Re: OOC Chatter (1)
Okay, I should not have aired this in public, but rather addressed it with him in PM.
On my side, I never gave him reason to think it wasn't entirely okay, and I was remiss in that.
I kind of knee jerked on this; it tiffed me that I've gotten flack for making jokes about him running off, and falling into a pit, and yet it was 100% okay for him to make unnecessary and ugly remarks, that in no way enhanced the game (not for some of us, at least) and have those condoned and approved under the flag of role play.
If equivalently nasty remarks were made about a Black or Jewish character (in a contemporary setting), I know it wouldn't be considered okay, role play or no.
So it seemed like a shitty double standard, and I lost it a bit yesterday. For which I apologize to everyone.
However, I know exactly what Pie is alluding to; yes, it's only targeting Astrid, but remarks of that nature sound & smell misogynistic, because the degree of hate is excessive. His in-character rationale is fine, no problem. But, the way it's been sometimes played is extreme & offensive.
Bottom line: None of this alters that the guy is generally an asset as a player, and does some terrific character work. And I hope he and his family are alright, coping with a serious, sometimes life threatening illness.
I know this won't be well received when he comes back. I apologize in advance for airing in public, and not handling it in a better way. Though not at all for having some issue with what was done.
Let's be done with this, now? This is an outstanding group, a fun game, I'm sorry to have cast this stone into our pool.
This message was last edited by the player at 15:33, Sun 27 Feb 2022.