ShadoPrism
 member, 849 posts
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Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 20:14
frivolous question
Happens to us men to. I was dating a girl many years ago, we were even engaged to get married, then she married this Other guy and I only found out through a mutual friend it happened.
Ironically I had introduced her to the guy she married (he was the friend of another friend and we all met him at the first friends party).
Anyway you get the picture - even men get cheated on. It's hard to find good people sometimes.
fireflights
 member, 218 posts
 playing with Fire
 always burns
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 21:49
frivolous question
I know even men get cheated on, he told me he had only ever had girls cheat on him and he was the one always getting heart broken. Well so was I and it seems like it's still me in the end who is getting heart broken. I'm so tired of being the one hurting, I have never cheated on a guy, I have always given my all in a relationship, so I just don't get it. But oh well. Guess it's just how my life has to go.
ShadoPrism
 member, 850 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 21:58
frivolous question
Some of us seem doomed to have horrible love lives.
Me, I am turning 50 this year and I have totally given up on finding someone whom I could have in my life. Been hurt far to many times to put myself out there any more.
I hope this is not so for you.
fireflights
 member, 219 posts
 playing with Fire
 always burns
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 22:03
frivolous question
Sadly for me as far as I feel right now it is. I am tired of being hurt, I am almost 38 and I can't give anyone kids, I have multiple medical issues, one being precancer, one being my back with degenerative disc disease and two very bad knees. I'm a mess so honestly, I felt lucky I had found a guy like him, until now. So now.....I'm just done no one will want a broken woman who can barely walk.
ShadoPrism
 member, 851 posts
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Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 22:37
frivolous question
You may be surprised on that one.
But I am in much the same boat medically speaking. Had 3 strokes (that we know of) over the last 20 years, broken bones, (shattered left shoulder with new steel joint that hurts all the time), the bad knee's (that one is actually pretty common I am finding, though the reasons vary), and many other health issue's.
Finding Anyone willing to put up with our problems is a godsend. I got some friends who help me out (between their own drama's), but nothing in the romance department.

Heh, we could problem fill a thread with our combined health issue's (everyone who visit's this thread that is). Sometimes we forget that. Which is why we have vent threads - helps us reconnect with others who can sympathize with our woe's and try and offer a little comfort to our wounded souls.
fireflights
 member, 220 posts
 playing with Fire
 always burns
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 23:11
frivolous question
Yeah, I'm sure it's been very rough for you and I'm sorry you have to go through all of that. Me, I have arthritis on both my knees, had a surgery to repair torn cartilidge on the right one. I had a girl at 150lbs jump up in the air and slam her entire body weight onto the middle of my back when I was 21 to now cause me to have degenerative disc disease moderate in my L5 and L4 and mild in my L3, I can't get my meds right now because of a transition, I have pre cancer in my uterus and haven't had my suppression meds for almost three days now, it can come back which is why I have decided to remove my uterus, I honestly weigh 340lbs right now because I can't exercise. So I am rather stuck and he knew all of this about me, not to mention the emotional scars I have from not only past relationships but from my abusive childhood too and he said he accepted everything, now I wonder just how much lying he did to me.
Eggy
 member, 622 posts
Mon 14 Sep 2015
at 23:56
frivolous question
This room smells like cigarette smoke! >:(
Brygun
 member, 1977 posts
 RPG since 1982
 Author & Inspiration
Tue 15 Sep 2015
at 00:20
frivolous question
To my knowledge there was only ever one episode with Purple Smurfs

G'Nap
BobbiIngrid
 member, 4 posts
Tue 15 Sep 2015
at 03:09
frivolous question
Just have to write this to get this out:

Spotlight Stealers...  I wish I could say "Hey, can you delete that last post of yours so mine right before that can matter even a smidge?"
Merevel
 member, 995 posts
 Gaming :-)
 Very unlucky
Tue 15 Sep 2015
at 04:16
frivolous question
Fireflights, Shadoprism, I know the feeling.

Justing looking for friends, maybe some fun ^.^, but for now the idea of getting married again is definitely a no.

