Tyr Hawk
 member, 101 posts
 You know that one guy?
 Yeah, that's me.
Thu 29 Oct 2015
at 19:10
Dear SWEET Doge...
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 196):

Edit: Thank you. I do try. ;)

I've considered all of this.

If they are Psych Majors, they don't argue from any kind of psychological perspective that I can recognize, and definitely don't claim to be working from them. I've approached the argument from the Psychological aspects of it myself, because I was very nearly a Psych minor, but there doesn't seem to be a logical response from the other side that addresses my rebuttals to it (not saying the responses themselves aren't logical, merely that they aren't pointed in that direction).

As far as moving, I've more than considered it. I've planned to do it at times, set things in motion, but something has always fallen through. Either the job was no longer there to go to, I found myself at odds with whomever was meant to help send me anon, or the money disappears into some unforeseen expenditure, or something similar. Now, I realize these are all excuses, and I could just pack up an go tomorrow, but the options have been weighed and this path is more favorable for the moment, even if it's terribly frustrating. I will do it at some point, go to somewhere and live such a life, but, for the time being, the way is barred to me (thanks, in part, to my own hold-ups). And I honestly don't spend much on schooling (scholarships and whatnot), it's more the principle of the matter, you know?

And to your last point: really, I don't mind personal anecdotes. I suppose I'm in the "misery loves company" business, so fire away. ;)

This message was last edited by the user at 19:11, Thu 29 Oct 2015.

ShadoPrism
 member, 875 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Thu 29 Oct 2015
at 19:30
Re: Dear SWEET Doge...
Tyr Hawk:
And to your last point: really, I don't mind personal anecdotes. I suppose I'm in the "misery loves company" business, so fire away. ;)


hehehe, good come back.

The one long running miscommunications I had concerned an old used car I had (1986 Buick Lesabre) Thing was a boat (second largest car ever built, as compared to a 1977 Lincoln Continental), which has nothing to do with the problem I had with it, it's just for color.
Anyway, the washer motor on the windshield wipers did not work, but when ever I took it in to a mechanic (any mechanic) I could not get them to look at it cause none of the local ones worked on intermediate wipers. I could NOT get any of the to understand that it was Not the wipers that was the problem.
After a couple years I got a new car. At one point the washer motor blew out in it and when I told my mechanic he said no problem and fixed it easily. But when I told him I thought he did not do that sort of thing he was confused. It took me getting a New car (that had intermediate wipers) and telling him how I tried to get them to make the Same fix to the previous car I had, before they understood my confusion about that procedure.
(Ironically the person I sold the car to later told me he can't seem to find anyone who will fix the washer motor either. When I told him to try saying it was on Any other make of car, then Everyone seemed to know how to fix it. It's like that old Buick was cursed or something.)

Some conversations are like this, no matter how straight forward your item is, there is just something in the group unconsciousness that locks on to one thing and can't seem to let go of that thing no matter how inconsequential that one thing is.

Technically speaking, all social actions are mind control, as we are trying to influence how the other people perceive what we are saying or doing and thus trying to control others perceptions and minds. (this is a very loose version of it to be sure)
Tyr Hawk
 member, 102 posts
 You know that one guy?
 Yeah, that's me.
Thu 29 Oct 2015
at 19:45
Re: Dear SWEET Doge...
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 198):

It seems to be so. It surely seems to be so.

And, yes, by that definition you're right. That's even the very definition of control that I conceded, but they are not content with my concessions. At any rate, I won't get into here, as I said before. Especially since I need to go to class now.

