Vynthear Klayde:
The map clearly shows everyone's initiative.
I never look at the map except when I'm taking my turn and I rarely look at the table, except when I think it's my turn.
Vynthear Klayde:
How much better can it can ? I mean... truly.
Much.
Vynthear Klayde:
Maybe it's just because I always restrict myself to about a handful of games and not play in a dozen or even more.
I don't think so, because I only play in a few games.
Vynthear Klayde:
I cannot understand the seeming inability to know when it's my turn in a combat.
Understanding that seems key to tackling it. I'm trying to help people understand.
I think part of the issue is thinking of it as "inability." Putting it that way makes it seem as though people who aren't keeping up are almost comically dysfunctional, to the point that it must be that it's even plausible that they're doing it deliberately.
It's not that people are unable to know when it's their turn. While I will blithely waste time during the day on this site (and others), I try not to, and so my scanning on the site usually goes like this:
Is there a new message alert? No? Back to work.
Does the new message indicate directly that it's my turn? No? Back to work (or, more likely, a long-winded reply to whatever the post was about).
Could it still be my turn? Ooh, roll dice and write a post!
Wait, is it really my turn? Oops, nope. Apologize and back off.
In my case (and I doubt I'm special) I'm inattentive in part because I'm worried about being
too attentive because (in part) I'm worried I won't be attentive enough. I'm well-meaning and perfectly able, but hindered by self-doubt and recollection of past mistakes. So, "inability" seems uncharitable to me.
Let's find what will help people and come to some compromise. I don't need my name in lights, but a little more specificity would not go amiss.