GreenTongue
 member, 1116 posts
 Game Archaeologist
Fri 6 May 2022
at 17:24
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When you hate your job but need it. So you do "by the letter" so you won't get fired but screw it up on purpose to get your "revenge".
pdboddy
 supporter, 745 posts
 EST/EDT [GMT-5/GMT-4]
Fri 6 May 2022
at 17:26
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In reply to GreenTongue (msg # 2012):

Ah yes, good old fashioned malicious compliance.
ShadoPrism
 member, 1411 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Fri 6 May 2022
at 18:03
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In reply to pdboddy (msg # 2013):

That would so explain all the Fed Ex packages that end up on my (or my near neighbors) door steps - all just Tossed on the ground so hard the packaging rips (they never come back for them either, even after multiple calls to them about the wrongly received packages)
The local post man is actually a nice guy who lets people know where their packages actually end up being - provided we remember to tell him. I have met more of my neighbors in the last 2 months cause of this one disgruntled Fed Ex driver, than in the 5 years I have lived here.
pdboddy
 supporter, 747 posts
 EST/EDT [GMT-5/GMT-4]
Fri 6 May 2022
at 18:55
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Heh, well... at least you know more of your neighbours now. :P
donsr
 member, 2579 posts
Fri 6 May 2022
at 18:57
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 as a  retired  Letter carrier, I will be the first to say..yeah?  we make Mistakes. But in My offcie ( i was the carrier shop steward)..  our people got stepped on ..we also caught , more then a few folks , who lied  about boxes missing and  stuff... now days, with the  scanners, there can only be three reasons  why you didn't a package..1.. Carrier  scanned it put it in the wrong place...this is where you hope you have Honest neighbors....

2... Portch Pirates... the  Inspectors  find them sooner or later.. its better to have the  CIA  fater you then the Postal Inspectors. There are  alot of things we can do, that they can't

 3.. The customer is lying  to get free stuff..this happens..ALOT.

 we have seen pictures of   delivery folks of  all uniforms tossign packages, leaving them in the rain, Hiding them. My daughter  had  many packages  come to her  house years ago..becaus she  had  address 1005..compared to  1105.

here is the Best thing to do with damaged  packages.. take Pics.. send the  to you Post office 0r other carrier , and  the place you bought it .

 make sure you write down tracking Numbers, because those are you packages  fingerprints.

 there habve been times  , when the  barcode is  screwed up and we have to punch all those numbers in..or.. a supervisor has to do some actual work, and  do through the   smudged or torn  code to figure out what number is missing.

 after saying all of that... Carriers will, indeed..NOT deliver if your dog is out..( 'he won't  hurt you" is Bull crap of the highest order)..  You have to have your  access to your porch or where ever, cleared...and if you are a 'karen' it  better  be spotless...  One guy, who was ripping off his  friends  by  chipping in and getting  cheap cigarettes, and telling them it didn't come in... I happened to deliver  one and told my PM" its here and on his porch..."

 he got  busted..and  paid a heft  fine, and has to pick all his   packages up in person at the post office.

 so? are the jerk carriers? You bet, Just like  lawyers, doctors  and  cashiers... don't  think they are  all like that
ShadoPrism
 member, 1412 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Fri 6 May 2022
at 21:30
Vents with allowed responses - 3
In reply to donsr (msg # 2016):

Good advice and I agree Some people can be jerks, but some make up for them. Our postal guy tends to go above and beyond for those like me who are disabled and house bound. I like him. Some need more CS training (or training to be actually Human in some cases ...) but most carriers I have met in recent times at least are polite if nothing else, and I have not had any complaints about Those ones. (Though this thread exist so we can vent about Those few who annoy the rest of us, as well as everything else that annoys us.)
donsr
 member, 2580 posts
Fri 6 May 2022
at 22:03
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you Bey Shadow.. i had to go head to head with my  Supervior the last few years i worked, I had a 90 year old woman who had   a very high set a stairs, she got Meds  all the time.. the rule is..if they don't shovel. you being back the mail.. i never did that ( unelss the customer was a jerk..yeah..we have those)

  i was busted  going up there.. and he wanted to  right me up... i pointed to the path  up the stairs  i made  during the week..." yes 90 years old..i have her  meds..ther's a trail..i'm dping my job"

 he said " You made that traiL"

  I asked him, 'where in the contract  does it  say it can't be mine"

  I delivered the mail, like i wanted it   to be delivered for my Mom and dad when they were alive... but ocne  people  truned to the dark side and became management.. all they looked for was  'bonus bucks'
Zag24
 supporter, 733 posts
Fri 6 May 2022
at 23:57
Banning Books
In reply to donsr (msg # 2016):

I have a funny story regarding mis-delivery, though it was UPS, not USPS.

A couple of days before Fathers' Day a decade or so ago, I got a package from 'Hello Fresh!' on my porch.  I assumed it was from my kids and I gladly opened it and went through the items and made one of the meals.  (It is the sort of thing I would enjoy.)  Anyway, it wasn't until two days later when I was going to throw out the box that I saw it was addressed to my neighbor.