Tired of being lied to as well. Bleh.
Azazeal
 member, 56 posts
Tue 15 Sep 2015
at 23:34
frivolous question
I am getting quite frustrated with a series of horrendous GMs I've had. It's getting really annoying. I generally joinig adult games because I figure that the participants will be more mature, not less!
Wiglaf
 member, 765 posts
Wed 16 Sep 2015
at 03:46
frivolous question
Working two part time jobs to be able to afford to rent a room in someone's house.  Trying to make payments on debts that I can't legally fight, despite them not being my fault.  (Long story, but that's not the point.). Now, my work pants just ripped and I need to buy a new pair one one of my precious half days off.  Now I have to put my bedroom back together after an exterminator sprayed for ants.  Looks like another night of less than six hours of sleep.

Truth is, however, that I feel pretty blessed.  Things could easily have been much worse.  So, while I soak my feet, I raise a glass to my fellow RPoLers.  May your home always be too small to hold all of your friends!
Merevel
 member, 998 posts
 Gaming :-)
 Very unlucky
Sun 27 Sep 2015
at 23:00
frivolous question
Great.... my glasses just broke, and my eyesite is not good enough to fix the problem.
Flarelord
 member, 336 posts
Sun 27 Sep 2015
at 23:23
frivolous question
In reply to Merevel (msg # 134):

I have been right there where you are, friend :3
silverelf
 member, 171 posts
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 00:47
Re: frivolous question
ShadoPrism:
Which is why we have vent threads - helps us reconnect with others who can sympathize with our woe's and try and offer a little comfort to our wounded souls.

Really what we need is a gamer retirement home so we can all support each other >.>
Evil Empryss
 member, 1366 posts
 Because knowing
 is half the battle!
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 01:07
Re: frivolous question
Spent the end of last week scrambling with some coworkers to get everything prepared to help one of the other women escape an abusive domestic relationship.  She had a place to go where she could live indefinitely rent- and utilities-free, we'd haul her stuff out with my trailer for free, and we had all the paperwork for her to set up protective orders to safeguard herself and her kids.  Her husband was out of state and I had the police alerted to what was going down in case someone got word to him and he arrived home early.  All she had to do was walk out the door with her kids and let us get everything packed for her.

She bailed on us half an hour before we were due to arrive at her house.

Every woman that was helping her had been in an abusive relationship in the past.  We all know how hard it can be to get out, but none of us had this kind of help to do it.  This woman has everything someone in her position could want -- financial, emotional, social, and legal support -- and she won't take that step.  We can't make her do it, 'cuz then we'd be just as big of bullies as her husband, but it is taking all my restraint not to smack her one upside the back of the head to knock some sense into her.
ShadoPrism
 member, 860 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 01:53
Re: frivolous question
In reply to Evil Empryss (msg # 137):

Yeah, I can Totally see where your coming from there. Some people just seem to need that extra little push from time to time.
nuric
 member, 2858 posts
 Love D&D,superhero games
 Not very computer savvy
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 04:18
Re: frivolous question
In reply to Evil Empryss (msg # 137):

It's a very difficult situation.   I'm so glad you tried, though.
GammaBear
 member, 508 posts
 Gaymer
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 07:39
Re: frivolous question
Sadly, you can't help those who aren't willing to help themselves.
Merevel
 member, 999 posts
 Gaming :-)
 Very unlucky
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 13:36
Re: frivolous question
In reply to Evil Empryss (msg # 137):

:-/

I know a few women like that. Part of my bad luck with women lol. Anyhoots I know one that took a gun being pointed at her face to leave the relationship.

