Absences.   Posted by Felarica.Group: 0
Iriosxihuuli
 player, 40 posts
 Ir ios
 xihuuli
Thu 30 Apr 2015
at 00:00
Re: Absences

Reality comes first, no question about it. Look after yourself and we'll be around when you get back...
Faerie Queen
 player, 46 posts
Sun 7 Jun 2015
at 15:23
Re: Absences
update -

House went up for sale, three days ago. already had 3 showings so crossing my fingers.

Also, lost my old man last Sat. 10 days shy of his 20th birthday. been a rough week. but we move forward. Hopefully soon, life will get back to normal
Iriosxihuuli
 player, 41 posts
 Ir ios
 xihuuli
Sun 7 Jun 2015
at 15:35
Re: Absences

 Good luck with the house and my condolences on your loss.
Jafilla
 GM, 363 posts
 Mute Silver Dragon
Tue 23 Jun 2015
at 15:22
Re: Absences
House still up for sale, no bites yet ! Have to say, having to keep the house Spotless is really a PAIN in the arse ! Not that my house isnt clean, but I Vacumme once a week normally, verses every second day now, that sort of thing.


but am going to try and get more writing in, Really miss it, as I discoverer this morning, when my two puppies got me up well before my alarm clock, and caught up on some writing before having to go to work.
Iriosxihuuli
 player, 42 posts
 Ir ios
 xihuuli
Tue 23 Jun 2015
at 18:49
Re: Absences

 Heh, I know exactly what you mean - we keep our place sorta' clean but clutter just seems to emerge from every corner!
Faerie Queen
 player, 47 posts
Fri 9 Oct 2015
at 05:19
Re: Absences
Sorry all

I feel really bad, but life right now, is just far to crazy, with having to work full time, then be out of the house for the constant showings, entertaining the two puppys and on top of that, some witch stole my cat, so now am preparing for court on that frount. I havent even had time to hula hoop off my frustrations with my life right now, with all that's happening in it. I want to keep the games but I think they are going on a perma hold until this flipping house sells and I get settled in a new place ( where one of my jobs will move to, so NO driving time and possibly more writing time )

Getting sick off all the " lookie loo's " with NO offers. Gawd, I miss writing so much and I know my aggravation is just growing as the weeks pass, with no spare time, with everything so up in the air and just plain messed up. I have DND, raiding on Wow, and work, pretty much tying up all my evenings now.

Even work is against me.

I used to get off at 2 cause my partner worked, now, shes getting slower and slower, not wanting to be there.  I am doing 3/4 of the work, and we arent getting out till 330 ish. I then have to shower, change, eat and be out the door by 430 for work or 530 for dnd / or work in the evening. Just the other night, on thurs, my bad day of double jobs ( 720 - 330 - 5 - 9) my second job, which I get of at 9 kept me till 1020 Cause things were just too messed up, that they needed fixing. I pretty much lost it that night on the drive home.

I am sorry, I didnt mean to off load here I just wanted you all to know, you are NOT forgotten. Just on hold till I sell my house.
Iriosxihuuli
 player, 43 posts
 Ir ios
 xihuuli
Fri 9 Oct 2015
at 05:48
Re: Absences

 Hey, we are the *perfect* people to unload upon. We don't know you in reality but we know you a little in fiction and we obviously like you well enough to stick around, so you get the catharsis of venting and we get to know you're at least sorta' okay. Hang in there!
Faerie Queen
 player, 48 posts
Fri 9 Oct 2015
at 13:37
Re: Absences
Thanks Irio.

Somethings gonna need to happen soon, cause, I am running low on steam. Id like t quite both my jobs, but cant, cause I have to buy a new house to put one of the jobs in to it. Maybee I should just move across the country, where no one knows me and I have no jobs that my loyalty keeps me at, despite being extremely unhappy
Iriosxihuuli
 player, 44 posts
 Ir ios
 xihuuli
Fri 9 Oct 2015
at 17:54
Re: Absences

 Happiness isn't a paycheck, but it's easier to achieve with one. Friends too - I moved to the U.S. a couple of years ago and the combination of culture shock (this place is a nuthatch) and losing my friends at home was a major break - but in the end, one I seem to have handled. I guess you just have to come down to asking yourself what you want to be doing, compare it to your bank balamce (which latter step is why I'm not sailing around the world on a self-cleaning sex yacht) and figure out how to get there (aka: the tricky step).
Blaze
 player, 246 posts
 Red Dragon
Mon 12 Oct 2015
at 02:17
Re: Absences
In reply to Faerie Queen  (msg # 64):

Good luck with all of your issues. We all have our ups and downs.  Hopefully you will be stronger when you get though them and can look back at how you did it. But we are still here so don't worry and unload anytime you want.