I called both my neighbor and the Hello Fresh! company apologetically.  They had already replaced it and the company told me to enjoy it as a free sample.  I ended up being a customer for several years, so it definitely paid off for them.

Also, I never did get a Fathers' Day present that year.
Hunter
 member, 1782 posts
 Captain Oblivious!
 Lurker
Sun 8 May 2022
at 00:23
Vents with allowed responses - 3
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 2006):

I really don't want to create a (ero-themed) game just for the purpose of getting the concept to settle back into the back of my head, where she belongs.



I have much the same issue with packages, only my front door opens onto the street.   And given my neighborhood, if I don't get them shortly after arrival...then someone else will.  I gave up on Walmart because they just drop and leave, no notification of any kind that it's there.
JAM2019
 member, 78 posts
Sun 8 May 2022
at 18:28
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i'm a former service member, an actual veteran of combat, and avid RPG GM. i have two real gripes. the first is that everybody and their uncle bob has seen so many so-called realistic depiction war movies that everyone is always asking if i have PTSD as if they expect me to get mad and start murdering people. no, it's not your business, and fruit off. the second is how every person who ever plays in a pseudo military game on here talks about realism like that is even a thing. real is cold, hot, sweaty, dirty, stinking, tired, aggravated, hungry, thirsty, stressed, scared, raw, annoyed, bored, sore, lonely, wondering, horny, lost, and obligated. who wants to play that?

rant over, have a nice day.

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GreenTongue
 member, 1117 posts
 Game Archaeologist
Mon 9 May 2022
at 01:23
Vents with allowed responses - 3
In reply to JAM2019 (msg # 2021):

People say they want things and complain about not getting them, until you give them what they ask for. trigger warning
Brianna
 member, 2255 posts
Tue 10 May 2022
at 08:48
Vents with allowed responses - 3
In reply to pdboddy (msg # 2009):

But he didn't leave the package at the very obvious garage door, he went past that, he passed both the residence doors, and climbed over and around garbage and recycling containers and moved things to put it at the back door of the garage!  And Google Maps has a VERY old picture, showing the front of the house (sort of, there are trees in the way), with the driveway leading to the front of the garage.
Smoot
 member, 161 posts
Tue 10 May 2022
at 09:06
Re: Vents with allowed responses - 3
JAM2019:
the second is how every person who ever plays in a pseudo military game on here talks about realism like that is even a thing. real is cold, hot, sweaty, dirty, stinking, tired, aggravated, hungry, thirsty, stressed, scared, raw, annoyed, bored, sore, lonely, wondering, horny, lost, and obligated. who wants to play that?

rant over, have a nice day.


This probably doesn't help, but there's a good bit in the novel High Fidelity, where the narrator describes how when he & his friends were early teenagers, they had no place to hang out but a playground. So, to make it "not a kid's game", they would start (essentially) playing with the playground equipment in a way that could cause real injury.

Mind you, it was still playing with, say, a seesaw or a carousel, but now it was hardcore.

I often think about this. In this case, it's not people just playing pretend, it's making a tactical simulation. Like, they think that if they make it 'realistic', they get credit for that, or in any way experienced the real thing.

(It's related to the thing where gamers who've been at it for a while sometimes want to be treated like they're somehow veterans or have seniority. Dudes, you've just been doing organized make-believe for longer.)

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ShadoPrism
 member, 1413 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Tue 10 May 2022
at 18:13
Vents with allowed responses - 3
In reply to Brianna (msg # 2023):

That really sounds like he was snooping around rather than delivering a package.
donsr
 member, 2585 posts
Tue 10 May 2022
at 18:29
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 My second year in the post ofice. i bid on a route's vacation, so i could get the  40 hours... the bad part? It was the 3rd of the month, and at that time, no direct deposit..90% of the people were  'old county' folks who came to work the mines in PA...they are a distrustful bunch...

  I came to this House... no mail Box..no door slot. I even went up on the porch to see if the storm door's bar hid the slot ( they do! alot!).. I went aroudn back, ebcause, at my first offcie, some peope had thier Mail Boxes ( and Big doggies) back there.

 Nope? I couldn't  find one....Then..as i walked  back to the street, the next door  neighboor had a beer and was sitting down to read the paper..." You Lost Son? "

 "yeah..where the heck is her Mail Box.."

  " around back..under  the Boxes"

 sure  enough, Just like nesting  dools there were  3  Boxes, with the  Mailbox under it....

 the sidebar to this? The next sday the lay was out scrubbing her porch, i asked her.". Why don't you have your  mail box out front like everyone else? "

 " because... everyone wil see when i get amil and they might see it!"