Wow I have to lean in close >.<
Brianna
 member, 2007 posts
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 19:07
Re: frivolous question
*sigh*  My daughter's pushing for me to get a walker or similar support.  She wants me to go out walking, and I can't do it unsupported for any distance now.  But I'm pretty sure once I start using anything I'll lose all my sense of balance and have trouble even getting around here without support.  I know that's one reason why the chiropractor didn't want me using a cane even years ago, the way I would become dependant on it.  But I understand what she wants too, she wants me to go out more, she thinks this will put off deterioration a bit longer, and in other ways that may be true.  I guess I'll ask the doctor, but he's never been much help before, just prescribes pain killers instead of ordering the tests that might find what else is wrong and how to treat it.
Evil Empryss
 member, 1367 posts
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 is half the battle!
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 19:30
Re: frivolous question
At twenty-eight years old I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and some funky-sounding problem with both knees that causes a lot of pain on a daily basis. I fought the use of a cane or walker for years, and now I feel stupid for being pigheaded about my health. I wasn't better for not using it, I wasn't tougher, and it didn't make me worse when I finally gave in. On the contrary, because I have them available when I need them, I can go further and do more with my family than I could when I was toughing out the pain. I can actually make it thru a shopping trip, or to the zoo, something I cannot do unaided on my good days, much less my bad days.

I don't know what your specific problems are, but people don't generally "become dependent on" assistive technology, they just realize they needed it all along and it makes their lives easier to live. I highly recommend you give it a shot. You may find it a big improvement and nowhere near the trauma you imagine.
Brianna
 member, 2008 posts
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 20:26
Re: frivolous question
I have problems with most of my joints, but especially my hips.  People have no idea how much they use their hip joints for balance until they don't work properly!  But I think my balance issues are more than that.  I get around in places like the grocery store with the support of the cart, but I have to be careful to stand straight as much as I can else I end up with issues with my back and shoulders.  I watch people with walkers; they tend to lean into them, in fact there doesn't seem to be any other way to use them, since the basket and seat seem to prevent any other way.  I know when my mother and aunt started using walkers, they very quickly lost the ability to walk properly without one.  I expect to some extent this was an extension of the problems that caused them to use on in the first place, but the change seemed more dramatic than that.
Evil Empryss
 member, 1368 posts
 Because knowing
 is half the battle!
Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 20:52
Re: frivolous question
I know what you're talking about, seeing people hunched over walkers.  From what my RN sister tells me, that's usually caused by one of two things: something wrong with the spine that won't let them stand or (more commonly, I think) poor education on walker use.  You need to have the walker properly sized to you and learn to use it properly.  Don't get the one with the basket under the seat: it forces you to stand farther back from the handles and your means of support (which causes you to lean).  I use the Dolomite Legacy 600 (it's a pretty blue), and when I stand in it, I look like this:  http://www.phc-online.com/v/vs.../images/dol_seat.jpg

I use a four-wheeled walker with the brakes in the handles (kinda like a bicycle hand brake).  The basket being positioned in the front is removable, and the seat folds up completely out of the way.  In my opinion, it is a much better setup than the under-the-seat basket models.  When I use mine, I fit between the handles easily with my elbows only slightly bent.  If I straighten my arms, I can bring almost all the weight off my legs and still be safely balanced between the handles.  My fibro pain tends to hit worst in my lower back and hips, so the best part is that I have a seat on mine, and a basket in the front, so I can do a little shopping and then sit down while waiting in line.  The ability to sit while waiting has been the greatest benefit of the walker over the cane.

The handles also need to be set so that they aren't too high or too low for you.  I actually have to change the position of mine based off the height of the shoes I'm wearing that day: it can make that big a difference in how I feel.

Oh, and a fun little fact that many people don't know: a four-wheeled walker is a blast to use with a pair of heelies -- those sneakers with wheels in the heels.  I can cruise through the mall with ease with a pair of those and my walker as stability and external brakes.  Just don't get going too fast and hit the brakes, or you'll go apples-over-teakettle over the front of it.  I know this from hilarious experience.  I am so glad my husband didn't have his phone out that day, or I'd be a YouTube star.  ^_^
ShadoPrism
 member, 861 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
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Mon 28 Sep 2015
at 22:55
Re: frivolous question
Gods I wish I could use a walker or cane, but my shoulders are to damaged to allow it. (broke both in a car accident years ago)
Got arthritis in my knee's and lower back, before the accident I really relied on my canes, now I can't take the strain on my shoulders.
IF you can use either one do so. Like Empryss said, they are a great help.