so don't assume that you need to look geographically nearby.  (Surprisingly, lots of companies did not learn it, in spite of a whole year of their employees being productive and effective remotely.  It's a power thing.)

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DBCowboy
 member, 67 posts
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Tue 15 Jun 2021
at 02:12
Re: Family
Several good ideas here, understanding why notice of serious outages are received so late and starting to look for other opportunities if you're in a position to do so.  Don't know if your team practices Scrum or SAFe or other agile framework but this sounds like a perfect Retrospective topic.  I suspect you're not the only team member who would like to see a change here.
Piestar
 member, 913 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Tue 15 Jun 2021
at 03:21
Re: Family
I wouldn't be surprised if the tasks came late in the day as a way for this person to make sure the regular day to day gets done as well. It's no way to treat your staff however.