Player 3:
Hey everyone!
I feel like a lot of the ideas that I would have had are here as well. However, I personally feel more comfortable playing a gay character, and wasn't sure how you'd want people to handle it in the setting - I would be okay if you all wanted to have it be frowned upon in the setting, but I'd prefer it not be (had to deal with that from extended family, which sucks, but oh well).
Player 2:
Hey there Player 3.
Sexuality is a tricky subject in a period piece, but I think it is also fertile story writing material.
In my humble opinion, most of the material I have come across would prohibit open homosexuality in this part of the world at this time. That is just the way it was unfortunately.
However I think it could be easily argued that homosexual inclinations were as prevalent then as they are now, and that many people found ways to "get around" persecution in the public eye.
So long as the character is well played and interesting, having his sexuality as a story element only adds to the richness of the game in my mind.
Is he the sort to maintain a family for the sake of legitimacy? Is he attracted to the notion of religious orders to justify a "single" lifestyle?
Has he been intrigued by the rumors of tolerance among the populations along the Mediterranean? Or in the "East" spread by traveller's to those parts?
Etc.
And of course, at the end of the day, I am but another player. This is all up to our generous GM for taking the time to run this for us.
Player 3:
In reply to Player 2 (msg # 8):
I understand that, just wasn't sure what the rest of the group would want. As far as my guy goes, I feel like he might actually harbor feelings for his liege lord (since i pictured the two as being close since they were boys) which obviously adds another layer to the whole thing.
Okay, my take on same-sex relations is that they have always existed, but that because of the Catholic Church in this part of the world it was kept secret. This in itself is a story seed that helps create story, but that is only valuable to us if that's a story we want to tell. If it's too traumatic or brings up bad memories than we can 'put a veil on it' so to speak. We just have to have the condemnation be off-screen.
I am also not sure how much people in the middle-ages really cared. Lords kind of were mostly concerned about receiving their taxes from their serfs, whatever they did in their free time was not really of any concern (unless it means a sudden drop in kids being born, thinning the workforce, I guess.) It's basically the same with witchcraft/pagan practices. They are mainly only a problem when other things become a problem because of it. Serfs and peasants generally could get away with it. There would be talk of course, but there would also be talk about other things. People like to gossip.
On the other hand, as a noble it could cause problems, because the Church is watching you more. But bribes were a form of absolution (I mean, I know I'm a protestant, but that's basically how indulgences work, right? You sin, and then you buy an indulgence. The Pope is happy he can build his cathedrals, etc. There were kings who built monasteries so that monks could pray on their behalf just so that the King could shed blood in the wars they liked so much. There are ways around, and in the Middle Ages, money and power were often more a god than YHWH was.) The more powerful you are as a noble, the more you can get away with.
Knightly Knights and their comradely would also have the potential for exploring same-sex attraction in a way that was allowed to them at that point. So I could see that as a possible avenue. Often brothers at arms loved each other more deeply than they loved any woman. It is said that it's not in a romantic or erotic way, but some people claim otherwise as well. You never know what happens behind the doors of the knightly orders. The Knights Templar have strange stories told about them.
Also, the knights were quickly becoming obsolete due to the crossbows, the English longbows and gunpowder weaponry (like canons). Knighthood was a nostalgic thing of men trying to feel extra manly. So there's that. A social club with extra testosterone. I feel like checking out each other's muscles and scars might be an activity they did in these orders. I feel like there were emotions involved in this.
And then there's the clergy, where some would go to try and escape their taboo feelings and choose abstinence over sin, only to be confronted with others who made the same choice. And Catholicism's way of doing penance and buying indulgences makes sure that you can sin a little, as long as you do penence for it later.
I've been using the word sin a lot as that's how the church viewed it back then (and at some places still today) but we could play it more as a commentary on the church. Rather than emphasizing the 'sin' of same-sex attraction, we could emphasize the sin of the church taking bribes or not showing enough love/grace to its members. This is a time that the church was loosing its position of power slightly. There was a lot of criticism of the church rising up in this time. The nepotism, the bribes, the open sin of the clergy at times. Popes with secret wives, etc.
We can take the route of the out of the way province (which is why I chose Rethel), where the ruler disappeared and a Castellan (a minor noble) has to move in with his staff to manage the estate. There are precedents of Castellan's being Lady's as well. I'd have to look up who in the Burgundian family line it was, but there was a lady that knew how to fight and ride horses etc, and she would defend her keep and manage the estate.
Anyway, I've been writing a lot. I'll stop at this and pick things up as we talk about it.