  I shrugged and said, " Then you shoudl ahve it out, because they will see  anyone trying to steal it...back there, people  can take the whole thing, and no one will know?"

 two weeks later she had the mailbox out front. the women who was her regular carrier gave me a hug, because i saved her 20 yards  worth of walking!
Brianna
 member, 2256 posts
Fri 13 May 2022
at 10:05
Vents with allowed responses - 3
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 2025):

Maybe.  But if he was snooping, he must have been disappointed.  That back door has a decent lock, aside from a car that he'd have had trouble getting out even if he got into the garage, there really wasn't anything in there to steal, so all he found was the garbage cans!
Shinoskay
 member, 118 posts
Sun 5 Jun 2022
at 19:46
Vents with allowed responses - 3

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Hunter
 member, 1798 posts
 Captain Oblivious!
 Lurker
Thu 9 Jun 2022
at 10:05
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I've come to discover that the only active game on my list is the one that I'm running.   I'm really struggling with everything that going on right now (my depression has been kicking my butt lately), and don't have the interest to stay active at the moment.

I know interest in hobbies come and go...I'm hoping that a break will help renew my interest when it's time to pick it back up again....
GreenTongue
 member, 1119 posts
 Game Archaeologist
Thu 9 Jun 2022
at 12:15
Vents with allowed responses - 3
In reply to Hunter (msg # 2029):

I've found it helps to watch a movie in the same genre or read such a book.
Get that, 'I would have done it like ..." going.
ladysharlyne
 subscriber, 3388 posts
 Member before Oct 2005
 Creative Writing ROCKS!!
Thu 9 Jun 2022
at 14:45
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Hunter, we ALL lose the muse at times.  I agree with Green Tongue that watching a movie, cartoon, series or read about your characters iin boojs,etc.  just donít beat yourself up about not having the interest.

Real life also has a lot to do with it bringing you down and sometimes we just have to let writing go if you arenít in the right frame of mind.  But please realise we all get this way.  Sometimes you need to step away for a day or two.  Or more or even less.  There is absolutely nothing wring with that.  Go spend time with friends, family, or even alone.  I find going for walks or drives in the countryside or park help a lot too.  Take time always for you that is the most important thing is your own wellbeing.
GreenTongue
 member, 1120 posts
 Game Archaeologist
Sat 11 Jun 2022
at 15:39
Vents with allowed responses - 3
If only I didn't have a need for attention. I can do things with the intent to share with others but things for myself just don't inspire.
I should be happy to play one of the many solo games but I just can't engage.
Having that feedback is just too critical. I can even trick myself with virtual NPCs in something like Minecraft for a while but, not too long.
Even a bad relationship is better than none. :(
LazeyWinde
 member, 788 posts
 LW
Thu 11 Aug 2022
at 04:30
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Hello Rpol, it's been a long long time since I have posted here. But I don't know where else to vent about this.
One of my oldest and closest online friends passed away in the small hours of this (August 10 2022) morning.
She hasn't used this site in years but some of you may have played with or been in a game run by Cindy1. I actually found this site through her after she got frustrated with Y!groups being ridiculous and suggested we move our game here. Cindy was one of my oldest online friends, that game she created on Y!groups/Egroups way back in 2003 we had kept alive in some form for over 18 years, even starting a second generation with the descendants of the characters in the original game. We had become close friends over the years. A while back she got sick, not going to go into her medical history, but she let me know she'd give my contact info with her room mate in case anything happened. Cindy and I have been messaging each other back and forth on Gchat for years so when she got quiet and not responding a few weeks ago I got worried and actually googled for her obituary and was semi relieved to not find anything, her room mate messaged me a few days later to let me know that Cindy was in the hospital and in bad shape. Cindy was able to message me back herself and we were able to chat for a couple weeks- though she wasn't online much, but last Wednesday was my last message from her... and this evening I got another message from her room mate letting me know she had died.
We had never met in person, I realized that I had never even heard her voice (we're both kind of old school clinging to the ancient days of the internet before everyone had a webcam and mic) but in a lot of ways I was closer to her than a lot of people I know in real life. A dozen times today I've wanted to message her; "Lindsey Stirling and Amy Lee collaborated and it's amazing", "Look at this scene from this book, it reminded me when in our game when I had my character puke in front of everyone", "My cat has ignored me for weeks because it's been so damned hot but today he's all over my desk cuddling with me", "I think I lost my best friend and don't know who I can talk to now".
phoenix9lives
 member, 1104 posts
 A brain driving a bone
 mecha with flesh armor
Thu 11 Aug 2022
at 04:36
Vents with allowed responses - 3
In reply to LazeyWinde (msg # 2033):

Sorry for your grief, LazyWinde.  I was in a TTRPG group that fell apart when one of the guys died.  Just couldn't continue the game without him.  I have a tribute I do for him on here with my characters.
Online friendships can be just as real and just as close as real world friendships, despite the distance and the lack of face-to-face conversation.
LazeyWinde
 member, 790 posts
 LW
Thu 11 Aug 2022
at 04:47
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In reply to phoenix9lives (msg # 2034):

Thanks. The game had mostly been between just us for a while, more of a collaborative writing than a RPG, we had talked about turning it into a series of novels but never got far with it, she had not felt up to writing for close to a year. So it's pretty much over.
GreenTongue
 member, 1122 posts
 Game Archaeologist
Thu 11 Aug 2022
at 12:15
Vents with allowed responses - 3
She is never truly gone until you forget.
With the written word, that can last as an echo for a long time.