I know how you feel, I tend to feel loyal to my good bosses and I have one now but I still applied for a new one that will pay more. Ultimately you have to think what is best for you and for family and your mental health.
Storyteller
 GM, 348 posts
 Writer of Words
Tue 8 Dec 2015
at 15:49
Re: Absences
Just an update

Hope you all are having a fantastic Holiday month.

Court date for the Cat is Jan 13 2016, though she is denying having my cat. Been heading out there a couple times a week to try and find her, but as she was feral whens he moved into my house, I suspect she has reverted and we arent going to.

Still working two jobs, with longer hours then I like. We brought in a " student " to help at the dog shop, with me having hopes that he could stay, but dog grooming is an art, and we are spending more time babysitting, so its sinking more time then normal.

My one night off has been filled with getting court papers, hunting for my cat, trying to keep my puppies entertained, and ultimately, just veging on the couch, wishing my house would sell so I could downsize hours

I just had to fix my cars Catalytic converter to the tune of very expensive ( 980 for just the part ) and now a rock just broke my windshield. Sigh, but thats not getting fixed till the summer, thats just the way it is.

On a positive note, the puppies are fantastic, though I miss my old dogs too. the German Sheppard from the upstairs tenant, love the pups so she comes down to play most days. I started swimming before work three days a week ( more time gone ) and in Jan have been asked to teach a dance through the ages dance class ( SCA dancers at war with SCA currently, apparently. I have been dreaming of selling my house and moving to the other side of the country where no one can find me, and where I can buy a house outright, and have time again....

Ah well, games still on hold until further notice, and while I would like to say I will try, my busy life doesnt look likes its going to slow until I sell this house. Move to a new one, move the grooming shop into it ( where I will have a computer while waiting for customers to pick up !!! that I can write on ) and no driving time, and then drop my second job, once we look at the budget.

Wishing you all well,and the best holidays !!

Hugs
Iriosxihuuli
 player, 45 posts
 Ir ios
 xihuuli
Tue 8 Dec 2015
at 20:45
Re: Absences

 Happy Holidays and fingers crossed for things getting better for you soon!
Blaze
 player, 247 posts
 Red Dragon
Wed 9 Dec 2015
at 02:30
Re: Absences
Happy Holidays. Good luck with everything.
Faerie Queen
 player, 49 posts
Fri 17 Jun 2016
at 03:59
Re: Absences
Ok all !

Life has really been a roller coaster this past few years and I'm sorry, I have been absent and bad at even checking in. I really miss my writing and my hope, is that come Mid Sept, I will be starting again. I will give you a brief rundown of what my life has been, just to help you understand.

Well, as you all know, I was busy planning a wedding and indeed get married. Then all hell broke loose. Apparently I married a very self absorbed spoiled brat, but I didn't see it and things just escalated in a downward Spiral. He made me feel guilty when I wrote, he made me feel guilty when I hung with friends, or if he joined us, then He would leave before we were done, forcing me to. All he did was play his precious Vid games, while I managed everything else and I better not dare disturb that, or would get snapped at, or glared at.

I lost Gidget my old lady Dog in July, and Gadget a year later, in May, acquiring two puppies, one of which was to be his, but alas, he neglected it and so it became mine, along with his Bird.  So have two young, overly energetic pups turning 2 this year.

In Sept 2015, some stupid crazy cow stole my cat, claiming it was hers, and so I went to the police, as I had pics and witnesses. The police could apparently do nothing, and in order to get my cat back, had to take her to court. ( which takes forever apparently )

Come Jan, 2016, my Darling husband, moved in a nightmare of a trollop into MY house, into MY garage, WITHOUT asking me. I came home and she was in MY bed, in MY PJ's, and so essentially, things went downhill FAST there. That nightmare lived with us for 6 weeks, 6 week of hell, of which I lived in terror, she was going to burn my house down ( cannot eve begin to describe, the filthy, disgusting slob of a nightmare she was, she left ovens going, doors wide open in the winter, the bath water running for hours on HOT! Poisened my dogs, the garage stunk so bad, it burned your lungs to enter it. Destroyed my towels, bedding and other things and cause enough of a hydro spike, we were flagged for having a grow op )

She moved out Mar 1, after much fighting with my husband. A week Later, he moved in a cat killing German Sheppard without asking. I pretty much lost it as he had just wasted all the courts time, the lawyers times, cause now I couldn't bring my cat back ( court date was Apr 1 )

Also, it was agreed that I would list my house, Apr 1, and sell it so we could by a house together ( boy, was I stupid ) and thats NOW not happening

Anyhow, I freaked on him a week after that Sheppard moved in, pissing all over my house, and destroying my puppies toys. He packed his bags and moved out while I was at work the next day, told me via text, and I haven't heard from him since. Hes got me on block and ignore, saying I was the unreasonable one. Left all his crap here for me to deal with too cause " he didnt want to "

I have come to realize in the 12 weeks he has been gone, that He was really despicable and nasty and I was Sooo blind to it.  I have so much more peace now, though I would love to smash his head in with a cast iron frying pan !