Thank you for your co-misery. ;) It really does help a bit to know it's not just me.
Brianna
 member, 2020 posts
Thu 29 Oct 2015
at 22:27
Re: Dear SWEET Doge...
So I went to the bank today because pension cheques (my only income) are put in three days before the end of the month.  I want to pay whatever I owe on my Visa (not the statement amount but the current one) and just about fainted when the nice young lady told me the balance showing.  So she printed out everything that went through since my last statement, and there are six charges (totalling more than my monthly income) for XBox.  I don't own an XBox, and I certainly haven't been charging anything (even my dental bills) in that amount, let alone six times in one day!  Hopefully Visa can figure out what happened, and I don't need to cancel the card, then try to remember everywhere I've used it.  *sigh*
ShadoPrism
 member, 876 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Thu 29 Oct 2015
at 22:32
Re: Dear SWEET Doge...
Identity thieves need to be taken out and shot. They ruin more lives than many people realize.
Finding the perp however should not be To hard as they have to have an ISP to charge for those X-box purchases. Back track that to it's source then press charges apon Whomever has that account. It will send them a nice message and hopefully a prison sentence.
OceanLake
 member, 929 posts
Thu 29 Oct 2015
at 22:42
Re: Dear SWEET Doge...
Hung from trees beside malicious hackers and swindlers.
Evil Empryss
 member, 1376 posts
 Because knowing
 is half the battle!
Thu 29 Oct 2015
at 23:31
Re: Dear SWEET Doge...
My stupid city decided that a school night was a better time for trick or treats than the actual holiday on a Saturday. They wouldn't move the 4th of July to the 1st of July. They ruined my holiday. >:(
Tyr Hawk
 member, 103 posts
 You know that one guy?
 Yeah, that's me.
Thu 29 Oct 2015
at 23:49
Halloween Moved?
They... they did what? But then it's not... it's just... What?

That's not how holidays work.
Wyrm
 member, 587 posts
Fri 30 Oct 2015
at 00:41
Re: Dear SWEET Doge...
In reply to Evil Empryss (msg # 203):

Come to Canada. They have a first of July.
Aquatica1000
 member, 4 posts
Fri 30 Oct 2015
at 03:13
Re: Dear SWEET Doge...
One of my best friends (and GM for a game I play on another site) has been going through utter strudel.  Not only has he flunked classes three semesters in a row, but his family disowned him due to that.  He's currently stuck with no home, no way of contact, and trying to find a job.

And I?  I don't know how to help.  I live too far away to check on him, I don't have any independent funds to use to send help to him (at least, not without getting my mom suspicious), and I can't even contact him to say things will be okay because he doesn't have a guaranteed access to the internet.  I would drop everything and help him if I could, but I can't.  I just feel so helpless...

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nuric
 member, 2866 posts
 Love D&D,superhero games
 Not very computer savvy
Fri 30 Oct 2015
at 03:22
Re: Dear SWEET Doge...
In reply to Aquatica1000 (msg # 206):

I totally understand.  I have a lot of friends online who have had a terrible string of bad luck, sometimes even helped by bad decisions.  I try to be supportive and be there for them to vent, but it's tough not being able to help in significant ways.   Granted, listening is significant, I suppose, but if feels less real.
Mrrshann618
 member, 65 posts
Fri 30 Oct 2015
at 03:24
grrr
Sad news - My great aunt died a little while ago. She had no kids of her own so all the nieces and nephews (about 6 of us) were treated like her grand kids. We were all devastated.

Good news - We were all remembered in her will in some form or another. I received a fairly hefty savings bond that had been tucked away for years, past maturity. I go and redeem it, Series HH, no one here knows anything about it, spend months getting it figured out and sent in to be cashed.

Bad news - Find out that the bond was purchased with deferred interest that I now have to pay taxes on, in addition to the bond. In the long run, the bond is worth like $40. Single income two kids, just scraping ends. This "gift" may just ruin everything at tax time. Which is not for several months, so I really have to pinch pennies tighter to ensure that I have enough to pay any possible taxes this year.

Here is to hoping that my 2 year old is over his ear infections.

This message was last edited by the user at 03:26, Fri 30 Oct 2015.

~Jaguar
 member, 3251 posts
 The Hiding Amaranth...
 http://midnightquills.net
Sat 31 Oct 2015
at 00:32
grrr
When your sticky list is off-balance, so you have to find another game to make the columns even again... :P
Evil Empryss
 member, 1377 posts
 Because knowing
 is half the battle!
Sat 31 Oct 2015
at 00:37
grrr
In reply to ~Jaguar (msg # 209):

OMG, YAAAHS!  I hate that!
Evil Empryss
 member, 1382 posts
 Because knowing
 is half the battle!
Fri 27 Nov 2015
at 03:32
Fireball +4
When pulling the turkey out of the oven, drippings splashed over the side and onto the heating element. A fireball straight out of a Michael Bay movierolled up the back of the oven and into my face.

I'm not hurt and -- most importantly -- I didn't drop the turkey, but now I need to find a salon open on Black Friday to trim the burnt pieces out of my bangs. ;_;

This message was last updated by the user at 03:32, Fri 27 Nov 2015.

ShadoPrism
 member, 879 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Fri 27 Nov 2015
at 16:15
Fireball +4
In reply to Evil Empryss (msg # 211):

ooo sorry to hear about your unexpected journey in to special Effects. Glad it was not worse.
Tyr Hawk
 member, 120 posts
 You know that one guy?
 Yeah, that's me.
Fri 27 Nov 2015
at 20:44
Thanksgiving? What's That?
So, I know that there are at least a handful of people thinking it (and maybe someone even said it on the other vent thread), but I'm just gonna come right out and say it:

Physical stores that open anytime before normal business hours in Black Friday (and this includes being open on Thanksgiving) are pointless and dumb.

Before I get into my rant, let me just say that I really don't mind certain grocery stores being open Thanksgiving morning, to a certain extent. Before noon, so long as people have volunteered to do it, sure. That's fine. People sometimes have last-minute emergencies or whatever and need something they didn't prepare for. Hospitals, clinics, the police, yeah, all of them have to be open to keep things running smoothly, because accidents and crimes still happen on holidays, believe it or not. But those few things are the only INSERT YOUR FAVORITE FRUIT HEREing things that have an excuse anymore.

I worked in a "Big Box" store once upon a time. I was there on Black Friday from midnight to noon selling my butt off, practically throwing people out the door with armloads of heavily-discounted stuff. I was a man on fire, but despite moving thousands of dollars worth of product by myself, our store lost money. We lost money hand over fist, and that's the situation most of physical stores face. Because you have employees working for an additional 8-14 hours, the products are sometimes being sold for a net loss for the store (gotta make up for it with accessories!), stores have lost money on Black Friday. Maybe the overall company shows a bit of a profit, but that was before the advent of the internet. Now people can just buy the stuff online from the comfort of their own home, and with so many online stores offering Pre-Black Friday deals now, opening your doors out of normal business hours is like shooting yourself in the head.

Even if it weren't for the loss of money though (which, as I said, the companies don't face overall or they would have given it up long ago), now companies are losing face by treading upon Thanksgiving. The moment Halloween is over, suddenly it's Christmas in stores. People (myself included) are getting tired of Thanksgiving (a holiday all about being thankful for and celebrating people rather than mass-marketed gifts or candy, or even religion) being treated like it's dirt. So, those businesses cutting into family time, cutting into the holiday for a profit? They're now getting bad reputations because they're being morons by keeping their doors open during a holiday when they could just wait and sell the same stuff online. I don't even shop on Black Friday if I can help it, and I refuse to shop at any store that opens on Thanksgiving not just on Thanksgiving or Black Friday, but for the rest of the year. Oh, and one more thing...

I like Thanksgiving because it's not about getting things.

I'm selfish and greedy and full of flaws the rest of the year (including Wrath, as you might have guessed), but Thanksgiving is (to me) about sharing a meal with family and just enjoying their company. Yes, we eat too much and, yes, there's a lot left over, but if you threw out the food I'd still have a good time because Thanksgiving isn't even about the food. It's not. I'm sorry. It might be to some people, but Thanksgiving is about being thankful, about being grateful, about cherishing what you have and keeping people sane between Halloween and Christmas.

I'm tempted to go on, to rant for another hour or two about why Thanksgiving is important, and why it's just plain infuriating that there are people who don't recognize that, but I have a plane to catch, and I'm trying to learn to let things go at times (not all the time, but more often than I currently do).

Hope you all had a wonderful Turkey Day!
Evil Empryss
 member, 1383 posts
 Because knowing
 is half the battle!
Fri 27 Nov 2015
at 22:01
Thanksgiving? What's That?
Preach it, Brother Hawk!