Now, my listed house did sell in 2 days !!! ( akk ) and so I have to be out July 15th. I will be floating for 17 days with no computer. I move into my New place I bought Aug 3, but will be busy painting, and unpacking and organizing it. Come Last week in Aug, first week Sept, its Faerieworlds, then after that, I have a Friend from Denmark visiting for a week.

Now, thats a LONG post to say I really miss my writing, and I am going to be reevaluating my life, setting myself back on course for me and my pups, and get back to it. ( But Not till Sept !! )

So for any who are still here. I know its been an Age, I thank you, and will look at restarting this fall !!

Hugs, and cheers to all. Hopefully your life was Not as chaotic as mine has been

FD
Isk Sonear
 player, 81 posts
 Radiant Dragon
Fri 17 Jun 2016
at 04:41
Re: Absences
Holy crap.

So, no my life is not anywhere near as chaotic as yours, nor do I think anyone's should be.

The one thing that makes me wonder is if you both had homes that you lived in (a presumption about why you would need to merge them) how is it yours is the one that all the chaos got moved into?
Iriosxihuuli
 player, 46 posts
 Ir ios
 xihuuli
Fri 17 Jun 2016
at 07:27
Re: Absences

 Likewise, all I can say is: Damn! Way to put our troubles in perspective! I can only hope that you find things continuing to improve for you, you certainly have my best wishes.
Faerie Queen
 player, 50 posts
Fri 17 Jun 2016
at 14:25
Re: Absences
Thanks Irio

No Isk, to clarify

I had the house I am in currently before I met my husband. He rented and came into this relationship with nothing but a bed, his clothes, a computer, his desk and chair and a box full of dishes. I asked him for 2 years to save for his share of the down payment, so that we could buy the house together that he was pushing for, cause this house " wasnt his " and yet, after 2 years, his balance was 0.

He wanted me to put the " new " house is HIS name, with MY deposit to get the first time buyers, and I actually stupidly considered that.  ( cause this is my second house, I dont qualify for first time buyers )

I was constantly reminded how it " Wasnt " his house, so why should he help out with it. I should have seen it then. I should have seen it when he admitted a MONTH before our wedding, that he was still Married !!! But I didnt. I tried to be understanding

and so while the pretty wedding was in June, we were not officially married till Sept when the legal divorce papers came through.

anyhow, He is GONE ! I have bought my third and last house, and am moving forward, which once I am in my new place, unpacked and settled, I can write again
Blaze
 player, 248 posts
 Red Dragon
Sun 19 Jun 2016
at 23:18
Re: Absences
In reply to Faerie Queen  (msg # 75):

Good luck, sounds like you have been though hell. I have seen mess divorcees but yours is one of the worse. Hope things work out better now.
Faerie Queen
 player, 51 posts
Mon 20 Jun 2016
at 16:38
Re: Absences
Its not been Fun Blaze, not at all, but I a picking up my peices, and moving forward,
and in that, writing again in Sept.

I will probably start all the games fresh, as I dont even recall where we were in half of them
Blaze
 player, 249 posts
 Red Dragon
Tue 21 Jun 2016
at 01:38
Re: Absences
In reply to Faerie Queen  (msg # 77):

That's all right. We can see how things work out and what your in the mood for.
Iriosxihuuli
 player, 47 posts
 Ir ios
 xihuuli
Tue 21 Jun 2016
at 06:00
Re: Absences

 Indeed, let us know if there's much of anything we can contribute.
Storyteller
 GM, 349 posts
 Writer of Words
Wed 22 Jun 2016
at 01:50
Re: Absences
grrr

I just got home and the wretched child from upstairs has gone through my packed boxes and stolen a large box of stuff.

I called mom and she admitted to it, stealing my 300 dollar windstone limited edition dragon and replacing it with a rabbit and a " few books "

It was HALF a large box of stuff she stole. I asked her where my crystals were and suddenly she remembered where they were and came down with them.

SO now I wont know whats actually stolen till I UNPACK everything I have packed and put it back where it belongs !!

I just dont get how granting them a favour of storing their stuff in half the garage has given me !
The Undead Lord
 NPC, 20 posts
Sun 4 Jun 2017
at 02:43
Re: Absences
REporting in.
Storyteller
 GM, 350 posts
 Writer of Words
Mon 25 Dec 2017
at 15:45
Re: Absences
Happy Holidays everyone
Iriosxihuuli
 player, 48 posts
 Ir ios
 xihuuli
Mon 25 Dec 2017
at 23:02
Re: Absences

 Indeed, Merry festivities!