I had to do a last minute grocery run Thursday morning (the family joke being that me remembering everything on Thanksgiving is the final seal that starts the Apocolypse) but I remember the days when there wasn't anything but hospitals and the occasional gas station open after noon on Thanksgiving.

Now I do the best I can to protest Thursday Black "Friday" sales by not attending them. As I walked thru Wally World to find chestnuts and molasses, I saw some seriously wicked sales that would start at 6pm, and I admit it tempted my resolve, but I held firm. Thanksgiving is a wonderfully secular holiday free from the religious weight of most of the others. My dollars might not make a great deal of difference, but they matter to me. Family, friends, and food are the only things that matter on that particular day.

Maybe if enough of us do it, more people will be able to give thanks with their families that day.
Wyrm
 member, 598 posts
Fri 27 Nov 2015
at 23:59
Thanksgiving? What's That?
As was the case before. But is a lit easier to slide down the slope then climb up it.


As for me, sometimes I don't mind working during these holidays. But then most of my work centers around serving people, such as at a bank or in a nursing home.
neochivalry
 member, 173 posts
 DM / GM / ST
 Dominion of Storytelling
Sat 28 Nov 2015
at 07:23
Shoddy GMing
Nah, I'm not here to complain about some GM that ticked me off. I'm here to talk about me screwing up, or at least...I think I did.

I've run games for over a decade. On pbp, tabletop, and LARP if you can believe it. I like to style myself as a ST/DM/GM (pick your acronym) that likes to present challenging and interesting scenarios while still making it enjoyable to experience. I avoid the term fun, as some of my games delve into dark subject matters that I doubt a lot of us would consider "fun". In those years I've mostly been able to live up to my self-styled description. Sure my games can be difficult, indeed challenging, but still enjoyable to play; even if they ended in three sessions or thirty. I'm quite happy with that, dare I say proud of that. I like the idea of giving people a good time.

However, I do screw up. No-one's perfect. But, when I screw up it just jabs me, right between the eyes; just stuns me. For all the effort I put in, I sometimes manage to make a player have a genuine bona fide Bad Time. Like, I am taking my dice and never playing this game ever again Bad Time. This has happened about 4 times I can really recall. Possibly more, but I either don't remember or I wasn't told. The majority of players that leave my games either: can't make it for personal reasons, medical reasons, vocational reasons, and so on. Those I can live with. Surprisingly, they even apologize for having to leave. Where I'd rather congratulate them or offer my condolences as the situation really deserves; rather than any apology to me, just some goof telling silly stories for entertainment. No, it is those 4 Bad Times I just cannot stand.

Each time it happens, I question if I should be running games any more. If, perhaps, I'm just too unfair, unpleasant, or irritating to play for. Some players are really nice people, willing to give even most GMs a chance to dig themselves out of a terrible story; confusion on the rules; or just a bad adjudication. In cases where I was the GM in question, I usually ended a game for the players in favor of a better game; or suggested the one with the better idea to run. (I don't mean that in a snide way btw: I mean that they actually HAD the better idea and I felt silly to be running a lesser game in place of a better one.) However, when a lone player leaves due to having a Bad Time...that's a total failure on my part. As a GM of my style: I feel I must be constantly making sure people are actually challenge but also enjoying themselves. If too unchallenged: it's boring and thus cannot be enjoyed; if not enjoyable, then the challenge is way too high. I should be ready to adjust (within reason) as needed. When I fail to do so, I feel I've lost my eye for it.

10 years later, I'm still running. I manage to learn from my mistakes (I think) and move on. Though each and every time, as today is my 4th Bad Time I've caused. Perhaps I should quit being a GM and just stick to being a player. I honestly do not know right now; but, that is the state of where I am. (/ Vent)
Brianna
 member, 2022 posts
Sat 28 Nov 2015
at 20:57
Shoddy GMing
Corporate greed has overtaken the rights of employees and their families.  I can remember when stores here were not open on Sunday (and a lot of them on Monday also - that wasn't a day off for family run stores, but the day they did the buying for their business, extra cleaning, whatever).  We ran a petition to try and not allow wholesale Sunday opening, and one of our employees, an avid shopper, didn't want to sign it till I pointed out that if we were open Sunday, she would have to take her turn to work.  Now, of course, Christmas is about the only day left when pretty much everything isn't open.  I've even heard people complain about the local store that closes at six.  Family run, they would have been there all day, and they want their evening off - probably not always to relax, but to do the housework, business bookwork, etc.

But now that the cycle is running, if stores don't open on all those days, they don't just lose the dubious sales for that day, people would go elsewhere.  And having gone elsewhere once, they are more likely to do so again.
OceanLake
 member, 933 posts
Sat 28 Nov 2015
at 22:15
Shoddy GMing
I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.
― Michael Jordan
ShadoPrism
 member, 880 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Sat 28 Nov 2015
at 23:36
Shoddy GMing
In reply to neochivalry (msg # 216):

Hi
I have been where your at - sometimes it's good to step back and take stock. But giving up on GMing cause you made a mistake is slow thinking (I think).
(Bad ones happen to us all, even to the point of people giving up gaming, though in my experience people like that usually have many other things going on that your probably unaware of that pushes them in to that direction. These things may have nothing to do with the game your running or what happened, it just one last tick on their nerves and BOOM that last item gets blown up).

I would not just Stop the GMing, but stepping back and looking over what you did and Why you did it can help. Give yourself a little time to gain perspective and maybe learn a bit from this mistake.
It's not the end of the world, though it may feel that way at this point in time.

This message was last edited by the user at 23:38, Sat 28 Nov 2015.

Palomino
 member, 1 post
Mon 30 Nov 2015
at 19:19
Too Many Possibilities!
I have a simple vent, real First World Problems stuff: I can't decide on a game to run!

Every day I look at Rpol and read through the GM Wanted threads and see things I'd like to run. I look at my bookshelf and think of other things I'd like to run. I've been making lists over and over again of which games I'd like to GM, and still haven't been able to narrow it down to anything lower than five different games. I have so many ideas, but I'm afraid that if I try to run more than one game right now, I'll get overwhelmed and burnt out.

I want to run fantasy, because I really enjoy it and feel like I can do it well, but I'm already playing in a tabletop fantasy game with my regular group, and even if I weren't, I've got no fewer than three games I'd like to run (Fantastic Heroes & Witchery, Warhammer Fantasy Roleplay/Small But Vicious Dog, AD&D1e Oriental Adventures/Ruins & Ronin, GURPS Fantasy...maybe you could say that's six games).

I want to run science fiction, because I've been replaying the Mass Effect games and, for some reason, around this time of year I get Star Trek on my mind, and the Deep Space Nine gamebook has some cool ideas. And the new Star Wars movie is coming out soon - I haven't run Star Wars in years, but I know as soon as I see "The Force Awakens," I'll be chomping at the bit to run a game of rebels against the Empire. And then there's Star*Drive, which I've always wanted to run...or 2300 AD...or Transhuman Space...or Traveller...or Stars Without Number...

Binge-watching Jessica Jones and re-runs of Supernatural make me want to try running In Nomine or Werewolf: the Apocalypse.

And what about that After the Bomb game idea I've been sitting on since I first signed up here?

Every time I start to settle on a game, five minutes later I've started thinking about a different one. And do I want to run a solo, one-on-one game, which would have a nice pace to it? Or would I rather run a game with a full party, where players can roleplay with each other as well as with me?

My indecision is making me into a crazy person, muttering to myself and scribbling notes all over everything. It's at times like this that I wish I only owned one or two games.
Tyr Hawk
 member, 121 posts
 You know that one guy?
 Yeah, that's me.
Mon 30 Nov 2015
at 20:27
Too Many Possibilities!
In reply to Palomino (msg # 220):

We're all roleplayers here. Put the names of the games you want to run on one die, put the groups sizes on another, and then let the Dice Gods decide your fate however they may!

Alternatively, best of luck. I'm really bad at making decisions like that, so I usually have other people decide for me.